August 29, 2023 • 12 mins
Do you truly celebrate your wins? From the minor victories like finding your toddler's socks quickly in the morning to reaching significant career milestones, each achievement deserves its moment of glory. Join me, Dr. Norma Reyes, as we explore how to revel in these accomplishments, sharing them with supportive friends, and why you refrain from minimizing your achievements with negative thoughts. We also look at how the bumps in our journey contribute to our growth and progress.
Our conversation continues with a focus on maintaining motivation by celebrating each accomplishment, regardless of how long it takes or the number of times it took you. Sharing your victories can keep you going and inspire others to do the same. We learn about the importance of reframing setbacks not as failures but as opportunities for reflection and growth. So whether you're on a personal or professional journey, this episode serves as a reminder to take every step forward with a celebration. Embrace your victories, they are your story and the inspiration others need.
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Speaker 1 (00:02):
Are you ready to stop feeling stuck, lost or confused
about what to do next in yourcareer?
Then the Manifest your CareerPodcast is just right for you.
With me, your host, dr NormaReyes, the Manifest your Career
Podcast offers you career advicethat integrates your mind, body
and spirit.
(00:22):
It's time you start listeningto your own inner guidance.
Learn in each week to learn howto combine your intuition,
strategy and logic so that youcan manifest a career of your
dreams.
Hey everyone, welcome back.
(00:43):
This is episode 101.
It is all about celebratingyour victories and embracing
your wins, big or small.
It is so important.
It is so important for you tocelebrate your wins, no matter
(01:03):
how big or how small they are.
It's like throwing a smallparty for your soul.
You can do this any which waythat feels good to you.
You can do it silently, with adance party at home, you can do
it sharing it with friends, viatext message, or even doing it
on social media.
(01:23):
However, it is just make surethat you're celebrating yourself
.
Maybe you text a friend oh,this morning I was able to find
my toddler socks in less than aminute and, trust me, if you
have little ones, you probablycan understand the importance of
being able to find your toddlersocks in the morning.
(01:44):
An additional win is when theydon't fight you to put them on.
Oh my gosh, it is so hardsometimes to get the little
people in your home to just dowhat you ask of them in the
morning.
But they are people too andthey wake up with their own
(02:05):
personalities and intentions,and they may not be to get out
the door when you need them to.
So, celebrating small wins likethat, celebrating small wins
like waking up one day early,maybe going to bed early,
whatever it is it's so importantto focus, to celebrate those
little wins so that you can thenempower yourself Right.
(02:29):
Think of it when you praiseyour child for doing something
small like saying thank you orthrowing their trash away
without you asking them, and forthose of you that don't have
kids, maybe asking your partneror your partner doing something
without you asking them directlyto do it.
Or you know yourself, right, Iknow that sometimes I do things
(02:49):
for myself, such as likecleaning my desk on a Friday, so
that on Monday, when I comeback to my desk, it's clean and
it's wonderful.
It's like, oh, yes, yes, yes,yes, because you know a nice,
clean, orderly desk on yourfirst day into the work week is
also very, very nice.
So now, celebrating majormilestones you know it is so
(03:14):
important to celebrate those.
It is like getting somethingoff the really, really top high
shelf and you didn't think youcould do it, but you did.
You know short people, problemsand that feeling of like hell.
Yeah, I just got that all formyself.
It didn't matter that I was onmy TB.
Chosen almost fell over acouple of times.
(03:36):
I did it.
You know that's like a majormilestone.
A milestone where you know ittook you time and effort, no
matter how easy it might havebeen for someone else, no matter
if you know it took someoneless time to do that same thing.
If it was something that tookyou time, stress, sweat, tears
(04:02):
to accomplish, that is a majormilestone for you and you can
decide what those are.
What's most important is thatyou celebrate them.
You know the do's and do'ts ofcelebrating your wins includes
sharing them with your lovedones, sharing it with your
supportive friends and key term,I did say supportive friends,
(04:23):
because we all have a friendthat maybe not be that
supportive.
So you are gonna share yourwins with them because it is
important for them to be able tocelebrate.
You Think for a moment, thetime that you are able to
celebrate someone else and theiraccomplishments, it feels great
(04:43):
.
It feels great to celebrateothers, it feels great to
celebrate you.
And, of course, the don'ts.
Don't minimize your achievementswith negative remarks like, oh,
it wasn't a big deal.
I know that one's mine.
I will raise my hand and tellyou guys.
This happens often with some ofmy major accomplishments, like
(05:09):
getting my PhD.
I used to often say it wasn't abig deal.
Oh, yeah, it wasn't that hard.
Yeah, it was not a big deal.
Blah, blah, blah.
You know I said it as it reallywasn't a big deal, because I
don't ever want anyone to feellike a degree is necessary or
(05:31):
that I think I'm better becauseI have a degree.
But on the flip side, somebodymay hear that as a it wasn't a
big deal to me.
Why can't you get your shittogether?
Or someone who struggles tostay focused in school, who has
been struggling to get theirbachelor's degree for years now,
may hear the it's not a bigdeal or it wasn't that hard as a
(05:56):
slap in the face of why theyhaven't been able to accomplish
something.
So not only are you minimizingyourself when you aren't
celebrating your wins orrecognizing the time and effort
that it did take, because it didtake me time and effort
adjusting my schedule, makingsure that I was focused and
(06:16):
doing everything I needed to do.
The comment if it wasn't a bigdeal, I mean maybe that should
have been more of like I workedthrough all the challenges.
Yes, I finished my PhD and itcame with challenges and I
worked through them versus itwasn't a big deal right, it
wasn't a big deal minimizes youraccomplishment and it minimizes
(06:40):
you and minimizes the otherperson's belief in themselves.
Inverse that, instead of youcelebrating yourself and
inspiring others to celebratethemselves, to celebrate their
wins, celebrate how far they'vecome, no matter what.
It is right.
It's not about who hasaccomplished what.
When you are celebrating,you're reminding everyone else
(07:03):
that they can celebratethemselves for those small
accomplishments that maybe theythought were not a big deal, or
the big ones too.
You know, when I see someonecelebrating their PhD and they
share their struggle and howgreat it feels, I celebrate with
them, right?
I'm like, yes, you know, I'm soglad that you were able to do
(07:24):
this and make it through.
The one thing that I have neverminimized getting or doing is
finishing my marathon.
I did a full marathon December2021 and it feels so good to be
done and it was the biggestaccomplishment that I did, that
(07:46):
I felt so good to have had itdone, like there was no part of
me that minimized it.
Of course, I was in a verydifferent mindset in 2021 than I
was in 2019, even though it wasonly a few years apart and been
working on myself, my spiritualjourney, so I think that made a
(08:07):
big difference.
So if you're having a hard timecelebrating yourself, know that
it might just be that you needto work on some inner work and
reminding yourself that it isokay to celebrate you.
It is safe for you to celebrateyourself, it is safe for others
to celebrate you, and know thatyou can celebrate your setbacks
(08:33):
too.
Setbacks are not failures.
So many times we feel like, ohmy gosh, like I can't believe
I'm back here again, not able tomove forward, and the thing is,
every setback or quote unquotefailure is really a time for you
(08:54):
to take a step back and pauseso that you can have the growth
and development you need to moveforward.
In the last year of getting myPhD, I had a moment of like oh
my God, like I cannot finishthis.
And I remember reaching out toone of my committee members and
(09:17):
just venting to her like I'mjust so tired of doing this,
like I just want to stop, youknow.
And she's like just keep going,you're so close, you're almost
done.
And in my heart I knew it, Iknew that I was almost there,
but then there's just this partof me that was like I just want
this to end.
(09:37):
So when I say like it was nobig deal, I am forgetting about
the house setbacks where it wasa big deal, where I didn't want
to move forward, where I justwanted to not have to think
about getting or completing mydissertation.
So know that those moments comefor a reason and it is so that
(10:00):
you can reflect, pause, havewhatever growth that you need
and I can't even tell you whatgrowth I needed.
I guess I needed persistence atthat point and know that you
can reach your goal.
It doesn't matter how long ittakes you to reach that goal.
It doesn't matter how long ittook you to pause.
(10:21):
Just come back to it and thenmove forward, and I will carry
out that with if that'ssomething that still you want to
do Now.
With the PhD, I was so closethere is no way that I was going
to not finish it.
And the unfortunate partthere's so many times that
(10:41):
people don't finish the PhDbecause they've just lost their
steam doing it.
Or you know, I'm sure there'sother goals that happen that way
too.
But know to come back.
Come back.
If it's in your heart that youwant something, come back to it,
but celebrate the fact that youcame back.
(11:04):
Celebrate that you continue tokeep trying, regardless of
whether you have finished thatgoal or not, because that in
itself is the win, that initself is an accomplishment.
You know, in, every little stepthat you are taking deserves a
celebration.
So take some time to journal,journal and all the things that
(11:27):
you've accomplished.
Journal and all the things thatyou've gotten back at, despite
feeling like you couldn't keepgoing, no matter how long it
took you to come back to it.
All right, guys, that is it fortoday.
Remember to celebrate your wins, share them with others and
keep those minimizing remarksout of your mouth, because that
(11:53):
is not helpful to you or anyoneelse when celebrating your wins,
big or small.
I'll talk with you guys nextweek.
Are you ready to stop feeling stuck, lost or confused
about what to do next in yourcareer?
Then the Manifest your CareerPodcast is just right for you.
With me, your host, dr NormaReyes, the Manifest your Career
Podcast offers you career advicethat integrates your mind, body
and spirit.
(00:22):
It's time you start listeningto your own inner guidance.
Learn in each week to learn howto combine your intuition,
strategy and logic so that youcan manifest a career of your
dreams.
Hey everyone, welcome back.
(00:43):
This is episode 101.
It is all about celebratingyour victories and embracing
your wins, big or small.
It is so important.
It is so important for you tocelebrate your wins, no matter
(01:03):
how big or how small they are.
It's like throwing a smallparty for your soul.
You can do this any which waythat feels good to you.
You can do it silently, with adance party at home, you can do
it sharing it with friends, viatext message, or even doing it
on social media.
(01:23):
However, it is just make surethat you're celebrating yourself
.
Maybe you text a friend oh,this morning I was able to find
my toddler socks in less than aminute and, trust me, if you
have little ones, you probablycan understand the importance of
being able to find your toddlersocks in the morning.
(01:44):
An additional win is when theydon't fight you to put them on.
Oh my gosh, it is so hardsometimes to get the little
people in your home to just dowhat you ask of them in the
morning.
But they are people too andthey wake up with their own
(02:05):
personalities and intentions,and they may not be to get out
the door when you need them to.
So, celebrating small wins likethat, celebrating small wins
like waking up one day early,maybe going to bed early,
whatever it is it's so importantto focus, to celebrate those
little wins so that you can thenempower yourself Right.
(02:29):
Think of it when you praiseyour child for doing something
small like saying thank you orthrowing their trash away
without you asking them, and forthose of you that don't have
kids, maybe asking your partneror your partner doing something
without you asking them directlyto do it.
Or you know yourself, right, Iknow that sometimes I do things
(02:49):
for myself, such as likecleaning my desk on a Friday, so
that on Monday, when I comeback to my desk, it's clean and
it's wonderful.
It's like, oh, yes, yes, yes,yes, because you know a nice,
clean, orderly desk on yourfirst day into the work week is
also very, very nice.
So now, celebrating majormilestones you know it is so
(03:14):
important to celebrate those.
It is like getting somethingoff the really, really top high
shelf and you didn't think youcould do it, but you did.
You know short people, problemsand that feeling of like hell.
Yeah, I just got that all formyself.
It didn't matter that I was onmy TB.
Chosen almost fell over acouple of times.
(03:36):
I did it.
You know that's like a majormilestone.
A milestone where you know ittook you time and effort, no
matter how easy it might havebeen for someone else, no matter
if you know it took someoneless time to do that same thing.
If it was something that tookyou time, stress, sweat, tears
(04:02):
to accomplish, that is a majormilestone for you and you can
decide what those are.
What's most important is thatyou celebrate them.
You know the do's and do'ts ofcelebrating your wins includes
sharing them with your lovedones, sharing it with your
supportive friends and key term,I did say supportive friends,
(04:23):
because we all have a friendthat maybe not be that
supportive.
So you are gonna share yourwins with them because it is
important for them to be able tocelebrate.
You Think for a moment, thetime that you are able to
celebrate someone else and theiraccomplishments, it feels great
(04:43):
.
It feels great to celebrateothers, it feels great to
celebrate you.
And, of course, the don'ts.
Don't minimize your achievementswith negative remarks like, oh,
it wasn't a big deal.
I know that one's mine.
I will raise my hand and tellyou guys.
This happens often with some ofmy major accomplishments, like
(05:09):
getting my PhD.
I used to often say it wasn't abig deal.
Oh, yeah, it wasn't that hard.
Yeah, it was not a big deal.
Blah, blah, blah.
You know I said it as it reallywasn't a big deal, because I
don't ever want anyone to feellike a degree is necessary or
(05:31):
that I think I'm better becauseI have a degree.
But on the flip side, somebodymay hear that as a it wasn't a
big deal to me.
Why can't you get your shittogether?
Or someone who struggles tostay focused in school, who has
been struggling to get theirbachelor's degree for years now,
may hear the it's not a bigdeal or it wasn't that hard as a
(05:56):
slap in the face of why theyhaven't been able to accomplish
something.
So not only are you minimizingyourself when you aren't
celebrating your wins orrecognizing the time and effort
that it did take, because it didtake me time and effort
adjusting my schedule, makingsure that I was focused and
(06:16):
doing everything I needed to do.
The comment if it wasn't a bigdeal, I mean maybe that should
have been more of like I workedthrough all the challenges.
Yes, I finished my PhD and itcame with challenges and I
worked through them versus itwasn't a big deal right, it
wasn't a big deal minimizes youraccomplishment and it minimizes
(06:40):
you and minimizes the otherperson's belief in themselves.
Inverse that, instead of youcelebrating yourself and
inspiring others to celebratethemselves, to celebrate their
wins, celebrate how far they'vecome, no matter what.
It is right.
It's not about who hasaccomplished what.
When you are celebrating,you're reminding everyone else
(07:03):
that they can celebratethemselves for those small
accomplishments that maybe theythought were not a big deal, or
the big ones too.
You know, when I see someonecelebrating their PhD and they
share their struggle and howgreat it feels, I celebrate with
them, right?
I'm like, yes, you know, I'm soglad that you were able to do
(07:24):
this and make it through.
The one thing that I have neverminimized getting or doing is
finishing my marathon.
I did a full marathon December2021 and it feels so good to be
done and it was the biggestaccomplishment that I did, that
(07:46):
I felt so good to have had itdone, like there was no part of
me that minimized it.
Of course, I was in a verydifferent mindset in 2021 than I
was in 2019, even though it wasonly a few years apart and been
working on myself, my spiritualjourney, so I think that made a
(08:07):
big difference.
So if you're having a hard timecelebrating yourself, know that
it might just be that you needto work on some inner work and
reminding yourself that it isokay to celebrate you.
It is safe for you to celebrateyourself, it is safe for others
to celebrate you, and know thatyou can celebrate your setbacks
(08:33):
too.
Setbacks are not failures.
So many times we feel like, ohmy gosh, like I can't believe
I'm back here again, not able tomove forward, and the thing is,
every setback or quote unquotefailure is really a time for you
(08:54):
to take a step back and pauseso that you can have the growth
and development you need to moveforward.
In the last year of getting myPhD, I had a moment of like oh
my God, like I cannot finishthis.
And I remember reaching out toone of my committee members and
(09:17):
just venting to her like I'mjust so tired of doing this,
like I just want to stop, youknow.
And she's like just keep going,you're so close, you're almost
done.
And in my heart I knew it, Iknew that I was almost there,
but then there's just this partof me that was like I just want
this to end.
(09:37):
So when I say like it was nobig deal, I am forgetting about
the house setbacks where it wasa big deal, where I didn't want
to move forward, where I justwanted to not have to think
about getting or completing mydissertation.
So know that those moments comefor a reason and it is so that
(10:00):
you can reflect, pause, havewhatever growth that you need
and I can't even tell you whatgrowth I needed.
I guess I needed persistence atthat point and know that you
can reach your goal.
It doesn't matter how long ittakes you to reach that goal.
It doesn't matter how long ittook you to pause.
(10:21):
Just come back to it and thenmove forward, and I will carry
out that with if that'ssomething that still you want to
do Now.
With the PhD, I was so closethere is no way that I was going
to not finish it.
And the unfortunate partthere's so many times that
(10:41):
people don't finish the PhDbecause they've just lost their
steam doing it.
Or you know, I'm sure there'sother goals that happen that way
too.
But know to come back.
Come back.
If it's in your heart that youwant something, come back to it,
but celebrate the fact that youcame back.
(11:04):
Celebrate that you continue tokeep trying, regardless of
whether you have finished thatgoal or not, because that in
itself is the win, that initself is an accomplishment.
You know, in, every little stepthat you are taking deserves a
celebration.
So take some time to journal,journal and all the things that
(11:27):
you've accomplished.
Journal and all the things thatyou've gotten back at, despite
feeling like you couldn't keepgoing, no matter how long it
took you to come back to it.
All right, guys, that is it fortoday.
Remember to celebrate your wins, share them with others and
keep those minimizing remarksout of your mouth, because that
(11:53):
is not helpful to you or anyoneelse when celebrating your wins,
big or small.
I'll talk with you guys nextweek.
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