August 22, 2023 • 18 mins
In today's episode I talk about the importance of asking for help (more often!). I reflect on my personal experiences that led me to become fiercely independent and a constant problem solver. And realizing that invaluable power of seeking help
Let's confront the discomfort associated with asking for help, and I’ll equip you with strategies to overcome this hurdle. This episode offers insights into the benefits asking for help can bring to your career and personal life, the importance of intuition, professional guidance, and continuous self-reflection. Join me as we tackle the roots of our reluctance to reach out to others, and together, let’s harness the strength in asking for help to manifest your career!
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Speaker 1 (00:02):
Are you ready to stop feeling stuck, lost or confused
about what to do next in yourcareer?
Then the Manifest your CareerPodcast is just right for you.
With me, your host, dr NormaReyes, the Manifest your Career
Podcast offers you career advicethat integrates your mind, body
and spirit.
(00:22):
It's time you start listeningto your own inner guidance.
Learn in each week to learn howto combine your intuition,
strategy and logic so that youcan manifest a career of your
dreams.
Hey everyone, welcome back.
This is episode 100, and todayI am going to talk to you all
(00:48):
about asking for help and theimportance of it.
As I went on a walk one of thesemornings last week, I was
reflecting on asking for help.
It's not something that Ireadily do or easily do.
Also, time I just go aboutthinking like I'm just going to
(01:11):
figure it out.
No matter what it is, I'm goingto figure it out.
More recently, since startingmy business, my figuring out has
been pain for supports.
By what I mean by this, it'snot just coaching.
Coaching is one of the bestinvestments ever, but I'm
talking about doing onlinecourses.
(01:32):
Again, that's not really askingfor help.
It's kind of circumventing theasking for help.
You're paying for help at thatpoint, which is what I've done a
lot to expedite certain things.
I wanted to launch my podcast.
I signed up for a eight-weekprogram that was going to teach
(01:55):
me how to launch my podcast inthe most effective and efficient
way, which I think is a greatway to go about it.
But not once that I think, oh,I'm going to reach out to people
that have done podcastingbefore so that I can learn from
them, maybe ask them somequestions, what have they done,
etc.
And then the podcast went aboutmy own way of figuring it out,
(02:16):
which was paying for a program,a group coaching program, that
was helping me.
Not that there's anything wrongwith that.
Sometimes paid supports are thebest supports for us.
But I want to get back to theinternal part, the root of the
problem, the core reason why I'mnot asking for help.
So it's an internal belief thatI've always carried that I need
(02:43):
to figure it out.
I'm not exactly sure where Ipicked it up, but if I had to
guess, I would think my mom.
Growing up, you know we didn'thave an extended family to lean
on, she didn't have a lot offriends to lean on, and when she
did us for help.
It was like in extremesituations, right.
(03:04):
So I just saw my mom alwaysfiguring it out on her own, and
my parents were together at thetime.
So you know, they just wouldalways figure it out, but most
of the time it would be my momnavigating that space figuring
it out.
Something would happen, my momwould figure it out and so
that's it, thank you.
(03:24):
Now, as an adult, I still don'thave my extended family.
Fortunately, my husband doeshave an extended family and we
do reach out to them for help.
But I do have two older sistersthat I'm estranged from and I
have a younger brother who Ioccasionally talk to.
I wouldn't say we're superbonded.
I know that if I needed him tohelp me with something, he would
(03:46):
be there.
My dad the same way, like if Iabsolutely needed them, they
would be there.
Again, it's always extremesituations or out of the
ordinary situations.
For the first time, me and myhusband in May went on a trip
together without the kids andhad my mom come and spend the
(04:07):
weekend at my house watching theboys.
That was her first time evenwatching my boys, which she
wasn't really watching them byherself either, because my
daughter, the 18-year-old, washere with them.
So really it was just so theycan have an adult in the house,
aside from the 18-year-old, incase something happened.
But again, extreme situationinstead of reaching out
(04:30):
somewhere else for help on aregular basis.
So while I know I can reach outto them, it really just became
a norm for me that I just neededto figure things out on my own,
and as a kid I filled out allthe school forms for me and my
brother and anything else myparents needed.
(04:52):
So I learned that if I wantedto figure something out, that it
was up to me Asking my parents.
There was time I can't evenremember, when it was maybe like
fifth grade that I no longerwent to my parents to try to
help me figure things out.
I was like OK, and to add tothat, I didn't even feel safe to
(05:14):
ask a teacher for help.
My number one source for askingfor help was the library books.
I constantly went to thelibrary and I would see the
knowledge of the books.
I had a funny story I rememberI was a teenager and again, the
library was my life, and so Iwas a teenager and I had seen in
(05:36):
Seventeen Magazine had a bookthat they came out with
questions you didn't know to askor questions you wanted to ask
or something like that.
And so I figured out how torequest a book.
I requested it, they ordered itand they let me know when it
was in.
And it just happened to be aday that my dad came inside with
me and the librarian hands methe book, which I'm sure was not
(06:01):
intentional, but it was theworst time I've ever with my dad
next to me.
I just really wanted to fadeaway and pretend like this is
not the book that I swear I'mnot having sex, I just want to
know about it.
I'm trying to figure it out,and so it's just funny looking
back.
I don't remember just himsaying anything to me about it.
(06:23):
I'm sure he was really mad, butyeah, it's just funny to think
about it.
Because my dad was so strict Imean just typical Latino Mexican
dad, very, very strict Icouldn't even talk on the phone,
even if it was the femalefriends.
I remember one time he gotupset because I was walking home
(06:48):
and there were some boys thatwere also walking home.
I don't remember if they wereon the same side or the opposite
side of the street, but Ididn't even know who they were
and he got mad at me.
I'm like I don't know them.
Where are you mad at me aboutthat?
I'm just walking home fromschool, dad, but just a tower of
grim and so, oh my gosh,fortunately my dad did not ban
(07:13):
me from the library or doanything extreme after that,
which is a surprise, like I said, because he was super strict.
So now, while I've been doingpretty good figuring it out all
my life, I recognize how muchlife would have been easier if I
was more readily and willing toask for help.
(07:35):
I will caveat this with whenyou ask for help or guidance,
please, please, please, followyour intuition.
I think that's the other sideof it too that anytime that I
did ask for help, a lot of timesit went against my intuition,
and so that was a reminder to methat asking for help can also
(07:56):
lead to not so great answers forme.
So again, when you are askingfor help and the guidance or the
help doesn't ring true to youor you're like I don't know
about this, follow yourintuition, because it's probably
right, and you shoulddefinitely follow your own inner
(08:20):
intuition on what is the rightnext step for you If the advice
or help that somebody isoffering you doesn't align with
you for whatever reason, doesn'tsit well, just be like okay,
thank you so much, I appreciateyour help.
And then ask somebody else youknow, or use somebody else as a
sounding board on.
Like you know, I was thinkingthis.
This person suggested this tome oh, what do you think?
(08:44):
And even just that conversationwill help you get some clarity
on what you want to do and whatwould be work for you.
So in the beginning of thisyear, I had told my team that,
if it took them longer than fiveminutes, that I wanted them to
ask for help, not because theycouldn't figure it out, but so
(09:07):
that they can use your time moreeffectively.
So what happens when we don'task for help is that you go down
the rabbit hole of trying tofigure it out and you end up
spending way more time andenergy than if you had just
asked for help.
And, of course, someone may notgive you the direct answer you
(09:28):
were looking for, but it can getyou there quicker and faster
than on your own.
So with that, I'm going to sharewith you guys a little more
reasons why, then, it's soimportant to ask for help
Because it can mean it can saveyou time and energy.
Trying to do everything on yourown can be time consuming and
exhausting.
(09:48):
By asking for help, you canfree up your time and energy to
focus on things that you aregood at.
Maybe asking for help for youlooks like getting somebody to
come clean the house every fewdays, or maybe not every few
days, but every few weeks, or itcan be taking up some cooking.
(10:09):
Whatever it is right Likefigure out what you're not so
great at, or, if you're havingan issue, ask somebody that you
know or you believe to know thatthey are better at that than
you are.
Another reason is it can helpyou learn and grow.
By asking other people for help, you're expanding your
(10:32):
knowledge.
You know you double yourknowledge by asking someone else
.
When you ask for help, you areopening yourself to new ideas
and perspective, and this canhelp you learn and grow as a
person.
Regardless.
If you use the advice,regardless.
If you have them help you, youthen open your door to expand
(10:53):
your thinking.
Another reason is it can buildrelationships.
Asking for help is a great wayto build relationships with
others.
When you ask someone for help,you are showing them that you
trust and value them.
This can help strengthen yourrelationship and make you feel
(11:14):
more connected to others.
So remember that when you feellike asking someone for help is
a burden, they actually havebeen waiting for you to ask them
for help, so this is a way tobuild that connection with them
Now.
Another reason is that it canhelp you overcome challenges.
(11:35):
Asking for help can help youovercome challenges.
Everyone faces challenges intheir lives, and asking for help
can give you the support andresources you need to get
through whatever challenges youare having, and everyone is
(11:55):
going through at least onechallenge in their life, most
likely more.
So asking for help is soimportant.
And it's also important for youto understand that asking for
help is a sign of strength, notweakness.
A lot of people are reluctantto ask for help because they
(12:18):
feel like maybe they're not allthat great at everything, maybe
they're just showing that theycan't do things for themselves.
But actually it's a sign ofstrength and self-awareness.
It shows that you're willing toadmit that you need assistance
and that you're confident enoughto ask for help, because if
(12:38):
you're not confident to ask forhelp, you wouldn't ask for it.
You just continue to not figureit out or figure it out and it
takes you so much longer inisolating yourself, really.
So here's some tips on askingfor help, especially if it's not
something that you're reallygood at doing or you don't like
(12:58):
to do.
Be specific about what you needhelp with, because if you're
like, oh, I need help watchingthe gigs, some of them might be
like, well, I don't want towatch your kids, you know.
Just so you could say, hey, Ihave a business trip coming up
and I need some help with thekids because my husband's not
able to get out early enough topick them up, which actually
(13:21):
affects.
This is something that I had todo recently, and actually I was
asking my husband if he couldask someone in this family to
help and he's like, why don'tyou do it?
And I was like, okay, whatever,and I did it.
I did it, guys, I did it and myexcuse not to do it was well,
(13:42):
they're your family, they'regoing to be more receptive to
you.
And he's like I don't know.
So I went ahead and did it andhis sister said, yes, she could
do it.
Thank goodness, because it'sliterally this week that we need
the help.
So, as for help.
Be specific about what you needhelp with.
(14:04):
Be clear on your expectations,you know.
Let them know what it is thatyou need and be grateful for the
hope that you received.
Maybe it's not the help thatyou want, but be grateful for
the help you receive and bewilling to help them in return.
And then that's what happensSometimes.
People get asked to do thingsoften and then there's not like
(14:26):
this give and take from bothsides which can cause resentment
, either from you or her mother.
So always be willing to helpthem back.
If you are struggling to askfor help, here's some ways that
you can make it easier foryourself Practice on what you're
going to say.
Think about the benefits ofasking for help.
(14:49):
You know, for us it wasdefinitely going to make it less
stressful.
Remind yourself that it is asign of strength, not weakness.
And then ask someone you trustfor help and asking for help.
I know that sounds funny to say, but ask someone how, what they
(15:11):
think about.
Hey, I'm going to ask someone.
So this question to help mewith this.
How does this sound?
I'm going to go back a littlebit and think about the I mean
practice which you're going tosay.
So when I messaged mysister-in-law, my husband was
like what did you say?
And I was like why'd you say hi?
Everyone wanted to say hibefore I asked for help.
(15:32):
And he's like just tell herwhat you want.
And you know that's the truth,right?
When he said that, I was likethat's true, cause I hate when
people just say hey, out of theblue, like tell me what you want
, you're going to ask me forsomething, just tell me.
And so when he said that, I'mlike true that, true that.
So remember that.
Like you know, if you have apreference on something, if you
(15:54):
want people to just ask youdirectly versus beating around
the bush, do that.
If you know a person likes tokind of beat around the bush
before you ask them, do that.
So figure out who you're askingfor help and how they need you
to ask for it, because somepeople may need you to actually
have a conversation with theminstead of just being like, hey,
can you do this, but somepeople might not care.
(16:15):
So I hope that all of that ishelpful to you.
I know that me and, reflectingmyself, and why haven't asked
for help, why I have this, letme figure it out mentality and
how that limits me and myability to grow and learn faster
.
I found it very, very importantto share that with you guys,
(16:37):
especially when you aremanifesting, because the
universe is always on your side,is always sending you help that
you need, but first you have tobe willing to accept it, and
you can accept it if you're notasking for it.
Remember the universe is alwayson your side and the only way
(16:57):
to receive the help is by askingfor it, being open to it, and
it's a sign of strength andself-awareness to ask for help,
so don't be afraid to reach outwhen you need it.
So how would you guys to take amoment to reflect on why you
might not ask others for help?
Was it something you learned,something that was taught by
(17:18):
family or friends?
And how does asking for helpmake you feel?
No, is it uncomfortable?
Does it make you feel like alittle kid again?
Just reflect on those process,those feelings, and if you need
professional therapy or help,seek that out.
But really just journal andreflect on it so that you can be
(17:38):
more willing and understandingof asking for help when you need
it.
All right, guys, I will talk toyou next week.
Thank you for listening to theManifest your Career podcast.
Are you ready to take actiontoday?
(17:59):
Visit ManifestYourCareercom toget started and schedule a free
discovery call with me and gainclarity today.
Are you ready to stop feeling stuck, lost or confused
about what to do next in yourcareer?
Then the Manifest your CareerPodcast is just right for you.
With me, your host, dr NormaReyes, the Manifest your Career
Podcast offers you career advicethat integrates your mind, body
and spirit.
(00:22):
It's time you start listeningto your own inner guidance.
Learn in each week to learn howto combine your intuition,
strategy and logic so that youcan manifest a career of your
dreams.
Hey everyone, welcome back.
This is episode 100, and todayI am going to talk to you all
(00:48):
about asking for help and theimportance of it.
As I went on a walk one of thesemornings last week, I was
reflecting on asking for help.
It's not something that Ireadily do or easily do.
Also, time I just go aboutthinking like I'm just going to
(01:11):
figure it out.
No matter what it is, I'm goingto figure it out.
More recently, since startingmy business, my figuring out has
been pain for supports.
By what I mean by this, it'snot just coaching.
Coaching is one of the bestinvestments ever, but I'm
talking about doing onlinecourses.
(01:32):
Again, that's not really askingfor help.
It's kind of circumventing theasking for help.
You're paying for help at thatpoint, which is what I've done a
lot to expedite certain things.
I wanted to launch my podcast.
I signed up for a eight-weekprogram that was going to teach
(01:55):
me how to launch my podcast inthe most effective and efficient
way, which I think is a greatway to go about it.
But not once that I think, oh,I'm going to reach out to people
that have done podcastingbefore so that I can learn from
them, maybe ask them somequestions, what have they done,
etc.
And then the podcast went aboutmy own way of figuring it out,
(02:16):
which was paying for a program,a group coaching program, that
was helping me.
Not that there's anything wrongwith that.
Sometimes paid supports are thebest supports for us.
But I want to get back to theinternal part, the root of the
problem, the core reason why I'mnot asking for help.
So it's an internal belief thatI've always carried that I need
(02:43):
to figure it out.
I'm not exactly sure where Ipicked it up, but if I had to
guess, I would think my mom.
Growing up, you know we didn'thave an extended family to lean
on, she didn't have a lot offriends to lean on, and when she
did us for help.
It was like in extremesituations, right.
(03:04):
So I just saw my mom alwaysfiguring it out on her own, and
my parents were together at thetime.
So you know, they just wouldalways figure it out, but most
of the time it would be my momnavigating that space figuring
it out.
Something would happen, my momwould figure it out and so
that's it, thank you.
(03:24):
Now, as an adult, I still don'thave my extended family.
Fortunately, my husband doeshave an extended family and we
do reach out to them for help.
But I do have two older sistersthat I'm estranged from and I
have a younger brother who Ioccasionally talk to.
I wouldn't say we're superbonded.
I know that if I needed him tohelp me with something, he would
(03:46):
be there.
My dad the same way, like if Iabsolutely needed them, they
would be there.
Again, it's always extremesituations or out of the
ordinary situations.
For the first time, me and myhusband in May went on a trip
together without the kids andhad my mom come and spend the
(04:07):
weekend at my house watching theboys.
That was her first time evenwatching my boys, which she
wasn't really watching them byherself either, because my
daughter, the 18-year-old, washere with them.
So really it was just so theycan have an adult in the house,
aside from the 18-year-old, incase something happened.
But again, extreme situationinstead of reaching out
(04:30):
somewhere else for help on aregular basis.
So while I know I can reach outto them, it really just became
a norm for me that I just neededto figure things out on my own,
and as a kid I filled out allthe school forms for me and my
brother and anything else myparents needed.
(04:52):
So I learned that if I wantedto figure something out, that it
was up to me Asking my parents.
There was time I can't evenremember, when it was maybe like
fifth grade that I no longerwent to my parents to try to
help me figure things out.
I was like OK, and to add tothat, I didn't even feel safe to
(05:14):
ask a teacher for help.
My number one source for askingfor help was the library books.
I constantly went to thelibrary and I would see the
knowledge of the books.
I had a funny story I rememberI was a teenager and again, the
library was my life, and so Iwas a teenager and I had seen in
(05:36):
Seventeen Magazine had a bookthat they came out with
questions you didn't know to askor questions you wanted to ask
or something like that.
And so I figured out how torequest a book.
I requested it, they ordered itand they let me know when it
was in.
And it just happened to be aday that my dad came inside with
me and the librarian hands methe book, which I'm sure was not
(06:01):
intentional, but it was theworst time I've ever with my dad
next to me.
I just really wanted to fadeaway and pretend like this is
not the book that I swear I'mnot having sex, I just want to
know about it.
I'm trying to figure it out,and so it's just funny looking
back.
I don't remember just himsaying anything to me about it.
(06:23):
I'm sure he was really mad, butyeah, it's just funny to think
about it.
Because my dad was so strict Imean just typical Latino Mexican
dad, very, very strict Icouldn't even talk on the phone,
even if it was the femalefriends.
I remember one time he gotupset because I was walking home
(06:48):
and there were some boys thatwere also walking home.
I don't remember if they wereon the same side or the opposite
side of the street, but Ididn't even know who they were
and he got mad at me.
I'm like I don't know them.
Where are you mad at me aboutthat?
I'm just walking home fromschool, dad, but just a tower of
grim and so, oh my gosh,fortunately my dad did not ban
(07:13):
me from the library or doanything extreme after that,
which is a surprise, like I said, because he was super strict.
So now, while I've been doingpretty good figuring it out all
my life, I recognize how muchlife would have been easier if I
was more readily and willing toask for help.
(07:35):
I will caveat this with whenyou ask for help or guidance,
please, please, please, followyour intuition.
I think that's the other sideof it too that anytime that I
did ask for help, a lot of timesit went against my intuition,
and so that was a reminder to methat asking for help can also
(07:56):
lead to not so great answers forme.
So again, when you are askingfor help and the guidance or the
help doesn't ring true to youor you're like I don't know
about this, follow yourintuition, because it's probably
right, and you shoulddefinitely follow your own inner
(08:20):
intuition on what is the rightnext step for you If the advice
or help that somebody isoffering you doesn't align with
you for whatever reason, doesn'tsit well, just be like okay,
thank you so much, I appreciateyour help.
And then ask somebody else youknow, or use somebody else as a
sounding board on.
Like you know, I was thinkingthis.
This person suggested this tome oh, what do you think?
(08:44):
And even just that conversationwill help you get some clarity
on what you want to do and whatwould be work for you.
So in the beginning of thisyear, I had told my team that,
if it took them longer than fiveminutes, that I wanted them to
ask for help, not because theycouldn't figure it out, but so
(09:07):
that they can use your time moreeffectively.
So what happens when we don'task for help is that you go down
the rabbit hole of trying tofigure it out and you end up
spending way more time andenergy than if you had just
asked for help.
And, of course, someone may notgive you the direct answer you
(09:28):
were looking for, but it can getyou there quicker and faster
than on your own.
So with that, I'm going to sharewith you guys a little more
reasons why, then, it's soimportant to ask for help
Because it can mean it can saveyou time and energy.
Trying to do everything on yourown can be time consuming and
exhausting.
(09:48):
By asking for help, you canfree up your time and energy to
focus on things that you aregood at.
Maybe asking for help for youlooks like getting somebody to
come clean the house every fewdays, or maybe not every few
days, but every few weeks, or itcan be taking up some cooking.
(10:09):
Whatever it is right Likefigure out what you're not so
great at, or, if you're havingan issue, ask somebody that you
know or you believe to know thatthey are better at that than
you are.
Another reason is it can helpyou learn and grow.
By asking other people for help, you're expanding your
(10:32):
knowledge.
You know you double yourknowledge by asking someone else
.
When you ask for help, you areopening yourself to new ideas
and perspective, and this canhelp you learn and grow as a
person.
Regardless.
If you use the advice,regardless.
If you have them help you, youthen open your door to expand
(10:53):
your thinking.
Another reason is it can buildrelationships.
Asking for help is a great wayto build relationships with
others.
When you ask someone for help,you are showing them that you
trust and value them.
This can help strengthen yourrelationship and make you feel
(11:14):
more connected to others.
So remember that when you feellike asking someone for help is
a burden, they actually havebeen waiting for you to ask them
for help, so this is a way tobuild that connection with them
Now.
Another reason is that it canhelp you overcome challenges.
(11:35):
Asking for help can help youovercome challenges.
Everyone faces challenges intheir lives, and asking for help
can give you the support andresources you need to get
through whatever challenges youare having, and everyone is
(11:55):
going through at least onechallenge in their life, most
likely more.
So asking for help is soimportant.
And it's also important for youto understand that asking for
help is a sign of strength, notweakness.
A lot of people are reluctantto ask for help because they
(12:18):
feel like maybe they're not allthat great at everything, maybe
they're just showing that theycan't do things for themselves.
But actually it's a sign ofstrength and self-awareness.
It shows that you're willing toadmit that you need assistance
and that you're confident enoughto ask for help, because if
(12:38):
you're not confident to ask forhelp, you wouldn't ask for it.
You just continue to not figureit out or figure it out and it
takes you so much longer inisolating yourself, really.
So here's some tips on askingfor help, especially if it's not
something that you're reallygood at doing or you don't like
(12:58):
to do.
Be specific about what you needhelp with, because if you're
like, oh, I need help watchingthe gigs, some of them might be
like, well, I don't want towatch your kids, you know.
Just so you could say, hey, Ihave a business trip coming up
and I need some help with thekids because my husband's not
able to get out early enough topick them up, which actually
(13:21):
affects.
This is something that I had todo recently, and actually I was
asking my husband if he couldask someone in this family to
help and he's like, why don'tyou do it?
And I was like, okay, whatever,and I did it.
I did it, guys, I did it and myexcuse not to do it was well,
(13:42):
they're your family, they'regoing to be more receptive to
you.
And he's like I don't know.
So I went ahead and did it andhis sister said, yes, she could
do it.
Thank goodness, because it'sliterally this week that we need
the help.
So, as for help.
Be specific about what you needhelp with.
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Be clear on your expectations,you know.
Let them know what it is thatyou need and be grateful for the
hope that you received.
Maybe it's not the help thatyou want, but be grateful for
the help you receive and bewilling to help them in return.
And then that's what happensSometimes.
People get asked to do thingsoften and then there's not like
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this give and take from bothsides which can cause resentment
, either from you or her mother.
So always be willing to helpthem back.
If you are struggling to askfor help, here's some ways that
you can make it easier foryourself Practice on what you're
going to say.
Think about the benefits ofasking for help.
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You know, for us it wasdefinitely going to make it less
stressful.
Remind yourself that it is asign of strength, not weakness.
And then ask someone you trustfor help and asking for help.
I know that sounds funny to say, but ask someone how, what they
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think about.
Hey, I'm going to ask someone.
So this question to help mewith this.
How does this sound?
I'm going to go back a littlebit and think about the I mean
practice which you're going tosay.
So when I messaged mysister-in-law, my husband was
like what did you say?
And I was like why'd you say hi?
Everyone wanted to say hibefore I asked for help.
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And he's like just tell herwhat you want.
And you know that's the truth,right?
When he said that, I was likethat's true, cause I hate when
people just say hey, out of theblue, like tell me what you want
, you're going to ask me forsomething, just tell me.
And so when he said that, I'mlike true that, true that.
So remember that.
Like you know, if you have apreference on something, if you
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want people to just ask youdirectly versus beating around
the bush, do that.
If you know a person likes tokind of beat around the bush
before you ask them, do that.
So figure out who you're askingfor help and how they need you
to ask for it, because somepeople may need you to actually
have a conversation with theminstead of just being like, hey,
can you do this, but somepeople might not care.
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So I hope that all of that ishelpful to you.
I know that me and, reflectingmyself, and why haven't asked
for help, why I have this, letme figure it out mentality and
how that limits me and myability to grow and learn faster
.
I found it very, very importantto share that with you guys,
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especially when you aremanifesting, because the
universe is always on your side,is always sending you help that
you need, but first you have tobe willing to accept it, and
you can accept it if you're notasking for it.
Remember the universe is alwayson your side and the only way
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to receive the help is by askingfor it, being open to it, and
it's a sign of strength andself-awareness to ask for help,
so don't be afraid to reach outwhen you need it.
So how would you guys to take amoment to reflect on why you
might not ask others for help?
Was it something you learned,something that was taught by
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family or friends?
And how does asking for helpmake you feel?
No, is it uncomfortable?
Does it make you feel like alittle kid again?
Just reflect on those process,those feelings, and if you need
professional therapy or help,seek that out.
But really just journal andreflect on it so that you can be
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more willing and understandingof asking for help when you need
it.
All right, guys, I will talk toyou next week.
Thank you for listening to theManifest your Career podcast.
Are you ready to take actiontoday?
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Visit ManifestYourCareercom toget started and schedule a free
discovery call with me and gainclarity today.
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