August 15, 2023 • 18 mins
Life transitions can hit us like a tidal wave, leaving us grappling with new routines and unfamiliar experiences. Imagine going from the comfort of a nine-to-five job to the unpredictable world of entrepreneurship or sending your first child off to college. That's where I, your host Dr. Norma Reyes, found myself, and I'm ready to share my journey with you. Together, let's navigate these often overwhelming waters and emerge stronger, wiser and more resilient.
Do you feel like you're on a roller coaster, navigating your life as it spirals from one change to another? Perhaps you're beginning a new job, dealing with a major illness, or even getting married. It's time to introduce stability and grounding into your life. Let's discuss the life-changing power of yoga, journaling and meditation during these transitions. I've walked this path and I'm here to help you transform your dreams into reality while maintaining a positive spirit. Buckle up for an enlightening conversation about embracing and managing life's inevitable transitions.
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Speaker 1 (00:02):
Are you ready to stop feeling stuck, lost or confused
about what to do next in yourcareer?
Then the Manifest your CareerPodcast is just right for you.
With me, your host, dr NormaReyes, the Manifest your Career
Podcast offers you career advicethat integrates your mind, body
and spirit.
(00:22):
It's time you start listeningto your own inner guidance and,
in each week, to learn how tocombine your intuition, strategy
and logic so that you canmanifest a career of your dreams
.
Hey everyone, welcome back.
(00:43):
This is episode 99, and today Iwill be talking to you guys
about transitions.
Life is full of transitions andyou know it's during those times
that we begin to feeloverwhelmed and challenged, and
(01:07):
you know some transitions areexpected and some are not.
This is why it's so importantthat you have strategies or
routines in place to help youmanage the ups and downs from
life transitions.
Having a daily routine helpsground you, having support that
(01:31):
helps you feel better when youare feeling low, because when
you are overwhelmed, stressedand challenged, you're likely
feeling pretty low and having asupport system for yourself
whether it's a coach, whetherit's a friend, family, whoever
(01:52):
that you can go to during thosemoments to help uplift you is so
important.
Life is full of transitions.
Like I think, when we don'thave life transitions going on
is maybe when we feel thatslowdown, when we feel like
nothing is moving forward.
But when transitions arehappening, then it's like the
(02:14):
opposite right, so it's like aroller coaster.
Some really common ones, ofcourse, are starting a new job,
going to college, graduatingfrom college, moving to a new
city, getting married, havingkids, kids going to school, kids
going to college, changingcareers, and then other
(02:37):
transitions that may not feel aspositive are dealing with major
illnesses or an injury, a lossof a loved one or building a
business.
So these are just a few of them,but there are so many life
transitions, and right now I'mgoing through my own life
transitions where I am sendingoff my first child to college,
(03:06):
while also today, the day ofrecording this episode, is my
last day of my nine to five, andI've been preparing for this,
and all of this week it's beenthe back and forth like is this
the right decision?
How are we going to pay ourbills?
Did I make a mistake by doingthis?
(03:26):
There was not a part of me thatwanted to change the decision,
because obviously I still couldat any time, but I was just very
much of like in the space oflike.
Is this a terrible decision?
And so I did have some peoplesupport me through it, remind me
, like you've been planning thisout, you wouldn't make a
(03:49):
decision that you didn't feelconfident in.
And you know more support thatway that I wasn't even expecting
or needing to know that Ineeded to hear, but also hearing
support from others of like.
You know this feeling that youhave it's going to come and go
as an entrepreneur, you know,and so knowing that kind of also
(04:10):
prepares me for the transitionsof being an entrepreneur, where
feeling the ups and the downs.
So how can you manage these lifetransitions?
So here are some ways.
Here are four ways that you canmanage those transitions.
One is creating a plan, settingrealistic expectations, asking
(04:35):
for help and staying positiveand resilient during these
transitions, which can be tough,and this is not saying don't
feel your emotions, but alsodon't dwell in them.
Find ways to help you get backto being grounded, to lift
(04:56):
yourself up from the lows.
So life transitions arehappening in your life almost
every year.
Some might be big, some mightbe small, some might impact you
completely, some might impactyour family and they affect you.
But it's super important tohave a routine.
(05:19):
But before I go into theroutine part, I'm going to talk
about how to manage a transitionthat you have, like you,
prepared for, right, becausesome transitions, like maybe a
loss of a loved one or losing ajob, being laid off you can't
have a plan pre-made for that.
But by having an idea of, like,what you want to do if
(05:43):
something like that were tohappen also helps, right.
So life planning is also veryimportant.
If you don't have that in place, just start looking into it and
maybe talk to someone about it.
So, creating a plan Now, whenyou hear that you might feel
like, oh my God, that soundsoverwhelming.
But it doesn't have to beanything elaborate.
(06:06):
It can be helpful to just havea general idea of what you feel
you need during this transition.
If you're starting a new job,create a list of things you need
to prepare, such as researchingthe company, updating your
resume, practicing interviewskills as I'm transitioning to
(06:26):
be full-time in entrepreneurs.
That list could include what'smy work schedule going to be
like?
How do I want to break down myworking days?
When am I seeing clients?
When am I not seeing clients?
When am I working on differentareas of my business and what
supports do I have?
(06:47):
And currently I am in amastermind with a coach, with a
group of other entrepreneurialwomen, so that is definitely a
support that I appreciate.
That we meet weekly and,honestly, yeah, if you want to
be as successful as you want tobe, I highly recommend finding a
(07:09):
support group for yourself.
It doesn't necessarily have tobe paid.
There's a lot of free resources, a lot of free support groups
out there, and, of course, youknow a coach can always help you
be more accountable to yourself.
The next thing is settingrealistic expectations.
Change can be difficult, soit's important to be patient
with yourself.
(07:30):
I could remind you for myself,too, and not expect to adjust
overnight and I love that I'mdoing this episode during my own
transition, because this is agreat reminder for myself that
next week, my first day nothaving to report anywhere and
(07:52):
you know I've just, like I haveso many thoughts just even
saying those words right.
Like I will be my own boss.
I will be deciding what I amdoing, what needs to get done in
order to be successful in mybusiness and, honestly, like I
have so many thoughts right nowthat.
It's just a reminder that it'simportant for me to create a
(08:14):
list for myself.
I always tell my clients tocreate an ideal day so that I
will definitely be doing that.
Next week will not be a.
It will be a prep week.
You know, for me, it will be aweek where, when I told me to
clean, my basket is a big oldmass of all the weeks just
(08:35):
piling on, not putting in thetime to keep my space tidy right
.
And when we are feelingoverwhelmed, when we are going
through life transitions, thisis what happens, you know.
You begin to leave areas ofyour desk home life untidy right
.
They could be tangible, or theycould be things like money
(08:56):
right, like, oh, I'm not lookingat my budget as much, but
what's important is to set somerealistic expectations on what
you can do, and I cannot expectthat next week, day one, I'm
gonna know exactly what I'mgonna be doing.
What I can do is decide okay,I'm gonna take this week, clean
up my space, create the routinethat I want, adjust to it and
(09:20):
then also reduce overworking,because the whole point of
becoming an entrepreneur for mewas to make more money in less
time and have more time formyself have more time for my
family and just really have morejoy in my life, because I had
gone to a place at my nine tofive that I just wasn't happy
(09:43):
anymore.
It wasn't fulfilling.
The what I was receiving frommy job wasn't enough for me
anymore, and that was one of thedeciding factors to decide to
leave my nine to five and gofull-time into my business.
The next thing that you can dois ask for help.
Don't be afraid to reach out toyour friends, family,
(10:08):
colleagues for support during alife transition.
They can help offer youguidance, encouragement and
practical help.
You know it's so important toask for help.
A lot of times we need help andwe want help, but no one knows
that we need it.
(10:28):
This happens to everyone, andit's not that you don't want to
help sometimes.
Sometimes it's just that youbelieve that others can see you
struggling.
Why aren't they helping me?
Why are they doing this?
Don't they see me?
Don't they see that I need help?
And what happens is we are justso wrapped up in ourselves that
(10:51):
we don't even notice thatwhoever is around you your
family, your support system isin their own world right Taking
their own help with whatever isgoing on in their lives.
So if we need help, ask for it.
And if you don't even know whatto ask, just let people know
what's going on.
You know I'm going through thistransition but speaking of that
(11:15):
, I don't know that I've reallytold family.
So definitely we'll be sharingthat more with family more
directly.
I think everyone's known thatI've.
It's something I've wanted todo, but I haven't actually
shared it with family or ways onhow I need help.
I don't know how I'll need helpfrom my family during this time
(11:38):
, but definitely we'll just letthem know, right?
Because then, once people knowwhat is going on in your life,
they can support you in waysthat you may not even know they
can.
And the last one is it's soimportant to stay positive and
resilient.
And this is not that wholetoxic positivity thing where
(12:00):
it's like just keep your chin upand, you know, forget about
your feelings or something.
Change can be challenging, butit's so important for growth.
So focus on the positiveaspects of the transition.
Remind yourself that you arecapable of handling it, where
(12:24):
the life transition is, whetherit was planned or not.
Remind yourself that you arestrong enough to go through this
life transition and then, youknow, find ways to support
yourself, to stay positive andlook and focused at the good
things, the good things that cancome out of this particular
(12:46):
life transition, whether it's apositive one or one that maybe
is not so positive.
And the last thing I want totalk to you guys, because it is
so important, and I mentionedthis in the beginning, is having
a way to ground yourself.
You can call it a groundingroutine.
(13:08):
You can do this in variousdifferent ways.
Some of the ways that I suggestis having a routine, right, a
daily routine that you do, whichcan include many different
things, right, but whatever itis that works for you.
You know, hygiene, maybelistening to some positive
affirmations, reciting them,journaling and then maybe doing
(13:31):
some meditation and that's someyoga.
Now, doing or trying to do allthose at once, when you're
creating your routine for thefirst time, can and will be
overwhelming.
So it's super important tostart off with one thing at a
time, start off withaffirmations and then move on to
(13:56):
adding journaling and thenadding, you know, meditation and
yoga.
And why yoga?
And I'm not talking about likea 30 minute yoga routine, I'm
talking about a five to 10minute yoga routine.
The reason for yoga is becauseall of these different things
(14:16):
affirmations, journaling,meditation they morph for your
mind and your spirit, but yogahelps ground you in your body,
connecting your breath in yourmind and your body until one.
And so if you're new to yoga,or even the thought of including
it in your daily routine, startwith a sun salutation.
(14:38):
The sun salutations will helpyou just kind of begin the
practice.
It's very simple.
If you have issues with bodymovement, just look for a
modified version of it.
It's something that I trulyenjoyed doing.
And I'm just saying, these lastfew weeks I have not done my
(14:59):
yoga routine.
I haven't done meditation, yogaand affirmations, and partly is
because I've felt so exhaustedwith all the different things
being thrown on me.
But you know, by not groundingmyself, it has been a lot to me
feeling like, oh my gosh, isthis the right decision?
(15:19):
Like, what am I thinking?
And you know what?
About money and all of thesedifferent things?
And when you guys, I have itall planned out, we have money
and savings and I do have moneycoming in the business.
So well, it's a super scary me,the me that planned this out a
few months ago, planned for thatright, and the me that was
(15:45):
doing her daily routine, doingher yoga, you know, showing up
for herself the way that I, mybest self, does, was doing all
the things I was working right.
So what do I need to do now thatI'm in this transition and have
fallen back on?
Not doing those things isstarting to build my routine up
(16:08):
again.
Yes, I would love to go back tomy usual routine of journaling,
getting my day started,meditating affirmations, but I
don't want to overwhelm myself.
So what I will start with thiscoming week is really just my
usual routine of listening toaffirmations.
(16:28):
I may or may not do some yogaand then journaling or
meditation, like, and I sayeither, or right.
So I want to do at least two tothree things next week, but if I
only go to, you know, that goesback to sudden realistic
expectations and knowing that,hey, at least I'm back to
getting myself into the routinethat is going to ground me and
(16:51):
help me be resilient when thingsfeel overwhelming.
So life transitions arehappening all the time and some
feel good, some feel scary, somefeel, you know, sad, but all of
them you can get through them.
All you got to do is startasking for help creating a plan,
(17:14):
if you can, setting somerealistic expectations and then
creating a routine that helpsyou stay positive and resilient
during these transitions.
That is all.
If you are interested incoaching, I will be focusing on
helping those learn how tomanifest.
(17:34):
So a little change when I'vebeen doing.
But if you are interested inlearning more about manifesting
and how you can overcome anymanifesting blocks that you are
having, schedule a discoverycall with me and we can get
started.
Are you ready to stop feeling stuck, lost or confused
about what to do next in yourcareer?
Then the Manifest your CareerPodcast is just right for you.
With me, your host, dr NormaReyes, the Manifest your Career
Podcast offers you career advicethat integrates your mind, body
and spirit.
(00:22):
It's time you start listeningto your own inner guidance and,
in each week, to learn how tocombine your intuition, strategy
and logic so that you canmanifest a career of your dreams
.
Hey everyone, welcome back.
(00:43):
This is episode 99, and today Iwill be talking to you guys
about transitions.
Life is full of transitions andyou know it's during those times
that we begin to feeloverwhelmed and challenged, and
(01:07):
you know some transitions areexpected and some are not.
This is why it's so importantthat you have strategies or
routines in place to help youmanage the ups and downs from
life transitions.
Having a daily routine helpsground you, having support that
(01:31):
helps you feel better when youare feeling low, because when
you are overwhelmed, stressedand challenged, you're likely
feeling pretty low and having asupport system for yourself
whether it's a coach, whetherit's a friend, family, whoever
(01:52):
that you can go to during thosemoments to help uplift you is so
important.
Life is full of transitions.
Like I think, when we don'thave life transitions going on
is maybe when we feel thatslowdown, when we feel like
nothing is moving forward.
But when transitions arehappening, then it's like the
(02:14):
opposite right, so it's like aroller coaster.
Some really common ones, ofcourse, are starting a new job,
going to college, graduatingfrom college, moving to a new
city, getting married, havingkids, kids going to school, kids
going to college, changingcareers, and then other
(02:37):
transitions that may not feel aspositive are dealing with major
illnesses or an injury, a lossof a loved one or building a
business.
So these are just a few of them,but there are so many life
transitions, and right now I'mgoing through my own life
transitions where I am sendingoff my first child to college,
(03:06):
while also today, the day ofrecording this episode, is my
last day of my nine to five, andI've been preparing for this,
and all of this week it's beenthe back and forth like is this
the right decision?
How are we going to pay ourbills?
Did I make a mistake by doingthis?
(03:26):
There was not a part of me thatwanted to change the decision,
because obviously I still couldat any time, but I was just very
much of like in the space oflike.
Is this a terrible decision?
And so I did have some peoplesupport me through it, remind me
, like you've been planning thisout, you wouldn't make a
(03:49):
decision that you didn't feelconfident in.
And you know more support thatway that I wasn't even expecting
or needing to know that Ineeded to hear, but also hearing
support from others of like.
You know this feeling that youhave it's going to come and go
as an entrepreneur, you know,and so knowing that kind of also
(04:10):
prepares me for the transitionsof being an entrepreneur, where
feeling the ups and the downs.
So how can you manage these lifetransitions?
So here are some ways.
Here are four ways that you canmanage those transitions.
One is creating a plan, settingrealistic expectations, asking
(04:35):
for help and staying positiveand resilient during these
transitions, which can be tough,and this is not saying don't
feel your emotions, but alsodon't dwell in them.
Find ways to help you get backto being grounded, to lift
(04:56):
yourself up from the lows.
So life transitions arehappening in your life almost
every year.
Some might be big, some mightbe small, some might impact you
completely, some might impactyour family and they affect you.
But it's super important tohave a routine.
(05:19):
But before I go into theroutine part, I'm going to talk
about how to manage a transitionthat you have, like you,
prepared for, right, becausesome transitions, like maybe a
loss of a loved one or losing ajob, being laid off you can't
have a plan pre-made for that.
But by having an idea of, like,what you want to do if
(05:43):
something like that were tohappen also helps, right.
So life planning is also veryimportant.
If you don't have that in place, just start looking into it and
maybe talk to someone about it.
So, creating a plan Now, whenyou hear that you might feel
like, oh my God, that soundsoverwhelming.
But it doesn't have to beanything elaborate.
(06:06):
It can be helpful to just havea general idea of what you feel
you need during this transition.
If you're starting a new job,create a list of things you need
to prepare, such as researchingthe company, updating your
resume, practicing interviewskills as I'm transitioning to
(06:26):
be full-time in entrepreneurs.
That list could include what'smy work schedule going to be
like?
How do I want to break down myworking days?
When am I seeing clients?
When am I not seeing clients?
When am I working on differentareas of my business and what
supports do I have?
(06:47):
And currently I am in amastermind with a coach, with a
group of other entrepreneurialwomen, so that is definitely a
support that I appreciate.
That we meet weekly and,honestly, yeah, if you want to
be as successful as you want tobe, I highly recommend finding a
(07:09):
support group for yourself.
It doesn't necessarily have tobe paid.
There's a lot of free resources, a lot of free support groups
out there, and, of course, youknow a coach can always help you
be more accountable to yourself.
The next thing is settingrealistic expectations.
Change can be difficult, soit's important to be patient
with yourself.
(07:30):
I could remind you for myself,too, and not expect to adjust
overnight and I love that I'mdoing this episode during my own
transition, because this is agreat reminder for myself that
next week, my first day nothaving to report anywhere and
(07:52):
you know I've just, like I haveso many thoughts just even
saying those words right.
Like I will be my own boss.
I will be deciding what I amdoing, what needs to get done in
order to be successful in mybusiness and, honestly, like I
have so many thoughts right nowthat.
It's just a reminder that it'simportant for me to create a
(08:14):
list for myself.
I always tell my clients tocreate an ideal day so that I
will definitely be doing that.
Next week will not be a.
It will be a prep week.
You know, for me, it will be aweek where, when I told me to
clean, my basket is a big oldmass of all the weeks just
(08:35):
piling on, not putting in thetime to keep my space tidy right
.
And when we are feelingoverwhelmed, when we are going
through life transitions, thisis what happens, you know.
You begin to leave areas ofyour desk home life untidy right
.
They could be tangible, or theycould be things like money
(08:56):
right, like, oh, I'm not lookingat my budget as much, but
what's important is to set somerealistic expectations on what
you can do, and I cannot expectthat next week, day one, I'm
gonna know exactly what I'mgonna be doing.
What I can do is decide okay,I'm gonna take this week, clean
up my space, create the routinethat I want, adjust to it and
(09:20):
then also reduce overworking,because the whole point of
becoming an entrepreneur for mewas to make more money in less
time and have more time formyself have more time for my
family and just really have morejoy in my life, because I had
gone to a place at my nine tofive that I just wasn't happy
(09:43):
anymore.
It wasn't fulfilling.
The what I was receiving frommy job wasn't enough for me
anymore, and that was one of thedeciding factors to decide to
leave my nine to five and gofull-time into my business.
The next thing that you can dois ask for help.
Don't be afraid to reach out toyour friends, family,
(10:08):
colleagues for support during alife transition.
They can help offer youguidance, encouragement and
practical help.
You know it's so important toask for help.
A lot of times we need help andwe want help, but no one knows
that we need it.
(10:28):
This happens to everyone, andit's not that you don't want to
help sometimes.
Sometimes it's just that youbelieve that others can see you
struggling.
Why aren't they helping me?
Why are they doing this?
Don't they see me?
Don't they see that I need help?
And what happens is we are justso wrapped up in ourselves that
(10:51):
we don't even notice thatwhoever is around you your
family, your support system isin their own world right Taking
their own help with whatever isgoing on in their lives.
So if we need help, ask for it.
And if you don't even know whatto ask, just let people know
what's going on.
You know I'm going through thistransition but speaking of that
(11:15):
, I don't know that I've reallytold family.
So definitely we'll be sharingthat more with family more
directly.
I think everyone's known thatI've.
It's something I've wanted todo, but I haven't actually
shared it with family or ways onhow I need help.
I don't know how I'll need helpfrom my family during this time
(11:38):
, but definitely we'll just letthem know, right?
Because then, once people knowwhat is going on in your life,
they can support you in waysthat you may not even know they
can.
And the last one is it's soimportant to stay positive and
resilient.
And this is not that wholetoxic positivity thing where
(12:00):
it's like just keep your chin upand, you know, forget about
your feelings or something.
Change can be challenging, butit's so important for growth.
So focus on the positiveaspects of the transition.
Remind yourself that you arecapable of handling it, where
(12:24):
the life transition is, whetherit was planned or not.
Remind yourself that you arestrong enough to go through this
life transition and then, youknow, find ways to support
yourself, to stay positive andlook and focused at the good
things, the good things that cancome out of this particular
(12:46):
life transition, whether it's apositive one or one that maybe
is not so positive.
And the last thing I want totalk to you guys, because it is
so important, and I mentionedthis in the beginning, is having
a way to ground yourself.
You can call it a groundingroutine.
(13:08):
You can do this in variousdifferent ways.
Some of the ways that I suggestis having a routine, right, a
daily routine that you do, whichcan include many different
things, right, but whatever itis that works for you.
You know, hygiene, maybelistening to some positive
affirmations, reciting them,journaling and then maybe doing
(13:31):
some meditation and that's someyoga.
Now, doing or trying to do allthose at once, when you're
creating your routine for thefirst time, can and will be
overwhelming.
So it's super important tostart off with one thing at a
time, start off withaffirmations and then move on to
(13:56):
adding journaling and thenadding, you know, meditation and
yoga.
And why yoga?
And I'm not talking about likea 30 minute yoga routine, I'm
talking about a five to 10minute yoga routine.
The reason for yoga is becauseall of these different things
(14:16):
affirmations, journaling,meditation they morph for your
mind and your spirit, but yogahelps ground you in your body,
connecting your breath in yourmind and your body until one.
And so if you're new to yoga,or even the thought of including
it in your daily routine, startwith a sun salutation.
(14:38):
The sun salutations will helpyou just kind of begin the
practice.
It's very simple.
If you have issues with bodymovement, just look for a
modified version of it.
It's something that I trulyenjoyed doing.
And I'm just saying, these lastfew weeks I have not done my
(14:59):
yoga routine.
I haven't done meditation, yogaand affirmations, and partly is
because I've felt so exhaustedwith all the different things
being thrown on me.
But you know, by not groundingmyself, it has been a lot to me
feeling like, oh my gosh, isthis the right decision?
(15:19):
Like, what am I thinking?
And you know what?
About money and all of thesedifferent things?
And when you guys, I have itall planned out, we have money
and savings and I do have moneycoming in the business.
So well, it's a super scary me,the me that planned this out a
few months ago, planned for thatright, and the me that was
(15:45):
doing her daily routine, doingher yoga, you know, showing up
for herself the way that I, mybest self, does, was doing all
the things I was working right.
So what do I need to do now thatI'm in this transition and have
fallen back on?
Not doing those things isstarting to build my routine up
(16:08):
again.
Yes, I would love to go back tomy usual routine of journaling,
getting my day started,meditating affirmations, but I
don't want to overwhelm myself.
So what I will start with thiscoming week is really just my
usual routine of listening toaffirmations.
(16:28):
I may or may not do some yogaand then journaling or
meditation, like, and I sayeither, or right.
So I want to do at least two tothree things next week, but if I
only go to, you know, that goesback to sudden realistic
expectations and knowing that,hey, at least I'm back to
getting myself into the routinethat is going to ground me and
(16:51):
help me be resilient when thingsfeel overwhelming.
So life transitions arehappening all the time and some
feel good, some feel scary, somefeel, you know, sad, but all of
them you can get through them.
All you got to do is startasking for help creating a plan,
(17:14):
if you can, setting somerealistic expectations and then
creating a routine that helpsyou stay positive and resilient
during these transitions.
That is all.
If you are interested incoaching, I will be focusing on
helping those learn how tomanifest.
(17:34):
So a little change when I'vebeen doing.
But if you are interested inlearning more about manifesting
and how you can overcome anymanifesting blocks that you are
having, schedule a discoverycall with me and we can get
started.
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