Best Of —Joe Pt. 1: I Was a 36-Year-Old Virgin & Then I Got a Sex Surrogate

The more Joe looked at porn, and the more deeply he got into those fantasies, the fantasy of porn became his reality, and the reality of having sex with another person became fantasy. There is so much to unpack in this episode. You’ll hear how through therapy, Joe discovered the hidden reasons for his sexual anorexia and how he overcame those fears and found himself with a sex surrogate. 

Continuing our Best Of series, we're sharing some of our listener favorites, including our good friend, Joe. This episode originally aired on March 7, 2022, as Ep #91.

Surrogate Partner Therapy is a form of therapy based on the successful methods of Masters and Johnson. In this therapy, a client, a therapist, and a surrogate partner form a three-person therapeutic team who together work to understand and resolve difficulties that a client is experiencing in their lives. The surrogate participates with the client in structured and unstructured experiences that are designed to build client's self-awareness and skills in the areas of physical and emotional intimacy. These therapeutic experiences include partner work in relaxation, effective communication, sensual and sexual touching, and social skills training.

What surrogacy is: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CIc70zBY3SY

Surrogate partner website: https://www.surrogatetherapy.org/

UPDATED: Here's an anonymous article Joe wrote about his experience. There are more juicy details as well:

https://www.thedoe.com/narratives/my-surrogate-partnership-experience

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TOPICS IN THIS EPISODE INCLUDE virgin, sex surrogate, surrogate partners, porn addiction, addiction, love and sex addiction, trauma, relationships, self-love, friendships, community, secrets, behaviors, self-care, self-love, and courage.

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