September 26, 2023 • 17 mins
Are you equipped with the grit and resilience of a sea turtle?
Get ready to challenge your beliefs as we journey through an exploration of parental relationships and their impact on our lives. This episode focuses on the perspective sea turtles give us on independence and the significance of finding alternative sources of support, be it friends, coaches, or therapists. We question the expectations we hold for our parents and how altering these expectations can lead to more fulfilling lives.
But the exploration doesn't stop there. We underline the profound power of giving and how it fosters a positive cycle of fulfillment. Moreover, we discuss the art of being proactive with our resources to maximize our potential. Remember, you're smarter than a sea turtle, so let's utilize that intelligence to live our best lives. Don't forget to subscribe and share this enriching episode with your circle!
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Speaker 1 (00:03):
Welcome to the show.
Today.
I have a question for you Areyou smarter than a sea turtle?
Now, the answer to that, I hopethis is easy.
That's what I intended to stumpyou or make you think, or
whatever.
I'm hoping you're like seaturtles are fucking awesome.
They're beautiful, magnificentcreatures.
(00:24):
They're phenomenal.
Yes, I'm smarter, more capablethan a sea turtle.
You're like okay, great, whenis this going?
It's going to go to a placethat will allow you to have an
entirely new perspective on howyou have viewed your
relationships, especially therelationships with your parents,
(00:47):
whether they're around, notaround, because, let's face it,
the impact that our parents hadon us, whether we even got to
know them or not and last ourentire lifetime.
That's the topic for today.
Before I want to get into that,I want to just let you know
what's going on when this comesout this is after I will have
(01:11):
done a free masterclass on yourideal life, basically how to
unlock having your ideal life10x faster and easier.
It's basically how to actuallygo from wanting to having,
because the last episode was allabout that I'm preparing for.
(01:32):
I'm super excited about all thethings I'm going to teach.
It's been a while since I'vedone a masterclass because a lot
has come up.
I had my travels, went toCentral America right, my
grandmother passed right afterthe book was launched.
There's just been a lot of lifehappening.
Yet one of the things that'smost important in my life, that
(01:52):
I want to create, is amazingbusiness, where I serve people
and help them grow.
It's so great to be gettingback into that.
The creativity has just beenoff the charts and I'm excited
to get that to you.
Do make sure that you'refollowing me on all the social
media Justin Wink PhD.
That's Facebook, TikTok,Instagram.
(02:14):
Also, if you can find me onLinkedIn, and also if you go to
justinwinkcom slash podcast, youcan subscribe to the email list
there and you'll be gettingupdates on what's going on
things like that and working toget more consistent and even
better content to you in waysthat are accessible for you, so
(02:34):
that you can have the knowledgeand the consistency to change
your life.
Our life is a lot like our bankaccount A lot of times.
It's really not all thatcomplicated.
It just requires a littleeffort, sustained over long
periods of time, to have massive, massive impacts.
That's the power of compoundinginterest when it comes to your
(02:54):
401k, your savings, whatever itis.
That's what the banks andanybody who wants to lend you
money or offer you credit theyare using that for their benefit
.
You want to use it for yourbenefit, not just in finances,
but for your life, and listeningto this show is like putting a
little deposit in your life bankaccount, and if you keep
(03:16):
listening to this show everyweek, you're going to get big
benefits.
And if you put in even morewhich is, like you know, you
attend one of my courses, masterclasses or read the book, it's
going to be even morespectacular.
So if you have any questionsabout that, send an email.
Podcast JustinWinkcom.
So that's one of the thingsthat's been really exciting me
(03:38):
is creating and getting thismaterial to more people in more
ways, and so do ask if you canshare this with a friend or
colleague, somebody that youthink is like you know, just on
the cuss, it's like they'rewanting to change, but they
really haven't found just theright person or the right
message or the right whatever itis Like.
(04:01):
It's worked for you, Probablyworked for them.
So this question are yousmarter than a sea turtle?
It was inspired by my friend,Carrie Lynn, friend of the show,
just did a podcast with it cameout a couple of weeks ago and
she was having well, maybeanyway we were having a
(04:21):
discussion about parents andthings like that, because she
knows about my parents, thechallenges that I've had with
them.
You know my mother's past, youknow my father and I we barely
talk and and so she just kind ofasked my perspective on, you
know, family and things likethat and and just kind of saying
(04:43):
, like isn't it a bummer whenyou know that your, your, your
family, and they never, just youknow, went to therapy or did,
did whatever that they didn'tfix themselves so that they
could have a better relationshipwith you, how come aren't you
ever frustrated that it was likealways you doing doing the work
or not having the relationship,but do you feel like you were
(05:04):
always the one missing out?
And that's when this like well,why do we have this assumption
that our parents are supposed to, you know, not just you know
give us the genetic material andenough to be birthed in this
world, but supposed to fuckinggive us everything that we
desire from them for our entiregoddamn lives?
(05:25):
I mean, I, I get it, I wantedthat too, and parts of me still
would like that.
Yet when we look to nature, wesee that that's not always the
case, right, that you know.
Yes, there are some, somespecies, that there is that no
nurturing, loving, whatever.
For you know, I can't eventhink of any right now.
(05:47):
Yet I do know of one amazingcase, which is basically the
parents are like we create, wecreated the genetic material and
give you enough food, peace out, bitch, you're on your fucking
own.
And that is the majestic,beautiful sea turtle.
That's right, Sea turtles, mamasea turtle, daddy sea turtle.
(06:09):
They're out there swimmingaround.
Somehow they find each other,they fall in love.
They do what it takes to createsea turtle eggs that are going
to turn into sea turtles.
I believe they then go theirseparate ways.
I only did the most minimalamount of research for this.
I do have experience seeing asea turtle lay eggs in Costa
Rica.
This was now a couple of yearsago.
(06:29):
Got up at like 3 30 in themorning and shuttled out to a
remote beach where sea turtlescome up onto the shore, they dig
their little things and theylay their eggs.
You know tens I don't know ifit's even over a hundred a shit
ton of eggs just to the sand.
They kind of cover them up andthen they take back to the sea.
(06:50):
They're just like it's like anin and out mission, like a
covert operation, special forcestype of a thing going in, going
to deliver the payload and getthe fuck out before dawn so that
the enemy can't, can't doanything.
And there are enemies, becausethere's one, there's other sea
turtles.
They don't give a shit, they'rejust like oh, this, this looks
like an easy place to dig mylittle whatever and I'll just
(07:13):
dig over, smash the eggs thatare already here.
And there's also other birds.
There's birds with those meanbeaks just pecking, pecking at
the egg.
So you're like, oh, that's somegood, yummy sea turtles egg,
yum, yum in there.
So they, you know, they got toget in, get out before something
happens to them and hopefullyget the eggs covered enough so
that they're protected enough sothat they can then be born.
(07:35):
And when they're born, theselittle baby sea turtles, they
are completely on their own.
They got to get out of that egg.
No help, there's no mama theregoing.
You can do it, you can do it indoctors and all this stuff like
that we humans get.
So they're on their own andthen they've got their 100 plus,
because it's not just theireggs and their little hole, but
(07:57):
it's the whole beach startspopping out and they got a flop.
You know a little little teenyflipper, flapper, pans, feet,
whatever they got to try to maketo the beach.
Where then?
This is where the birds are,here again.
They're here waiting, goinglike, oh my gosh, let me see
what I can get.
And then I'm sure in the oceanthere's probably other things
wanting to have a little turtlesoup and all that stuff.
(08:18):
And so it's.
It's a very harsh, harsh welcometo the world with no, no
parental supervision, noparental guidance, just pure
instinct, Just, whatever thesesea turtles have is what they
get.
And so, from that, when we lookat what we as humans get, what
(08:38):
we as humans get, it's way, waybetter, way, way, way easier.
And I'm not saying that it'snot not okay.
Whatever might have happened toyou, you wanted more.
There's nothing wrong withwanting more than what you got,
it's totally okay.
Just, I assume you're an adultlistening to this, I'm an adult
giving this, and even if you'renot an adult, but you're, these
(08:59):
are adult things and eitheryou're able to comprehend this
or you're just loving the soundin my voice and maybe you're
even falling asleep to this, andhopefully, if you're driving
you're not falling asleep, butif you're somewhere where you
can't fall asleep and this helpsyou, like good I've heard, I've
got a nice soothing voice andI'm grateful for that and
grateful for you listening.
Whatever the reason, whateveryou get out of this, what's
(09:21):
important is that you see, yeah,boy, I completely.
I was on a train and I don'tknow where the train went.
It's almost.
This is almost like watchingone of these Westerns.
I just recently watched aWestern called Jonah Hex.
It was actually based on a DCcomic and it takes place in like
(09:45):
1870 something.
So there's cowboys and they'reon to that and for whatever
reason, they're like we got tohave a train robbery because
every, every Western needs tohave a train robbery and they,
they, they decoupled the fronttrain from the back train and
then blew the black back trainup and I there's a little bit I
(10:06):
feel like the back of my trainjust got completely blown up,
like in this Jonah Hex movie,which I I don't recommend,
unless you just likeridiculousness.
It was a ridiculous, ridiculousmovie, but sometimes we need a
little ridiculousness.
So what's important is when wecompare our lives to that of the
sea turtle and we want more,and it's okay to want them more.
(10:29):
But when we don't get more.
But we are adults and we'recapable, we're capable of going,
getting more, way more capablethan the sea turtle.
So are you smarter than a seaturtle?
If you said no, I'm just goingto say then you're not getting
any of this anyway, Because you,if you're a human that can
listen to this and understandthis, you're, you can totally
(10:50):
get this.
You're totally smarter than sea.
Otherwise, you're just being anasshole.
You're being an asshole Ifyou're like, no, I'm not smarter
than a sea turtle.
The brilliance of a sea turtle.
They're beautiful, they'reamazing, they're spectacular,
Very talented.
Love the sea turtle side, Oneof my favorite things to see
when scuba diving.
You are so much smarter than asea turtle, so much more capable
(11:10):
, so much more powerful of whatyou can do, what you can bring
in, what you can learn, what youcan accomplish.
That If you just have now, asan adult, the same expectations
of your parents as that seaturtle does, how much easier is
your life going to be,especially compared to a sea
(11:32):
turtle.
You don't have to worry aboutbirds pecking your eyes out I
mean as a kid, when there wasthe movie the birds, I think,
came on, that got into my headand I was like, oh, I better be
on the lookout for birds wantingto peck my eyes out.
I'm honest, it's not a big fear.
We also don't have to worry somuch about getting eaten by a
(11:52):
shark or whatever.
There's a lot of things that wedon't have to worry about that
the sea turtles do.
We're so much more capable tobring in the people that can
give us the guidance, can giveus the support.
That doesn't have to be ourparents.
It can be our friends, it canbe coaches, it can be therapists
, it can be the appropriatecoworkers.
You can have a family of choice, you can have people playing
(12:16):
these roles and it doesn't haveto be your parents.
When you let go of thatexpectation that your parents,
you as an adult I'm not talkingabout kids, this is not a kids
show I have this mark toexplicit so that I can say all
the naughty words that GeorgeCronin said you can't say,
because think of the childrenshit, piss, cunt, fuck, cock
suck, mother, fuck, kitts.
I can say those things on thisbecause this is an adult program
(12:37):
and those words are just words.
It's really the intentionbehind them.
The intention is for you tohave a whole new perspective on
how you've lived your life andhow you could live it moving
forward.
Be like a sea turtle in havingthe expectation that your
parents aren't there to be youronly sole support.
(12:58):
They might provide no moresupport If they do by some
chance.
Be so grateful, Be so happy, Yetbe like the human that knows
there's so much more you can dothan the sea turtle.
You have so many more resources.
You can swim in the ocean, youcan fly in the air, you can walk
on the land and you can ask forhelp.
(13:19):
That ability to ask for help isone of the most amazing things
we humans have.
We often think that, oh, thatmeans that I failed, that I'm
broken, that there's somethingnot good about me.
I should have gotten it fromthese parents, this mom, this
dad or whatever the situation is.
However you're raised, Yet it'sreally the most beautiful sign
(13:41):
that you have an awareness ofwhere you are and that you're
like I am not going to stay here, I'm not going to continue
living this way.
I see that someone else hasfigured it out and you're
willing to give that gift ofsaying help me out, Show me the
way.
What's the easier path?
What are the options?
I'm sure you're a very capable,brilliant.
(14:02):
Again, you're smarter than asea turtle.
I bet you've helped some peoplein your day.
Some people probably asked youfor help.
Could be small, could be big,whatever it is.
How did you feel?
I bet you felt so fucking good.
You felt useful.
You felt amazingly.
Oh yeah, so glad that I wasable to help out.
This is great.
I wish them the best and wishthem happiness, joy, and I hope
(14:25):
their life is easier than me.
At least that's a message.
If not, then you really probablyshouldn't be listening to me.
I'm probably not the person foryou.
If you're like, no, everyoneshould just do it on their own
and I was on food stamps andwelfare and nobody helped me.
Like screw everybody else.
If that's your attitude like Ireally don't, you shouldn't be
(14:46):
listening.
I don't want to work with you,Just go somewhere else.
Like that attitude makes nosense.
There's more than enough in theworld and when we're giving, it
really just shows us how muchwe have and then we get that
much more in return, notnecessarily from that particular
individual, but it comes backespecially in how good we feel
about ourselves.
And so when you ask somebodyfor help, you're giving that
(15:08):
gift of allowing them to feelamazing, useful and of service.
So are you smarter than a seaturtle?
Absolutely, Absolutely.
You just didn't know it, youjust didn't see it that way that
you don't need your parents todo anything for you anymore.
And you might be like butJustin, I have these
circumstances with finances, orI have this, or I have that, and
(15:31):
you may.
I'm not saying that any of thatisn't true.
Yet there's always options,there's always ways, there's
always other things to do,there's always other people that
can help out.
It's just by having limitedperspective that you limit your
choices and you limit theability to make new decisions.
Yet when you open yourperspective out and you see that
(15:53):
, oh, there's other people,there's other options, there's
other ways, Then you see thatyou don't need what you thought
you need.
In fact, you have the resourceswithin you to bring about
whatever it is you need, Becausethere really is so much
possibility in the world and itreally has just been a slight
(16:14):
miseducation that there reallyis not enough, that there isn't
the help and that you got tofight hard.
You got to scrap claw to getyour piece of the pie.
It's an ever-expanding pie.
There's plenty of pie and it'sdelicious and sea turtle might
get sick from that kind of pie.
But you're not a sea turtle,You're smarter.
You know how to adjust it andyou know how to work with it.
(16:36):
You know how to enjoy it andthen be ready for even more pie.
So with that, I thank you andif you've been watching the
video doing this in front of,I've got a little sarong that's
got a sea scene on it and it'sbeen really fun.
It's not real, I'm not reallyunder the ocean, but I just felt
(16:59):
inspired by talking about seaturtles to bring out my
sea-themed sarong and bring alittle sea vibe.
So, with that, do encourage youto like, subscribe, share this
with people and podcast atJustinWinkcom if you got any
questions, or slide into mydirect messages on the social
media.
Justinwink PhD.
(17:20):
With that, I do, thank you somuch for being a listener and
thank you and good day.
Welcome to the show.
Today.
I have a question for you Areyou smarter than a sea turtle?
Now, the answer to that, I hopethis is easy.
That's what I intended to stumpyou or make you think, or
whatever.
I'm hoping you're like seaturtles are fucking awesome.
They're beautiful, magnificentcreatures.
(00:24):
They're phenomenal.
Yes, I'm smarter, more capablethan a sea turtle.
You're like okay, great, whenis this going?
It's going to go to a placethat will allow you to have an
entirely new perspective on howyou have viewed your
relationships, especially therelationships with your parents,
(00:47):
whether they're around, notaround, because, let's face it,
the impact that our parents hadon us, whether we even got to
know them or not and last ourentire lifetime.
That's the topic for today.
Before I want to get into that,I want to just let you know
what's going on when this comesout this is after I will have
(01:11):
done a free masterclass on yourideal life, basically how to
unlock having your ideal life10x faster and easier.
It's basically how to actuallygo from wanting to having,
because the last episode was allabout that I'm preparing for.
(01:32):
I'm super excited about all thethings I'm going to teach.
It's been a while since I'vedone a masterclass because a lot
has come up.
I had my travels, went toCentral America right, my
grandmother passed right afterthe book was launched.
There's just been a lot of lifehappening.
Yet one of the things that'smost important in my life, that
(01:52):
I want to create, is amazingbusiness, where I serve people
and help them grow.
It's so great to be gettingback into that.
The creativity has just beenoff the charts and I'm excited
to get that to you.
Do make sure that you'refollowing me on all the social
media Justin Wink PhD.
That's Facebook, TikTok,Instagram.
(02:14):
Also, if you can find me onLinkedIn, and also if you go to
justinwinkcom slash podcast, youcan subscribe to the email list
there and you'll be gettingupdates on what's going on
things like that and working toget more consistent and even
better content to you in waysthat are accessible for you, so
(02:34):
that you can have the knowledgeand the consistency to change
your life.
Our life is a lot like our bankaccount A lot of times.
It's really not all thatcomplicated.
It just requires a littleeffort, sustained over long
periods of time, to have massive, massive impacts.
That's the power of compoundinginterest when it comes to your
(02:54):
401k, your savings, whatever itis.
That's what the banks andanybody who wants to lend you
money or offer you credit theyare using that for their benefit
.
You want to use it for yourbenefit, not just in finances,
but for your life, and listeningto this show is like putting a
little deposit in your life bankaccount, and if you keep
(03:16):
listening to this show everyweek, you're going to get big
benefits.
And if you put in even morewhich is, like you know, you
attend one of my courses, masterclasses or read the book, it's
going to be even morespectacular.
So if you have any questionsabout that, send an email.
Podcast JustinWinkcom.
So that's one of the thingsthat's been really exciting me
(03:38):
is creating and getting thismaterial to more people in more
ways, and so do ask if you canshare this with a friend or
colleague, somebody that youthink is like you know, just on
the cuss, it's like they'rewanting to change, but they
really haven't found just theright person or the right
message or the right whatever itis Like.
(04:01):
It's worked for you, Probablyworked for them.
So this question are yousmarter than a sea turtle?
It was inspired by my friend,Carrie Lynn, friend of the show,
just did a podcast with it cameout a couple of weeks ago and
she was having well, maybeanyway we were having a
(04:21):
discussion about parents andthings like that, because she
knows about my parents, thechallenges that I've had with
them.
You know my mother's past, youknow my father and I we barely
talk and and so she just kind ofasked my perspective on, you
know, family and things likethat and and just kind of saying
(04:43):
, like isn't it a bummer whenyou know that your, your, your
family, and they never, just youknow, went to therapy or did,
did whatever that they didn'tfix themselves so that they
could have a better relationshipwith you, how come aren't you
ever frustrated that it was likealways you doing doing the work
or not having the relationship,but do you feel like you were
(05:04):
always the one missing out?
And that's when this like well,why do we have this assumption
that our parents are supposed to, you know, not just you know
give us the genetic material andenough to be birthed in this
world, but supposed to fuckinggive us everything that we
desire from them for our entiregoddamn lives?
(05:25):
I mean, I, I get it, I wantedthat too, and parts of me still
would like that.
Yet when we look to nature, wesee that that's not always the
case, right, that you know.
Yes, there are some, somespecies, that there is that no
nurturing, loving, whatever.
For you know, I can't eventhink of any right now.
(05:47):
Yet I do know of one amazingcase, which is basically the
parents are like we create, wecreated the genetic material and
give you enough food, peace out, bitch, you're on your fucking
own.
And that is the majestic,beautiful sea turtle.
That's right, Sea turtles, mamasea turtle, daddy sea turtle.
(06:09):
They're out there swimmingaround.
Somehow they find each other,they fall in love.
They do what it takes to createsea turtle eggs that are going
to turn into sea turtles.
I believe they then go theirseparate ways.
I only did the most minimalamount of research for this.
I do have experience seeing asea turtle lay eggs in Costa
Rica.
This was now a couple of yearsago.
(06:29):
Got up at like 3 30 in themorning and shuttled out to a
remote beach where sea turtlescome up onto the shore, they dig
their little things and theylay their eggs.
You know tens I don't know ifit's even over a hundred a shit
ton of eggs just to the sand.
They kind of cover them up andthen they take back to the sea.
(06:50):
They're just like it's like anin and out mission, like a
covert operation, special forcestype of a thing going in, going
to deliver the payload and getthe fuck out before dawn so that
the enemy can't, can't doanything.
And there are enemies, becausethere's one, there's other sea
turtles.
They don't give a shit, they'rejust like oh, this, this looks
like an easy place to dig mylittle whatever and I'll just
(07:13):
dig over, smash the eggs thatare already here.
And there's also other birds.
There's birds with those meanbeaks just pecking, pecking at
the egg.
So you're like, oh, that's somegood, yummy sea turtles egg,
yum, yum in there.
So they, you know, they got toget in, get out before something
happens to them and hopefullyget the eggs covered enough so
that they're protected enough sothat they can then be born.
(07:35):
And when they're born, theselittle baby sea turtles, they
are completely on their own.
They got to get out of that egg.
No help, there's no mama theregoing.
You can do it, you can do it indoctors and all this stuff like
that we humans get.
So they're on their own andthen they've got their 100 plus,
because it's not just theireggs and their little hole, but
(07:57):
it's the whole beach startspopping out and they got a flop.
You know a little little teenyflipper, flapper, pans, feet,
whatever they got to try to maketo the beach.
Where then?
This is where the birds are,here again.
They're here waiting, goinglike, oh my gosh, let me see
what I can get.
And then I'm sure in the oceanthere's probably other things
wanting to have a little turtlesoup and all that stuff.
(08:18):
And so it's.
It's a very harsh, harsh welcometo the world with no, no
parental supervision, noparental guidance, just pure
instinct, Just, whatever thesesea turtles have is what they
get.
And so, from that, when we lookat what we as humans get, what
(08:38):
we as humans get, it's way, waybetter, way, way, way easier.
And I'm not saying that it'snot not okay.
Whatever might have happened toyou, you wanted more.
There's nothing wrong withwanting more than what you got,
it's totally okay.
Just, I assume you're an adultlistening to this, I'm an adult
giving this, and even if you'renot an adult, but you're, these
(08:59):
are adult things and eitheryou're able to comprehend this
or you're just loving the soundin my voice and maybe you're
even falling asleep to this, andhopefully, if you're driving
you're not falling asleep, butif you're somewhere where you
can't fall asleep and this helpsyou, like good I've heard, I've
got a nice soothing voice andI'm grateful for that and
grateful for you listening.
Whatever the reason, whateveryou get out of this, what's
(09:21):
important is that you see, yeah,boy, I completely.
I was on a train and I don'tknow where the train went.
It's almost.
This is almost like watchingone of these Westerns.
I just recently watched aWestern called Jonah Hex.
It was actually based on a DCcomic and it takes place in like
(09:45):
1870 something.
So there's cowboys and they'reon to that and for whatever
reason, they're like we got tohave a train robbery because
every, every Western needs tohave a train robbery and they,
they, they decoupled the fronttrain from the back train and
then blew the black back trainup and I there's a little bit I
(10:06):
feel like the back of my trainjust got completely blown up,
like in this Jonah Hex movie,which I I don't recommend,
unless you just likeridiculousness.
It was a ridiculous, ridiculousmovie, but sometimes we need a
little ridiculousness.
So what's important is when wecompare our lives to that of the
sea turtle and we want more,and it's okay to want them more.
(10:29):
But when we don't get more.
But we are adults and we'recapable, we're capable of going,
getting more, way more capablethan the sea turtle.
So are you smarter than a seaturtle?
If you said no, I'm just goingto say then you're not getting
any of this anyway, Because you,if you're a human that can
listen to this and understandthis, you're, you can totally
(10:50):
get this.
You're totally smarter than sea.
Otherwise, you're just being anasshole.
You're being an asshole Ifyou're like, no, I'm not smarter
than a sea turtle.
The brilliance of a sea turtle.
They're beautiful, they'reamazing, they're spectacular,
Very talented.
Love the sea turtle side, Oneof my favorite things to see
when scuba diving.
You are so much smarter than asea turtle, so much more capable
(11:10):
, so much more powerful of whatyou can do, what you can bring
in, what you can learn, what youcan accomplish.
That If you just have now, asan adult, the same expectations
of your parents as that seaturtle does, how much easier is
your life going to be,especially compared to a sea
(11:32):
turtle.
You don't have to worry aboutbirds pecking your eyes out I
mean as a kid, when there wasthe movie the birds, I think,
came on, that got into my headand I was like, oh, I better be
on the lookout for birds wantingto peck my eyes out.
I'm honest, it's not a big fear.
We also don't have to worry somuch about getting eaten by a
(11:52):
shark or whatever.
There's a lot of things that wedon't have to worry about that
the sea turtles do.
We're so much more capable tobring in the people that can
give us the guidance, can giveus the support.
That doesn't have to be ourparents.
It can be our friends, it canbe coaches, it can be therapists
, it can be the appropriatecoworkers.
You can have a family of choice, you can have people playing
(12:16):
these roles and it doesn't haveto be your parents.
When you let go of thatexpectation that your parents,
you as an adult I'm not talkingabout kids, this is not a kids
show I have this mark toexplicit so that I can say all
the naughty words that GeorgeCronin said you can't say,
because think of the childrenshit, piss, cunt, fuck, cock
suck, mother, fuck, kitts.
I can say those things on thisbecause this is an adult program
(12:37):
and those words are just words.
It's really the intentionbehind them.
The intention is for you tohave a whole new perspective on
how you've lived your life andhow you could live it moving
forward.
Be like a sea turtle in havingthe expectation that your
parents aren't there to be youronly sole support.
(12:58):
They might provide no moresupport If they do by some
chance.
Be so grateful, Be so happy, Yetbe like the human that knows
there's so much more you can dothan the sea turtle.
You have so many more resources.
You can swim in the ocean, youcan fly in the air, you can walk
on the land and you can ask forhelp.
(13:19):
That ability to ask for help isone of the most amazing things
we humans have.
We often think that, oh, thatmeans that I failed, that I'm
broken, that there's somethingnot good about me.
I should have gotten it fromthese parents, this mom, this
dad or whatever the situation is.
However you're raised, Yet it'sreally the most beautiful sign
(13:41):
that you have an awareness ofwhere you are and that you're
like I am not going to stay here, I'm not going to continue
living this way.
I see that someone else hasfigured it out and you're
willing to give that gift ofsaying help me out, Show me the
way.
What's the easier path?
What are the options?
I'm sure you're a very capable,brilliant.
(14:02):
Again, you're smarter than asea turtle.
I bet you've helped some peoplein your day.
Some people probably asked youfor help.
Could be small, could be big,whatever it is.
How did you feel?
I bet you felt so fucking good.
You felt useful.
You felt amazingly.
Oh yeah, so glad that I wasable to help out.
This is great.
I wish them the best and wishthem happiness, joy, and I hope
(14:25):
their life is easier than me.
At least that's a message.
If not, then you really probablyshouldn't be listening to me.
I'm probably not the person foryou.
If you're like, no, everyoneshould just do it on their own
and I was on food stamps andwelfare and nobody helped me.
Like screw everybody else.
If that's your attitude like Ireally don't, you shouldn't be
(14:46):
listening.
I don't want to work with you,Just go somewhere else.
Like that attitude makes nosense.
There's more than enough in theworld and when we're giving, it
really just shows us how muchwe have and then we get that
much more in return, notnecessarily from that particular
individual, but it comes backespecially in how good we feel
about ourselves.
And so when you ask somebodyfor help, you're giving that
(15:08):
gift of allowing them to feelamazing, useful and of service.
So are you smarter than a seaturtle?
Absolutely, Absolutely.
You just didn't know it, youjust didn't see it that way that
you don't need your parents todo anything for you anymore.
And you might be like butJustin, I have these
circumstances with finances, orI have this, or I have that, and
(15:31):
you may.
I'm not saying that any of thatisn't true.
Yet there's always options,there's always ways, there's
always other things to do,there's always other people that
can help out.
It's just by having limitedperspective that you limit your
choices and you limit theability to make new decisions.
Yet when you open yourperspective out and you see that
(15:53):
, oh, there's other people,there's other options, there's
other ways, Then you see thatyou don't need what you thought
you need.
In fact, you have the resourceswithin you to bring about
whatever it is you need, Becausethere really is so much
possibility in the world and itreally has just been a slight
(16:14):
miseducation that there reallyis not enough, that there isn't
the help and that you got tofight hard.
You got to scrap claw to getyour piece of the pie.
It's an ever-expanding pie.
There's plenty of pie and it'sdelicious and sea turtle might
get sick from that kind of pie.
But you're not a sea turtle,You're smarter.
You know how to adjust it andyou know how to work with it.
(16:36):
You know how to enjoy it andthen be ready for even more pie.
So with that, I thank you andif you've been watching the
video doing this in front of,I've got a little sarong that's
got a sea scene on it and it'sbeen really fun.
It's not real, I'm not reallyunder the ocean, but I just felt
(16:59):
inspired by talking about seaturtles to bring out my
sea-themed sarong and bring alittle sea vibe.
So, with that, do encourage youto like, subscribe, share this
with people and podcast atJustinWinkcom if you got any
questions, or slide into mydirect messages on the social
media.
Justinwink PhD.
(17:20):
With that, I do, thank you somuch for being a listener and
thank you and good day.
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