September 11, 2024 • 43 mins
Imagine trying to explain your dream to someone, but they don’t get it. Frustrating, right? That’s how communication failures can feel in everyday life. Whether we’re at work, at home, or in social settings, communication impacts every aspect of our lives. How we express ourselves and listen to others can either open doors or build walls. It’s not just about talking—effective communication is the key to experiencing success, love, abundance, and fulfillment. But how does it work, and why is it so important?
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Speaker 1 (00:02):
Hello and welcome.
I'm so grateful that you aretaking the time to spend with me
today.
My name is Tabitha MacDonald.
I am an intuitive coach and ahealer.
I help people unlock theirvoice so that they can have more
love, success, abundance andfulfillment in their lives.
Abundance and fulfillment intheir lives.
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I want to tell you a littlestory about a journey I went on
recently.
Does anyone here have some kids?
I've got two teenagers, andteenagers, in my mind, are an
absolute opportunity to do ourshadow work.
That's my new reframe and I hadthis place that we love to go.
It's called Pacific City inOregon.
There's this huge mountain ofsand like huge and I have been
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taking my children there foryears, ever since they were
little, and I've watched peopleclimb up that mountain of sand
in sheer terror, because I'vealways had a desperate fear of
heights and I wanted so badly tobe the mom who didn't sit at
the bottom of the hill makingsnacks.
I wanted to be the mom whoclimbed up the mountain with
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them, but I was very overweightand I was very out of shape, and
it's something that I hadstruggled with most of my life,
and it was about a year ago,maybe a year and a half, my kids
asked if we could go to PacificCity for the day.
Now, if you're like me and youhave teenagers and they ask to
spend time with you, the answeris always yes, of course I do.
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So we drive out to Pacific Cityand I've actually got like a
dress on and like Bergenstocksbecause I don't even think that
it's possible that I'll make itup this hill, and I thought I'll
just do what I always do I'llsit at the bottom and I'll cheer
them on and I'll be there whenthey come back down and I'll
cheer them on and I'll be therewhen they come back down.
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And this day, when I got there,I looked at all these people
climbing up that hill and Ithought to myself do I really
want to keep being the mom whosits at the bottom watching
everybody else go up the hill?
And I made a decision that Iwas going to go up that hill
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regardless, even in my bluedress, and my kids went up
before because I was doing someinner work about getting up the
hill.
And I saw them running up thehill and I saw them struggling.
I saw fit grown peoplestruggling, falling and turning
back down and returning back tothe bottom of the hill, I saw
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dogs struggling.
I mean, like when I saw peoplestruggling, I saw struggle and I
just kept asking myself thesame question Do I want to
continue to be in the struggleor do I at least want to put my
foot on the hill?
What would it feel like if Igot to the top?
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And now this was like a reallygray, overcast day, because if
you know anything about theOregon coast, it's not like the
rest of the world where theyhave beautiful, sunny beaches.
Ours tend to come with a heavydose of overcast weather and
it's cold and also extremelybeautiful.
And I just kept asking myselfwhat would it feel like if I got
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up to the top of the hill?
What would it feel like if Ieven tried?
And so I set out backpack on myback and I said I'm just going
to go as far as I can back.
And I said I'm just going to goas far as I can and I started
climbing up the hill and nodoubt about halfway up it got
hard.
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It got so hard, it got so steep,like you couldn't really tell
what angle it was at, and I wasout of breath and I was thirsty
and I was mostly terrified.
But I wasn't only terrified ofthe heights, I was terrified of
what it would mean if I didn'tget all the way up the hill, if
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I continued to be someone whoquit as soon as things got hard
and didn't make it all the wayup, got hard and didn't make it
all the way up.
Can you think of situationslike that in your life where
you're not really sure how tomove forward?
And it was so funny because upthe hill are my two kids, like
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they're almost at the top.
My daughter, who used to be mybiggest cheerleader, who used to
be my biggest cheerleader wassaying go back, it's not safe,
you'll die, like literally thosewere her words and I was so
confused because usually she'sthe one who's like you've got
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this, you've got this.
And my son, who's always beenmy inner critic, said you've got
this, just put one foot infront of the other, you can do
it.
So imagine my confusion whenthe person who's usually telling
me to stop is the one to tellme to go and the one who usually
tells me to go is the onetelling me to stop.
And I was so confused anddisoriented because I didn't
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know who to believe, and I don'tknow if you've ever felt that
way about not knowing who tobelieve, not knowing who to
trust, not knowing whichdirection to take.
It's really an interestingplace to be at and I want to ask
have you ever had your innercritic telling you what you
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could not do?
Like, don't go on a date withthat person, they're too good
for you.
Or have you ever had your innercheerleader telling you what
you could do?
Like heck yeah, go on that trip, you deserve it.
Why is communication soimportant?
Imagine you're trying toexplain your dream to someone.
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You're trying to explain yourdream to someone, but they don't
get it Frustrating right.
That's how communicationfailures can feel in everyday
life.
Whether we're at work, at homeor in social settings.
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Communication impacts everyaspect of our lives.
How we express ourselves andlisten to others can either open
doors or build walls.
It's not just about talking.
Effective communication is thekey to experiencing success,
love, abundance and fulfillment.
But how does it work and why isit so important?
And also, why do we struggle tocommunicate when we think about
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how?
How does communication affectour success In the workplace?
Being able to communicateeffectively with your team, your
clients and managers can makeor break your career.
Misunderstandings, uncleardirections and poor feedback
loops can create frustration andblock your potential for
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success.
On the other hand, clear,confident communication helps
you collaborate, present ideasand navigate challenges,
ultimately leading to growth andachievement.
When I taught interviewingskills to my students back when
I used to be a career coach,they were beginning new careers
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and I would tell them it's notyour hard skills employers are
looking at yeah, that's onepiece of it, but you all went
through the same program.
You all know how to do the samethings.
Employers are looking at yoursoft skills.
What makes you easy to workwith, what makes you coachable,
trainable, teachable.
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What makes you coachable,trainable, teachable how you
communicate, how you handledifficult situations, are you
capable of experiencingcompassion and empathy for
others?
It's the things that you can'tteach that make you hireable,
basically who you are Now.
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If that made you feel a littlenauseous, it's because there's a
part of you that's very afraidof being authentic.
Keep listening, we're going totalk about that.
In love and relationships, howdoes your communication get in
the way of healthy relationships?
I want you to answer thatquestion for a minute.
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Have you had an argument with aspouse or a kid, or maybe
someone in your extended familylike your brother or your mother
.
Communication is the foundationof connection.
Without it, misunderstandings,resentments and emotional
distance can take over.
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Sharing your thoughts, feelingsand even conflicts in a healthy
way fosters trust, love anddeeper intimacy.
I love the thought of talkingabout intimacy because I work
with a lot of people who are sodeeply afraid to communicate
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their desires and theirfantasies with their partner
because they don't know how tocommunicate it and they aren't
sure how it will be received.
Can you relate to that?
Or even with my kids, listeningto them and who they want to be
in the world not who I thoughtthey should be, but who they
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want to be.
That is a part of communication.
When we improve how we speakand listen, we nurture these
relationships.
Clients come in all of the timebecause they feel like they are
not being heard in theirrelationships.
I was working with a client whowas dating someone new and she
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was very afraid that herexplosive communication would
ruin the new relationship.
You see, every time they got ina specific situation, she would
respond by losing it.
She knew this pattern was fromher 23-year marriage to a
narcissist, but she didn't knowhow to shift it.
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In just three months, she wasable to end that behavior
altogether and did improve notonly her romantic relationships,
but her success at work and herrelationship with her own
daughters.
Now, how does this impactabundance and our ability to
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manifest?
Believe it or not, how youcommunicate impacts your ability
to manifest abundance.
When you communicate withclarity and confidence, both
with others and with yourself,you align with what you desire.
You align with what you desire.
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This energy createsopportunities, whether it's new
financial ventures, personalgrowth or even unexpected gifts
from the universe.
Miscommunication, on the otherhand, leads to missed
opportunities and frustration.
If you're anything like me,you've asked the universe to
give you something.
You've tried the manifestingthings that people tell you
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about.
Focus on the thing you desire,listen and be willing to receive
.
Have you ever heard the storyabout the man sitting on top of
a house during a hurricane andthe water is rising above and he
knows he's not safe and heprays to God and he says please
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help me out of this situation.
And a few seconds later,somebody comes by in a rowboat
and they say hey, you look likeyou're going to drown.
Hop in, I have space for you.
And he says no, no, no, it'sgood, I've asked God to send
help and I have so much faith.
Help is coming.
And so he prays again and again, with all his heart.
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He prays to God to help him outof the situation.
Help him out of the situation.
And pretty soon someone drivesby in a motorboat and they say,
hey, the water levels are rising, it's not safe, hop in, I have
room for one more.
And the gentleman says no, no,it's good, I'm praying, I've got
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this.
God has my back.
And so he prays even harder andeven harder.
And pretty soon a helicoptercomes by and the helicopter
throws down a ladder and the mansays, no, go save someone else,
I'm waiting for God.
He said he would help me.
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Fast forward at the pearly gates.
And the man standing there andsays to God I don't understand.
I prayed, I believed.
Why didn't you send any help?
And God says I sent a rowboat,a motorboat and a helicopter.
You have to be willing to seeand I love that story because a
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lot of the time ourcommunication gets in our way of
receiving the gifts of theuniverse.
Usually the response is subtle,it's a synchronicity, it's
someone saying something to youthat maybe you hadn't heard
before.
It's someone saying somethingto you that maybe you hadn't
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heard before.
I remember this one time when Iwas looking for clarity on
whether or not to open mymassage clinic.
I was standing on the side of alake and it wasn't really a
spiritual person, but I decidedto give it a try and I threw my
hands up in the air and I said Ineed to know what to do.
Do I stay here in Washington ordo I go home and begin this
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massage clinic?
And I kid you not, at thatexact moment my phone rang and
her name was Julie.
She was my very first massageclient who was referred to me by
an acupuncturist.
I had met.
Messages like that are so clear.
But if I had poor communicationwith those messages, with what
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I was asking, with how I wasreceiving, I would have ignored
it and I wouldn't have come homeand started Soma Massage, which
not only helped me build a lifethat I dreamed of, but it gave
me freedom to be a single momand still have a lot of money.
It gave me the purpose andfulfillment of teaching other
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moms how to have a flexibleincome in their lives so that
they could support theirfamilies and still be there at
soccer practice.
Our communication is usuallywounded when we're young and
that wound in your communicationneeds to be healed, and we'll
do that in this program.
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This part is so emotionallycharged for people, and that's
fulfillment and purpose.
Feeling fulfilled is deeplyconnected to how well you
communicate with yourself.
When you articulate yourdesires, values and purpose, you
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begin to live in alignment withwhat truly matters to you.
Lack of self-awareness or poorcommunication with yourself can
lead to feeling stuck or lost inlife.
Clarity of thought and speech,however, leads to taking action
on your purpose.
I'm always surprised when Imeet people who are not actively
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in alignment with their purpose, only because I feel like my
higher self won't let me do itany other way.
Talk about an avalanche ofboulders.
When I'm off track, I mean, Ilike steer the ship incorrectly
and she's like here's a hugeboulder, I need you to get back
on track.
I came here to do somethingbigger.
This was really present for mewhen I was at a seminar and
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there was a woman that I wasworking with and she had an
extremely successful life byconventional standards.
She had a lot of money, she hada successful career, she owned
a home, she had nice things, butshe wanted something more,
wanted something more, and evensaying that out loud made her
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want to cry.
She started crying when westarted working together and she
couldn't even get the words outof what she really wanted,
because she didn't feel worthyof asking for something more, of
asking for something bigger.
Can you relate?
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Have you ever had everythinglike you thought it should be,
but you wanted something more.
You wanted something bigger?
The audacity right Even justadmitting that she wanted to
pursue her passions and herpurpose made her cry.
The words literally got trappedin her throat.
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When we started workingtogether, it was about 30
minutes.
We were able to identify thepart that was blocking her and
integrate it.
The difference on her face in30 minutes just 30 minutes was
astounding.
Face in 30 minutes, just 30minutes was astounding.
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Imagine what giving yourselfthis gift of communication
transformation could do for you.
So let's talk a little bitabout the what right.
What exactly is effectivecommunication?
It goes beyond just words.
It includes body language, toneof voice and, most importantly,
listening skills.
Effective communicators areself-aware, understanding not
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only what they say but how theysay it, and they are open to
receiving feedback from others.
Did you know that body languageis 55% of communication, that's
, non-verbal communication?
The way we carry ourselvesspeaks louder than our words.
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Eye contact, posture, facialexpressions and gestures are
constantly conveying messages tothe people around us.
Our tone of voice how you saysomething often matters more
than what you say.
The same words can haveentirely different meanings
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depending on tone.
Think of how I'm fine can meana dozen different things
depending on how it's said canmean a dozen different things
depending on how it's said.
I'm fine or I'm fine or I'mfine.
No-transcript, active listening.
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Communication is a two-waystreet.
It's not something that'shappening to you or to someone
else.
It's an experience ofexpressing yourself, but also
being involved in anotherperson's experience of them
expressing themselves.
Listening with empathy andunderstanding creates connection
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and trust.
Rapport building, how we mirrorand match someone else's body
language to build trust quicklyand effectively these are all
skills you will learn when youwork with me.
The problem is that most peopleare listening and crafting
their reply at the same time,which ironically blocks them
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from hearing the other person.
You will learn how to bepresent in your communication so
that you can actually hear theperson you are speaking to Now.
I want to talk about somethingthat people aren't often
thinking about, and that'senergy.
How you are energeticallymatters.
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Most empaths that I work withsay that they can feel energy,
and they can feel everythingthat someone else is feeling,
which clutters communication,someone else's feeling, which
clutters communication.
They feel like other people arehappening to them and their
experience becomes their own.
The truth is, you have controlover your ability to take on
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other people's energy, but youhaven't yet learned how to do it
.
In this course, you will learnhow to become impenetrable to
other people's feelings.
I think this is probably one ofthe most important things I can
teach other people.
I was recently doing a two-dayshadow workhorse or it was
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one-day shadow workhorse and Ihad these two women who we were
going through an energy exercisewith and we were working on how
accurate are you in picking upother people's energy, and it
was quite interesting becauseboth of them didn't realize they
were actually filtering theirempath skills through their own
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lens which we all do but becausethey were doing that, they made
assumptions about the otherperson's intentions that were
actually really inaccurate.
And once we went through thispowerful tool which you'll learn
when you work with me oflearning how to block your
energy and to control it, andthen also when to let it down
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and then how to basically use itlike an invisible shield, that
you're in complete authority of.
Other people's energy no longerhappens to you.
It's no longer something that'sout of your control.
Now you get to be the managerof your own energy system and
also controlling whether or notpeople's energetic attacks can
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get through your shield of armor.
These are extremely powerfultools, especially if you're
presenting at, say, a meetingand you feel someone's negative
vibes ruining your experience.
Wouldn't it be great if you hada tool where it was no longer
going to impact you, where youcould just stay focused and
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present on your own experiencewithout taking on other people's
garbage?
That is one of my favoritethings to teach my students,
because I didn't realize.
I struggled with that, because,whether or not you want to talk
about energy, we all have it,and being aware of something
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doesn't make it go away.
Awareness gives you authorityover it, and that is my favorite
thing to give people isauthority over every area of
their life.
Now, how does this all happen?
Because this sounds magical,right, and I promise you it is.
So I'm going to give you alittle bit of information about
how we do this.
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Step number one is we're goingto decide what kind of
communicator you want to be.
We will get clear on exactlyhow you want to speak and behave
in any situation.
So let's say it's Friday nightand your spouse drags you to
another cocktail party for thefirm and you have to go and
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socialize and your anxiety is up.
Now that's an old pattern, it'san old way of being.
We're going to decide how youwant to be.
Would you like to be able toengage in small chat?
Would you like to be presentwith anyone you're talking to?
How would you like toexperience it?
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We're going to get really clearon what that looks like for you
because, believe it or not,we're all unique.
We have nine distinct,different personality styles
that really help us understandhow our lens of the world is
impacting our experience.
So we're going to get reallyclear on how you would like it
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to be Now.
Step two is we will identifywhere you are struggling now and
what areas of your life arebeing impacted by communication
breakdowns.
So if it's yelling at the kidsor maybe not speaking up at a
meeting, and you know you havethe right answer.
Or perhaps when you're in agroup you start sweating and you
get awkward and then your voicegets really high and it's like
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something takes over.
We want to know what that is,because if we don't know what
that is, we're not going to beable to resolve it.
Don't worry, this is done in areally safe, happy, playful kind
of way.
And you know I've done a lot oftrauma work and I try to make
trauma work light and funbecause I don't think it has to
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be heavy.
It doesn't have to be painful.
I love helping people transformtheir lives in an easy and
impactful way.
So step three removing theresistance.
I have a tool basket that'sgigantic.
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I have so many tools on how tohelp you become the person
you've always wanted to be.
I use neuro linguisticprogramming.
I have tools to help you rewirethe unconscious mind.
I have you tools to help youheal the inner child and to
integrate all parts and aspectsof you into one singular choice.
I have so many tools bodyworktools, energy tools, mindset
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tools and, most importantly,emotional regulation tools that
help you take charge of yournervous system in any
environment.
Number four we're going to testin future pace.
As with anything, we must testthe new structure.
Nobody goes and builds a bridgeand then sends a whole bunch of
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people to drive over it unlessthey've tested it first.
We want to do the same thingfor you, because with repetition
and practice comes mastery, andwe want to do that in an
environment that's safe, thatyou can practice being authentic
where the stakes aren't so high, and that way your nervous
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system will already know what itfeels like.
When I was at trainer's trainingin San Diego, we literally had
a group of people and don'tworry, we're not going to do
this in my program, unless youreally want to and can talk me
into it but we had a group ofpeople sit in front of us and we
had to tell them what ourbiggest fear was.
They acted it out while wetried to give our presentation.
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Let me tell you, if anythingwill make you bulletproof, that
experience alone was worth theprice in gold.
So what we want to do is makesure that you have chances to
practice, to test yourcommunication skills in a
healthy and safe environment,and you will receive quality
feedback from others, like howmany times have you been in some
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place and you wanted feedbackLike how did that land for you?
And everyone just said it wasgreat, but you knew there was
something you were missing.
There was something that youneeded to help you move to the
next level.
You'll get that with me.
I am such an honest feedbacktruth teller.
I would hate it if someone sentme into the world and was like
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everything is just perfect theway it is and didn't tell me
like.
Your inability to like buildrapport with people is what's
holding you back from talking.
That feedback testing andfuture pacing is one of the
things that you're going to getthe most value out of when
you're working with me in eitherone of the different settings
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that we have, and I'll tell youa little bit about a little bit
more about that in a few minutes.
So you probably have somequestions right now, and that's
totally natural and normal.
If you have a lot of questionsand you wanna get on a call with
me, I'm gonna put a link below.
The easiest way to do it,though, is just to send me a
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quick message on WhatsApp.
I'll put the link down belowand say hey, I'm really curious
about how this will work for me.
Can we set up a time to meetand I'll get back to you pretty
quickly.
Or you can just book on thebooking link below and it just
says I want more information andwe'll have a quick 20 minute
chat to figure out if this isright for you.
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Other questions that people havewhen they're looking at
improving their communication iswhat if I struggle with
confrontation, like I actuallydon't have a choice?
Many people fear confrontationbecause they associate it with
conflict, but confrontation,when done with care, can lead to
deeper understanding andresolution, done when done with
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care, can lead to deeperunderstanding and resolution.
Practice, gentle confrontation.
We're going to teach you how tohave a healthy confrontation
with someone.
You see, many of us grew up inhomes where our parents didn't
have the communication skillsright.
I'm like I'm a 75.
Like I was born in 75.
I'm part of Gen X.
We were told to go outside allday and figure it out.
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We didn't have talks about howwe felt.
We didn't have communicationclasses and I'm pretty sure we
had like the highest divorcerate because we just don't know
how to communicate with otherpeople in a way that's authentic
and that's also setting bothparties up for success in the
conversation.
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That's something I want toteach you how to do.
How does your communicationhold you back?
That might be another questionthat you have, and I really want
you to think about this.
Poor communication can createfrustration, resentment and even
self-sabotage, whether it's inrelationships, in your career,
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personal growth.
Not expressing your needs andboundaries leads to unmet
expectations and disappointment.
I am a big fan of learningabout your attachment style, and
it's one of the things thatwe'll do together, because
anxious attachment styles haveso much anxiety, and I remember
reading the book attached aftermy divorce and really figuring
out how my attachment style wasimpacting my relationships, and
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one of the things that I feltmost frustrated with was that I
didn't know how to get to themagical land of a secure
attachment style.
I understood it was there, butI didn't feel like I had the
magic jet to get over to thatisland.
One of the things we're goingto do is talk about how to
develop and harness a secureattachment style, and that is
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going to impact communication inevery area of your life.
How does communication affectmy confidence?
And I really want you to thinkabout this.
Have you ever had to go to asocial situation and chug back a
couple glasses of wine so thatyou could get a little liquid
courage before you actually wentup and talked to people.
That used to be me.
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I used to have to get drunk ormoderately buzzed before I could
even talk.
To be me, I used to have to getdrunk or like moderately like
buzzed before I could even talkto new people.
I was so scared of just beingmyself and actually kind of also
being bored.
Sometimes I'm not really greatwith small chat or talking about
things that aren't interestingto me and that was really
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impacting my ability to just bein social situations and get out
of my head.
Your ability to express yourselfimpacts your confidence.
When you learn to speak yourtruth and communicate clearly,
your self-esteem grows.
Who doesn't want moreself-esteem?
Well, and I'm not talking likeego, I'm better than everyone's
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self-esteem.
I mean that deep innerauthority and knowing of who you
are and who you came here to be.
People who communicateconfidently are often seen as
leaders and are more likely toachieve their goals.
So are you ready to starttransforming your communication
today?
I hope so, because I can't waitto meet you.
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I am so excited that you havewatched this video or listened
to my podcast and that you'reready, because you're ready to
experience more success, love,abundance and fulfillment right
now.
How would it feel to wake up inthe morning and to just feel
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good, to feel good in your body,to feel good in your life, to
feel good in your relationships.
How would it feel to just wakeup and feel good?
That's what I wanna help you doNow.
There's a couple of differentways that you can work with me.
I do one-on-one coaching,online or in person either one.
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If you're in person, we'llevaluate your physical blocks.
We can work with the actualsomatic practices that I do with
body work by unlocking yourtongue, helping with jaw pain
and other pain in your life, anddefinitely postural alignment
that prevents you from speakingyour truth.
Online, we can have just asmuch effect.
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It's just going to be adifferent way that we interact.
I'm going to give you somepostural alignment exercises,
help you have exercises tounlock your mouth and your
tongue, and also you'll get ahuge benefit.
So don't think that justbecause we're not going to meet
in person, if you choose online,that you won't have just as
much of a result because youwill.
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Correcting these physical blockscould be the thing that your
voice was waiting for.
Perhaps the block that you'restruggling with is a mental,
emotional or energetic, and manypeople who struggled to
communicate had an experience inearly childhood.
Let me know if you can relatewhen bullying or a humiliating
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social or school experience madethem decide to block their
voice.
Perhaps it was something evenbigger, like growing up in a
home with an active alcoholic,or maybe there was an
emotionally unavailable parent.
I have tools to remove all ofyour blocks.
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My clients always tell me thesesessions were so powerful.
It was like 10 years of therapyin three hours.
That's what I want to gift you.
Is that transformation,unlocking your voice.
So we can either work one-on-onein person or online.
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If you're in person, I'm inLake Oswego, oregon.
I see people in person forone-on-one sessions.
You can come to one of mytwo-day workshops.
They're in person and online.
Over the course of two days wego deep, we do an intensive, we
work through these blocks withlike-minded people, we heal in
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community.
One of the biggest fears andfrustrations people have is
being seen by other people.
So wouldn't it be great to beseen by other people who you
might never need to see again?
Wouldn't that be great to justhave a safe place to practice
that you could process throughthese things, to be respected,
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to have your time respected andto make sure that you are in a
container of healthy boundaries.
One of the things that I makesure that we do in my workshops
is we have healthy boundaries.
I hold people accountable totheir baggage and I make sure
that everyone who works with meis safe.
That's my top priority.
In person or online, this works.
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You'll get powerful releasework tools to take home with you
and instant feedback on yourprogress.
If you're doing an onlineworkshop, we'll have breakout
groups where you'll be able towork with another person, to get
quality feedback and to have achance to build connection with
someone you just met.
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Wouldn't it be great if youcould always build communication
skills and connection with astranger?
How would your life change ifyou were no longer having social
anxiety govern your social life?
Are no longer having socialanxiety govern your social life?
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And if you're someone who reallywants to go deep, you can join
my eight-week intensive andthat's where we really take
these learnings and go deep overthe course of eight weeks.
Now, this is for someone who isreally wanting to improve their
communication.
This is not for you if youalready think like you're the
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top communicator and you don'thave to improve anything.
So if that's you, not the rightcourse, because I am looking
for people who are fullycommitted to doing the inner
work so that they can finallybreak free from the
communication prison that hasprevented them from having the
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life of their dreams.
So, if that's you, if you'resomeone who's fully committed,
who really wants to go all in onthemselves to learn how to
release communication blocks andto step into the person that
they were always meant to be,I'd love for you to join me for
eight weeks.
We're going to have reallyin-depth sessions.
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We're going to have practicesessions and opportunities to
get feedback, and we're going tolearn how to build
relationships energetically,mentally, emotionally and
physically, so that you can havecoherence between your head,
your heart and your body.
How would that impact your life?
So I want you to just thinkabout where you're at on your
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journey.
Are you someone who reallyneeds a lot of one-on-one work
and you would benefit more fromone-on-one?
Are you someone who just needsa lot of one-on-one work and you
would benefit more fromone-on-one?
Are you someone who just wantstwo days solid, we're all in for
two days and like this is goingto help change your life
because you just have one areawhere it's really impacting you.
Or is communication reallysomething you're struggling with
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and you want to go all in foreight weeks?
You want that like communityenvironment.
You want to be able to getfeedback and practice and grow
and keep learning new toolsWherever you're at is perfectly
great and fine.
I'm so excited that you'regoing to embark on this journey
with me, because when I thinkabout journeys of transformation
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, I think about that time when Iwas climbing up the mountain
with my son and my daughter andI was at the halfway point and I
remember looking up and mydaughter is saying turn back,
and my son is saying keep going.
And I didn't feel like I had itin me and I sat with myself for
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a moment and I thought how manyother areas of your life do you
get halfway up the mountain?
And then you turn back becauseyou're afraid, because you're
afraid because you don't knowwhat's at the top of the
mountain.
And the truth was there was alot, there's a lot of areas of
my life and I just kept seeingmy kids up there and I thought
what lesson do I want them tolearn today that we give up
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halfway or that we keep goingwhen things get hard.
And I listened to my son and Iremember thinking like as I was
crawling up that mountain I wasliterally crawling, I had no
pride left.
I was crawling up the side ofthat sand mountain and I don't
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know if you've ever experiencedclimbing up a mountain of sand
before.
But you go up one step and youslide back three.
And you go up one and you slideback three, and I just knew
that I was going to get to thetop.
And I just kept holding thevision of me at the top of the
mountain and how it would feelwhen I got there and I remember
I'm crawling, literally crawling, and crying and laughing at the
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same time.
And as I got to the last stepand I put my foot on the top of
the sand hill, I felt likesomething changed and I knew for
myself what that meant and myson and I played and he's 15 at
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the time.
We played, we climbed trees, wetook pictures.
Some of my favorite picturesthat I've ever taken were at the
top of that sand hill, of thatsand hill, and there was another
dad up there and he had twoboys teenage boys and they
didn't want to take a picturewith him and I talked them into
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it and I was laughing because Iwas like your dad got all the
way up this mountain.
He deserves a picture, and itwas such a experience of
connection and just like thisfeeling that's hard to describe.
Thank you so much for takingthe time to join me today.
I really value you and yourattention, because I know that
we all have things that requirea lot of attention from us.
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Check out all of the linksbelow and I really can't wait to
see you and to help you on yourjourney.
Take care.
Hello and welcome.
I'm so grateful that you aretaking the time to spend with me
today.
My name is Tabitha MacDonald.
I am an intuitive coach and ahealer.
I help people unlock theirvoice so that they can have more
love, success, abundance andfulfillment in their lives.
Abundance and fulfillment intheir lives.
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I want to tell you a littlestory about a journey I went on
recently.
Does anyone here have some kids?
I've got two teenagers, andteenagers, in my mind, are an
absolute opportunity to do ourshadow work.
That's my new reframe and I hadthis place that we love to go.
It's called Pacific City inOregon.
There's this huge mountain ofsand like huge and I have been
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taking my children there foryears, ever since they were
little, and I've watched peopleclimb up that mountain of sand
in sheer terror, because I'vealways had a desperate fear of
heights and I wanted so badly tobe the mom who didn't sit at
the bottom of the hill makingsnacks.
I wanted to be the mom whoclimbed up the mountain with
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them, but I was very overweightand I was very out of shape, and
it's something that I hadstruggled with most of my life,
and it was about a year ago,maybe a year and a half, my kids
asked if we could go to PacificCity for the day.
Now, if you're like me and youhave teenagers and they ask to
spend time with you, the answeris always yes, of course I do.
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So we drive out to Pacific Cityand I've actually got like a
dress on and like Bergenstocksbecause I don't even think that
it's possible that I'll make itup this hill, and I thought I'll
just do what I always do I'llsit at the bottom and I'll cheer
them on and I'll be there whenthey come back down and I'll
cheer them on and I'll be therewhen they come back down.
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And this day, when I got there,I looked at all these people
climbing up that hill and Ithought to myself do I really
want to keep being the mom whosits at the bottom watching
everybody else go up the hill?
And I made a decision that Iwas going to go up that hill
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regardless, even in my bluedress, and my kids went up
before because I was doing someinner work about getting up the
hill.
And I saw them running up thehill and I saw them struggling.
I saw fit grown peoplestruggling, falling and turning
back down and returning back tothe bottom of the hill, I saw
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dogs struggling.
I mean, like when I saw peoplestruggling, I saw struggle and I
just kept asking myself thesame question Do I want to
continue to be in the struggleor do I at least want to put my
foot on the hill?
What would it feel like if Igot to the top?
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And now this was like a reallygray, overcast day, because if
you know anything about theOregon coast, it's not like the
rest of the world where theyhave beautiful, sunny beaches.
Ours tend to come with a heavydose of overcast weather and
it's cold and also extremelybeautiful.
And I just kept asking myselfwhat would it feel like if I got
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up to the top of the hill?
What would it feel like if Ieven tried?
And so I set out backpack on myback and I said I'm just going
to go as far as I can back.
And I said I'm just going to goas far as I can and I started
climbing up the hill and nodoubt about halfway up it got
hard.
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It got so hard, it got so steep,like you couldn't really tell
what angle it was at, and I wasout of breath and I was thirsty
and I was mostly terrified.
But I wasn't only terrified ofthe heights, I was terrified of
what it would mean if I didn'tget all the way up the hill, if
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I continued to be someone whoquit as soon as things got hard
and didn't make it all the wayup, got hard and didn't make it
all the way up.
Can you think of situationslike that in your life where
you're not really sure how tomove forward?
And it was so funny because upthe hill are my two kids, like
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they're almost at the top.
My daughter, who used to be mybiggest cheerleader, who used to
be my biggest cheerleader wassaying go back, it's not safe,
you'll die, like literally thosewere her words and I was so
confused because usually she'sthe one who's like you've got
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this, you've got this.
And my son, who's always beenmy inner critic, said you've got
this, just put one foot infront of the other, you can do
it.
So imagine my confusion whenthe person who's usually telling
me to stop is the one to tellme to go and the one who usually
tells me to go is the onetelling me to stop.
And I was so confused anddisoriented because I didn't
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know who to believe, and I don'tknow if you've ever felt that
way about not knowing who tobelieve, not knowing who to
trust, not knowing whichdirection to take.
It's really an interestingplace to be at and I want to ask
have you ever had your innercritic telling you what you
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could not do?
Like, don't go on a date withthat person, they're too good
for you.
Or have you ever had your innercheerleader telling you what
you could do?
Like heck yeah, go on that trip, you deserve it.
Why is communication soimportant?
Imagine you're trying toexplain your dream to someone.
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You're trying to explain yourdream to someone, but they don't
get it Frustrating right.
That's how communicationfailures can feel in everyday
life.
Whether we're at work, at homeor in social settings.
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Communication impacts everyaspect of our lives.
How we express ourselves andlisten to others can either open
doors or build walls.
It's not just about talking.
Effective communication is thekey to experiencing success,
love, abundance and fulfillment.
But how does it work and why isit so important?
And also, why do we struggle tocommunicate when we think about
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how?
How does communication affectour success In the workplace?
Being able to communicateeffectively with your team, your
clients and managers can makeor break your career.
Misunderstandings, uncleardirections and poor feedback
loops can create frustration andblock your potential for
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success.
On the other hand, clear,confident communication helps
you collaborate, present ideasand navigate challenges,
ultimately leading to growth andachievement.
When I taught interviewingskills to my students back when
I used to be a career coach,they were beginning new careers
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and I would tell them it's notyour hard skills employers are
looking at yeah, that's onepiece of it, but you all went
through the same program.
You all know how to do the samethings.
Employers are looking at yoursoft skills.
What makes you easy to workwith, what makes you coachable,
trainable, teachable.
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What makes you coachable,trainable, teachable how you
communicate, how you handledifficult situations, are you
capable of experiencingcompassion and empathy for
others?
It's the things that you can'tteach that make you hireable,
basically who you are Now.
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If that made you feel a littlenauseous, it's because there's a
part of you that's very afraidof being authentic.
Keep listening, we're going totalk about that.
In love and relationships, howdoes your communication get in
the way of healthy relationships?
I want you to answer thatquestion for a minute.
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Have you had an argument with aspouse or a kid, or maybe
someone in your extended familylike your brother or your mother
.
Communication is the foundationof connection.
Without it, misunderstandings,resentments and emotional
distance can take over.
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Sharing your thoughts, feelingsand even conflicts in a healthy
way fosters trust, love anddeeper intimacy.
I love the thought of talkingabout intimacy because I work
with a lot of people who are sodeeply afraid to communicate
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their desires and theirfantasies with their partner
because they don't know how tocommunicate it and they aren't
sure how it will be received.
Can you relate to that?
Or even with my kids, listeningto them and who they want to be
in the world not who I thoughtthey should be, but who they
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want to be.
That is a part of communication.
When we improve how we speakand listen, we nurture these
relationships.
Clients come in all of the timebecause they feel like they are
not being heard in theirrelationships.
I was working with a client whowas dating someone new and she
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was very afraid that herexplosive communication would
ruin the new relationship.
You see, every time they got ina specific situation, she would
respond by losing it.
She knew this pattern was fromher 23-year marriage to a
narcissist, but she didn't knowhow to shift it.
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In just three months, she wasable to end that behavior
altogether and did improve notonly her romantic relationships,
but her success at work and herrelationship with her own
daughters.
Now, how does this impactabundance and our ability to
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manifest?
Believe it or not, how youcommunicate impacts your ability
to manifest abundance.
When you communicate withclarity and confidence, both
with others and with yourself,you align with what you desire.
You align with what you desire.
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This energy createsopportunities, whether it's new
financial ventures, personalgrowth or even unexpected gifts
from the universe.
Miscommunication, on the otherhand, leads to missed
opportunities and frustration.
If you're anything like me,you've asked the universe to
give you something.
You've tried the manifestingthings that people tell you
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about.
Focus on the thing you desire,listen and be willing to receive
.
Have you ever heard the storyabout the man sitting on top of
a house during a hurricane andthe water is rising above and he
knows he's not safe and heprays to God and he says please
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help me out of this situation.
And a few seconds later,somebody comes by in a rowboat
and they say hey, you look likeyou're going to drown.
Hop in, I have space for you.
And he says no, no, no, it'sgood, I've asked God to send
help and I have so much faith.
Help is coming.
And so he prays again and again, with all his heart.
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He prays to God to help him outof the situation.
Help him out of the situation.
And pretty soon someone drivesby in a motorboat and they say,
hey, the water levels are rising, it's not safe, hop in, I have
room for one more.
And the gentleman says no, no,it's good, I'm praying, I've got
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this.
God has my back.
And so he prays even harder andeven harder.
And pretty soon a helicoptercomes by and the helicopter
throws down a ladder and the mansays, no, go save someone else,
I'm waiting for God.
He said he would help me.
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Fast forward at the pearly gates.
And the man standing there andsays to God I don't understand.
I prayed, I believed.
Why didn't you send any help?
And God says I sent a rowboat,a motorboat and a helicopter.
You have to be willing to seeand I love that story because a
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lot of the time ourcommunication gets in our way of
receiving the gifts of theuniverse.
Usually the response is subtle,it's a synchronicity, it's
someone saying something to youthat maybe you hadn't heard
before.
It's someone saying somethingto you that maybe you hadn't
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heard before.
I remember this one time when Iwas looking for clarity on
whether or not to open mymassage clinic.
I was standing on the side of alake and it wasn't really a
spiritual person, but I decidedto give it a try and I threw my
hands up in the air and I said Ineed to know what to do.
Do I stay here in Washington ordo I go home and begin this
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massage clinic?
And I kid you not, at thatexact moment my phone rang and
her name was Julie.
She was my very first massageclient who was referred to me by
an acupuncturist.
I had met.
Messages like that are so clear.
But if I had poor communicationwith those messages, with what
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I was asking, with how I wasreceiving, I would have ignored
it and I wouldn't have come homeand started Soma Massage, which
not only helped me build a lifethat I dreamed of, but it gave
me freedom to be a single momand still have a lot of money.
It gave me the purpose andfulfillment of teaching other
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moms how to have a flexibleincome in their lives so that
they could support theirfamilies and still be there at
soccer practice.
Our communication is usuallywounded when we're young and
that wound in your communicationneeds to be healed, and we'll
do that in this program.
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This part is so emotionallycharged for people, and that's
fulfillment and purpose.
Feeling fulfilled is deeplyconnected to how well you
communicate with yourself.
When you articulate yourdesires, values and purpose, you
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begin to live in alignment withwhat truly matters to you.
Lack of self-awareness or poorcommunication with yourself can
lead to feeling stuck or lost inlife.
Clarity of thought and speech,however, leads to taking action
on your purpose.
I'm always surprised when Imeet people who are not actively
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in alignment with their purpose, only because I feel like my
higher self won't let me do itany other way.
Talk about an avalanche ofboulders.
When I'm off track, I mean, Ilike steer the ship incorrectly
and she's like here's a hugeboulder, I need you to get back
on track.
I came here to do somethingbigger.
This was really present for mewhen I was at a seminar and
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there was a woman that I wasworking with and she had an
extremely successful life byconventional standards.
She had a lot of money, she hada successful career, she owned
a home, she had nice things, butshe wanted something more,
wanted something more, and evensaying that out loud made her
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want to cry.
She started crying when westarted working together and she
couldn't even get the words outof what she really wanted,
because she didn't feel worthyof asking for something more, of
asking for something bigger.
Can you relate?
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Have you ever had everythinglike you thought it should be,
but you wanted something more.
You wanted something bigger?
The audacity right Even justadmitting that she wanted to
pursue her passions and herpurpose made her cry.
The words literally got trappedin her throat.
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When we started workingtogether, it was about 30
minutes.
We were able to identify thepart that was blocking her and
integrate it.
The difference on her face in30 minutes just 30 minutes was
astounding.
Face in 30 minutes, just 30minutes was astounding.
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Imagine what giving yourselfthis gift of communication
transformation could do for you.
So let's talk a little bitabout the what right.
What exactly is effectivecommunication?
It goes beyond just words.
It includes body language, toneof voice and, most importantly,
listening skills.
Effective communicators areself-aware, understanding not
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only what they say but how theysay it, and they are open to
receiving feedback from others.
Did you know that body languageis 55% of communication, that's
, non-verbal communication?
The way we carry ourselvesspeaks louder than our words.
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Eye contact, posture, facialexpressions and gestures are
constantly conveying messages tothe people around us.
Our tone of voice how you saysomething often matters more
than what you say.
The same words can haveentirely different meanings
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depending on tone.
Think of how I'm fine can meana dozen different things
depending on how it's said canmean a dozen different things
depending on how it's said.
I'm fine or I'm fine or I'mfine.
No-transcript, active listening.
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Communication is a two-waystreet.
It's not something that'shappening to you or to someone
else.
It's an experience ofexpressing yourself, but also
being involved in anotherperson's experience of them
expressing themselves.
Listening with empathy andunderstanding creates connection
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and trust.
Rapport building, how we mirrorand match someone else's body
language to build trust quicklyand effectively these are all
skills you will learn when youwork with me.
The problem is that most peopleare listening and crafting
their reply at the same time,which ironically blocks them
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from hearing the other person.
You will learn how to bepresent in your communication so
that you can actually hear theperson you are speaking to Now.
I want to talk about somethingthat people aren't often
thinking about, and that'senergy.
How you are energeticallymatters.
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Most empaths that I work withsay that they can feel energy,
and they can feel everythingthat someone else is feeling,
which clutters communication,someone else's feeling, which
clutters communication.
They feel like other people arehappening to them and their
experience becomes their own.
The truth is, you have controlover your ability to take on
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other people's energy, but youhaven't yet learned how to do it
.
In this course, you will learnhow to become impenetrable to
other people's feelings.
I think this is probably one ofthe most important things I can
teach other people.
I was recently doing a two-dayshadow workhorse or it was
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one-day shadow workhorse and Ihad these two women who we were
going through an energy exercisewith and we were working on how
accurate are you in picking upother people's energy, and it
was quite interesting becauseboth of them didn't realize they
were actually filtering theirempath skills through their own
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lens which we all do but becausethey were doing that, they made
assumptions about the otherperson's intentions that were
actually really inaccurate.
And once we went through thispowerful tool which you'll learn
when you work with me oflearning how to block your
energy and to control it, andthen also when to let it down
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and then how to basically use itlike an invisible shield, that
you're in complete authority of.
Other people's energy no longerhappens to you.
It's no longer something that'sout of your control.
Now you get to be the managerof your own energy system and
also controlling whether or notpeople's energetic attacks can
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get through your shield of armor.
These are extremely powerfultools, especially if you're
presenting at, say, a meetingand you feel someone's negative
vibes ruining your experience.
Wouldn't it be great if you hada tool where it was no longer
going to impact you, where youcould just stay focused and
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present on your own experiencewithout taking on other people's
garbage?
That is one of my favoritethings to teach my students,
because I didn't realize.
I struggled with that, because,whether or not you want to talk
about energy, we all have it,and being aware of something
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doesn't make it go away.
Awareness gives you authorityover it, and that is my favorite
thing to give people isauthority over every area of
their life.
Now, how does this all happen?
Because this sounds magical,right, and I promise you it is.
So I'm going to give you alittle bit of information about
how we do this.
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Step number one is we're goingto decide what kind of
communicator you want to be.
We will get clear on exactlyhow you want to speak and behave
in any situation.
So let's say it's Friday nightand your spouse drags you to
another cocktail party for thefirm and you have to go and
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socialize and your anxiety is up.
Now that's an old pattern, it'san old way of being.
We're going to decide how youwant to be.
Would you like to be able toengage in small chat?
Would you like to be presentwith anyone you're talking to?
How would you like toexperience it?
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We're going to get really clearon what that looks like for you
because, believe it or not,we're all unique.
We have nine distinct,different personality styles
that really help us understandhow our lens of the world is
impacting our experience.
So we're going to get reallyclear on how you would like it
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to be Now.
Step two is we will identifywhere you are struggling now and
what areas of your life arebeing impacted by communication
breakdowns.
So if it's yelling at the kidsor maybe not speaking up at a
meeting, and you know you havethe right answer.
Or perhaps when you're in agroup you start sweating and you
get awkward and then your voicegets really high and it's like
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something takes over.
We want to know what that is,because if we don't know what
that is, we're not going to beable to resolve it.
Don't worry, this is done in areally safe, happy, playful kind
of way.
And you know I've done a lot oftrauma work and I try to make
trauma work light and funbecause I don't think it has to
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be heavy.
It doesn't have to be painful.
I love helping people transformtheir lives in an easy and
impactful way.
So step three removing theresistance.
I have a tool basket that'sgigantic.
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I have so many tools on how tohelp you become the person
you've always wanted to be.
I use neuro linguisticprogramming.
I have tools to help you rewirethe unconscious mind.
I have you tools to help youheal the inner child and to
integrate all parts and aspectsof you into one singular choice.
I have so many tools bodyworktools, energy tools, mindset
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tools and, most importantly,emotional regulation tools that
help you take charge of yournervous system in any
environment.
Number four we're going to testin future pace.
As with anything, we must testthe new structure.
Nobody goes and builds a bridgeand then sends a whole bunch of
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people to drive over it unlessthey've tested it first.
We want to do the same thingfor you, because with repetition
and practice comes mastery, andwe want to do that in an
environment that's safe, thatyou can practice being authentic
where the stakes aren't so high, and that way your nervous
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system will already know what itfeels like.
When I was at trainer's trainingin San Diego, we literally had
a group of people and don'tworry, we're not going to do
this in my program, unless youreally want to and can talk me
into it but we had a group ofpeople sit in front of us and we
had to tell them what ourbiggest fear was.
They acted it out while wetried to give our presentation.
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Let me tell you, if anythingwill make you bulletproof, that
experience alone was worth theprice in gold.
So what we want to do is makesure that you have chances to
practice, to test yourcommunication skills in a
healthy and safe environment,and you will receive quality
feedback from others, like howmany times have you been in some
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place and you wanted feedbackLike how did that land for you?
And everyone just said it wasgreat, but you knew there was
something you were missing.
There was something that youneeded to help you move to the
next level.
You'll get that with me.
I am such an honest feedbacktruth teller.
I would hate it if someone sentme into the world and was like
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everything is just perfect theway it is and didn't tell me
like.
Your inability to like buildrapport with people is what's
holding you back from talking.
That feedback testing andfuture pacing is one of the
things that you're going to getthe most value out of when
you're working with me in eitherone of the different settings
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that we have, and I'll tell youa little bit about a little bit
more about that in a few minutes.
So you probably have somequestions right now, and that's
totally natural and normal.
If you have a lot of questionsand you wanna get on a call with
me, I'm gonna put a link below.
The easiest way to do it,though, is just to send me a
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quick message on WhatsApp.
I'll put the link down belowand say hey, I'm really curious
about how this will work for me.
Can we set up a time to meetand I'll get back to you pretty
quickly.
Or you can just book on thebooking link below and it just
says I want more information andwe'll have a quick 20 minute
chat to figure out if this isright for you.
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Other questions that people havewhen they're looking at
improving their communication iswhat if I struggle with
confrontation, like I actuallydon't have a choice?
Many people fear confrontationbecause they associate it with
conflict, but confrontation,when done with care, can lead to
deeper understanding andresolution, done when done with
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care, can lead to deeperunderstanding and resolution.
Practice, gentle confrontation.
We're going to teach you how tohave a healthy confrontation
with someone.
You see, many of us grew up inhomes where our parents didn't
have the communication skillsright.
I'm like I'm a 75.
Like I was born in 75.
I'm part of Gen X.
We were told to go outside allday and figure it out.
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We didn't have talks about howwe felt.
We didn't have communicationclasses and I'm pretty sure we
had like the highest divorcerate because we just don't know
how to communicate with otherpeople in a way that's authentic
and that's also setting bothparties up for success in the
conversation.
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That's something I want toteach you how to do.
How does your communicationhold you back?
That might be another questionthat you have, and I really want
you to think about this.
Poor communication can createfrustration, resentment and even
self-sabotage, whether it's inrelationships, in your career,
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personal growth.
Not expressing your needs andboundaries leads to unmet
expectations and disappointment.
I am a big fan of learningabout your attachment style, and
it's one of the things thatwe'll do together, because
anxious attachment styles haveso much anxiety, and I remember
reading the book attached aftermy divorce and really figuring
out how my attachment style wasimpacting my relationships, and
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one of the things that I feltmost frustrated with was that I
didn't know how to get to themagical land of a secure
attachment style.
I understood it was there, butI didn't feel like I had the
magic jet to get over to thatisland.
One of the things we're goingto do is talk about how to
develop and harness a secureattachment style, and that is
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going to impact communication inevery area of your life.
How does communication affectmy confidence?
And I really want you to thinkabout this.
Have you ever had to go to asocial situation and chug back a
couple glasses of wine so thatyou could get a little liquid
courage before you actually wentup and talked to people.
That used to be me.
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I used to have to get drunk ormoderately buzzed before I could
even talk.
To be me, I used to have to getdrunk or like moderately like
buzzed before I could even talkto new people.
I was so scared of just beingmyself and actually kind of also
being bored.
Sometimes I'm not really greatwith small chat or talking about
things that aren't interestingto me and that was really
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impacting my ability to just bein social situations and get out
of my head.
Your ability to express yourselfimpacts your confidence.
When you learn to speak yourtruth and communicate clearly,
your self-esteem grows.
Who doesn't want moreself-esteem?
Well, and I'm not talking likeego, I'm better than everyone's
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self-esteem.
I mean that deep innerauthority and knowing of who you
are and who you came here to be.
People who communicateconfidently are often seen as
leaders and are more likely toachieve their goals.
So are you ready to starttransforming your communication
today?
I hope so, because I can't waitto meet you.
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I am so excited that you havewatched this video or listened
to my podcast and that you'reready, because you're ready to
experience more success, love,abundance and fulfillment right
now.
How would it feel to wake up inthe morning and to just feel
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good, to feel good in your body,to feel good in your life, to
feel good in your relationships.
How would it feel to just wakeup and feel good?
That's what I wanna help you doNow.
There's a couple of differentways that you can work with me.
I do one-on-one coaching,online or in person either one.
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If you're in person, we'llevaluate your physical blocks.
We can work with the actualsomatic practices that I do with
body work by unlocking yourtongue, helping with jaw pain
and other pain in your life, anddefinitely postural alignment
that prevents you from speakingyour truth.
Online, we can have just asmuch effect.
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It's just going to be adifferent way that we interact.
I'm going to give you somepostural alignment exercises,
help you have exercises tounlock your mouth and your
tongue, and also you'll get ahuge benefit.
So don't think that justbecause we're not going to meet
in person, if you choose online,that you won't have just as
much of a result because youwill.
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Correcting these physical blockscould be the thing that your
voice was waiting for.
Perhaps the block that you'restruggling with is a mental,
emotional or energetic, and manypeople who struggled to
communicate had an experience inearly childhood.
Let me know if you can relatewhen bullying or a humiliating
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social or school experience madethem decide to block their
voice.
Perhaps it was something evenbigger, like growing up in a
home with an active alcoholic,or maybe there was an
emotionally unavailable parent.
I have tools to remove all ofyour blocks.
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My clients always tell me thesesessions were so powerful.
It was like 10 years of therapyin three hours.
That's what I want to gift you.
Is that transformation,unlocking your voice.
So we can either work one-on-onein person or online.
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If you're in person, I'm inLake Oswego, oregon.
I see people in person forone-on-one sessions.
You can come to one of mytwo-day workshops.
They're in person and online.
Over the course of two days wego deep, we do an intensive, we
work through these blocks withlike-minded people, we heal in
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community.
One of the biggest fears andfrustrations people have is
being seen by other people.
So wouldn't it be great to beseen by other people who you
might never need to see again?
Wouldn't that be great to justhave a safe place to practice
that you could process throughthese things, to be respected,
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to have your time respected andto make sure that you are in a
container of healthy boundaries.
One of the things that I makesure that we do in my workshops
is we have healthy boundaries.
I hold people accountable totheir baggage and I make sure
that everyone who works with meis safe.
That's my top priority.
In person or online, this works.
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You'll get powerful releasework tools to take home with you
and instant feedback on yourprogress.
If you're doing an onlineworkshop, we'll have breakout
groups where you'll be able towork with another person, to get
quality feedback and to have achance to build connection with
someone you just met.
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Wouldn't it be great if youcould always build communication
skills and connection with astranger?
How would your life change ifyou were no longer having social
anxiety govern your social life?
Are no longer having socialanxiety govern your social life?
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And if you're someone who reallywants to go deep, you can join
my eight-week intensive andthat's where we really take
these learnings and go deep overthe course of eight weeks.
Now, this is for someone who isreally wanting to improve their
communication.
This is not for you if youalready think like you're the
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top communicator and you don'thave to improve anything.
So if that's you, not the rightcourse, because I am looking
for people who are fullycommitted to doing the inner
work so that they can finallybreak free from the
communication prison that hasprevented them from having the
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life of their dreams.
So, if that's you, if you'resomeone who's fully committed,
who really wants to go all in onthemselves to learn how to
release communication blocks andto step into the person that
they were always meant to be,I'd love for you to join me for
eight weeks.
We're going to have reallyin-depth sessions.
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We're going to have practicesessions and opportunities to
get feedback, and we're going tolearn how to build
relationships energetically,mentally, emotionally and
physically, so that you can havecoherence between your head,
your heart and your body.
How would that impact your life?
So I want you to just thinkabout where you're at on your
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journey.
Are you someone who reallyneeds a lot of one-on-one work
and you would benefit more fromone-on-one?
Are you someone who just needsa lot of one-on-one work and you
would benefit more fromone-on-one?
Are you someone who just wantstwo days solid, we're all in for
two days and like this is goingto help change your life
because you just have one areawhere it's really impacting you.
Or is communication reallysomething you're struggling with
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and you want to go all in foreight weeks?
You want that like communityenvironment.
You want to be able to getfeedback and practice and grow
and keep learning new toolsWherever you're at is perfectly
great and fine.
I'm so excited that you'regoing to embark on this journey
with me, because when I thinkabout journeys of transformation
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, I think about that time when Iwas climbing up the mountain
with my son and my daughter andI was at the halfway point and I
remember looking up and mydaughter is saying turn back,
and my son is saying keep going.
And I didn't feel like I had itin me and I sat with myself for
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a moment and I thought how manyother areas of your life do you
get halfway up the mountain?
And then you turn back becauseyou're afraid, because you're
afraid because you don't knowwhat's at the top of the
mountain.
And the truth was there was alot, there's a lot of areas of
my life and I just kept seeingmy kids up there and I thought
what lesson do I want them tolearn today that we give up
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halfway or that we keep goingwhen things get hard.
And I listened to my son and Iremember thinking like as I was
crawling up that mountain I wasliterally crawling, I had no
pride left.
I was crawling up the side ofthat sand mountain and I don't
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know if you've ever experiencedclimbing up a mountain of sand
before.
But you go up one step and youslide back three.
And you go up one and you slideback three, and I just knew
that I was going to get to thetop.
And I just kept holding thevision of me at the top of the
mountain and how it would feelwhen I got there and I remember
I'm crawling, literally crawling, and crying and laughing at the
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same time.
And as I got to the last stepand I put my foot on the top of
the sand hill, I felt likesomething changed and I knew for
myself what that meant and myson and I played and he's 15 at
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the time.
We played, we climbed trees, wetook pictures.
Some of my favorite picturesthat I've ever taken were at the
top of that sand hill, of thatsand hill, and there was another
dad up there and he had twoboys teenage boys and they
didn't want to take a picturewith him and I talked them into
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it and I was laughing because Iwas like your dad got all the
way up this mountain.
He deserves a picture, and itwas such a experience of
connection and just like thisfeeling that's hard to describe.
Thank you so much for takingthe time to join me today.
I really value you and yourattention, because I know that
we all have things that requirea lot of attention from us.
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Check out all of the linksbelow and I really can't wait to
see you and to help you on yourjourney.
Take care.
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