the Hunger for Connection

the Hunger for Connection

“Why can’t we connect?” It’s a question many foster and adoptive parents, like myself, have asked about attempting to build a relationship with a child God has placed into our homes. What is it that keeps them from being open and receptive to your care? Could you sum it up in one word? You may choose words like trauma, detachment, defiance, or dysregulation, but I’d like to suggest a more helpful word: hunger. This is Chef Kibby inviting you to join me for the Hunger for Connection Podcast. In each episode, I’ll be weaving together pioneering research, personal experiences, and practical advice that will help you to reimagine the challenges you face not as a problem to be fixed but a hunger to be fed. You’ll see that being fed is one of the most deeply-embodied relational experiences we have as human beings, plus you’ll learn how to use this renewed mindset to create a deeper sense of connection within your child, your family, and your home. Let me come alongside you on your foster and adoptive journey by hitting the subscribe button. I look forward to helping you feed the Hunger for Connection. Until then, I’ll see you in the kitchen.

Episodes

April 8, 2025 22 mins

Yes, I have kids.

No, they haven’t always eaten everything I’ve put in front of them.

In spite of all this, I stand by my statement: there is no such thing as a “picky eater.”

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I did not misspeak… or mistype? Many of the most beneficial foods for you and your child are blue vegetables - at least, that’s what they’d say in ancient Japan.

Were they colorblind? No. While the colors we see are the result of light wavelengths interacting with the sensory receptors ...

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January 20, 2025 13 mins

The holiday season came and went before I could sit down to record an episode. Election season is over, and the college football season is wrapping up in a few short hours (go Bucks!). The winter season is now upon us, as is a new year and visions for what the future will hold.

In our li...

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December 5, 2024 26 mins

Do you enjoy watching celebrities recoil in pain as they munch on wings dipped in sauces of increasing degrees of “heat?” Hot they really are not.

Your sensory system has an incredible capacity to detect all sorts of various sensations - light, dark, hot, cold, sweet, sour, rough, smooth, heat, and pain. However, it sometimes gets it wrong.

Hot foods are a perfect example. In spite of the searing, burning tingle they bring to your...

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November 18, 2024 22 mins

Refreshments are such a common part of our culture that we don’t often consider just how important a role being fed plays in allowing us to be in better relationship with ourselves and others.

Today on the Hunger for Connection Podcast, Chef Kibby dives into the neuroscience of eating and how being refreshed is about more than simply satisfying a craving for chips and guacamole!

I hope you are served by this episode. If so, please su...

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November 4, 2024 17 mins

In this turbulent time in our country’s history, it’s easy to get stuck into the us-versus-them mentality - a mentality that can just as easily creep into our parenting.

Today on the Hunger for Connection Podcast, join me as I show how seeing the Hunger for Connection in others - including those with whom we disagree politically - can open up hidden stores of empathy and compassion, allowing us to build relationships where it seems ...

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February 26, 2024 20 mins

How is it possible for us to be both hungry and happy, and what does it have to do with the Gospel?

In a recent episode of the Bible Project Podcast, Tim and Jon discussed a familiar passage in the Gospel of Matthew that drew my attention — mainly because my understanding of it differs slightly from theirs. I want to share with you my perspective on...

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February 12, 2024 22 mins

If you’ve ever had a child spin out of control over something seemingly small and insignificant, then you know what it’s like to live in the Distress Cycle.

In this installment of the Hunger for Connection, we continue to dig into the meaning of hunger, how it relates to how our children relate to the world around them, and how understanding the Dist...

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January 12, 2024 18 mins

At the intersection of interpersonal neurogastronomy and child development is an insightful truth: none of us were born understanding hunger.

That’s not to say we weren’t born hungry or for the capacity to be hungry; hunger is more than simply the discomfort it causes us. In order for hunger to do its job, understanding must be developed — a set of ...

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January 4, 2024 23 mins

The first lesson I learned when I began to study the realm of interpersonal neurogastronomy is this: food has no flavor.

You may not realize how important this distinction is to understanding our relationship with food, but after listening to this episode of the podcast you’ll also see how much an impact this change in perspective can have on caring ...

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December 20, 2023 20 mins

This radically new perspective on trauma-informed care -- one that is also informed by the emerging field of interpersonal neurogastronomy -- was born out of a time of deep personal sadness and the discovery of my own Hunger for Connection.

I hope you are served by this episode. If so, please subscribe, leave a review, and share it with a friend.

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November 27, 2023 23 mins

In this first episode of the Hunger for Connection, you'll learn about the drive for peace that lives within every one of us and how it impacts the way we show up in relationship to one another.

You will see how understanding the pursuit of peace as a type of hunger can help you in your pursuit of peace when it comes to caring for children from hard ...

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After hitting that subscribe button, please leave a review wherever you are listing and let me know what you are most looking forward to learning from this podcast. I’d love to know how I can serve you.

Learn more about my speaking ministry and how to equip yourself, your church, organization, or ministry by visiting chefkibby.com

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