Feel Ignored by Your Spouse? Use These 10 Listening Skills
In this episode of Reconciling Marriages with Coach Jack, Christian psychologist and relationship coach Dr. Jack Ito breaks down 10 powerful listening skills that can help you reconnect with a distant spouse. If you're tired of feeling ignored, dismissed, or disconnected, these step-by-step strategies will help you become the kind of partner your spouse enjoys talking with again.
What You’ll Learn:
- How to develop a mindset that draws your spouse closer, not pushes them away
- 10 actionable listening techniques that rebuild emotional connection
- What behaviors are turning your spouse off (and how to replace them)
- How clients like John turned around a cold marriage—without needing their spouse’s cooperation
Want to Work With Coach Jack?
If your spouse avoids you or conversations often end in frustration, you don’t need to keep guessing what to do next. My Re-Connections Coaching Package will give you a customized step-by-step plan to help your spouse enjoy talking and being with you again—without needing them to work on the relationship. Learn more at: coachjackito.com
Key Takeaways:
- A positive mindset is essential before any interaction
- Validation creates connection; invalidation destroys it
- Listening is more than hearing—it's how you respond and remember
- Good listening habits create attraction and reduce avoidance
- Coaching works by creating small wins that build confidence and change
Additional Resources:
- Article: 12 Ways to Revive Your Love for Your Spouse - There are things that you can do to rejuvenate your love for your spouse
- Book: Connecting Through "Yes!" – Learn how to agree and empathize, even when your spouse is negative
- Book: Overcome Neediness and Get the Love You Want - End the behaviors that cause conflict and emotional distance in your marriage.
- Free Download: 5 Communication Lessons – Get immediate tools to help your spouse enjoy talking with you
Work one-on-one with Coach Jack to repair your relationship using small, easy steps that rebuild connection quickly. Visit CoachJackIto.com to learn more about relationship coaching.
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