February 2, 2025 • 32 mins
Episode 5: The Art of Letting Go 🎈✨
Why is letting go so hard? Whether it's a relationship, a past mistake, or an old version of yourself, releasing what no longer serves you can feel overwhelming—but it’s also one of the most powerful things you can do for your growth.
In this episode of Shift Happens with Shay, we’re diving into why we hold on to things that hurt us, the emotional and mental weight of resistance, practical steps to surrender and embrace new beginnings, and how letting go creates space for peace, healing, and self-discovery
If you’ve been struggling to release something in your life, this episode is for you. Let’s shift together.
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Hey there, and welcome to ShiftHappens with Shea.
I'm Shea, your host and licensedmarriage and family therapist.
This podcast is where we diveinto all the shift life throws
our way, whether it'srelationships, mental health,
personal growth, or justfiguring out this crazy journey
of adulting.
Here, we're all about honestconversation, real stories, and
a whole lot of laughs as wetackle life's challenges
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together.
This is your space to grow,explore, and feel seen.
So grab a cozy spot, maybe a cupof coffee or a wine, and let's
get ready to shift through itall.
Thanks for tuning in, andremember, no matter what life
brings us, we're in thistogether.
Hi beautiful people Welcome backto another session.
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How have you been?
It's been two weeks since ourlast one where we talked about
the power of saying no I hopeyou guys have been practicing
that putting some boundaries inplace with people who truly need
it jobs Events anything thatyou've had trouble saying no to
so, how did you do?
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Did you do?
Okay And also, don't beat upyourself if you didn't.
If it was hard and it wasdifficult, take that time to
journal it.
Why was it so hard?
Is it because I'm so used tosaying yes?
Am I afraid of people's thoughtsabout me?
Why do I care about what theirthoughts are?
What does that mean for me?
Just take some time foryourself.
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Don't beat yourself up.
Practice makes perfect.
So, we definitely want toperfect the art of saying no.
And sometimes, maybe, the art ofletting go may help you release
what no longer serves you.
It may help you release thatyes.
So I'd say for me, letting gocan show up in a lot of ways in
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my life.
Whether that's jobs I had to letgo, friendships, which you guys
heard in session three There arejust many examples out here.
I will say Relationships tend tobe easiest for me to think
about.
I mean like of course we cantalk about habits and mindsets
Relationships for me, I'd saypersonally was my relationship
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that I had back in 2018.
I had started dating this guy,of course, you know after I
think it was POF One of thoseapps, right?
Because it's hard to meet peoplein face to face.
And maybe some of my friendslistening in, they do remember
that time.
So, 2018 I started talking tothis guy, gave it a chance
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because, hey, at that point, Ihad been single for about, um,
seven years, maybe?
My last official relationshipprior to that was 2012.
Yeah, it's hard thinking.
I'm like actually making facesright now, which, sidebar, I
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definitely will start recordingmyself video wise so it can feel
a little bit more personal forus, right?
Back from the sidebar.
Yeah, it had to be like 2012 waslike my last like official
relationship.
And okay, so about six years.
Hmm, still long as all could be.
By the time I got to himwhatever, opened up.
Talked to him for a bit.
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Great on paper, wonderfulpersonality, sweet person, but
things just fell off because weweren't on the same wavelength.
And in that relationship whenyou start, when I start,
noticing that things were notlining up, kind of like if not
making the effort to come seeme, I had to always go to him.
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And don't get me wrong, heactually took care of me anytime
I go to his house for theweekend.
We go out, he pay foreverything, drive everywhere.
I didn't have to lick thefinger.
I did get business treatmentwith him.
I can give that, okay?
But other than that, would notmake the effort to come to me to
do anything.
And when I had certain desiresor dreams, like my besties know,
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I've been talking about Thailandsince I could remember.
Honestly, since me and my body.
Got off of our trip from Koreain 2017.
Oh, it has been a dream I waslike Korea was amazing.
Visiting Seoul and being a partof the culture I just knew
Thailand had to be the next oneand I remember telling him about
it because I don't know he had aweird thing with money And I
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don't really have a weird thingwith money.
I'm you know keep things tomyself when needed I'm not
telling everybody about myfinancial business, but when
you're in a relationshipFinancial transparency is
important.
So I found it really weird thathe would hide things that we
already had talked about beforeWhen it came to money and like I
said, certain desires.
So going back to Thailand, I hadmentioned to him, because
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whatever, I noticed that he hadlike a big check or whatever.
I was like, cool, so that meanshe would have money for this
trip and I would just have toget my money together so that we
could go and make things happen.
I had mentioned Thailand andwanting to travel abroad and go
to trips and he just knocked theidea down.
Wouldn't entertain it didn'teven give it a time of day
despite knowing how important itwas to me.
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But we would make time.
To go to baseball games for him.
Anybody knows me.
I'm not a big fan of Miami Y'allknow I like to stay away from
Miami as far away as possible Ifyou are my sorority sister and
you were there from 2013, youknow exactly why I like to stay
away from that And that is astory to I don't know if another
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day, but I keep it to myself tobe quite honest Some things
don't need to be said out loud,but I don't really have too many
fond memories in Miami, butwhatever, we compromise, we go
down there, go see a baseballgame, which I'm not interested
in sports, but I learned thegame to be a part of it, or his
dream of wanting to buy a not acatamaran, what was it, a
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platoon?
If I remember correctly it was aplatoon.
He wanted to get that, and byall means, I get it, it's your
money and that's what you wantto do with it, cool.
But I'm just thinking okay, youcame at me saying how expensive
it is to go to Thailand and nooffense You it would cost less
than you buying your boat for usto go and that's not even
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including like me in the cost Sothat would have cost way less
for us to have an internationalexperience But always would
downplay that kind of stuff.
Doesn't help that we were alsoon different political teams.
But he was open to beingeducated, so I'll give him that.
But yeah, just anything that Iwould mention, get knocked down.
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So a lot of things I'm into,wanted to do, he wasn't really
into it.
So it felt like I couldn'treally be my full self with him.
And also, he was looking for hisex inside of me, to be quite
honest.
Wanting a wife, wanting me tomove in with him, wanting me to
pretty much move my world to gointo this house.
That he, just to let y'all know,he did buy that with his ex.
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Whatever.
A lot of things in here that arelike, eh, eh.
And I stayed in thatrelationship from June to about
December.
But, to be quite honest guys,after the summer, I pretty much
was single in that relationship.
And if you know what that feelslike, oh, it sucks.
It's kind of like, what's thepoint of being in a
relationship?
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You could just do bad all byyourself.
It's after a while when you'rejust moving on your own.
It was times we were going likeweeks without seeing each other.
And it didn't bother me.
I didn't feel upset.
I didn't feel like, oh my god,where's my boyfriend?
Why is he not reaching out to meas much?
I also wasn't reaching out tohim as much either.
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I felt like we were just justgoing with the motion.
Just going with it.
Of course, the I love you's.
I mean, let me stop playing.
I don't even remember if I eventold him I love you, but I
stopped really beingaffectionate and pulling away
and noticing that he was doingthe same thing.
I'd say October.
Yes, because we went to thePride Festival and that was so
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much fun.
Yeah, I have pictures from thattime.
Yeah, we went there and, thatwas fun.
Not that he was being like rudeor anything there.
But, I was just like, literallywe've been together since June.
It's now October, so six to tenmonths, oh four months now.
This is the only thing you'vedone that's in my interest.
Besides the surprise birthdayparty that my friends do
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together for me.
And he did help surprise me.
Other than that, literally, thisis the only thing that of my
interest, something that I enjoydoing that you're, you've been a
part of, crazy, whatever, playedthe motions there, held hands,
hugged, all that stuff.
And I just had an epiphany.
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I, like I said, I noticed itbefore, but probably November, I
really sat down with myself andwas like, why am I in this
relationship?
What does it offer me?
What does it give to me?
What am I really looking forhere?
And I couldn't bring anythingback.
I had detached from thisrelationship so long ago, my
mind and I would say my heartknew first before my mind got
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there.
I guess my soul, my heart, thoserealms of me were already gone
from here, had detached fromthis while my physical was still
acting up, just going withemotions.
And I realized what, what am Idoing?
It is what it is, but I heldoff.
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And didn't really say much untilhe had the audacity to try and
break up with me over textbecause he realized things
weren't going well, I don'tremember the exact text, but it
was just something along thatlines that I could be happy,
without him kind of deal, blah,blah, blah.
I didn't even entertain theconversation and told him,
you're not going to break upwith me over text, we're going
to have an adult conversationabout it.
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That's just what we're going todo.
It's okay if that's, we want tosplit ways, but we're going to
do each other the, Justice andtalk about it in person because
what at that point I was 27Yeah, and he's older than me.
So I was like, you're not gonnawe're not gonna break over text.
Absolutely not I value myself.
So anyways went over to hishouse started taking stuff apart
taking my stuff But if I was adad doing all that stuff and he
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gets very emotional Like I toldyou guys I had already in my
soul.
My spirit.
My heart is already gone I'mjust like what is going on here?
Well He cries about how,whatever, I'm a nice person, I'm
great, I'm such a sweet person,this, that, and the third, and
that he feels bad for hurtingme.
Crazy is that I wasn't hurt andhe felt guilty as if probably he
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knew deep down he was leading meon because I'm not his ex.
I had let go and told him and,it's okay.
I realized a while ago, thisepiphany I had in November, I am
not the girl you're gonna movethe mountains for.
I get that.
I'm not her.
You're not gonna turn over theworld for me.
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You're not gonna reach the starsfor me.
I'm not the one you're going todo all this for, and I
understand that.
And that's why we're here.
We're Leaving each other andwe're doing it the right way by
being in each other's face andtalking it through I had to
counsel my ex through hisfeelings as for our breakup
crazy stuff, right?
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Yeah, I helped had to help himkind of move through that and
you know It is what it is, but Ihad to help him move through
that and that was an importantlesson for me Understanding that
some things are not meant forme.
No matter how great on paper.
They look no matter If there isa tinge of fear of being alone,
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even if it meant that I wouldn'tsee my next, I don't know,
relationship for the next six,seven years.
That me being caged up andstaying in something that wasn't
meant for me and didn't make mehappy didn't bring any pretty
much joy to my life.
I'm not going to say he didn'tburn any joy, but he didn't, it
didn't justify enough to keep itgoing.
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Let it go.
Let it go.
Why stay in a situation whereyou're unsatisfied?
Whether that's a relationship,whether that's a career, whether
that's a friendship, whetherthat's even an event you're
going to and you thought it wasgoing to be amazing or whatever
or just a crowd of people you'rearound, why stay if it doesn't
benefit you?
If it doesn't empower you, if itdoesn't help you grow, if it
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doesn't give you peace.
It's important to be alignedwith yourself.
When you are disconnected,you're doing a disservice to
yourself.
You're impacting yourrelationship with yourself, and
you should value that the most.
Because self love's important.
So it's important for us.
If I wanna grow, and I wannahave a peace of mind in my heart
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too, I gotta let go of thingsthat don't serve me.
When I broke up with him, or webroke up, I felt so relieved.
I never felt that in a breakupbefore.
Like a burden, this heavy weightwas lifted off of me.
I lived my best life and thenwent to New Orleans probably
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like in January for a wedding.
And I felt so good about it,like I wasn't really hurting and
some friends were like, what theheck?
Others were like, yes, finally.
And my cacique was like, Oh myGod, that's okay.
Good thing.
I thought, cause he didn't fitthe kind of guy you said you'd
be into or that would be foryou.
As you mentioned, cause hewasn't Asian.
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I love my Casique.
News alert, if you do know me,my boyfriend is Asian right now.
So I thought that was reallyfunny, but other people could
see outside of that, he wasn'tfor me.
Though, though I was smiling abit, though I was having fun
here and there, and though hewas a nice person, not for me.
Sometimes you learn it a littlelater on, but when you hear it
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for yourself, listen toyourself, your voice, your
words, your thoughts, yourfeelings, they're important.
Follow through and listen toyou.
Okay, So I know we struggle withletting go.
Why comfort zones, fear ofchanges.
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or even the attachments that wehave created while being in the
situation because it has meaningto it.
And that's okay.
At one point it did possiblyserve you.
At one point it was a discomfortzone that you made comfortable.
At one point it was the changethat you needed for yourself and
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now it no longer servesanything.
It hurts more.
So Like friendships, as Imentioned in session three, my
long 10 year friendship, 10 plusyears friendship.
I held on just out of no fear ofchange, but I had an attachment.
I based it off the good times wealready had.
I based it off, good memories,words that she had said that was
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encouraging, how she showed upfor me when we were having our
good times.
And it was comfortable.
I didn't really have to doanything.
I already knew.
I knew what this was.
I knew how she moved.
I knew how she talked.
I knew her thought process.
I knew it all.
I knew it.
I'm comfortable here.
So, whatever.
I know what to expect.
But when we gotta let go, wedon't know what to expect.
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To a degree.
I get that.
Even jobs.
This is what I know.
I've been doing this for solong.
I hear that.
I worked as a medical assistantfor six years.
And I was comfortable.
I made the SLPs.
I rocked that job.
I knew what I was doing.
Became a supervisor within Ithink two, three years of me
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being there.
Yeah, two years.
Me being there was a supervisor,did the VIP accounts.
You couldn't tell me nothing.
I was the book.
If y'all can find the answer, Idefinitely would have.
But it wasn't for me.
Could I have done that job forthe rest of my life?
Maybe with a differentleadership team.
But yeah, I probably couldbecause I did enjoy what I did.
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But it wasn't serving me anygrowth.
I was not growing and I did nothave a peace of mind.
I would have grown resentful.
Let go.
Because there are worse thingsto fear than change.
Resentment, shame, guilt,disappointing yourself.
Fear that more.
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Not anybody else.
The fear of disappointing youand not giving yourself the
chance because you don't thinkyou deserve it.
Fear that.
That's something to truly bewary of because you always are
worthy of taking a risk for.
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As I mentioned, it has anemotional toll on us when we
hold on to things that drain us.
I know while I'm talking aboutthis, you have already thought
about that situation,friendship, relationship, co
parenting situation, familymembers.
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Just think about that.
You thought about that person orthat situation that brings you
dread.
It is mentally exhausting.
Some of you probably even noddedyour heads, already thinking
about it.
Oh, yup, mm hmm, yeah, I reallydo need to let that go.
Any certain lifestyle, job,friendship, you thought about
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it.
And you thought about how ithinders your personal growth.
It takes more from you than itgives.
Aren't you tired of being tired?
Aren't you tired of rolling youreyes when you see that person's
text or phone call come through?
Or maybe instead of rolling youreyes, you dread, like you feel a
pit in your stomach with anxietyof having to even deal with
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this.
Don't you want to relieveyourself of that?
You deserve that.
You deserve peace.
Our body deserves peace.
Our mind deserves peace.
Your heart deserves peace.
We don't deserve to be goingthrough flips and mental
dynastics really to just getthrough the day because of a
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certain event.
I get, hold on, I do understandthat there are some places and
some things that are hard toleave.
Whether that is the home,because you have to be with that
person because this is what youcould afford.
Or you have to keep that job youhate so much that takes from you
because it pays.
a lot and it helps you with yourbills.
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It gives you flexibility.
But is it really flexible ifyou're compromising yourself?
Because there's a difference.
There are times you know when tolet go.
Emotional burnout, as I talkedabout.
That dread.
That resentment.
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That anger.
Hopelessness.
Worthlessness.
The future feels bleak.
You lack joy.
And the big one.
It does not align with yourvalues.
If it doesn't align with who youare as a person, let it.
When you do things that alignwith what you believe in, what
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you love, what you want to do,you will see it benefits you.
You will flourish and you willgrow and you will blossom.
You will transform to your nextstep.
It will have its challenges, butit won't drain you.
It won't steal from you and Imentioned challenges because
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yeah, they're both gonna havechallenges But one of them is
gonna serve you for the goodwhile the other one will be your
demise Why stay in something orwith someone that will cause you
demise that is here to just takeand destroy From you.
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You don't deserve that.
So I know it's hard.
I'm not telling you to make anydecisions right now while we're
on this, while we're on this,let's say call.
While we're in this session, I'mnot telling you to make any
decisions.
I just want you to reflect.
Give yourself the chance tothink it through.
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Identify areas in your lifewhere you may need to release
something.
How does this person Serve mylife.
How does this friendship helpme?
What have I given to thissituation?
What have a part of myself haveI offered and seen in return?
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How is this helping me to mynext steps, goals?
What does this do for me?
What is the purpose of thisevent, place, person, situation?
What is the reason?
Why do I stay?
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Write that out.
Why do I stay?
Don't judge yourself.
Even if you think it's cringe,the reason you're staying.
Remember, we write and explorewith curiosity, not judgment.
Don't judge yourself.
There's enough people in thiscrazy world to do it for you.
Don't be another critical voice.
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Curiosity and compassion.
Why do you truly stay?
With the person you're with, thesituation, the job, whatever it
may be.
Why do you stay in it?
And when you find out that why,go deeper.
I stay in it because da da dada.
But what would it mean if I didleave that?
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What am I afraid will happen?
What do I think will happen?
What do I think of myself?
Because you may find that maybeyou don't believe that you can
do better without this situationor that you can do better than
the situation.
Dig deeper and know that lettinggo is a process.
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It's not a one time eventbecause In relationships, even
for the example I put, in thatrelationship, I had let go at
times and not even known it.
Every step, every month, everytime my desires or dreams were
put down or whatnot, I wasletting go.
Not shutting down, just lettinggo, stepping back, distancing
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myself.
And the same thing for anythingelse, you will.
I have tried to leave that jobof six years multiple times.
The year that I became asupervisor.
Actually, I, shoot, I applied toa lot of places.
I applied to so many places.
It's not going to be a one anddone.
There are going to be timeswhere it's going to be hard and
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you're going to have to thinkabout it, sleep on it, think
about it, sleep on it, reflect,talk with your counsel, your
loved ones, your close ones thatyou were okay with being
vulnerable with, checking in andletting go little by little.
And some things do require us todo it little by little.
Gradual detachment, seekingsupport, reframing your
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thoughts.
That will take time to changemindsets, toxic relationships,
toxic friendships, toxiccareers.
It will take time.
Give yourself grace andcompassion as you go through
this shift in your life.
It's like grief.
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There are emotional stages toletting go.
You're gonna grieve it becauseyou're gonna think about the
potential.
You're gonna grieve all that youput into it.
You're gonna grieve how much youinvested.
You're gonna grieve what itsinitial purpose was, why you
even were in here, how'd you gethere.
You're gonna grieve that.
And that's okay.
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That's where we all have tostart.
Letting go and being, justgrief.
Be sad, be upset.
Be disappointed.
Be hurt.
In this moment, give yourselfthat space.
Then, eventually you will get toacceptance.
That, man I know this is not forme.
It's, I understand.
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It's not for me.
And I get it.
And then the more you come toterms with that acceptance, the
more you had allowed yourself togrieve and let go and bury the
attachment you had to thisperson or event or place, or
even your identity that you mayhave put here, you will reach
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freedom.
You will flourish.
You will be liberated.
Take your time.
This is not a step one, two,three.
You may have gotten acceptanceand knowing that it's not for
you, but you didn't take thetime to grieve it.
You may already know the freedomit will get, but you didn't take
the time to really accept thatyou do deserve that freedom.
This can go in many differentways.
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Don't judge yourself.
We all have different ways thatwe handle things and that's
okay.
Be different.
Be you.
Do what works for you, but allowyourself to grieve, accept, and
know that you are worthy offreedom.
So.
Do you think you can do it?
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Do you think you can walk awayfrom that person or that
situation or that job?
I want you to know that you areso worthy.
You are so deserving of so muchmore.
Don't let this person or thissituation make you think that
you can't do it without it.
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You're so capable.
You are resilient.
You will overcome.
You always do.
And if you can't remember offthe top, give yourself time.
To jot down things you haveovercome.
Times where you have pivoted andit has worked out.
And even the times when youpivoted and it didn't work out,
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how did you get through?
You're so capable, beautiful.
You are.
So take that time to believe inyourself.
Remind yourself who you are.
You can get through this.
It will take time, and that'sokay.
Time letting go is differentthan time wasting away.
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with people or situations thatno longer serve you.
Do not choose others again outof comfort, fear.
Choose you.
You deserve and you're worthy ofbeing chosen.
This is another way to chooseyourself, to love yourself, to
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establish boundaries, to say no.
I am no longer compromising me.
I am no longer taking thissituation on.
I'm no longer going to lose mein it.
I'm no longer gonna say yes toit.
No.
No is a full sentence.
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No.
I don't want this from meanymore, Shay.
I deserve more.
Yes, you do.
Yes, you do.
And I will root you on for thatmore.
I will always root you on.
Push.
You got this.
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I promise you do.
So take your small steps toreleasing what no longer serves
you.
You really have this.
And if you have a story or youwant to chat with me, reach out
or you need some, debriefing.
I get that.
I hear you.
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Send me a DM.
You can also find me on LinkedInif you want.
If you want to look me up andactually do sessions with me,
cause you need help with lettinggo, you can do that.
Find me and we can start ourtherapeutic journey together.
In the meantime, if you're notready for therapy, that's okay.
Soundboard with me.
Let's connect.
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We'll talk on Instagram.
You'll see your community.
You guys are here to shift witheach other.
Sip and shift.
You deserve to not be alone withus.
I am your online diary.
And whatever feelings came upwith you, whatever triggers you
felt, that emotional trigger,you felt your heart cinch up,
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you felt it get tight, yourchest, your stomach felt like a
pit, you cried, you felt chills,whatever came up for you, let
them pass.
Leave the heaviness with me, butdo the work after you listen to
this podcast, after this ends.
Do the work to let go what nolonger serves you, because you
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are worthy of more.
Hmm.
Okay.
And this goes back into buildingand maintaining meaningful
connections in our life.
That's going to be our nextepisode.
Because after we let go ofwhat's no longer for us, we make
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room for what is.
We make room to actually taketime to build better
connections, communities,opportunities.
You free up your heart toreceive.
We have to let go in order toreceive.
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So join me in our next episodeor our next session.
We're going to dive back in alittle bit more to friendships
in adulthood, because we'regoing to learn how to build and
maintain meaningful connections.
Those connections that evolveover the years that you truly
deserve.
Honestly, I know you probablythought about somebody, you
already have that way.
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If you know somebody who doesn'thave that, tell them to tune in.
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Thank you for tuning in.
Thank you for allowing me to bevulnerable with you in my
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And you be vulnerable with me.
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Hey there, and welcome to ShiftHappens with Shea.
I'm Shea, your host and licensedmarriage and family therapist.
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Here, we're all about honestconversation, real stories, and
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Hi beautiful people Welcome backto another session.
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How have you been?
It's been two weeks since ourlast one where we talked about
the power of saying no I hopeyou guys have been practicing
that putting some boundaries inplace with people who truly need
it jobs Events anything thatyou've had trouble saying no to
so, how did you do?
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Did you do?
Okay And also, don't beat upyourself if you didn't.
If it was hard and it wasdifficult, take that time to
journal it.
Why was it so hard?
Is it because I'm so used tosaying yes?
Am I afraid of people's thoughtsabout me?
Why do I care about what theirthoughts are?
What does that mean for me?
Just take some time foryourself.
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Don't beat yourself up.
Practice makes perfect.
So, we definitely want toperfect the art of saying no.
And sometimes, maybe, the art ofletting go may help you release
what no longer serves you.
It may help you release thatyes.
So I'd say for me, letting gocan show up in a lot of ways in
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my life.
Whether that's jobs I had to letgo, friendships, which you guys
heard in session three There arejust many examples out here.
I will say Relationships tend tobe easiest for me to think
about.
I mean like of course we cantalk about habits and mindsets
Relationships for me, I'd saypersonally was my relationship
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that I had back in 2018.
I had started dating this guy,of course, you know after I
think it was POF One of thoseapps, right?
Because it's hard to meet peoplein face to face.
And maybe some of my friendslistening in, they do remember
that time.
So, 2018 I started talking tothis guy, gave it a chance
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because, hey, at that point, Ihad been single for about, um,
seven years, maybe?
My last official relationshipprior to that was 2012.
Yeah, it's hard thinking.
I'm like actually making facesright now, which, sidebar, I
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definitely will start recordingmyself video wise so it can feel
a little bit more personal forus, right?
Back from the sidebar.
Yeah, it had to be like 2012 waslike my last like official
relationship.
And okay, so about six years.
Hmm, still long as all could be.
By the time I got to himwhatever, opened up.
Talked to him for a bit.
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Great on paper, wonderfulpersonality, sweet person, but
things just fell off because weweren't on the same wavelength.
And in that relationship whenyou start, when I start,
noticing that things were notlining up, kind of like if not
making the effort to come seeme, I had to always go to him.
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And don't get me wrong, heactually took care of me anytime
I go to his house for theweekend.
We go out, he pay foreverything, drive everywhere.
I didn't have to lick thefinger.
I did get business treatmentwith him.
I can give that, okay?
But other than that, would notmake the effort to come to me to
do anything.
And when I had certain desiresor dreams, like my besties know,
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I've been talking about Thailandsince I could remember.
Honestly, since me and my body.
Got off of our trip from Koreain 2017.
Oh, it has been a dream I waslike Korea was amazing.
Visiting Seoul and being a partof the culture I just knew
Thailand had to be the next oneand I remember telling him about
it because I don't know he had aweird thing with money And I
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don't really have a weird thingwith money.
I'm you know keep things tomyself when needed I'm not
telling everybody about myfinancial business, but when
you're in a relationshipFinancial transparency is
important.
So I found it really weird thathe would hide things that we
already had talked about beforeWhen it came to money and like I
said, certain desires.
So going back to Thailand, I hadmentioned to him, because
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whatever, I noticed that he hadlike a big check or whatever.
I was like, cool, so that meanshe would have money for this
trip and I would just have toget my money together so that we
could go and make things happen.
I had mentioned Thailand andwanting to travel abroad and go
to trips and he just knocked theidea down.
Wouldn't entertain it didn'teven give it a time of day
despite knowing how important itwas to me.
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But we would make time.
To go to baseball games for him.
Anybody knows me.
I'm not a big fan of Miami Y'allknow I like to stay away from
Miami as far away as possible Ifyou are my sorority sister and
you were there from 2013, youknow exactly why I like to stay
away from that And that is astory to I don't know if another
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day, but I keep it to myself tobe quite honest Some things
don't need to be said out loud,but I don't really have too many
fond memories in Miami, butwhatever, we compromise, we go
down there, go see a baseballgame, which I'm not interested
in sports, but I learned thegame to be a part of it, or his
dream of wanting to buy a not acatamaran, what was it, a
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platoon?
If I remember correctly it was aplatoon.
He wanted to get that, and byall means, I get it, it's your
money and that's what you wantto do with it, cool.
But I'm just thinking okay, youcame at me saying how expensive
it is to go to Thailand and nooffense You it would cost less
than you buying your boat for usto go and that's not even
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including like me in the cost Sothat would have cost way less
for us to have an internationalexperience But always would
downplay that kind of stuff.
Doesn't help that we were alsoon different political teams.
But he was open to beingeducated, so I'll give him that.
But yeah, just anything that Iwould mention, get knocked down.
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So a lot of things I'm into,wanted to do, he wasn't really
into it.
So it felt like I couldn'treally be my full self with him.
And also, he was looking for hisex inside of me, to be quite
honest.
Wanting a wife, wanting me tomove in with him, wanting me to
pretty much move my world to gointo this house.
That he, just to let y'all know,he did buy that with his ex.
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Whatever.
A lot of things in here that arelike, eh, eh.
And I stayed in thatrelationship from June to about
December.
But, to be quite honest guys,after the summer, I pretty much
was single in that relationship.
And if you know what that feelslike, oh, it sucks.
It's kind of like, what's thepoint of being in a
relationship?
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You could just do bad all byyourself.
It's after a while when you'rejust moving on your own.
It was times we were going likeweeks without seeing each other.
And it didn't bother me.
I didn't feel upset.
I didn't feel like, oh my god,where's my boyfriend?
Why is he not reaching out to meas much?
I also wasn't reaching out tohim as much either.
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I felt like we were just justgoing with the motion.
Just going with it.
Of course, the I love you's.
I mean, let me stop playing.
I don't even remember if I eventold him I love you, but I
stopped really beingaffectionate and pulling away
and noticing that he was doingthe same thing.
I'd say October.
Yes, because we went to thePride Festival and that was so
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much fun.
Yeah, I have pictures from thattime.
Yeah, we went there and, thatwas fun.
Not that he was being like rudeor anything there.
But, I was just like, literallywe've been together since June.
It's now October, so six to tenmonths, oh four months now.
This is the only thing you'vedone that's in my interest.
Besides the surprise birthdayparty that my friends do
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together for me.
And he did help surprise me.
Other than that, literally, thisis the only thing that of my
interest, something that I enjoydoing that you're, you've been a
part of, crazy, whatever, playedthe motions there, held hands,
hugged, all that stuff.
And I just had an epiphany.
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I, like I said, I noticed itbefore, but probably November, I
really sat down with myself andwas like, why am I in this
relationship?
What does it offer me?
What does it give to me?
What am I really looking forhere?
And I couldn't bring anythingback.
I had detached from thisrelationship so long ago, my
mind and I would say my heartknew first before my mind got
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there.
I guess my soul, my heart, thoserealms of me were already gone
from here, had detached fromthis while my physical was still
acting up, just going withemotions.
And I realized what, what am Idoing?
It is what it is, but I heldoff.
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And didn't really say much untilhe had the audacity to try and
break up with me over textbecause he realized things
weren't going well, I don'tremember the exact text, but it
was just something along thatlines that I could be happy,
without him kind of deal, blah,blah, blah.
I didn't even entertain theconversation and told him,
you're not going to break upwith me over text, we're going
to have an adult conversationabout it.
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That's just what we're going todo.
It's okay if that's, we want tosplit ways, but we're going to
do each other the, Justice andtalk about it in person because
what at that point I was 27Yeah, and he's older than me.
So I was like, you're not gonnawe're not gonna break over text.
Absolutely not I value myself.
So anyways went over to hishouse started taking stuff apart
taking my stuff But if I was adad doing all that stuff and he
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gets very emotional Like I toldyou guys I had already in my
soul.
My spirit.
My heart is already gone I'mjust like what is going on here?
Well He cries about how,whatever, I'm a nice person, I'm
great, I'm such a sweet person,this, that, and the third, and
that he feels bad for hurtingme.
Crazy is that I wasn't hurt andhe felt guilty as if probably he
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knew deep down he was leading meon because I'm not his ex.
I had let go and told him and,it's okay.
I realized a while ago, thisepiphany I had in November, I am
not the girl you're gonna movethe mountains for.
I get that.
I'm not her.
You're not gonna turn over theworld for me.
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You're not gonna reach the starsfor me.
I'm not the one you're going todo all this for, and I
understand that.
And that's why we're here.
We're Leaving each other andwe're doing it the right way by
being in each other's face andtalking it through I had to
counsel my ex through hisfeelings as for our breakup
crazy stuff, right?
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Yeah, I helped had to help himkind of move through that and
you know It is what it is, but Ihad to help him move through
that and that was an importantlesson for me Understanding that
some things are not meant forme.
No matter how great on paper.
They look no matter If there isa tinge of fear of being alone,
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even if it meant that I wouldn'tsee my next, I don't know,
relationship for the next six,seven years.
That me being caged up andstaying in something that wasn't
meant for me and didn't make mehappy didn't bring any pretty
much joy to my life.
I'm not going to say he didn'tburn any joy, but he didn't, it
didn't justify enough to keep itgoing.
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Let it go.
Let it go.
Why stay in a situation whereyou're unsatisfied?
Whether that's a relationship,whether that's a career, whether
that's a friendship, whetherthat's even an event you're
going to and you thought it wasgoing to be amazing or whatever
or just a crowd of people you'rearound, why stay if it doesn't
benefit you?
If it doesn't empower you, if itdoesn't help you grow, if it
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doesn't give you peace.
It's important to be alignedwith yourself.
When you are disconnected,you're doing a disservice to
yourself.
You're impacting yourrelationship with yourself, and
you should value that the most.
Because self love's important.
So it's important for us.
If I wanna grow, and I wannahave a peace of mind in my heart
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too, I gotta let go of thingsthat don't serve me.
When I broke up with him, or webroke up, I felt so relieved.
I never felt that in a breakupbefore.
Like a burden, this heavy weightwas lifted off of me.
I lived my best life and thenwent to New Orleans probably
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like in January for a wedding.
And I felt so good about it,like I wasn't really hurting and
some friends were like, what theheck?
Others were like, yes, finally.
And my cacique was like, Oh myGod, that's okay.
Good thing.
I thought, cause he didn't fitthe kind of guy you said you'd
be into or that would be foryou.
As you mentioned, cause hewasn't Asian.
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I love my Casique.
News alert, if you do know me,my boyfriend is Asian right now.
So I thought that was reallyfunny, but other people could
see outside of that, he wasn'tfor me.
Though, though I was smiling abit, though I was having fun
here and there, and though hewas a nice person, not for me.
Sometimes you learn it a littlelater on, but when you hear it
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for yourself, listen toyourself, your voice, your
words, your thoughts, yourfeelings, they're important.
Follow through and listen toyou.
Okay, So I know we struggle withletting go.
Why comfort zones, fear ofchanges.
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or even the attachments that wehave created while being in the
situation because it has meaningto it.
And that's okay.
At one point it did possiblyserve you.
At one point it was a discomfortzone that you made comfortable.
At one point it was the changethat you needed for yourself and
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now it no longer servesanything.
It hurts more.
So Like friendships, as Imentioned in session three, my
long 10 year friendship, 10 plusyears friendship.
I held on just out of no fear ofchange, but I had an attachment.
I based it off the good times wealready had.
I based it off, good memories,words that she had said that was
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encouraging, how she showed upfor me when we were having our
good times.
And it was comfortable.
I didn't really have to doanything.
I already knew.
I knew what this was.
I knew how she moved.
I knew how she talked.
I knew her thought process.
I knew it all.
I knew it.
I'm comfortable here.
So, whatever.
I know what to expect.
But when we gotta let go, wedon't know what to expect.
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To a degree.
I get that.
Even jobs.
This is what I know.
I've been doing this for solong.
I hear that.
I worked as a medical assistantfor six years.
And I was comfortable.
I made the SLPs.
I rocked that job.
I knew what I was doing.
Became a supervisor within Ithink two, three years of me
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being there.
Yeah, two years.
Me being there was a supervisor,did the VIP accounts.
You couldn't tell me nothing.
I was the book.
If y'all can find the answer, Idefinitely would have.
But it wasn't for me.
Could I have done that job forthe rest of my life?
Maybe with a differentleadership team.
But yeah, I probably couldbecause I did enjoy what I did.
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But it wasn't serving me anygrowth.
I was not growing and I did nothave a peace of mind.
I would have grown resentful.
Let go.
Because there are worse thingsto fear than change.
Resentment, shame, guilt,disappointing yourself.
Fear that more.
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Not anybody else.
The fear of disappointing youand not giving yourself the
chance because you don't thinkyou deserve it.
Fear that.
That's something to truly bewary of because you always are
worthy of taking a risk for.
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As I mentioned, it has anemotional toll on us when we
hold on to things that drain us.
I know while I'm talking aboutthis, you have already thought
about that situation,friendship, relationship, co
parenting situation, familymembers.
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Just think about that.
You thought about that person orthat situation that brings you
dread.
It is mentally exhausting.
Some of you probably even noddedyour heads, already thinking
about it.
Oh, yup, mm hmm, yeah, I reallydo need to let that go.
Any certain lifestyle, job,friendship, you thought about
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it.
And you thought about how ithinders your personal growth.
It takes more from you than itgives.
Aren't you tired of being tired?
Aren't you tired of rolling youreyes when you see that person's
text or phone call come through?
Or maybe instead of rolling youreyes, you dread, like you feel a
pit in your stomach with anxietyof having to even deal with
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this.
Don't you want to relieveyourself of that?
You deserve that.
You deserve peace.
Our body deserves peace.
Our mind deserves peace.
Your heart deserves peace.
We don't deserve to be goingthrough flips and mental
dynastics really to just getthrough the day because of a
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certain event.
I get, hold on, I do understandthat there are some places and
some things that are hard toleave.
Whether that is the home,because you have to be with that
person because this is what youcould afford.
Or you have to keep that job youhate so much that takes from you
because it pays.
a lot and it helps you with yourbills.
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It gives you flexibility.
But is it really flexible ifyou're compromising yourself?
Because there's a difference.
There are times you know when tolet go.
Emotional burnout, as I talkedabout.
That dread.
That resentment.
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That anger.
Hopelessness.
Worthlessness.
The future feels bleak.
You lack joy.
And the big one.
It does not align with yourvalues.
If it doesn't align with who youare as a person, let it.
When you do things that alignwith what you believe in, what
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you love, what you want to do,you will see it benefits you.
You will flourish and you willgrow and you will blossom.
You will transform to your nextstep.
It will have its challenges, butit won't drain you.
It won't steal from you and Imentioned challenges because
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yeah, they're both gonna havechallenges But one of them is
gonna serve you for the goodwhile the other one will be your
demise Why stay in something orwith someone that will cause you
demise that is here to just takeand destroy From you.
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You don't deserve that.
So I know it's hard.
I'm not telling you to make anydecisions right now while we're
on this, while we're on this,let's say call.
While we're in this session, I'mnot telling you to make any
decisions.
I just want you to reflect.
Give yourself the chance tothink it through.
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Identify areas in your lifewhere you may need to release
something.
How does this person Serve mylife.
How does this friendship helpme?
What have I given to thissituation?
What have a part of myself haveI offered and seen in return?
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How is this helping me to mynext steps, goals?
What does this do for me?
What is the purpose of thisevent, place, person, situation?
What is the reason?
Why do I stay?
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Write that out.
Why do I stay?
Don't judge yourself.
Even if you think it's cringe,the reason you're staying.
Remember, we write and explorewith curiosity, not judgment.
Don't judge yourself.
There's enough people in thiscrazy world to do it for you.
Don't be another critical voice.
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Curiosity and compassion.
Why do you truly stay?
With the person you're with, thesituation, the job, whatever it
may be.
Why do you stay in it?
And when you find out that why,go deeper.
I stay in it because da da dada.
But what would it mean if I didleave that?
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What am I afraid will happen?
What do I think will happen?
What do I think of myself?
Because you may find that maybeyou don't believe that you can
do better without this situationor that you can do better than
the situation.
Dig deeper and know that lettinggo is a process.
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It's not a one time eventbecause In relationships, even
for the example I put, in thatrelationship, I had let go at
times and not even known it.
Every step, every month, everytime my desires or dreams were
put down or whatnot, I wasletting go.
Not shutting down, just lettinggo, stepping back, distancing
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myself.
And the same thing for anythingelse, you will.
I have tried to leave that jobof six years multiple times.
The year that I became asupervisor.
Actually, I, shoot, I applied toa lot of places.
I applied to so many places.
It's not going to be a one anddone.
There are going to be timeswhere it's going to be hard and
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you're going to have to thinkabout it, sleep on it, think
about it, sleep on it, reflect,talk with your counsel, your
loved ones, your close ones thatyou were okay with being
vulnerable with, checking in andletting go little by little.
And some things do require us todo it little by little.
Gradual detachment, seekingsupport, reframing your
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thoughts.
That will take time to changemindsets, toxic relationships,
toxic friendships, toxiccareers.
It will take time.
Give yourself grace andcompassion as you go through
this shift in your life.
It's like grief.
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There are emotional stages toletting go.
You're gonna grieve it becauseyou're gonna think about the
potential.
You're gonna grieve all that youput into it.
You're gonna grieve how much youinvested.
You're gonna grieve what itsinitial purpose was, why you
even were in here, how'd you gethere.
You're gonna grieve that.
And that's okay.
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That's where we all have tostart.
Letting go and being, justgrief.
Be sad, be upset.
Be disappointed.
Be hurt.
In this moment, give yourselfthat space.
Then, eventually you will get toacceptance.
That, man I know this is not forme.
It's, I understand.
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It's not for me.
And I get it.
And then the more you come toterms with that acceptance, the
more you had allowed yourself togrieve and let go and bury the
attachment you had to thisperson or event or place, or
even your identity that you mayhave put here, you will reach
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freedom.
You will flourish.
You will be liberated.
Take your time.
This is not a step one, two,three.
You may have gotten acceptanceand knowing that it's not for
you, but you didn't take thetime to grieve it.
You may already know the freedomit will get, but you didn't take
the time to really accept thatyou do deserve that freedom.
This can go in many differentways.
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Don't judge yourself.
We all have different ways thatwe handle things and that's
okay.
Be different.
Be you.
Do what works for you, but allowyourself to grieve, accept, and
know that you are worthy offreedom.
So.
Do you think you can do it?
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Do you think you can walk awayfrom that person or that
situation or that job?
I want you to know that you areso worthy.
You are so deserving of so muchmore.
Don't let this person or thissituation make you think that
you can't do it without it.
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You're so capable.
You are resilient.
You will overcome.
You always do.
And if you can't remember offthe top, give yourself time.
To jot down things you haveovercome.
Times where you have pivoted andit has worked out.
And even the times when youpivoted and it didn't work out,
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how did you get through?
You're so capable, beautiful.
You are.
So take that time to believe inyourself.
Remind yourself who you are.
You can get through this.
It will take time, and that'sokay.
Time letting go is differentthan time wasting away.
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with people or situations thatno longer serve you.
Do not choose others again outof comfort, fear.
Choose you.
You deserve and you're worthy ofbeing chosen.
This is another way to chooseyourself, to love yourself, to
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establish boundaries, to say no.
I am no longer compromising me.
I am no longer taking thissituation on.
I'm no longer going to lose mein it.
I'm no longer gonna say yes toit.
No.
No is a full sentence.
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No.
I don't want this from meanymore, Shay.
I deserve more.
Yes, you do.
Yes, you do.
And I will root you on for thatmore.
I will always root you on.
Push.
You got this.
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I promise you do.
So take your small steps toreleasing what no longer serves
you.
You really have this.
And if you have a story or youwant to chat with me, reach out
or you need some, debriefing.
I get that.
I hear you.
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Send me a DM.
You can also find me on LinkedInif you want.
If you want to look me up andactually do sessions with me,
cause you need help with lettinggo, you can do that.
Find me and we can start ourtherapeutic journey together.
In the meantime, if you're notready for therapy, that's okay.
Soundboard with me.
Let's connect.
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We'll talk on Instagram.
You'll see your community.
You guys are here to shift witheach other.
Sip and shift.
You deserve to not be alone withus.
I am your online diary.
And whatever feelings came upwith you, whatever triggers you
felt, that emotional trigger,you felt your heart cinch up,
(28:53):
you felt it get tight, yourchest, your stomach felt like a
pit, you cried, you felt chills,whatever came up for you, let
them pass.
Leave the heaviness with me, butdo the work after you listen to
this podcast, after this ends.
Do the work to let go what nolonger serves you, because you
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are worthy of more.
Hmm.
Okay.
And this goes back into buildingand maintaining meaningful
connections in our life.
That's going to be our nextepisode.
Because after we let go ofwhat's no longer for us, we make
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room for what is.
We make room to actually taketime to build better
connections, communities,opportunities.
You free up your heart toreceive.
We have to let go in order toreceive.
(29:57):
So join me in our next episodeor our next session.
We're going to dive back in alittle bit more to friendships
in adulthood, because we'regoing to learn how to build and
maintain meaningful connections.
Those connections that evolveover the years that you truly
deserve.
Honestly, I know you probablythought about somebody, you
already have that way.
(30:19):
And it's okay.
If you know somebody who doesn'thave that, tell them to tune in.
But I hope today you got whatyou needed.
Thank you for tuning in.
Thank you for allowing me to bevulnerable with you in my
stories.
And you be vulnerable with me.
Thank you for being vulnerablewith me.
So, I adore you guys.
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Thank you for your time and yoursupport.
I will be eventually reopeningmy shop again.
Look out for my new name.
I am doing some Rebranding, notwhat shift happens to Shay, but
for those of you who know myother page as Road to Snatch.
I'm having some new changes overthere, so get excited as I go
(31:04):
through another shift in mylife, as I transform to another
stage.
So say bye bye to Road toSnatch, but get excited for
what's up next, because it'sgonna align with where we're at.
And also I'll be able to provideyou guys some things that you
can take home.
I know my podcasts are great,but sometimes you want something
tangible.
And we want to make your spacefeel beautiful.
(31:26):
That's just a little teaserthere.
Get ready for that.
Hold on to that.
But again, thank you guys somuch for being here with me.
I appreciate you all.
You are amazing.
You are amazing.
So I'll see you for our nextsession, okay?
You can find me on Instagram, myshift happens with Shea.
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You can also email me if youhave any questions or maybe you
want to collaborate with me andyou have a topic and you want to
join me and share with the restof the world.
You can email me atshifthappenswithshea at gmail.
com Let's talk.
Let's get to know each other.
If you're interested and want meto speak somewhere to your
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followers or your, people andthey need to hear a little Shea
Shea Send those inquiries stillthere to shiftadmintoshay at
gmail.
com.
But yes, everybody, find me.
You can link up with me.
And think hard on thosequestions I mentioned.
I'll post about it on theInstagram.
Talk down there.
Collaborate with me.
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Let's share some thoughts.
And I can't wait to see you foryour next session.
You're doing great.
Keep doing the work.
This is only just part of it.
Love you guys! See you again!Mwah!
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