Simply Enough

Why is it easier sometimes to point fingers rather than look at ourselves? It's said that blame is easier to digest than guilt. But self-awareness and self-accountability isn't always about accepting blame, shame or guilt. It's very empowering when we look inward before looking outward, to confront and acknowledge where we are, and what we bring to the table. We train people how to treat us, because we get what we ac...

When in conversations or in meetings, do you ever start with "I could be wrong, but" or "Sorry but can I" or "Just wanted to"? We certainly have! Why do we feel the need to lead with apologizing, disclaiming, or discrediting ourselves? Is taking the one-down position to make others feel one-up at our own expense? Diminishing ourselves in front of others isn't self-protection; it's self-sabota...

Have you ever felt lonely while alone, or in a crowd. or even in a relationship? Can you lift yourself out of those feelings? Consider that the Universe has your back. Faith in something Greater can uplift you and even carry you. Plainly name and call out the feelings of being lonely, without shame, because they're universal feelings. Then welcome and receive invitations and moments when others reach out, and recognize when &q...

Have you ever wondered "Am I the a-hole" in this situation? Or watered-down a message, or even muted yourself, fearing being perceived as an a-hole? Accountability and self-reflection are important, but standing firm in one's convictions is equally important, depending on the scenario, and depending on the audience. Communication, connection. or mere civil discourse doesn't necessarily mean mutual agreement, and...

What do you mean when you say "it's just my luck..."? Do you believe the Universe has got your back, and conspires to help you? Not everything in life is earned, deserved, or based on merit. There are things in your life that you have nothing to do with, and are out of your control. Can you recall unexplained circumstances in life where the open windows were even better than the closed doors you were banging on? In t...

Do you feel like you haven't yet done anything worthy of applause? We all can applaud momentous occasions, but you can also applaud even the stumbles and falls, learning grace and levity along the way. Applause can turn a moment around for laughter and light and joy. Look for more opportunities to applause, celebrating effort as much as outcome. And don't forget to buoy yourself with applause if others are putting you dow...

Have you ever felt out of place or out of touch, compared to the majority? When it comes to what's popular, have you ever thought "What? I don't get it?" And that's ok – Give yourself permission to be Your Self! You do you, and then decide who you invite into your experience. If something's not even on your radar, then there is no FOMO.  In fact, instead of the fear of missing out, there's the joy...

Do you ever feel overwhelmed, or feel like Life just passes you by, because you're "soooo busy"? Do you feel under pressure to always have a plan, a goal, a task, or a full calendar? We can give ourselves permission to push back at the belief of having a list of actions that substantiates or validates an experience to make it worthwhile. We can be intentional about doing nothing, and honor when we're in need of ...

Did you know there's a difference between pleasure and enjoyment? In the pursuit of "happier-ness", shared experiences move the needle beyond pleasure to true enjoyment! Communal moments create memories, which can transport you back, and become gifts that keep on giving. Shared joy heightens exponentially the moment being experienced, and can be the Great Equalizer.  Shared experiences break down walls, where we see ...

Did you know the key to happiness is living in alignment with your priorities and values? When we don't make choices aligned with our chosen, self-professed priorities and values, that's how we create discord and unhealthy dis-ease internally.  And externally, intent and impact are both important yet aren't always the same, and can cause confusion at best, or harm at its worst. Being mindful of how we spend our time ...

Are you always insistent on The Best, and nothing less will do? How does that serve you, and is it even healthy? Sometimes, you can use your time better than constantly searching for Best or Perfect.  It's amazing what we miss out on, when we worry about what we're missing.  In search of the Best, you can miss right where you are and miss experiencing what you have now. 

In pursuit of some ambiguous "better", it&...

How do you approach the new year? What's your mindset and which emotions dominate? A new start doesn't have to only be every 365 days! Like a student in school, you can break up the year into quarters, seasons, or monthly rotations. Or even approach each individual new day as a fresh start. Life doesn't have to be merely routinized and habitual. And remember too- new year's resolutions and goals don't just ...

Do you set resolutions for the new year, but soon abandon them? Consider being objective-driven rather than goal-oriented, to set yourself in the right direction.  An objective is about limitless opportunity and possibility, whereas a goal is finite and concrete, as if a zero-sum game. An objective is a beacon beyond you that is calling you, and goals are the microscopic steps aiming forward. Missteps in the direction of an objecti...

What do you believe? What is a miracle and magic to you? To explain it is unnecessary. If we can suspend our disbelief and put away the need to be cynical or right, magic and miracles can happen. We can be witness to them,and also be agents of them. t’s not always the grandiose and the magnificent - They are everyday happenings, around us and in us. Miracles can be in the ability to find the Divine in humanity and the Divine within...

Have you ever felt pressure to give the Perfect Gift? Or thought a gift you received was lacking? But there are Gifts in everything, all around us.  The value of a gift is not about “the thing” It’s about the thought and intent from the giver.  The price paid for a gift isn’t always monetary, but instead could  be time, talent or sincere thought.   From baguettes to body wash, it’s not the physical gift but the intangible sentiment...

How do the holidays make you feel? Do you aim for a Hallmark romanticized tableau, or embrace the messy, funny imperfections? A change of expectations and perspective can change the experience, embracing not just the nostalgia, but the creation of new memories too!  The holidays come from your Light within, rather than external. Let go of activities on an idealized to-do list, to experience and extend the simple, distilled  reasons...

Have you ever felt the pressure, or the letdown, from wanting the holidays to be perfect? But the holidays can come alive more as feelings in one’s heart, rather than outer events.   Build upon the foundation of sentiments that make a holiday real.  The universal language of gratitude is contagious and life giving! Rather than one day on the calendar, live a life of Thanks-living, thinking of specific things from boogers to moo-cow...

Have you ever been frustrated with traffic, or even have momentary road rage? Did you know your car can be a great classroom of life? Ironically, one can learn to find joy at the same time of feeling frustrated, because switching perspectives can change a situation and environment completely. With life lessons in traffic, we can remember that we can't control others, and practice not taking things personally, and develop the s...