November 11, 2024 • 15 mins
Imagine harnessing the power of belief borrowed from those around you to overcome life's toughest challenges. That's exactly what we explore in this episode, as I, Jessica Lundy, take you through the transformative journey of a concept I've coined, "borrowed belief." Drawing insights from my TEDx talk and personal life experiences, including a profound crisis involving my daughter, I reveal how a supportive community can be a catalyst for success. We'll delve into the significance of nurturing friendships that foster positive belief systems and how creating safe spaces for women can empower them to thrive through collaboration, not competition.
Special Segment: The Healing Moment Don't miss the "Healing Moment," where Jessica guides you through an actionable exercise to release your fears and limiting beliefs, setting you free to embrace your true, authentic self.
📌 Action Items:
- Write down your fears and limiting beliefs
- Release them by ripping or burning the paper (safely!)
- Step confidently into your greatness
Be sure to like, comment, and subscribe to our channel for more empowering content! If this episode resonated with you, share it with someone who could use a boost of belief and support.
🔗 Show Notes:
- Jessica Lundy's TEDx Talk: Three Things That Hinder Your Self-Belief
- Sign up for our upcoming two-hour workshop: "Elevate & Thrive 2025: Pajama Party Edition"
💬 Join the Conversation: What limiting beliefs are you ready to let go of? Share your journey on Instagram and tag us @jessicalundytv!
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Jessica Lundy (00:00):
A lot of people don't achieve the level of
success that they desire.
It always goes back to belief.
We have to borrow belief.
Support is vital.
It's not a weakness to borrowbelief from somebody.
It's actually strength.
When you have access to peoplethat are successful, that are
thriving, that are living intheir purpose, you're able to
(00:20):
see they can do what I can do.
But if you look at your circleand there's nobody around you
that is challenging you to begreat, it's time to move.
I don't want you to no longerhave doubt or unbelief.
I really want you to embracethat anything is possible.
(00:52):
Welcome to Finally Healed withJessica Lundy podcast, where we
prioritize mental health,self-care and embracing our
healing journey together.
I'm super excited about thisepisode.
We are going to be introducinga phrase that I have coined,
called borrowed belief.
(01:14):
Recently, I had the amazingopportunity to do my first TEDx.
If you have not checked it out,we will leave a link to it in
the show notes, but it wascalled three things that hinder
your self-belief.
And, as I was doing so muchresearch on belief and why we
(01:37):
struggle with it, because Itruly believe that that is the
reason a lot of people don'tachieve the level of success
that they desire, it always goesback to belief.
So you can be an extremely hardworker, you can come from, you
know all of the opportunities inthe world, but if you don't
believe in yourself at such ahigh degree, there will be a cap
(02:00):
to what you can achieve in life.
And after doing so muchresearch like literally on
government sites, like goingthrough all these documents I
was in prayer because I believe,as a believer, that I asked God
for some kingdom wisdom.
I was doing all this researchand then it just hit me like
really we have to borrow belief,meaning when we're in
(02:23):
situations and we don't have theamount of belief in ourselves
that we need.
We need to borrow that belief.
We can borrow that belief fromour friends.
We can borrow that belief fromour family.
We can borrow that belief fromour faith.
That's why I believe everybodyshould believe in something at
the end of the day.
And so when I think about thesuccess that I've had in my life
(02:45):
, some of the challenges andthings that I've been able to
overcome, it was because I wasable to borrow belief from
people around me.
This is why it is vital aboutthe people that you surround
yourself around.
If everybody you hang around isnegative, is always saying
(03:07):
something that is not uplifting,it's going to be really hard to
be the person that you aredestined to be.
So this time, to kind of lookback at those friends and figure
out are they really an asset ora liability into your life?
And if you have some people, ifyou're a part of a community or
you desire to be a part ofcommunity, I think that is so
(03:28):
important.
When my daughter was literallyfighting for her life, she had
did the code blue like they docode blue like in the movie.
That's a real thing.
They really do yell out codeblue when someone is declining,
and that happened to her twice.
And so I was at a pivotal pointwhere I was like this feels
like too much for me.
(03:49):
And when I just sent out alittle message in a group chat
to some friends and some familyand was like, can you pray for
me?
Now, I don't want you to be thetype of person that's like
asking for prayer every day,meaning you can't pray for
yourself.
But there are situations thatare so overwhelming that you
really do need a community.
You need somebody else that canhelp support you.
(04:12):
And when I tell y'all.
In that hospital waiting room,I could feel the support of the
people that I surround myselfaround and I was so grateful for
that moment in time.
I was able to borrow somebelief from them that everything
was going to work out.
If you are having a challengingtime in your marriage and your
(04:33):
relationship and you're like,how am I going to get through
this?
This is when you need to beable to reach out to your girls
in the group chat and say, hey,can y'all hold me down?
But if you don't have anybodythat you can reach out to when
you're in the midst of crisis,then you got to reevaluate your
friendships.
One of the most amazing thingsabout being an adult is we got
(04:54):
options out here.
We don't have to just havefriends based upon who goes to
our school or based upon thechurch we go to.
We can be friends with anybody,and so I want to encourage you
and really this is the reasonthat I am starting my own
community because there has tobe safe spaces for women to go
so that they can receive thehealing that they deserve.
(05:15):
They can talk about their goalsin a place where you're not
feeling like someone's trying tooutdo you, because it really is
collaboration over competitionover here.
So support is vital.
There are times when my coachingclients tell me like I'll tell
them where I see their businessgoing and they'll be like coach.
I don't see that and I'm likeborrow some belief from me
(05:38):
because I got enough for all ofus.
So you really got to look atthe influences and really the
voices in your ear.
Are they telling you that youcan win, that you have got this,
that greatness is upon you?
Are they saying, man, that's alittle bit too much of a stretch
for you, or you should probablybe a little bit more realistic
(05:59):
about your goals?
You don't need to be withpeople like that.
It's also okay to releasepeople.
When you start to look at yourbelief system and the people
that I've been pouring into you.
If it is not positive, let themgo, because we don't have to be
friends with people for alifetime.
I realized that I can begrateful for the time that I am
(06:20):
able to be in someone's life,but when you are in these
situations and you need toborrow belief, no, it's okay,
it's not a weakness to borrowbeliefs from somebody.
It's actually strength.
We actually need to spend moretime looking at the things that
we are deficient in, things thatwe might not be our strongest
at, and really take an inventoryof the things that we need to
(06:43):
improve on.
I want you to start embracingsituations where you can
experience rejection.
I know sometimes I talk aboutrejection.
That's something that peoplewant to stay away from but I
believe that you are strong,that you are resilient, that you
are a warrior and you canaccomplish anything that comes
(07:05):
in your way, and so, when youdon't worry any longer about
things not working out for you,I want you to have that mind
shift that everything is workingout for my good, that
everything that I desire isdesiring me as well, and to
encourage that, that level ofbelief you have to have in
yourself.
(07:25):
To accomplish anything, youhave to start goal setting at a
higher frequency Meaning.
A lot of times, people justwrite down their goals at the
top of the year and they're justlike super excited, and then
three weeks later they havecompletely forgot about it.
We're doing next level goalsaround here.
What I am going to be creatingis something so special so that
(07:47):
women not only feel seen, butactually have an action plan.
See, we don't have any problems.
We're starters, we don't haveno problem starting, but I want
this next year to be one of thebest years of your life.
I want you to borrow somebelief from me.
If you need it.
You can have as much belief asyou need, but I need you to
start being an action taker andnot a procrastinator.
(08:10):
And so you might've beenthinking like why haven't
certain things worked for me?
Why is it that I'm constantlytrying stuff and it hasn't
really popped off?
Because you're trying to do itin your own might and strength.
See, my business really tookoff when I stopped being a lone
wolf, when I stopped beingsomeone that was saying I can do
it all, and I started totransition into my delegation
(08:33):
season.
I believe you're going into adelegation season, meaning
you're able to delegate tasks.
You don't have to be the talentand the photographer, the
videographer, you edit it in thevideo and you're doing the
website and all of that.
No, no, no, no, no.
That's part of hustle culture,which we do not subscribe to
around here.
We are team soft life, but youhave to figure out what a soft
(08:54):
life looks like for you.
This is why access is soimportant the people that you
look up to and admire.
I am a huge fan into buyingaccess, meaning I might not be
friends with somebody, but if Iknow that they have knowledge
and wisdom that I desire tolearn, I'm going to do what is
(09:14):
necessary to get in theircommunity, to get in their
coaching programs so that I canborrow some belief from them.
Because when you have access topeople that are successful,
that are thriving, that aretraveling the world, that are
living in their purpose, you'reable to see if they can do it.
I can do it, and I don't knowabout you.
When I'm around some of themost exceptional people, it
(09:34):
allows me to puff my chest up alittle bit more, right.
It allows me to put my head upa little bit higher, because I
know that my breakthrough isjust around the corner, that the
greatness that I desire to havein my life is within reach.
But if you look at your circleand there's nobody around you
that is challenging you to begreat, it's time to move.
(09:57):
I am so grateful that I've beenon this world tour with Jeremy
Anderson and ET and CJ and Chrisand Deani and Nick.
We got an amazing team that I'mso grateful to travel the world
with.
But y'all, I'm in London,getting picked up by a Rolls
Royce and I'm like, is this thelife I live now?
Like how phenomenal is that.
(10:20):
But because I'm around peoplethat are extremely successful,
that are playing at the highestlevel, I know that anything is
possible to me.
So I want you to feel promptedto strive for greatness and if
you're like Jess, I need to knowmore about this.
(10:40):
We're going to be puttingpeople on a wait list.
We're going to be releasingsomething really exciting very
soon, but I don't want you to nolonger have fear.
I don't want you to no longerhave doubt or unbelief.
I really want you to embracethat anything is possible.
I really want you to embracethat you were created for such a
(11:02):
time as this and that you cannot only just borrow belief, but
that you can get to a pointwhere you are so full that you
are truly living from a place ofoverflow that you can actually
start to allow other people toborrow some belief from you.
So now we're at my favorite partof the show the healing moment.
(11:25):
This is where we have an actionitem so that you can do the
work to truly heal, and for you.
I need you to figure out whatis causing you to not truly live
the life you deserve.
If there is a fear, if there isa limiting belief that you have
(11:46):
, I want you to actuallyphysically write it out.
I don't want you to put it inthe note section that you have.
I want you to actuallyphysically write it out.
I don't want you to put it inthe notes section of your phone.
I want you to get a pen andpaper old school write out that
fear, write out that limitingbelief.
And you have two options youcan rip that thing up or crumble
it up, release it and do notallow yourself to let it hold
(12:10):
you bound.
And then, from there on, I wantyou to walk full force into your
greatness, full force intoeverything that you are destined
to be, because typically it isonly one to maybe two things
that's really holding us backfrom being our true, authentic
self, from aligning perfectlywith our purpose, and I want to
(12:34):
see this.
Listen, I want you to recordthis.
So this is a memory that youhave.
I remember there was anexercise I did a couple years
ago where I put all of mylimiting belief down and I set
that thing on fire.
Okay, I did it in a safe way,okay, but I set it on fire in my
fire pit and I let it goBecause, if you can be honest,
(12:56):
there might be some things fromyour past, there might be some
people that said something toyou when you were five years old
or 10 years old and it brokeyour heart and it stopped you
from believing in yourself.
I want to encourage you, asyour big sis, that we're not
gonna let that hold us back anylonger.
So this has been anotherepisode of the finally healed
(13:18):
with Jessica Lundy.
If you are excited about thisepisode, I need you to like it,
I need you to comment, I needyou to leave a review.
Share this with a friend.
I always say one of the bestthings that we can do is not be
selfish with good information.
If this episode was helpful foryou, share it with a woman in
your life that you know needssome encouragement, needs some
(13:42):
support, needs a release totruly be launched into the
person that they were destinedto be.
Remember, you've got this.
So women always ask me how do Ido it all?
Being a wife for 10 years, amother for 10 years, a mother, a
(14:05):
international keynote speaker,a keynote writing coach.
I am so blessed to occupy somany spaces and I am ready to
give you all of the goods.
I've never done a workshopquite like this before, but I am
ready.
Like this before, but I amready.
It is time for us to get in ourPJs and have a new year, new me
(14:28):
bump that.
New opportunities, new mindset,new habits, new money.
Okay, going into the new year,we are going to have a packed
two-hour workshop where we'regoing to be releasing some stuff
from the past we're going to beplanning from the new year.
This is an event that youcannot afford to miss.
(14:52):
I know that you are tired ofplaying small.
You know that greatness isinside of you and I want to pull
it out of you so that you cantruly launch into the best
version of yourself.
So, to learn more, click thelink below.
You got this and I can't waitto party with you virtually.
A lot of people don't achieve the level of
success that they desire.
It always goes back to belief.
We have to borrow belief.
Support is vital.
It's not a weakness to borrowbelief from somebody.
It's actually strength.
When you have access to peoplethat are successful, that are
thriving, that are living intheir purpose, you're able to
(00:20):
see they can do what I can do.
But if you look at your circleand there's nobody around you
that is challenging you to begreat, it's time to move.
I don't want you to no longerhave doubt or unbelief.
I really want you to embracethat anything is possible.
(00:52):
Welcome to Finally Healed withJessica Lundy podcast, where we
prioritize mental health,self-care and embracing our
healing journey together.
I'm super excited about thisepisode.
We are going to be introducinga phrase that I have coined,
called borrowed belief.
(01:14):
Recently, I had the amazingopportunity to do my first TEDx.
If you have not checked it out,we will leave a link to it in
the show notes, but it wascalled three things that hinder
your self-belief.
And, as I was doing so muchresearch on belief and why we
(01:37):
struggle with it, because Itruly believe that that is the
reason a lot of people don'tachieve the level of success
that they desire, it always goesback to belief.
So you can be an extremely hardworker, you can come from, you
know all of the opportunities inthe world, but if you don't
believe in yourself at such ahigh degree, there will be a cap
(02:00):
to what you can achieve in life.
And after doing so muchresearch like literally on
government sites, like goingthrough all these documents I
was in prayer because I believe,as a believer, that I asked God
for some kingdom wisdom.
I was doing all this researchand then it just hit me like
really we have to borrow belief,meaning when we're in
(02:23):
situations and we don't have theamount of belief in ourselves
that we need.
We need to borrow that belief.
We can borrow that belief fromour friends.
We can borrow that belief fromour family.
We can borrow that belief fromour faith.
That's why I believe everybodyshould believe in something at
the end of the day.
And so when I think about thesuccess that I've had in my life
(02:45):
, some of the challenges andthings that I've been able to
overcome, it was because I wasable to borrow belief from
people around me.
This is why it is vital aboutthe people that you surround
yourself around.
If everybody you hang around isnegative, is always saying
(03:07):
something that is not uplifting,it's going to be really hard to
be the person that you aredestined to be.
So this time, to kind of lookback at those friends and figure
out are they really an asset ora liability into your life?
And if you have some people, ifyou're a part of a community or
you desire to be a part ofcommunity, I think that is so
(03:28):
important.
When my daughter was literallyfighting for her life, she had
did the code blue like they docode blue like in the movie.
That's a real thing.
They really do yell out codeblue when someone is declining,
and that happened to her twice.
And so I was at a pivotal pointwhere I was like this feels
like too much for me.
(03:49):
And when I just sent out alittle message in a group chat
to some friends and some familyand was like, can you pray for
me?
Now, I don't want you to be thetype of person that's like
asking for prayer every day,meaning you can't pray for
yourself.
But there are situations thatare so overwhelming that you
really do need a community.
You need somebody else that canhelp support you.
(04:12):
And when I tell y'all.
In that hospital waiting room,I could feel the support of the
people that I surround myselfaround and I was so grateful for
that moment in time.
I was able to borrow somebelief from them that everything
was going to work out.
If you are having a challengingtime in your marriage and your
(04:33):
relationship and you're like,how am I going to get through
this?
This is when you need to beable to reach out to your girls
in the group chat and say, hey,can y'all hold me down?
But if you don't have anybodythat you can reach out to when
you're in the midst of crisis,then you got to reevaluate your
friendships.
One of the most amazing thingsabout being an adult is we got
(04:54):
options out here.
We don't have to just havefriends based upon who goes to
our school or based upon thechurch we go to.
We can be friends with anybody,and so I want to encourage you
and really this is the reasonthat I am starting my own
community because there has tobe safe spaces for women to go
so that they can receive thehealing that they deserve.
(05:15):
They can talk about their goalsin a place where you're not
feeling like someone's trying tooutdo you, because it really is
collaboration over competitionover here.
So support is vital.
There are times when my coachingclients tell me like I'll tell
them where I see their businessgoing and they'll be like coach.
I don't see that and I'm likeborrow some belief from me
(05:38):
because I got enough for all ofus.
So you really got to look atthe influences and really the
voices in your ear.
Are they telling you that youcan win, that you have got this,
that greatness is upon you?
Are they saying, man, that's alittle bit too much of a stretch
for you, or you should probablybe a little bit more realistic
(05:59):
about your goals?
You don't need to be withpeople like that.
It's also okay to releasepeople.
When you start to look at yourbelief system and the people
that I've been pouring into you.
If it is not positive, let themgo, because we don't have to be
friends with people for alifetime.
I realized that I can begrateful for the time that I am
(06:20):
able to be in someone's life,but when you are in these
situations and you need toborrow belief, no, it's okay,
it's not a weakness to borrowbeliefs from somebody.
It's actually strength.
We actually need to spend moretime looking at the things that
we are deficient in, things thatwe might not be our strongest
at, and really take an inventoryof the things that we need to
(06:43):
improve on.
I want you to start embracingsituations where you can
experience rejection.
I know sometimes I talk aboutrejection.
That's something that peoplewant to stay away from but I
believe that you are strong,that you are resilient, that you
are a warrior and you canaccomplish anything that comes
(07:05):
in your way, and so, when youdon't worry any longer about
things not working out for you,I want you to have that mind
shift that everything is workingout for my good, that
everything that I desire isdesiring me as well, and to
encourage that, that level ofbelief you have to have in
yourself.
(07:25):
To accomplish anything, youhave to start goal setting at a
higher frequency Meaning.
A lot of times, people justwrite down their goals at the
top of the year and they're justlike super excited, and then
three weeks later they havecompletely forgot about it.
We're doing next level goalsaround here.
What I am going to be creatingis something so special so that
(07:47):
women not only feel seen, butactually have an action plan.
See, we don't have any problems.
We're starters, we don't haveno problem starting, but I want
this next year to be one of thebest years of your life.
I want you to borrow somebelief from me.
If you need it.
You can have as much belief asyou need, but I need you to
start being an action taker andnot a procrastinator.
(08:10):
And so you might've beenthinking like why haven't
certain things worked for me?
Why is it that I'm constantlytrying stuff and it hasn't
really popped off?
Because you're trying to do itin your own might and strength.
See, my business really tookoff when I stopped being a lone
wolf, when I stopped beingsomeone that was saying I can do
it all, and I started totransition into my delegation
(08:33):
season.
I believe you're going into adelegation season, meaning
you're able to delegate tasks.
You don't have to be the talentand the photographer, the
videographer, you edit it in thevideo and you're doing the
website and all of that.
No, no, no, no, no.
That's part of hustle culture,which we do not subscribe to
around here.
We are team soft life, but youhave to figure out what a soft
(08:54):
life looks like for you.
This is why access is soimportant the people that you
look up to and admire.
I am a huge fan into buyingaccess, meaning I might not be
friends with somebody, but if Iknow that they have knowledge
and wisdom that I desire tolearn, I'm going to do what is
(09:14):
necessary to get in theircommunity, to get in their
coaching programs so that I canborrow some belief from them.
Because when you have access topeople that are successful,
that are thriving, that aretraveling the world, that are
living in their purpose, you'reable to see if they can do it.
I can do it, and I don't knowabout you.
When I'm around some of themost exceptional people, it
(09:34):
allows me to puff my chest up alittle bit more, right.
It allows me to put my head upa little bit higher, because I
know that my breakthrough isjust around the corner, that the
greatness that I desire to havein my life is within reach.
But if you look at your circleand there's nobody around you
that is challenging you to begreat, it's time to move.
(09:57):
I am so grateful that I've beenon this world tour with Jeremy
Anderson and ET and CJ and Chrisand Deani and Nick.
We got an amazing team that I'mso grateful to travel the world
with.
But y'all, I'm in London,getting picked up by a Rolls
Royce and I'm like, is this thelife I live now?
Like how phenomenal is that.
(10:20):
But because I'm around peoplethat are extremely successful,
that are playing at the highestlevel, I know that anything is
possible to me.
So I want you to feel promptedto strive for greatness and if
you're like Jess, I need to knowmore about this.
(10:40):
We're going to be puttingpeople on a wait list.
We're going to be releasingsomething really exciting very
soon, but I don't want you to nolonger have fear.
I don't want you to no longerhave doubt or unbelief.
I really want you to embracethat anything is possible.
I really want you to embracethat you were created for such a
(11:02):
time as this and that you cannot only just borrow belief, but
that you can get to a pointwhere you are so full that you
are truly living from a place ofoverflow that you can actually
start to allow other people toborrow some belief from you.
So now we're at my favorite partof the show the healing moment.
(11:25):
This is where we have an actionitem so that you can do the
work to truly heal, and for you.
I need you to figure out whatis causing you to not truly live
the life you deserve.
If there is a fear, if there isa limiting belief that you have
(11:46):
, I want you to actuallyphysically write it out.
I don't want you to put it inthe note section that you have.
I want you to actuallyphysically write it out.
I don't want you to put it inthe notes section of your phone.
I want you to get a pen andpaper old school write out that
fear, write out that limitingbelief.
And you have two options youcan rip that thing up or crumble
it up, release it and do notallow yourself to let it hold
(12:10):
you bound.
And then, from there on, I wantyou to walk full force into your
greatness, full force intoeverything that you are destined
to be, because typically it isonly one to maybe two things
that's really holding us backfrom being our true, authentic
self, from aligning perfectlywith our purpose, and I want to
(12:34):
see this.
Listen, I want you to recordthis.
So this is a memory that youhave.
I remember there was anexercise I did a couple years
ago where I put all of mylimiting belief down and I set
that thing on fire.
Okay, I did it in a safe way,okay, but I set it on fire in my
fire pit and I let it goBecause, if you can be honest,
(12:56):
there might be some things fromyour past, there might be some
people that said something toyou when you were five years old
or 10 years old and it brokeyour heart and it stopped you
from believing in yourself.
I want to encourage you, asyour big sis, that we're not
gonna let that hold us back anylonger.
So this has been anotherepisode of the finally healed
(13:18):
with Jessica Lundy.
If you are excited about thisepisode, I need you to like it,
I need you to comment, I needyou to leave a review.
Share this with a friend.
I always say one of the bestthings that we can do is not be
selfish with good information.
If this episode was helpful foryou, share it with a woman in
your life that you know needssome encouragement, needs some
(13:42):
support, needs a release totruly be launched into the
person that they were destinedto be.
Remember, you've got this.
So women always ask me how do Ido it all?
Being a wife for 10 years, amother for 10 years, a mother, a
(14:05):
international keynote speaker,a keynote writing coach.
I am so blessed to occupy somany spaces and I am ready to
give you all of the goods.
I've never done a workshopquite like this before, but I am
ready.
Like this before, but I amready.
It is time for us to get in ourPJs and have a new year, new me
(14:28):
bump that.
New opportunities, new mindset,new habits, new money.
Okay, going into the new year,we are going to have a packed
two-hour workshop where we'regoing to be releasing some stuff
from the past we're going to beplanning from the new year.
This is an event that youcannot afford to miss.
(14:52):
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You know that greatness isinside of you and I want to pull
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