Real Tools for Real Change: Shift Negative Beliefs and Rewire Patterns with Brenda Farrugia - Episode 296 - Sandy K Nutrition - Health & Lifestyle Queen

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Today I have a return guest.
I have such a greatrelationship with Brenda
Farrugia.
She is a transformationalquantum energy healer and coach
dedicated to helping individualsand organizations restore
balance and reconnect with theirtrue potential and feel whole

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again.
She empowers those who areready to release limiting
beliefs and they need to elevatetheir energy because we all
have that light within us.
And Brenda really helps us toachieve this.
Now, Brenda has worked withcountless people through

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transformational journeys ofhealing and growth and
self-discovery.
And her approach blendsintuitive insight with
practical, evidence-based tools,helping clients cultivate
resilience, confidence, andemotional well-being while
raising their overall vibration.

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So, with that, welcome, Brenda.
Today we are going to talkspecifically about negative and
limiting beliefs.
And, you know, we hear this alot.
And you'll hear, oh, yeah, youknow, I have all these negative
beliefs and I have all theselimiting beliefs.
But there's nothing thatconcrete that we know on how to

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help ourselves release this sothat it's not holding us back in
our lives.
And that's what we're going totalk about.
So welcome, Brenda.
Thank you for coming back.

Brenda Farrugia (03:12):
Oh, thanks for having me, Sandy.
And you know, when we starttalking, it just feels like
talking to a friend or a clientwhere I just really engage with
what they're feeling, whatthey're going through.
But today I'd like to take thisinto a slightly different
direction where I know I've beendoing this for a long time, 15
years.
And when I talk, sometimes Italk up here.

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And a lot of people are like,what is she saying?
Brenda's stuff works, but howis she explaining it?
It's confusing.
So today, with your help, weare going to bring it down in
terms where people canunderstand.
We all have negative beliefs.
And one thing that I'll say iswhen people say meditate,
meditate, it can be veryfrustrating because people are

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trying to quiet their mind down.
If you look at meditation asbeing an awareness to the
chatter, the negative beliefsthat pop in your head, that's
going to give you a good placeto start to understanding what
negative beliefs you hold.
Self-reflection.

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So have you ever sat there,Sandy, and I'm going to just
have like five minutes formyself, and you're relaxing, and
all of a sudden, this somethingcomes in your head that says,
get off your lazy butt and goget the kids lunch ready.
Or who do you think you arerelaxing?
You got things to do.
Or, you know, you don't deservethis.
Or you might be thinking aboutsomething you want to do later,

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and you have these undeservingthoughts.
You're not good enough.
You should be scared.
You're going to fail.
Those are the things you wantto pay attention to.
Write them down because that'sgoing to give you a clue to what
negative beliefs you hold inyour subconscious mind.

Okay, so that's actually a perfect way to define
what a negative belief is.
It's those intrusive littlethoughts that come up because I
know, Brenda, I've had so manypeople say to me, I'm not
self-aware enough.
I don't know how I feel.

unknown (05:18):
Right.

But if you allow yourself to pay attention to
it's not like those littlevoices that are popping up.
So it's a great way to definewhat a negative or limiting
belief is, right?

Yes.
So they they do show up inthoughts you have.
Some people hear them asvoices.
We're all very different.
So there's no right or wrong.
But also you can take it a stepfurther now.
Once you start being aware of,okay, I'm hearing these negative
thoughts.
Sometimes they may be yournagging mom as a kid coming
back.
You did it wrong, you did itwrong, you did it wrong, or your

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brother saying you're not goodenough, you're ugly, whatever it
is.
Like there's many, we havemany, many, many examples.
So write them down.
But then you need to take it astep further if you're curious,
and sit and take an inventory ofyour life.
What are the recurringpatterns, self-sabotaging
patterns?

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It's funny.
As we're preparing for this, Ihad this thought, and I'm gonna
put this out there to both menand women.
You are perhaps looking for apartner, and someone great comes
into your life, and then yousay something so stupid that you

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would never say out ofcharacter, and the person never
calls you back, and you're like,Why did I say that?
Now, this other person comes toyou and you're not interested
in them, they're not your type,or you know they're bad news.
All of a sudden, all the whitewords are coming out, and they
want to see you again.
And you're like, the personthat I would have really

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preferred to be with, I scaredthem away with something I said
that didn't make sense.
This other person that's notgood for me is working out
nicely.
That is a pattern a lot ofwomen, a lot of men say, I keep
picking up the wrong people, andI keep sabotaging relationships
that could be good.
So, what is it in them, intheir subconscious, their

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negative beliefs, their owntraumas that are causing them to
act a certain way when it'sgood for them to make the good
things leave their life andallow the bad things to enter
their lives?
That's deep work.
And not everyone's ready tolook at that, but that's how

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sitting, reflecting, listeningto the negative beliefs, then
watching the patterns ofbehavior, maybe their
relationship issues, maybe theirfinancial issues, maybe their
health issues.
For instance, someone who mightbe not healthy and they know
what they need to do.

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They need to eat a certain way,they need to lose some weight,
they need to exercise, but theydon't do it, but they know they
should.
There are limiting beliefs, notallowing them to move forward
in that.
There's fear.
Say if I go to the gym andpeople laugh at me.
Say if I, you know, oh, ormaybe I'll just have this last
piece of this.

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There's always excuses.
Where do these excuses comefrom?
It's in the subconscious, andthey are deep in the
subconscious, but they'reshowing themselves as a gift by
the chatter we have in ourheads, by the patterns we see
going on in our life.

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The I'm gonna say the challengehere is are you brave enough or
are you courageous enough tosay, I'm gonna look within.

Well, if you, you know, I think, for example,
eating is a is a very goodexample, right?
Because if you perfect example,let's say you eat foods that
make you feel awful.
You're, you know, I don't liketo food shame because I believe
in balance.
Like every once in a while, Ithink we should eat some foods

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that give us some pleasure andsome joy.
And, you know, I'm always aboutbalance.
But let's say that you'realways overeating, you're
gaining a lot of weight.
It's kind of like you're justnot looking at what is this
that's causing me toself-sabotage here.

unknown (09:39):
Yeah.

And you're you're so right.
Sometimes, and these are alljust general examples because
we're all very uniqueindividuals.
Sometimes somebody has extraweight for protection, and that
protection can be for so manydifferent things.
It could be something that wassaid to them when they were just
a little baby, you know, oh,you're too skinny.
People die when they're skinnybecause our grandmother was in

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the war and they want the babyto be heavier.
That goes into thesubconscious.
It's not safe to be skinny, andthen the cells remember, and no
matter what the person does,they can't lose weight.
Then there's other things wheremaybe somebody was sexually
abused, and if I put on extraweight, people will find me less
attractive, and that's safe.

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There are so many differentreasons.
That's just two ideas or thingsthat people have released
during sessions.
But we're so multi-dimensional.
And what I mean by that insimple forms is we're very
complicated.
Everyone's very unique.
We come in with our ownhistories, our own experiences,

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our own memories.
So I cannot say this person'sissue is that, or my issues
that, or this, because it's kindof in layers.
It's like, you know, I tackleone thing of myself, and then it
opens up, oh, here I am,something hiding behind that.
And then I let go of thatnegative belief.

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Oh, here I am, there's anotherone.
So we heal layer by layer, butwe heal what's presenting up
first.
So start to deal with thenegative beliefs that you can
hear in your mind chatter, andstart to work on what the
patterns you're seeing.

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The neat thing about patternsis once you recognize it and you
acknowledge I have a pattern,it's no longer a habit or a
pattern anymore.
Now it's a choice, and this iswhat gives you back some power.
Yes, you might have been in apattern all your life.
I agree.

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But now you're looking at itwith awareness.
Shoot, I've been doing that allmy life.
Once I connect the dots, onceI'm aware it's no longer a
pattern, now it's a choice, andthat gives people more
empowerment instead of this.
Oh, well, it's just a pattern.
That's just who I am.
I'm doomed to be doing this forthe rest of my life.

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No, take it as the opposite.
I figured this out, and I'mgonna empower myself, and I'm
going to break it.
I'm gonna do whatever I can inmy power to change, to be aware.
Okay, I usually make do this.
This time I'm gonna dosomething different.
It's really empowering andexciting when you realize you

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have the power to make thechoices that are better for you.

I think as humans, we have a tendency to go on
autopilot.
And I don't think that, youknow, the like while technology
is beautiful and wonderful, andlook at we're talking right now,
and you know, we don't have tobe in the same room, it's great.
But I think that we it can alsowork against us and it makes us

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go on autopilot so that wedon't take that time to reflect.
And I think that's part ofevery single conversation as it
relates to our health andwellness.
If we don't take that time,whatever it is, to not have a
phone in our hands, to not havea computer in our face, to, you
know, I always I always say,like, go back to like how the

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farmers would live.
Like, I actually I actuallywrote an entire article on that,
Brenda, because I think thefirst way to actually know how
you feel is by doing that,right?
Because so many people don'tknow because they're constantly
numbing everything with all ofthese distractions that are all
around us.

And the the the funny thing is they're numbing.
And then if saying if they'rehaving a deep conversation with
a friend, they'll start pointingout all their friends' issues
because they're deflecting,like, okay, I don't want to look
at with him.
Oh, you know, you're not doingthis right, or you should have
been doing this and you shouldhave dated this guy.
It's like, have you looked atyourself?
But no, they don't want to, sothey'll deflect or they'll numb.

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And the ask is take 15 minutesa day, one five, and just sit
with yourself.
No music, no phone, just yourthoughts.
And people hate it.
But if you can get over thatfirst 15 minutes, maybe start
with five minutes, maybe 15minutes is asking too much.

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Start with five minutes.
If you can do that, then try itfor six minutes, build your way
to 15 minutes.
But the more you do that andlearn about yourself, there's
gonna be this excitement withinyou because you're gonna start
to remember who you are withoutthe numbing, without the
programming, without the stuffthat's not real, and start to go

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within and feel what's real.
And if you need a good cry, letit out.
It's all right.
Do this alone when you can't bejudged.
It can be in your home, it canbe in your car, you can be at a
park.
To be honest, when I had my myspiritual awakening or
awakening, whatever you want tocall it, and I needed time to

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reflect.
I had two young kids, I wasworking a corporate job, I was
very, very busy.
But I used to go into mylock-in closet and hide for five
minutes and just sit there.
And all that time, this voicein my head saying, How dare you!
You don't have you don'tdeserve this time.
Get out there and take care ofyour you're a bad mom, you're

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this.
I'm like, that's when I startto realize there is something
inside of me that does not likeme.
And it's my negative ego thathas gone through a lot of trauma
because experiences we gothrough as children, sometimes a
small experience where someonesays, That was nothing.

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How could you have any issues?
You think that's a bigexperience?
But to a child, something verysmall can affect them very
deeply.
A cut eye from a parent, youknow, maybe uh just a small
smack on the hand because theparents never hit them.
But then you have some otherpeople who go through tremendous

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abuse and they don't have asmany issues as someone who had
lighter stuff happen.
So it's very unique.
We can't say, oh, that personwent through a lot, they deserve
to have you know issues, butthis person lived a decent life
from what I can see, so theydon't need, they don't shouldn't
have any.
It doesn't work that way.
We're all unique.
We all came in with themes andchallenges to learn.

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This is the exciting part aboutbeing on planet Earth.
So if something happens to achild that can stay with them
and go into their subconscious,you messed up, you messed up,
and that thing grows and grows,you messed up, you messed up.
Now that child might be scaredto try anything new.
I might mess it up.
And we all know those peoplethat want to stay in their

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lives, and their world is thisbig, and they're scared to go
beyond it because the negativebeliefs are telling them, you're
gonna fail, you're not goodenough, you've messed up before,
don't even bother.
So it's about knowing thyself,understanding what's in the
subconscious.

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It's one of the most powerfulthings you can do, but it also
can be one of the scariestthings to do.

So I just want to touch on this, and this isn't
to, you know, shame anybodywho's done it or whatever, but
one of the things that I justwant to caution people about,
and I learned this from you,Brenda.
I've done a few shows onpsychedelics, like talks on
ayahuasca and all of that, andthey are very um, they're

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psychedelic plant medicines thatcan really crack you open.
Like I've done shows and haveheard some things that were a
little scary.
And one of the things that Ilearned from you is that
sometimes, and again, like yousaid, we're all unique beings,

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doing that can be too much foryou.
And I've actually heard storieswhere, you know, people come
back from an ayahuasca, they'renever the same person again.
They blow up their lives, theydivorce their spouse, they, you
know, like all kinds of thingsbecause it's almost like that

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plant medicine, or even ifsomebody has that kind of
control over you versus you andyour own higher self having that
control, it can make you go toofar into deep exploration that
your higher self may not beready to deal with.

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Can you expand on that alittle?

Yeah, I I so life is all about balance,
right?
And sometimes when people havean awakening or they get very
excited about spirituality, theywill want to fast track.
They want to know and doeverything right or right away.
So they will, I think,sometimes unsafely do too many

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things, like they'll go have anayahuasca trip, which I don't
not against them, go to one,enjoy it.
You know, release a lot, notthe most uncomfortable, not the
most comfortable way to do so,but you know, but then they keep
going to that, or they'll go onmushrooms and over not overdose
because they're still alive,but keep doing that because they

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give you a sense ofinvincibility, they give you a
sense of knowing.
These are teachers.
You take it, you learn aboutyour potential.
So it takes you maybe on atrip, and somebody all of a
sudden they're connecting totheir higher self more, they're
not more knowing, and they lovethat feeling, and then they

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continuously want that feeling.
But what that teacher taughtyou is you have the ability to
get there.
So we have to kind of work ourway to get there.
But people don't want to do thework because the work is work.
We all know like anyone whodoes this type of work of
self-exploration, self-healingknows it's quite the journey.
But so there's some people thatwill say, Well, I'm not gonna

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do the work, I'm just gonna keepgoing up here with these
psychedelics or whatever it is,but they're missing all that
learning and teaching they need,and then they become
unbalanced.
And I've seen this happen tosome people where I have seen
some have taken their livesbecause they lost the fabric of

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reality, it gets confusing.
Um, and then there's othersthat believe they're a guru now
that, oh, you guys have tolisten to me.
I know everything.
I'm and I don't want to talk toanybody in 3D anymore.
And they just live thisillusion or delusional life that
they're better than everyoneelse, and they've done

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everything, but they actuallyhaven't gone to the core of who
they are, so they becomeunbalanced.
It's all about learning aboutyourself and growing.
And we we do have the lightwithin us, we do have dark, it's
just humanity, right?
It's the two points of us.
When we're healing, we'retapping into those darker parts
of us, learning about them, andsaying, Hey, I don't need this

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anymore.
Thank you, goodbye, it's gone,right?
More light comes in, and thenanother pattern of behavior
shows up right now, and you dealwith that.
So it's a gradual learningabout yourself, and learning,
and as you're doing this, yourvibration will increase, your
frequency will increase, yourlight quotient increases.

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So I can get there very easilynow.
I can get into a state ofbliss.
I don't need any drugs, butit's it's taken me 16 years of
working on myself, and I'm verypassionate about working on
myself, very passionate.
Every single day I was eithermeditating, I meditate every

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day, and I started at 30seconds.
I could not meditate beyondthat, actually 15 seconds.
I can now meditate for threehours, but I don't have time to
meditate for three hours a day.
But I could, and it's ablissful place, but reality is
here in the 3D, the tangible.
So I can't just escape in that,which I did for a while during

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COVID because it felt reallynice in meditation.
But you have to bring what welearn and use it in our
everyday.
And as we're learning andgrowing, we're expanding.
But as you start to do thiswork, you will get to that
higher state of vibration wherethings are more vibrant and

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colorful.
Everywhere you go, everyonelooks happy because you're in a
different vibration.
So some people, when so itbecomes a little bit off balance
because they're trying to rushit.
So this is the way I seehealing.
If you're really dedicated toyourself and you're very
passionate, your higher mind,your divine mind, your higher
self, your soul.

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So I'm gonna call it manydifferent things because
everyone's calling it somethingdifferent.
Here we are, this physicalbody, which we came to
experience.
Uh and we're like spiritshaving a human experience.
So our higher self is alwayswatching out for us, it knows
everything about us, right?
So when I want to tap into it,it's easy now because I have a

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clear connection.
But in 2009, I was in a verydark place.
That connection was stillthere, but I couldn't hear it.
So I was making wrongdecisions.
The subconscious programming ofmy negative beliefs just led me
into bad situations and danger.
Now, I did I want to fight fasttrack into where I am now.

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I never had that urge to fasttrack, I just had an urge to
work on myself.
But we do meet people, andthere's all this thing with
spiritual bypassing.
You can't bypass spiritualawakenings.
It doesn't even make sense thatthey coined the spiritual
bypass.
Doesn't make sense.
I'm not gonna fight with anyoneabout that.

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I don't think it makes sensebecause our journey is our
journey, and it's led by ourhigher self, it's all divine
timing.

So, yeah, you know what?
Like, I think this is this isreally important to note.
Everybody is at their own placein their journey when they
start working on themselves.
So, like you back in 2010 and2011, I was in a really dark

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place.
And um, that was when mydaughter was diagnosed with
cancer and I was diagnosed withcancer within a year of each
other.
So the way I began to explorewas through feng shui.
And Brenda, like uh it made mefeel better because I'm like,

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okay, let me make sure the andthat's when I started learning
about energy.
Let me make sure that theenergy in my home is good, is
clear.
I still have some practicesthat I do, but I don't, I, you
know, that was back in 2011.

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I don't feel I need to givefeng shui per se that power
anymore.
You see what I'm saying?
But if somebody else isstarting there with kind of
exploring energy and how itfeels in their home and all of
that, I still do shows on itbecause I think it's kind of

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cool.
And it's a great way tointroduce energy flow in your
home, how energy feels when itfeels off.
And I think it's great.
But you know, everybody's kindof in their own place, and I
think not fast tracking, like wewere talking about, is a good

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way to begin to explore thesenegative beliefs, maybe through
meditation.
Like you said, five minutes ofquiet, it, you know, work up to
15.
I've always said, listen, don'tgo jogging with headphones on
in nature.
Take them off and go for a walkand hear the sounds all around

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you.
That is meditation.
And then also hear what pops upin your brain as you're
walking.
Because you might be walkingand going, ah, you know, I'm
such an idiot for doing that orsaying that, right?
And then, like you said, youcan go back home and go, oh,
interesting.
Why did that pop into my head?
And maybe write it down andwork on it.

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But I think this is all veryimportant to say everybody can
start where it's right for them,but fast tracking it may not be
ideal.

Yeah, I would agree because there are many
different ways that lead us tothe same thing, right?
Sometimes it's books, sometimesit's exercise that then awakens
someone to health.
And it's we're all like we'reall so different.
If we all follow the same trackto enlightenment, it would be
boring, right?
So the the main thing therethat I would say is be true to

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yourself and know that these youknow plant medicines are there.
Nothing wrong with them, justuse them safely and use them in
moderation because the deepwork, that deep introspection
still needs to happen.
It really does.

So let's let's get into beam therapy a little bit
because I think beam therapy isdefinitely one of the most
original ways that I have donework on myself.
I like it because I've hadsome, you know, weird
experiences with people who doReiki.

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And I'm like, I don't know if Iwant somebody to have that kind
of energy.
I don't know if control's theright word.
You'll probably have a betterword.
I want to be the one who's incharge.
I want to be the one, right?
So beam therapy allows that.
Can you explain a little bithow beam therapy works?

Sure.
And I'm just gonna I'll explainbeam therapy, but what I would
like to say about just allenergy healing.
When you work with someone,always work with someone that
knows they're not the one doingthe work.
All they're doing, and all Ido, is we create a healing
space.
In this healing space, we canbring everyone's unique.

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I bring in these beings oflight, very high vibrational
love, and they work with theclient's higher self.
So it's really your higher selfthat's in charge of your
healing, and your mind has youcan block it or you can allow
it, we're allowing, but that'swhat's happening.
You're really the healer in allof this.

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We're co creating a healingsession, but you are your own
healer.
All right.
This is just a supportivemethod.
Beam therapy was created bymedical doctor, Dr.
BD, Dr.
Joan B.
She lived in Toronto.
She still lives in Toronto, butshe's now retired.
And I still have friends withher, and I still see her, but

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she's no longer taking patience.
My only complaint with beamtherapy is that Dr.
Beattie never wanted it to getbig.
So her website was always verybad.
She never advertised it becauseshe was a medical doctor and
she dealt with people with beamtherapy only on two days a week.

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So people who find beamtherapy, I do advertise it, but
I always feel people whoresonate it find it.
And that's how people will findit.
So you found it because youwere ready for it.
Beam therapy is a simple yetpowerful process.
And it allows your higher selfto be in charge.

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And what it does in a veryloving way, sometimes
uncomfortable for some, but it'sinteractive in that the client,
the person who's coming forbean therapy, whether it's
individual or in groups, itcomes in a state of allowance,
ready to heal whatever's up forhealing.

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Generally, I call it a layer.
Inside a layer that's createdby your higher self.
So your higher self knowsyou're going to have a bean
therapy session.
It then goes through all thesedifferent layers of your psyche,
of your cellular memories, ofall this stuff.
And it pulls out this big cloudof messy stuff.

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It could be trauma when you'rein your mom's tummy.
It could be trauma when you'rea one, two, three, four years
old, any age to your currentage.
It can be even past lives andeven when you're inside your
mom's tummy.
We pick up a lot of trauma.
We also pick up traumas fromour ancestral lines, our family

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constellation issues, thingsthat we have seen, but they
didn't happen to us.
I saw it in a movie or I waswalking, I saw this happen.
Things we see, things weexperience, things that we hear,
they stay in our energeticfield.
They're held in our cellmemories.
Sometimes things make a bigimpact to us and can cause a lot

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of dysfunction and trauma inour systems.
Sometimes it is something wedon't remember at all, but it
remembers, our cells remember.
Sometimes it is something weremember and we forgave it, but
our cells still remember, so ithasn't fully forgiven from our
system.
So there's a lot of stuff thatcomes up in the healing.

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I can't explain it in words.
It's just it's something thatthe human mind is hard to
understand.
So this is why when I work withclients, I allow the
intelligence of this infiniteintelligence of these beings of
light of your higher self totake over.
I am nowhere near understandingof what's being done.

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I've been doing this for 15years.
I understand the profoundbenefits.
I understand what people feelduring the process.
I kind of have idea whatthey're doing, but I don't fully
understand it.
So my job in a healing sessionis to hold the space and support
the client.
Beam therapy goes through aprocess of 10 phrases.

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In these 10 phrases, noteveryone's going to use the same
phrases.
So you might have five phrasesduring a session.
You might use six, you mightuse seven.
They can change with everysession you have.
But in a session, what'shappening as we go through
different areas on our body,these are areas of cell
memories.

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And our cell memories holddifferent memories or different
feelings or hurts in differentareas.
I'll just give you a quickexample.
When we're dealing with thearea under the nose and the
chin, it's usually to do withshame and embarrassment.
When we're talking about thethroat area, it's not standing
up for yourself, unspoken words.

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So everywhere, like here, it'susually heartbreak, things that
made you sad.
So one incident that happened,let's say you were bullied as a
child, that trauma, thatexperience becomes trauma we
hold.
And it can be held in differentareas because there was
embarrassment from it.

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I didn't stand up for myself.
Oh, my dad yelled at me becauseI wasn't strong enough.
That's a different trauma fromit.
And it's held in our field.
As we release during beamtherapy, a lot of stuff leaves
your field.
As it's leaving your field, youmay remember the incidents, you

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may not remember them.
You don't need to rememberthem.
The beauty of beam therapy is alot of that stored energy
that's no longer serving you.
Traumas, negative beliefs,things you've seen that didn't
make you feel good, hurts, leaveyour energetic system.
It leaves it for good.
That layer is completely gone.

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And then this beautiful lightleaves through your essence,
raising your vibration andfrequency, and that becomes the
new you.
So you may have started beingtherapy here, after the being
therapy, you're here.
And that's now your newbaseline.
You do another session, you goup again, and you go up again,
and you go up again.

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One thing I know with beamtherapy, it may not be the most
comfortable, but it is powerfuland it's always going to be
beneficial.
And why do I know that?
Because your higher self is incharge, and your higher self
loves you.
Your higher self knows whereyou've been, where you are, and

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where you're supposed to be.
So it's going to release what'sno longer needed.
And if it's beneficial for youto remember something, you're
going to remember what left.
And if it's not beneficial,you're just going to let it go
and you're just going to feellighter.

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You're not going to know whatleft.
So your higher self is incharge of what you remember, how
you're processing it.
Now, some people feel great 20minutes after beam therapy.
Some people take a few days asthere's that integration that
happens.
But the actual session itselfcan take anywhere from an hour.

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When we're doing it in groups,it takes an hour to an hour and
a half because I have to gothrough all 10 of them, which is
exhausting for the people doingit and for myself.
But um, very powerful, verypowerful method.

So I want to give um just a real example, just so
that people understand.
Because this happened, I'vebeen working with Brenda for
over a year now, and I can'teven tell you.
I don't even know how manysessions I've had.
But you know, one thing that Iwill add to what you're saying

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is about how we're alwayspicking up new stuff.
So you never reach this peakand this summit and go, okay,
I'm done now.
I don't have to do any morework on myself ever again,
right?
Because we can always pick upnew stuff and our higher self
won't go and release it all atonce, it will only allow

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whatever you're able to kind ofhandle at the time, right?
And then I want to talk aboutthis one situation.
So one of the phrases thatBrenda has for beam therapy is
abandonment, right?
So you think, okay, Sandy, likeyou grew up and you've had both

(38:09):
your parents your whole life,you still do.
Um, good family unit.
Um, never, you know, I haven'thad divorce or really serious
loss.
But wait a second, in one of mysessions, I started to get

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tears.
This was in the summer, Brenda.
I did a beam therapy session,and during abandonment, I
started to have tears, and I hadan actual vision of me in the
birthing room after I gave birthto my daughter.
And this, it was like this, itwas so crazy because this vision

(38:52):
came over me.
My daughter came out blue.
She had the cord wrapped aroundher neck, her feet were blue.
They couldn't get her tobreathe.
She never was put on my chest.
They took her away to anotherroom immediately, and everybody
followed my husband, the doctor.
I was left there bleeding onthe birthing table with one

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nurse.
And then I was like, oh my God,like it never occurred to me,
but both my daughter and myselfexperienced that abandonment at
the same time.
And it was so profound that Imean, she's 20 years old.
I had never really thought ofthat.

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And that never even occurred tome that both of us had this
experience.
And I know I told you about it,Brenda, but I was like, oh my
gosh.
So that was a very powerfulhealing moment for me that I
never ever even thought of.

Yeah, that's that's the thing.
We we absorb so much everythingwe experience, and we just
assume, hey, that's life.
And we don't realize how muchthese experiences affect us,
they hurt us, they hurt oursoul, they they hurt us deeply,

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and they they're in our fieldreplaying and replaying, and
we're wondering why don't wefeel whole or why don't we feel
at peace?
It's because all these thingsare in there needing to come out
for healing.
Um, one when you said that wenever reach here.
Yes, we can pull up andexperience new traumas.

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I have come to a place in mylife where I don't do that so
much anymore.
I'm very level-headed, I makethe right decisions finally, you
know.
So, but still, I still havethings to heal, and I will heal
until the day I transition offthis planet.
We are multi-dimensional beingswith a lot of histories and the

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different lots of differentlifetimes.
So that can kind of throwpeople off.
But we came here to heal a lotof humanity's issues, including
ourselves.
So there's unlimited healing tobe done.
So we can do this forever andever and ever.
But the cool thing of it is wealways get lighter, we always
get lighter, we always getlighter, we always get lighter.

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And it's that feeling, andmaybe that's why I'm so
passionate about my healing.
Because when I do a healing andI get, I then become accustomed
to that.
But then when I do another one,I get that wow, like that, oh,
everything's so clear again.
So I'm always expanding myperception, learning about

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myself and humanity and theunderstanding of how the
universe works.
So if you want, you cancontinue.
It's endless, it's unlimited,really, right?
So it's like you take you getout of a box, then you're in the
room, and then you break theceiling off that, and you go to
the upstairs, that was a big,then you break the ceiling out

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of the house and just keep goingand going.
So we never really have tostop.
It would be it's so you keepgoing and going, but then it
comes down to those things thatwe've forgotten about that are
in our system.
And you had a profoundbreakthrough.

It was massive, like it was massive.
And you know what's reallyinteresting, Brenda?
I posted about it, and you knowhow listen, you're I know
you're not as much on socialmedia as I am, but you know how
sometimes when something is sodeeply profound in your heart

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and you share it with others,and then it goes viral because
it's just so profound and soreal and so authentic.
That happened to me afterwardsbecause I shared it with other
people.
I'm like, it was just I, youknow, I can't, you know how you

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say there's some things you justcan't put into words.
But beam therapy is one waythat I really, really find helps
with a lot of this clearing.
And then what I have noticed,because it's been a year, is

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that some of these patterns,these arguments, these
disagreements, these evenfriendships that don't really
fit and never really did.
And it's not about saying, oh,I hate your guts and I have all
this resentment, or that's notwhat this is about.

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It just kind of falls awaybecause it doesn't support who
you're becoming.
And like you said, like yourlight quotient is is going
higher, and it's not aboutshaming them who are staying
here, it's about just your ownpersonal journey and where you

(44:07):
can go.

Yeah, it's so fabulous.
Like I work with many differentpeople, and everyone's lives
are so different.
So, what they release and howthey react, and some people, you
know, they come in, andsometimes people have these
profound shifts.
Like I used to get a little bitenvious back then because my
journey's been very long.
But some people will come inand they've they're having a

(44:30):
session with me.
Their love life is not good,their work is not good,
everything about them is notgood.
They're complaining, they'recrying, they're at my door
crying, they come in for asession.
One session, I don't hear fromthem for about two weeks.
All of a sudden, I get thisemail saying, Brenda, you will
not believe what happened sincethat session.

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I got a better job.
I now have a boyfriend, I'mworking out.
It's like I'm a new person, Idon't know who I am.

That's great.

That person was just ready to release something
that was really holding themback.
So it's like this.
I never know what I'm gonnaget.
People are ready to releasewhat they're ready to release.
I'll support whatever that is.
But imagine a can, no, a jar,and everyone tries to open up
the jar, and everyone's tryingto open up the jar and every and

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then somebody gets the jar andthey go poop and opens up,
right?
That person who opened up thejar opened up the jar because of
all the other people who put inthe energy to make it loose,
right?
So when I have a profound shiftwith a client, I don't take it
as that was me.

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I think, wow, I'm blessed tohave experienced that awakening
or that change that person had.
Because my session with thatperson just happened to be the
one that went poop and they likewent, wow, like that.
Now there's a lot of peoplethat come for beam therapy or
other sessions that are morelike me, usually light workers,

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old souls.
We tend to carry a lot oftrauma because that's what we
came in for.
So we every time we kind ofloosen the jar, it's a layer is
going, a layer is going, a layeris going.
And then sometimes in asession, poop, it opens because
they're ready.
It's we have to release so muchbefore we can get to those

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deep, deep, deep, deep, deepcore beliefs because you cannot
just go dig down into a corebelief and rip it open.
It's very intricate.
There's different layers,there's this attaches to this,
and this attaches to that.
And that's why I hand over thesessions to the divine guidance

(46:49):
of the client's higher self andthese beings of light that come
through me.
Because they know what's bestfor the client, they know what's
best.
Oh, this needs to go first.
Oh no, that before thattwo-year-old trauma can come up.
She had an 18-year-old traumathat's related, and something in
23 related, and all those haveto really loosen up before we

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can go deep down there, right?
So we we heal, we heal layer bylayer with patience, with
excitement, and challenges.
Like it's exciting.
I get very excited when someonecomes in and they're all upset,
and that just means it's up intheir field.
We release it and they feellighter.

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Do they have that big awakeningshift in everything in their
life?
Maybe not, but they're moreaware of their feelings, they're
feeling lighter, they have moreinner peace, they can
articulate their feelingsbetter, and it's a progression,
right?
It's a subtle changes.
The mean neighbors not yellingat me anymore.
People have reported, you know,going to work, and everyone who

(47:59):
used to be mean to them is nownot.
And I said, Well, say if I toldyou that negative belief you're
holding was actually creatingthem to be mean to you.
I'm not good enough.
Treat me a little badly, I'mnot good enough.
So they were.
You got rid of that energeticpattern.
You go into work, you're nottelling people energetically

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treat me badly anymore.
And all of a sudden, everyone'streating you with respect, they
didn't change, you changed.
That's how powerful we are.

Yeah, that's big.
So, what what I will say iswhen we work, this is what
Brenda's taught me.
When we work on ourselves, eventhough the person in our lives,
our partner, our children,whatever, they haven't done the
healing, they everybody aroundyou, you and them will benefit

(48:59):
from it.
Yeah, like it's that powerful.

It's that powerful.
I always, you know, if there'sa a woman or a male that comes
to me, and if they're the headof the house, female, male
doesn't male, I say you work onyourself.
You will start to see yourhouse, your interactions with
your family change into morepositive interactions.
Your house is going to bringmore love and harmony and joy in

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it.
Is as you change, we heal ourfamily lines, we heal people
around us, we heal and we changeour circumstances.
So I always say, like, I do asmuch work as I do for many
different reasons.
One, it was for personal, butthen when I realized the

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benefits to my parents, to mysiblings, to my children, why
would I ever stop?
If I have the power to do this,I have the motivation to do
this, why would I not do it?
It's a gift for me and then myfamily.
But not only that, it also addspositivity to the world.

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It's adds to the humancollective.
So it's a personal healing, butit's a collective healing, and
that's how powerful each andevery one of us is.
But the trick to healing is youneed to be passionate about it.
It's people will say, Oh,Brennan, I'm gonna come to you

(50:31):
just so you know.
Uh doctors can't fix me.
I've gone to a psychologist, apsychiatrist, to this doctor, to
that doctor.
I'm gonna come to you to provethat I'm unfixable.
I'm like, why waste your money?
You don't want to be fixed.
You want to prove, and you'reso powerful, you can prove that

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you're unfixable.
Yeah.
So why waste your money?
Why waste why waste my time?
But no, I'm I I need to dothis, I need to prove it.
So I say, okay, come in with anopen mind.
I can feel their resistance,and I still will give them the
best session I can give thembecause it might release
something in their field thatmake make them softer, but

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sometimes they come back, and Iwant you to know, Brenda, you
prove my point, nothing willhelp me.
And I said, Well, if that'swhat I needed to serve you with,
then I'm glad you got yourservice.
And I then send intentions thatmay she open up when she's
ready.
So you cannot force this workon anyone.

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You can't force, oh, I'm doingbeam therapy or I'm doing energy
work, I'm doing this.
You have to do it, and you whenyou drag your husband or your
kids in.
Doesn't work that way.
Yeah, we're all very unique.
We're ready when we're ready,right?
So, but the thing is, you'refeeling good, you want to tell
the world, they're not gonnalisten if they're not ready.

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So, what do you do, Sandy?
You do exactly what you'redoing, you lead by example, you
talk about it, you tell people,hey, this is what worked for me.
Hey guys, this is what workedfor me.
Being therapy saved my life,and it opened me up to all the
gifts I've always had.
It's made me more confident toown who I am.
Although I'm a corporate girl,I got this unique gift that

(52:24):
makes me a little bit weird, andthat was hard to deal with.
But now, over the times of allthat healing, I realized I'm
this and that.
This is who I am.
I am Brenda Ferrugia.
I have a gift to help heal andsupport, and I'm doing the best
I can, like me or not, this iswhat I am, and it really helps

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us become our authentic selves,just to own who we are.

I want to expand on what you said about how the
resistance can actually be animpedance to helping you.
So this is why you can't force,and this is kind of the world
we live in, right, Brenda, wherepeople are trying to force
their opinions on everyone elseand they're angry and mad, and

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you gotta believe in what I say.
And it's like, you know, youcan't do that.
Human nature is free will,right?
And so you're gonna find thisinteresting because this rule,
it's like the general rule ofthe world, you where you can't

(53:33):
force somebody to do anything,healing work, and and even if
like your clients said, nothingworks for me.
Well, you know, that kind ofresistance will hold you back.
So my daughter, this goes withnutrition too.
You're gonna find this funny.
So I'll I I give certainnutritional protocols to my

(53:53):
kids, and they take supplementsthat are specifically targeted
for their needs.
And a couple of times you'll belike, Oh God, like, do I have
to take this?
Like, you know, I hate takingsupplements.
And I'm like, okay, don't takethem today.
Your body will not benefit fromthem if you are resistant to

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this, there's no point.
And I actually will say, Don'ttake them, don't bother.
And same thing with food, youknow, like I I always joke and
say, I think that being childrenof a nutritionist, a holistic
nutritionist, it's like theirway of rebelling is to like
bring McDonald's into the home,stuff like that.

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And so they know how I feelabout that food, but they don't
feel that way.
So I'm like, okay, well, I feelthat way.
So if I were to eat it, it willprobably do more damage to me
than it will to them.
And I'm like, when I was 20,24, 25, I didn't really care

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either.
So I just let it go because Ialso don't want to put, you
know, even though they know howI feel in general, I let it go.
I'm like, I'm not gonna be likestanding at the door like the
guard and the bouncer that saysthat food is not allowed in,
right?

Absolutely.
Like I don't sit there and makemy kids meditate.
Oh, you have to meditate, youhave to do this.
But my kids, because I'vealways been easy with them with
this stuff, is they will say,Hey, mom, I really need a beam
therapy session, or mom, I needa I need that type of session
today because I feel something'sbothering me.
They'll come.
I never push it because whenyou push something, it pushes

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them away.
Just like uh I know uh friendsthat are both teachers, and
their first child didn't finishhigh school because they're
always on him.
Genius, homie, gene, twoteachers.
Can you imagine?
He went the totally oppositeway.
I'm done with this, you know.
So uh the parents now inhindsight said, Oh, I think we,
you know, you just let him be,he'll come back to where he

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wants.
But we're all unique beings, weall came here to experience our
own lives.
It's great to, hey, there's anoption, good food, there's
options, supplements, there'sgood meditate, all that stuff
you can do.
But if you force it, you justpush them in the opposite
direction.
So just allow them to be.

Yeah.
Um, okay, so we are comingclose to the end, and I want to
share with uh the people who arelistening something that they
can take away today, somethingthat they can do right now
that's extremely powerful.

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This is actually neuroscience.
I know I learned this from you,Brenda, and I do this every
single day.
And it's short three phrases.
And you can take this away andthen choose if you want to go
deeper and work deeper, then youcan work with Brenda.

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So can you talk about the youknow I know you know what three
phrases are?
Can you talk about that?

Very quickly, um, as quickly as I can.
Yeah.
We are in a new energy on earthwhere when we know we have a
negative belief, there's asimple process you can do on
your own to break it.
Back in the day, I say thiswouldn't work, but in this new
energy, it works.
And this is not spirituality,this is just an instruction

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manual on how negative beliefswork, how our psyche works.
All right.
So imagine a negative belief.
They've been on this planet forthousands of years.
Negative beliefs have botheredhumanity for that long.
It's a consciousness, it knowshow our brains work.
When it latches onto someone'sbrain, it puts them into a

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cycle.
A cycle, I'm not good enough,I'm not good enough, I'm not
good enough, I'm not goodenough, I'm not good enough.
And it stays there.
Now we live our life with thisthing in the background.
Now, if you do take the stepswhere you monitor your negative
thoughts, and one comes up,we'll use I'm not good enough as
an example.

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Hmm, I wonder where that camefrom.
You write it down.
Then you can use thisthree-step process at your
leisure.
And if you want moreinformation on it, I've kind of
written up a protocol on it.
I'd be happy to email it toyou.
And it says, I feel I'm notgood enough.
And I feel I'm not good enoughbecause I choose to, and I

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choose to because I believe itserves me to feel this way.
Then you sit quietly, why wouldme feeling I'm not good enough
serve me?
How is that logical?
And when you can see it asbeing illogical, I'm saying I'm

(58:54):
not good enough and it servesme.
I choose this.
No, I don't choose this.
And if you can see the logic ofit being illogical, then you
simply say, I'm breaking thisnegative belief.
It is insensible, it isillogical, I'm done with it.
It no longer serves me.

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And that simple process in thisenergy works.
And the reason it works is thethree steps that we said, those
three sentences, move you from apart of your brain developing a
new neurological pathway in adifferent part of your brain
where it says, wait a second,this loop you've been in for 20,

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30 years isn't, doesn't makeany sense, it breaks it, and
then you develop a new pathwayand it breaks the negative
belief.
One thing is we have many,many, many negative beliefs.
The core belief, a core beliefcan have tertiary and secondary
beliefs.
So then if that angst hasn'tgone away, then You broke a

(01:00:01):
negative belief that might be asecondary tertiary.
You haven't hit the core ofone.
So sit with yourself again andwait for the other feeling,
emotion, or negative belief tocome in.
And then use that.
So you might have another one.
You do the same process.
I feel I'm not good enough, andI feel I'm not good enough

(01:00:21):
because I choose to, and Ichoose to because I believe it
serves me to feel this way.
Why would it feel why would itserve me to feel I'm not good
enough?
It doesn't.
You break that, you go throughthe next one.
If you really are serious aboutgetting better and breaking
negative beliefs, give your timeto yourself to sit through this

(01:00:42):
process and break them one byone.
Eventually, during a sitting ofmaybe 20 minutes, maybe an
hour, depends how many you have,you're gonna feel this like
shift and you're gonna feellighter.
So that is a very powerfulprocess anyone can do.
And I, you know, I've explainedthis to so many people.

(01:01:04):
Sometimes they have to hear theprocess nine to eleven times
before they start doing it.
But once they start doing that,they say, Brenda, this is
life-changing.
I wish I did it the first timeyou told me.
The more you use this process,the less you need it.

Sandy Kruse (01:01:21):
Yeah.
And now I actually what I do,so you know, we're talking about
meditation and taking quiettime or whatever.
If this is something youresonate with, this could be
your 15 minutes of quiet duringthe day.
I do this.
So what I do now, because I'vebeen doing this a while with you

(01:01:43):
and and alone because you'vetaught it to me, um, is I will
go on these almost like these, Icall them my little limiting
belief walks, where I walk withmy dog in nature and I'm like,
okay, how do I feel?
Okay, I feel I feel reallyscared about, you know, the

(01:02:05):
state of the world.
I'm just using that as anexample.
And then I'm like, I feelreally scared because I choose
to, and I go through theprocess.
I mean, I'm talking to myselfas I'm walking in the forest,
but who cares?
I don't really care.
I I do whatever.
And um, and then by the time Iwhen I go through this process,
by the time I get home, I feellighter.

(01:02:27):
Then I'll, you know, cook mydinner.
And then I'm like, okay, I feellighter.
And so I guess people will say,well, where when do I do this?
Anytime you feel almost likethis heaviness, or you just feel
off, or you're not sure how youfeel, or you when you sit down

(01:02:49):
and allow yourself to go throughthis process, it's amazing how
you get this like immediate liftwhen you're done.

Brenda Farrugia (01:02:58):
It can be a feeling like I feel anxious,
right?
Or I can be, you know, I feelI'm not good enough.
So it could be a negativebelief, it could be a feeling,
it could be an emotion.
But if it's something that'scausing angst, bring it to the
surface, acknowledge that'sthere, and then do I feel
scared, I feel worried, I feelhelpless, like whatever it is,

(01:03:21):
and work through it becausetrust me, there's a lot
happening that you don'tunderstand, but you are breaking
some serious energetic patternsthat have been causing harm
without you knowing it.
Yeah, get lighter and lighterand more clear and more of who
you really are.
We all deserve to feel peacewithin and create the reality

(01:03:43):
that we want.

This was so good, Brenda.
Where can people find you?

So brilliant.ca.
Yes.
So I'm on YouTube, I have awebsite, um, I do group
healings, beam therapies now ingroups.
You can experience that way,one-on-ones, and there's some
free meditations on YouTube aswell.

Perfect.
Thank you.
Thank you so much for your timeand all the good that you do in
the world, Brenda.

Thank you.
And keep shining your lightbecause to me, you are the prime
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Real Tools for Real Change: Shift Negative Beliefs and Rewire Patterns with Brenda Farrugia - Episode 296

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.css-14f5ked{margin:0;word-break:break-word;display:-webkit-box;-webkit-box-orient:vertical;box-orient:vertical;-webkit-line-clamp:2;overflow:hidden;}Real Tools for Real Change: Shift Negative Beliefs and Rewire Patterns with Brenda Farrugia - Episode 296