Kristen peels back the glossy layers of the personal development world and gets radically honest about what real growth looks and feels like. Spoiler alert: it’s not always pretty—and it’s definitely not linear.
If you've ever thought, “Why am I still dealing with this?” or felt stuck in self-help shame spirals, this conversation is your permission slip to ditch the unrealistic timelines and redefine what growth really means.
Kristen dives into:
- Why consuming personal development content isn’t the same as doing the work
- The danger of turning personal growth into a self-shaming tool
- What it means to turn in your “victim card” and reclaim radical responsibility
- How to spot when you're stuck in a pattern vs. truly evolving
- The nature-inspired reminder that nothing in life grows endlessly—and that’s okay
Plus, she shares a heartfelt personal reflection about fulfillment, redefining success, and how breaking her own patterns led to unexpected transformation.
Whether you’re working on your mindset, relationships, business, or just trying to become the best version of yourself—this episode will meet you where you are.
Key Takeaways:
- Growth is not a straight line—expect spirals, setbacks, and seasons.
- Awareness without action is a trap. Real change requires implementation.
- Stop treating yourself like a never-ending project to fix.
- True growth happens when you love yourself through the process—not once you “arrive.”
- Fulfillment metrics matter more than performance metrics.
Timestamps:
00:58 – Welcome back + the truth about "growth drama"
02:52 – Consuming vs. integrating personal development
04:50 – Turning in your victim card and owning your agency
07:34 – The shadow side of self-help culture
12:23 – When personal growth turns into self-shaming
19:24 – What nature teaches us about healthy growth patterns
23:52 – Revisiting old wounds from a new level of awareness
27:46 – How Kristen manages her own defaults around hustle
30:19 – Why fulfillment > achievement
33:21 – A new lens for your lifelong journey
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