Forbidden Moves: 7 Taboo Ways to Build Trust in Bed

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Speaker 1 (00:01):
Do the sex.
I'm Annette Benedetti, host ofthe podcast formerly known as
Locker Room Talkin' Shots.
The show has a new name TalkSex with Annette, but at its
core, this is still your lockerroom.
It's where we strip away shame,get curious and speak the
unspoken about sex, kink, dating, pleasure and desire.

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Around here, nothing's offlimits.
Pleasure and desire Around here, nothing's off limits.
These are the kinds ofconversations we save for our
boldest group chats, our mosttrusted friends and, of course,
the women's locker room.
Think raw, honest and sometimesunapologetically raunchy.
If you've been here from thebeginning, thank you, and if
you're new, welcome to mypodcast, where desire meets

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disruption and pleasure becomespower.
Now let's talk about sex Cheers.
Today's Talk Sex with Annettetopic is seven forbidden moves
that actually build more trustand give you more O's in the
bedroom.
You know what kills intimacyfaster than bad technique it's

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playing it safe.
We've been taught that certainthings in the bedroom are off
limits, too taboo, too risky,too out there.
But here's the truth.
Those so-called forbidden movesmight actually be the key to
creating more connection, moretrust and more unforgettable
intimacy.
And here's the kicker thisepisode is your primer for

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Kinktober, also known asLocktober.
Yep.
All October I'm going to bedropping kinky guides, tutorials
and explorations that go waybeyond the basics.
If you want to get them, firstmake sure you're signed up for
my e-newsletter.
That's where I'll be sharingeverything from spicy beginner
guides to advanced deep dives,and you can sign up for my

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e-newsletter by scrolling downto the links in the description
of this episode, and thereyou're going to find a link to
my e-newsletter.
But today I'm going to begiving you a grab bag of
forbidden moves.
Some are sensual, some areflirtatious and some are
downright adventurous, but allare backed by science.

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And, the best part, you don'thave to pick just one.
You can add these in slowly,mix and match and see which ones
make your intimate connectionexplode.
But before we dive in, I wantto remind you that I'm over on
OnlyFans and there I am sharingmy sex and intimacy demos, audio

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guided self-pleasuremeditations and so much more.
I am also now offering someone-on-one sex and intimacy
coaching over on OnlyFans.
If you are not ready to committo a full coaching regimen, you
can send me your one-offquestions and get them answered

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there, so you can get there withmy handle.
At TalkSexWithAnnette, you canalso scroll down and find a link
to get you there.
You can also find me over onSubstack doing a whole lot of
the same thing, minus thecoaching.
So you can find me there alsoby my handle at
TalkSexWithAnette and again,scroll down and you're going to
find me everywhere you want tofind me in the links provided

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below.
But for now, let's dive in andget you started with some simple
, entry-level forbidden movesthat are guaranteed to level up
your sex life, starting tonight,cheers.
The first taboo move that isgoing to start adding some spice
to your life and get it primedfor Kingtober is the consent

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contract.
Think of this as dirty talkmeets a safety net.
Before you touch anything, youboth say what you want to try
Maybe a little spice, maybe somegentle restraint, maybe just
whispering fantasies you'venever admitted out loud.
Saying it first doesn't killthe vibe.
It actually turns somethingthat feels risky into something

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deliciously intentional.
Something that feels risky intosomething deliciously
intentional.
It's like foreplay for thebrain.
So here's a tip If you don'tknow where to start.
There are tons of consentcontracts out there on the
internet that list tons of playoptions, everything from vanilla
to heavy kinkster.
Just reading through thecontract with each other can be

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an aphrodisiac, while giving youand your partner some inspiring
ideas for ways to spice up yourintimate life.
Here's an important noteCreating this contract should be
a judgment-free zone.
For instance, find out yourpartner has a foot fetish.
Don't yuck their yum.
Use it as an excuse to go get anew pedicure and explore their

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body with something other thanyour hands, or give them a plate
.
I'm not quite ready to go thereyet.
So the science behind why theconsent contract is so exciting
for a relationship is thatexplicit consent activates your
prefrontal cortex, the decisionmaking hub that reduces fear

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responses and lets the bodyfocus on pleasure instead of
defense.
So taboo move number two that isgoing to start lighting up your
intimate life is temperaturetease.
There's nothing quite likerunning an ice cube across warm

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skin, then following it with theheat of your palm, or flip it.
Use a warm washcloth and chaseit with something cool.
It's sensory whiplash in thebest way.
Start slow, let her skin adjustand watch goosebumps spread
everywhere.
Now here's one of my favoritetips.
You can start by experimentingwith a warm massage candle, like

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this pheromone-packed one fromEye of Love.
It's called Matchmaker and Ipersonally love it.
The heat from the candle.
Wax, combined with sensualtouch is sure to spice things up
.
Try dripping the wax on thechest, the lower belly and the
inner thighs, then let yourhands do the exploration there.

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Add in a little ice play andyou're bound to experience some
explosive intimacy.
The science behind whytemperature play is so erotic is
that thermal receptors in yourskin respond most strongly to
contrast.
Cold and heat stimulatedifferent neural pathways,

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making the sensation more vividand unforgettable.
Forbidden taboo move.
Number three that is sure tolight up your playtime in bed is
light sensory constraint.
A silk scarf around the wrists,hands gently pinned above her
head, that moment where sherealizes she could move if she

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wants to, but chooses not to.
It feels a little dangerous,but it's actually gentle.
The thrill comes fromsurrendering just enough to feel
safe and excited.
So the science behind why thisis so sexy is that safer
restraint calms the nervoussystem in a similar way to
weighted blankets, pairingvulnerability with comfort.

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The combo lowers cortisol, thestress hormone, and releases
oxytocin.
You get to start bonding.
Forbidden taboo move.
Number four is roll illusion.
Here's how you bring it intothe bedroom.
So slip into a differentversion of yourself for a night.

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Maybe you're the professorteaching a private lesson, or a
stranger at the bar that sheshouldn't be flirting with.
You don't even need costumes,just shift your voice, attitude,
eye contact or energy.
It feels like stepping outsideof the lines, which is why it's
so intoxicating.

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So the reason why this laterole play is so sexy and can
start heating things up in bedis that role play activates the
brain's mirror neurons, blurringimagination and reality.
That overlap, boosts arousaland helps partners see each
other in new, exciting ways.

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Here's one of my hot tips foryou.
If you find role play awkward,intimidating, you feel silly
trying to act like someone else.
Try diving into maybe adifferent part of yourself.
Do you act different in aprofessional setting, for
example, if you have amanagement role at work, just

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step into that boss persona andbring it into the bedroom for a
hot second.
See how she reacts when youstart giving her some order.
Next thing you know she'll beapplying to be your secretary.
Yes, please.
The next taboo move to layerinto your bedroom life is the
forbidden whisper.
There's power in a whisper.

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Lean in lips close to her earand say something you've never
said before or something she'dnever expect to hear from you.
A secret fantasy, a curiouswhat if I did this to you?
Or a desire you've been holdingback.
It's the contrast betweensecrecy and closeness that makes

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her shiver.
So what's the science behindthe forbidden whisper that makes
it such a turn-on?
Whispering stimulates theauditory cortex and the vagus
nerve, creating a whole bodyresponse.
Add in adrenaline and oxytocinand you've got intimacy that
lingers long after Taboo movenumber six that's definitely

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going to next level.
Your intimate life is mirrorplay.
Nothing feels more exposed orhotter than watching yourself
get hot together in the mirror.
The first glance feels taboo,like you've caught yourself
doing something you shouldn't,but once you lean into it,
you'll notice her expression,the way your bodies move

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together and a level of presencethat's hard to find anywhere
else.
Now, why is this such a turn-on?
Mirrors heighten self-awareness, which can amplify arousal when
combined with touch.
Psych studies show that sharedexposure in safe conditions
builds both vulnerability andtrust, and nothing gives you

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bigger O's than trust in thebedroom.
And finally, we are to forbiddenmove number seven controlled
denial, pause.
Here's the ultimate tease.
Start something sensual, gether breathing heavy and then
pause just for a beat.

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Let her body hang in that spacewhere she's begging for more
and then dive back in the stopand go is what makes it
irresistible.
Tension release tension again.
The science behind this issolid.
Research on delayedgratification shows dopamine

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spikes higher when reward isdelayed.
That pause builds a biggerpayoff.
Anticipation literally wiresthe brain for stronger pleasure,
and we all want strongerpleasure, right?
So here's your challenge as wemove towards Kinktober pick one

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forbidden move from this listand try it tonight.
And if you're serious aboutturning up the heat this fall,
get on my newsletter list rightnow.
I'll be sending out kinkyguides all throughout Kinktober
and you won't want to miss them.
And look, I'm going to takethis challenge a little bit
further.
Start mixing and matching thesemoves.

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See how they play out in oneplay session.
Does she look at youdifferently afterwards?
I'm betting she will.
You'll also learn a whole lotmore about each other, and
knowledge in a relationship inbed is power, and that power
always converts to pleasure.

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Give it a try, tell me what youthink.
Make sure to drop a commentbelow this video if you're on my
YouTube channel atTalkSexWithAnnette.
If you're a listener, head onover there, drop your comment,
or you can always send me yourcomments and thoughts to Annette
at TalkSexWithAnnette.
If you're a listener, head onover there, drop your comment,
or you can always send me yourcomments and thoughts to annette
at talksexwithannettecom.
You can also scroll down to thenotes section below and there
you will find my speak pipe andyou can send me a voicemail and

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I will get back to you as soonas possible.
If you are looking for a wingwoman, a cheerleader or a coach
in your intimate life, my booksare open.
Reach out to me at Annette atTalkSexWithAnnettecom.
We'll set up a time to gettogether, and if you're not
quite ready to commit to a fullcoaching regimen, head over to
my OnlyFans page and thereyou're not only going to get my

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demos and my audio guidedself-pleasure meditations that
are all designed to bring morepleasure to your life.
You're also going to have theopportunity for some really
quick one-on-one coachingsessions.
No commitment, big payoff.
You can find me there atTalkSex with an F.
So until next time, folks, I'llsee you in the locker room.

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Cheers.

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