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September 22, 2025 52 mins

Episode Overview:

In this raw and unfiltered episode, Kristen shares one of the most vulnerable moments of her life—the unraveling of her personal identity, the toxicity of success addiction, and the deeply human consequences of building self-worth entirely around a business. This is the second part of her behind-the-scenes story, and it’s not easy listening. Trigger warning: This episode discusses topics such as suicidal ideation, addiction, emotional breakdown, and marital strain.

Through heartbreak, pain, and brutal self-awareness, Kristen details how she reached her breaking point and the darkness that ultimately led to her healing journey. She explores what it means to lose yourself in the pursuit of achievement, the false safety of validation through external success, and the courage it takes to ask for help and be seen in your most broken state.

This is not just an episode—it’s a lifeline for anyone who has ever felt like they were falling apart behind the scenes.

Timestamps:

00:03 – Welcome + Important trigger warning

01:27 – The weight of sharing hard stories

02:19 – Ignoring the warning signs and pushing through pain

04:35 – The season of invincibility and missing the check engine light

05:28 – How validation addiction builds unnoticed

07:34 – Business as a dopamine supplier and feedback loop

09:31 – “Am I loved? Am I safe? Do I matter?” – Using business to answer soul questions

11:46 – When the business couldn’t answer anymore

14:44 – The fragile sense of self and the beginning of the breakdown

17:11 – Escaping with fiction, fantasy, and avoidance

19:26 – When you justify the escape by saying “I’m not hurting anyone”

21:33 – Traveling constantly and still feeling empty

23:49 – Using wealth to numb pain and buy happiness

26:24 – The fallout: A marriage crisis and being found out

28:48 – The darkest 72 hours

30:45 – Keynotes, private jets, and suicidal thoughts

33:44 – The people who said “Come home”

37:19 – The return: facing the consequences and fighting to rebuild

41:02 – Why this wasn't the end, but the beginning

43:19 – Starting a 12-step recovery program

45:27 – First virtual meeting in a hotel robe—true humility

48:17 – Radical grace, empathy, and the gift of being chosen despite the mess

50:11 – A call for listeners to let others in

Key Takeaways:

  • Success addiction can look like high performance, but it often hides profound inner unrest.
  • Business cannot answer the deepest questions of identity, love, safety, and belonging.
  • Escapism—whether through work, reading, shopping, or performance—can quietly become destructive.
  • Healing begins with brutal honesty, surrender, and letting people in.
  • True freedom starts when you’re willing to be seen and loved at your lowest.

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