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Ethan (00:00):
Raising joyful children in an angry world, a podcast
dedicated to faithful parentsnavigating their families
through a stormy culture
This is Raising Joyful Childrenin an Angry World.
I'm your host, Paul Osborne.
Today I want to talk about oneof the most Interesting and
helpful information that comesout of this story about Joseph
(00:22):
and his coat of many colors.
It is about how we can buildeach other up and bear true
witness in our home to help ourkids maintain and strengthen
their reputation and theiridentity.
One of the biggest misses I fearin most churches is there's a
(00:42):
focus sometimes.
and not as much attention tothou shalls positive part of the
commandments.
You remember, we were trying tounderstand this story by using
the 10 commandments, the Lord'sprayer, the apostles creed, and
today I just want to look at.
(01:04):
I want to point out thatJoseph's family fails miserably
at the ability to recognizeGod's gifts and point them out
and encourage them.
We have said, when we look atthe first section, this is a
dysfunctional family that isbuilt on distrust.
(01:26):
Jacob, who is Israel, he giveshis son a coat.
It's kind of a, you know, aworldly thing to give him.
It's the focus on the outward.
And he seems to favor him inorder to get favors.
He's sending him down to spy onhis brothers and to give him
reports.
The brothers, we're told,couldn't even speak a kind word
(01:47):
about him.
What is that?
Well, that's an absolute refusalof the positive side of the
commandment of bearing truewitness instead of thou shalt
not bear false witness, it's theopposite.
And so today I want you to seehow Joseph is trapped between
his dad and his brothers.
(02:08):
And then last time we looked atthis, we saw that the brothers,
He is thrown down into acistern.
He is stripped of the coat.
They're thinking about killinghim.
In fact, that's what they wantto do.
Reuben says, Oh, we can't shedblood.
And Judah comes up with aperfect plan of bearing false
(02:30):
witness.
He sells him into slavery.
And in the Here we see thiscontrast of a person trapped in
a family between two sides ofthis family.
Now he's in a literal trap.
And the Ishmaelites come downand that's who he is sold to.
And we see how God begins torescue him out of this trap.
(02:51):
But here's the thing I want topoint out.
I want you to notice thecontrast when he gets to
Potiphar's house.
And what Potiphar does in orderto build up his reputation and
to actually act on the positiveside of this commandment.
I want a contrast betweenpositive bearing true witness
(03:14):
the right way and compare thatto Judah and his life who starts
the false witness and where heends up in chapter 38.
And here's the reason.
This is the big reason your kidsare going to get their
reputations.
Their faith, their identitiesattacked in this world over and
(03:37):
over, and your family needs tobe the one place where their
reputations will not beattacked.
It has to not only be that, butit has to be the one place.
where they're built up.
Brothers and sisters are goingto tease each other.
That's part of life.
But you have to teach your kidsto support each other and to
(04:00):
speak kind truths that build thereputation.
We're going to see how thisworks with Potiphar from a
parental standpoint.
To learn to see what God hasgiven your kids.
In terms of their blessings andto help the family point that
out is a habit that has to becultivated.
(04:21):
We need Barnabas as theencourager in our family.
And so training your children inthis to look and see the value
of their identity and theidentity of their siblings in
the kingdom.
And the blessings of God willlet your family be a place where
they are safe from falseaccusations.
(04:45):
Because out in that world, thosethings are getting ripped and
torn all the time.
So anyway, we move from thisinitial trap, right, in the home
where he's trapped between hisbrothers and his dad, ending up
in a physical trap.
In many action movies, right,the hero falls into a trap.
And how does he get out of it?
(05:05):
Well, our main character,Joseph, has been trapped by his
brothers.
They've turned jealousy to envy.
They've taken his coat.
They've thrown him down thewell.
And God comes along.
And Judah comes up with a sin.
And yet God sends theIshmaelites.
We have to teach our kids.
They didn't just happen to comealong.
God sends them to rescue Josephout of the trap.
(05:27):
And even though it'scompromised.
Reuben didn't want to kill him.
Reuben was trying to get himback to his father.
Judah comes up with a lie.
Well, we'll sell him off andwe'll tell this story.
we'll see what happens in thisescape.
But I, I would encourage you totake a look at chapter 38 and
see how Judah's life Justcompletely deteriorates.
(05:48):
He marries into a foreign tribe.
He and his sons suffertremendously.
Some of his sons death at the atthe hand of God's justice and
Judah is trapped in this twistedintimate relationship in which
he tries to have a relationshipwith a prostitute that he covers
(06:09):
up and ends up being revealed ina daughter in law.
It is a classic example of thatwe don't break God's laws, we
end up breaking ourselves.
He's trying to cover up hissinful actions to save his
reputation.
And yet you contrast this toJoseph, particularly in the
(06:32):
house of Potiphar.
I want you to see how Josephsees what's happened to him
there.
Potiphar sees that the Lord iswith Joseph.
He prospered him in the house ofhis master.
And when his master saw that theLord was with him, and that he
gave him success in everythinghe did, Joseph found favor in
(06:53):
his eyes.
we go from favor of, that's, allscrewed up with, with Jacob to a
favor that is related to, Oh, Isee how God has blessed you.
That's a huge difference.
And then here's the key.
Potiphar He does not put him incharge.
He gives him moreresponsibilities.
(07:16):
He puts him in charge of thehousehold, and he trusts him to
care for everything that heowns.
The way we build our kids up isto recognize the talents in us.
And the blessings that God hasgiven them and then to give them
more responsibility based on ourrecognition of what God is
(07:39):
doing.
That then allows them to seewhat God is doing to them.
And that, and that trust now isbeing built.
You went from a family that wasfilled with distrust into
Potiphar's house that is filledwith trust based on his
observation of what God isdoing.
(08:01):
You see the contrast.
It's incredible.
And so, you, you get down to aplace where he is caring for
everything and he's a goodlooking guy and now all of a
sudden, Potiphar's wife.
Now comes, you know, lustfullyafter him, and he refused.
He says, My master does notconcern himself with anything in
(08:27):
this house.
Everything he owns, he hasentrusted to my care.
No one is greater in this housethan I.
My master withheld nothing fromme except you, because you're
his wife.
How then could I do such awicked thing and sin against
God?
(08:47):
You see how this whole scenarioyou've been taken out of he's
been taken out of the trap He'sbeen taken out of this household
Which is dysfunctional ondistrust and now God has built
him up into a place in Which hesees his value in the kingdom
Based on Potiphar's recognitionof what God is doing and this
(09:10):
incredible foundation of trustthis positive of bearing true
witness of what God is doing.
This is what I really want youto, take a look at.
there's nothing wrong withtelling our kids, Hey, good game
today.
the, your recital was perfect.
(09:31):
oh, your report card was good.
those are all wonderful things.
But we have to see what God isdoing in their lives and we have
to tie the kingdom of God andGod's hand and God's actions
into these appraisals.
And our action has to besomewhere in which we trust them
(09:54):
with more responsibility.
This is the exercise of buildingup.
I will tell you, your boys inthis society are going to face
reputationally ruinoussituations.
By the intimate offerings ofmany members of this culture.
There are going to be parentswho will encourage their
(10:14):
daughters to engage in the samelust that we just read from
Potiphar's wife.
Your girls are going to be in asociety where they're going to
face attacks on their looks,their appearance, their conduct.
And there will be parentsperfectly comfortable with
activities that you are notcomfortable with.
And the question becomes, howwill they battle back?
(10:38):
If we think it's going to bebased on worldly success, you're
a star athlete, you got greatgrades, human achievement,
you're ignoring all that'shappening around you.
Because most of the time, Inthese cases of successful kids,
the more success they have, thebigger the temptations and the
more vicious and often hatefulthe lies are.
(11:03):
Resistance is built on trustthat comes in your family, on
acknowledging what God hasblessed them with, helping them
to see what God has blessed themwith by entrusting them more,
and allowing God to work ontheir hearts so that they desire
more.
Not to, not to turn to ruin, butto trust what God has done.
(11:26):
And they need that, not justfrom parents, they need that
from siblings.
Now I want to be real.
Just because we're doing thatdoesn't mean they won't suffer
attacks.
We see it in this story.
Joseph has had his confidence inwho God is and his connection to
the kingdom rebuilt.
(11:48):
And yet he's still attacked.
These attacks are going tohappen.
In fact, our kids from time totime are going to break our
trust, and we're going to bedisappointed.
But the only choice we have isto ask God to pull them out of
the traps, out of the brokentrust, and work with God and
(12:12):
work with them and our othersiblings to rebuild our trust.
Find what God is doing in theirlife and build on that
foundation and remind them overand over of who God says they
are.
The waters of baptism, God hasput his word in it and he puts
his name, Father, Son, and HolySpirit over their name.
(12:35):
That's given to kids.
We, we look at things like thevine, uh, the vine of Christ and
branch, and a branch beinggrafted.
That's the vascular system of aplant.
This is what, this is what theLord is saying He's going to do
for your kids.
He's going to literally connectthem to the vascular system.
(12:57):
of the tree of life.
These are concepts that we haveto kind of grasp and be able on
our own way to trust God tobuild up our kids in the kingdom
and we have to be looking forit.
Now, I want to be honest withyou, when you get to be my age,
it's easier, so much easier.
(13:17):
to look at my adult children andsay, wow, God has really
equipped them to be a great mom.
It's even easier when I have mygrandkids around to see, wow,
God's given that child aparticular spiritual gift, a
sensitivity to something that'sspiritual.
(13:38):
And the reason for this is I'mnot in the chaos of having to
get them up every day and fedand off to school and after
school activities and a fulltime job and all that.
All those things that distractyou.
So I'm a realist about this, butif you will help your family
from time to time, take some,some one day and just say, Hey,
(14:00):
let's recognize some spiritualgifts that everybody has around
this table.
Let's thank God for those andremind kids of who God says they
are in his kingdom.
You will see that this buildingup of trust will result in them
becoming the moms and dads thatyou pray they will become.
(14:24):
The ultimate battle for theheart and soul is a fight for
identity.
Our king invites our kids toknow who they are, what to
believe, and where they belong.
Until next time, let's rememberthe words for theirs is the
Kingdom of Heaven.
Raising joyful children in an angry world, a podcast
dedicated to faithful parentsnavigating their families
through a stormy culture
This is Raising Joyful Childrenin an Angry World.
I'm your host, Paul Osborne.
Today I want to talk about oneof the most Interesting and
helpful information that comesout of this story about Joseph
(00:22):
and his coat of many colors.
It is about how we can buildeach other up and bear true
witness in our home to help ourkids maintain and strengthen
their reputation and theiridentity.
One of the biggest misses I fearin most churches is there's a
(00:42):
focus sometimes.
and not as much attention tothou shalls positive part of the
commandments.
You remember, we were trying tounderstand this story by using
the 10 commandments, the Lord'sprayer, the apostles creed, and
today I just want to look at.
(01:04):
I want to point out thatJoseph's family fails miserably
at the ability to recognizeGod's gifts and point them out
and encourage them.
We have said, when we look atthe first section, this is a
dysfunctional family that isbuilt on distrust.
(01:26):
Jacob, who is Israel, he giveshis son a coat.
It's kind of a, you know, aworldly thing to give him.
It's the focus on the outward.
And he seems to favor him inorder to get favors.
He's sending him down to spy onhis brothers and to give him
reports.
The brothers, we're told,couldn't even speak a kind word
(01:47):
about him.
What is that?
Well, that's an absolute refusalof the positive side of the
commandment of bearing truewitness instead of thou shalt
not bear false witness, it's theopposite.
And so today I want you to seehow Joseph is trapped between
his dad and his brothers.
(02:08):
And then last time we looked atthis, we saw that the brothers,
He is thrown down into acistern.
He is stripped of the coat.
They're thinking about killinghim.
In fact, that's what they wantto do.
Reuben says, Oh, we can't shedblood.
And Judah comes up with aperfect plan of bearing false
(02:30):
witness.
He sells him into slavery.
And in the Here we see thiscontrast of a person trapped in
a family between two sides ofthis family.
Now he's in a literal trap.
And the Ishmaelites come downand that's who he is sold to.
And we see how God begins torescue him out of this trap.
(02:51):
But here's the thing I want topoint out.
I want you to notice thecontrast when he gets to
Potiphar's house.
And what Potiphar does in orderto build up his reputation and
to actually act on the positiveside of this commandment.
I want a contrast betweenpositive bearing true witness
(03:14):
the right way and compare thatto Judah and his life who starts
the false witness and where heends up in chapter 38.
And here's the reason.
This is the big reason your kidsare going to get their
reputations.
Their faith, their identitiesattacked in this world over and
(03:37):
over, and your family needs tobe the one place where their
reputations will not beattacked.
It has to not only be that, butit has to be the one place.
where they're built up.
Brothers and sisters are goingto tease each other.
That's part of life.
But you have to teach your kidsto support each other and to
(04:00):
speak kind truths that build thereputation.
We're going to see how thisworks with Potiphar from a
parental standpoint.
To learn to see what God hasgiven your kids.
In terms of their blessings andto help the family point that
out is a habit that has to becultivated.
(04:21):
We need Barnabas as theencourager in our family.
And so training your children inthis to look and see the value
of their identity and theidentity of their siblings in
the kingdom.
And the blessings of God willlet your family be a place where
they are safe from falseaccusations.
(04:45):
Because out in that world, thosethings are getting ripped and
torn all the time.
So anyway, we move from thisinitial trap, right, in the home
where he's trapped between hisbrothers and his dad, ending up
in a physical trap.
In many action movies, right,the hero falls into a trap.
And how does he get out of it?
(05:05):
Well, our main character,Joseph, has been trapped by his
brothers.
They've turned jealousy to envy.
They've taken his coat.
They've thrown him down thewell.
And God comes along.
And Judah comes up with a sin.
And yet God sends theIshmaelites.
We have to teach our kids.
They didn't just happen to comealong.
God sends them to rescue Josephout of the trap.
(05:27):
And even though it'scompromised.
Reuben didn't want to kill him.
Reuben was trying to get himback to his father.
Judah comes up with a lie.
Well, we'll sell him off andwe'll tell this story.
we'll see what happens in thisescape.
But I, I would encourage you totake a look at chapter 38 and
see how Judah's life Justcompletely deteriorates.
(05:48):
He marries into a foreign tribe.
He and his sons suffertremendously.
Some of his sons death at the atthe hand of God's justice and
Judah is trapped in this twistedintimate relationship in which
he tries to have a relationshipwith a prostitute that he covers
(06:09):
up and ends up being revealed ina daughter in law.
It is a classic example of thatwe don't break God's laws, we
end up breaking ourselves.
He's trying to cover up hissinful actions to save his
reputation.
And yet you contrast this toJoseph, particularly in the
(06:32):
house of Potiphar.
I want you to see how Josephsees what's happened to him
there.
Potiphar sees that the Lord iswith Joseph.
He prospered him in the house ofhis master.
And when his master saw that theLord was with him, and that he
gave him success in everythinghe did, Joseph found favor in
(06:53):
his eyes.
we go from favor of, that's, allscrewed up with, with Jacob to a
favor that is related to, Oh, Isee how God has blessed you.
That's a huge difference.
And then here's the key.
Potiphar He does not put him incharge.
He gives him moreresponsibilities.
(07:16):
He puts him in charge of thehousehold, and he trusts him to
care for everything that heowns.
The way we build our kids up isto recognize the talents in us.
And the blessings that God hasgiven them and then to give them
more responsibility based on ourrecognition of what God is
(07:39):
doing.
That then allows them to seewhat God is doing to them.
And that, and that trust now isbeing built.
You went from a family that wasfilled with distrust into
Potiphar's house that is filledwith trust based on his
observation of what God isdoing.
(08:01):
You see the contrast.
It's incredible.
And so, you, you get down to aplace where he is caring for
everything and he's a goodlooking guy and now all of a
sudden, Potiphar's wife.
Now comes, you know, lustfullyafter him, and he refused.
He says, My master does notconcern himself with anything in
(08:27):
this house.
Everything he owns, he hasentrusted to my care.
No one is greater in this housethan I.
My master withheld nothing fromme except you, because you're
his wife.
How then could I do such awicked thing and sin against
God?
(08:47):
You see how this whole scenarioyou've been taken out of he's
been taken out of the trap He'sbeen taken out of this household
Which is dysfunctional ondistrust and now God has built
him up into a place in Which hesees his value in the kingdom
Based on Potiphar's recognitionof what God is doing and this
(09:10):
incredible foundation of trustthis positive of bearing true
witness of what God is doing.
This is what I really want youto, take a look at.
there's nothing wrong withtelling our kids, Hey, good game
today.
the, your recital was perfect.
(09:31):
oh, your report card was good.
those are all wonderful things.
But we have to see what God isdoing in their lives and we have
to tie the kingdom of God andGod's hand and God's actions
into these appraisals.
And our action has to besomewhere in which we trust them
(09:54):
with more responsibility.
This is the exercise of buildingup.
I will tell you, your boys inthis society are going to face
reputationally ruinoussituations.
By the intimate offerings ofmany members of this culture.
There are going to be parentswho will encourage their
(10:14):
daughters to engage in the samelust that we just read from
Potiphar's wife.
Your girls are going to be in asociety where they're going to
face attacks on their looks,their appearance, their conduct.
And there will be parentsperfectly comfortable with
activities that you are notcomfortable with.
And the question becomes, howwill they battle back?
(10:38):
If we think it's going to bebased on worldly success, you're
a star athlete, you got greatgrades, human achievement,
you're ignoring all that'shappening around you.
Because most of the time, Inthese cases of successful kids,
the more success they have, thebigger the temptations and the
more vicious and often hatefulthe lies are.
(11:03):
Resistance is built on trustthat comes in your family, on
acknowledging what God hasblessed them with, helping them
to see what God has blessed themwith by entrusting them more,
and allowing God to work ontheir hearts so that they desire
more.
Not to, not to turn to ruin, butto trust what God has done.
(11:26):
And they need that, not justfrom parents, they need that
from siblings.
Now I want to be real.
Just because we're doing thatdoesn't mean they won't suffer
attacks.
We see it in this story.
Joseph has had his confidence inwho God is and his connection to
the kingdom rebuilt.
(11:48):
And yet he's still attacked.
These attacks are going tohappen.
In fact, our kids from time totime are going to break our
trust, and we're going to bedisappointed.
But the only choice we have isto ask God to pull them out of
the traps, out of the brokentrust, and work with God and
(12:12):
work with them and our othersiblings to rebuild our trust.
Find what God is doing in theirlife and build on that
foundation and remind them overand over of who God says they
are.
The waters of baptism, God hasput his word in it and he puts
his name, Father, Son, and HolySpirit over their name.
(12:35):
That's given to kids.
We, we look at things like thevine, uh, the vine of Christ and
branch, and a branch beinggrafted.
That's the vascular system of aplant.
This is what, this is what theLord is saying He's going to do
for your kids.
He's going to literally connectthem to the vascular system.
(12:57):
of the tree of life.
These are concepts that we haveto kind of grasp and be able on
our own way to trust God tobuild up our kids in the kingdom
and we have to be looking forit.
Now, I want to be honest withyou, when you get to be my age,
it's easier, so much easier.
(13:17):
to look at my adult children andsay, wow, God has really
equipped them to be a great mom.
It's even easier when I have mygrandkids around to see, wow,
God's given that child aparticular spiritual gift, a
sensitivity to something that'sspiritual.
(13:38):
And the reason for this is I'mnot in the chaos of having to
get them up every day and fedand off to school and after
school activities and a fulltime job and all that.
All those things that distractyou.
So I'm a realist about this, butif you will help your family
from time to time, take some,some one day and just say, Hey,
(14:00):
let's recognize some spiritualgifts that everybody has around
this table.
Let's thank God for those andremind kids of who God says they
are in his kingdom.
You will see that this buildingup of trust will result in them
becoming the moms and dads thatyou pray they will become.
(14:24):
The ultimate battle for theheart and soul is a fight for
identity.
Our king invites our kids toknow who they are, what to
believe, and where they belong.
Until next time, let's rememberthe words for theirs is the
Kingdom of Heaven.
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