Three Pillars of Emotional Intelligence (Ep. 72)

Episode 72 - Three Pillars of Emotional Intelligence

 

EQ - navigating the complex inner interpersonal dynamics, inspiring, motivating teams and making really sound decisions that are based on emotional awareness. 

 

Three Pillars of Emotional Intelligence:

1. Self -awareness
2. Empathy
3. Relationship management

 

• Self-Awareness:

• Leaders are self -aware. 
  • involves understanding emotions, strengths, weaknesses, values, goals.
  • recognize different triggers, biases, limitations to regulate their emotions effectively and make more and better informed decisions.
• Leadership is not really about who you're supervising, more of a matter of how you are getting better. 
  • listening to other men and women who are smarter or wiser
  • you can't start the self -awareness process on your own 

 

QUESTION: Are you self -aware? 

• Reach out to other people
• Ask them, “Am I self -aware?” 

 

• Empathy

• Leaders are empathetic. 
  • attuned to emotions and perspectives of their team members
  • fosters trust, collaboration, and effective communication 
  • creates a supportive work environment where individuals feel valued and understood.
• Leaders have to live in the feelings and emotions realm
• A leader that doesn't care is not going to be a leader for long. 

 

BOOK: 21 Irrefutable Laws of Leadership, John Maxwell 

• Your people need to know that you care about them before you can lead them. 

 

QUESTION: What kind of vulnerability do you have with your people? 

QUESTION: Who are the people in your life that can speak into your life and do it freely?

 

• The last thing that you should ask your people at the end of every meeting or every conversation with them is, how can I help?
  • that is your job⸺ to help other people to solve problems. 
  • Metaphor: When sitting across from somebody I supervise, what does it take for me to move to their side of the table? 

 

• Leaders are Relational 

 

• Relationship management involves leveraging your own self -awareness and empathy to cultivate a positive relationship with each of the people on your team.
  • More influence with others 
    • Emotionally intelligent leader excels at:
      • Conflict resolution. 
        • Prioritize open communication, constructive feedback, empower team members to succeed. 
        • Foster a culture of trust, loyalty, and productivity within their organizations.
      • Relationship Management Skills
        • Communicating clearly 
        • Listening actively
        • Cooperation
        • Stay away from social pressure 
        • Do conflict in a constructive manner. 
        • Seek help when needed

 

BOOK: Emotional Intelligence 2 .0, _____

 

QUESTION: What does it take for you to express your feelings to others? 

 

ASSESSMENTS:  

• Gallup Strengths Finder. 
• DISC Profile

 

• Leaders need to know themselves and be self -aware of both their strengths, and their personality 

MO’s Final Thoughts

The key differentiator is a genuine commitment to continuous self -improvement. It's about you getting better, not about making your people better. You're not there to work on your people. Work on yourself. The emotionally intelligent leader is going to be humble enough to acknowledge his or her own shortcomings and actively seek feedback from others. Invest time and effort into developing these emotional intelligence skills. Read the books. Hang out with the right people. Take the assessments. Practice it. Seek out people that can help you. Those who prioritize their own growth