March 11, 2025 • 19 mins
In this premiere episode, I open the door to my journey from survival mode to intentional living, revealing how overcoming challenges shaped my approach to both mental and physical strength.
Growing up with young, divorced parents created complicated relationships that left lasting impressions on my sense of self-worth. Though I appeared strong on the outside—bartending nights after office work, hitting after-hours clubs, and pushing through on minimal sleep—I was fragile and weak, and tired from wearing masks.
The constant refrain of "make your own money" and "never rely on a man" echoed from my childhood, creating defense mechanisms that initially seemed protective but ultimately limited my growth.
The turning point came when I realized that trust issues with others stemmed from a fundamental lack of trust in myself. I didn't know how to establish healthy boundaries or honor my own needs. This podcast represents my commitment to sharing those hard-earned lessons—many of the stories I've previously kept hidden out of fear.
When I recorded thirteen episodes in 2022 and shelved them, I recognized a pattern: by silencing my experiences, I wasn't just limiting my own creative expression but potentially withholding insights that could help others navigate similar experiences.
Whether you're struggling with self-worth, facing career transitions, or working to build physical and mental resilience, this weekly podcast offers both raw honesty and practical advice. If you're not actively, intentionally pursuing better health and growth, you're choosing the alternative.
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Tiana (00:01):
What's going on?
Welcome to episode one of theUnbreakable Mind and Body
Podcast.
I'm your host, tiana, and I amso grateful to have you here in
this space, in this container,in this moment with me.
The main theme of this show isovercoming adversity, and I plan
to help you with difficultsituations that you are either
(00:25):
currently facing or that youmight encounter in your future,
by sharing stories aboutchallenges I've overcome in my
professional life, with familymembers and, of course, in the
romance department.
What sets me apart from manypeople that you may encounter is
(00:45):
my own unique skillset andexperience.
In fact, that's what separateseach of us from the next person.
So there is value in comingtogether and in sharing stories
and in placing you in thosedetails that allow you to really
(01:06):
submerge yourself and feel whatwas happening at the time.
Oftentimes, we don't think ofsomething until it's been
presented to us, or we don'tthink of a question until
somebody else asks it, and thenyou say to yourself oh, that's a
good question, I'd like to knowthat information too.
That's really what the point ofthis podcast is.
(01:26):
So today you'll get a pictureof who I am and my background,
and as we continue, episode toepisode, we'll get real gritty
into the details of some reallyjuicy stories and some
situations, twists, turns,changes in direction.
(01:47):
It's happened time and timeagain where I've started
something and then I've changedmy mind and I used to be
disappointed by that.
I used to be pissed if Idecided, ah, this isn't working
out, I guess it's just going tosuck.
No, now I'll say to myself thisisn't working out, I need to
(02:08):
make a change.
Both of them are saying it'snot working out.
One person the first is sayingI'll suck it up and deal with it
.
The other is saying I'll make achange.
It could be a drastic change,it could be a minor change, it
can be internal, it could beexternal.
The possibilities are endless.
But how you choose to do thenext thing is what I'm here to
(02:32):
help you with.
So I'm a personal trainer andnutrition coach.
I work exclusively in person atthe moment and I love what I do
.
I love being able to give myclients tactile cues, I love to
see their eyes light up when thethings connect, and I love
teaching them about movement andhow to fuel their bodies
(02:55):
properly so that they can thrive, as they are also making
permanent changes to theirlifestyle habits and creating
things that they want forthemselves, for example, feeling
vibrant as they get older,playing with their teenage kids,
being able to run after theirgrandkids, just moving better in
(03:19):
general.
Sometimes what someone wants isso simple.
It's almost too easy for themto figure it out because the
answer is very obvious.
Sometimes it's much morecomplex and therefore they need
another set of eyes, another setof hands, another problem
solver to be in the mix.
Regardless of the complexity ornot of a situation, I love to
(03:45):
be involved in the process.
Now, the creative process is myfavorite place and, speaking
about creative processes, thisshow in and of itself was a
process.
I had birthed this idea in 2021with my former business coach,
(04:05):
Jill Coleman, shout out to Jill,and she gave me this idea and
said, " you got to get in thepodcast space.
If it's even an inkling of whatyou want to do, you got to do
it.
Now.
You need to get in there.
I bought some cheap assequipment, I got some training
and I recorded 13 episodes.
(04:25):
What did I do with them?
Absolutely nothing.
Why?
Because I was scared, and Iknow some people listening to
this are going to say you, youwere scared.
You're never scared.
Oh, yes, I am.
I'm scared all the time.
I usually still go on and dowhatever it is I'm scared of,
though, but in this case, Ididn't, and I'm going to tell
(04:46):
you why.
I had a really challengingrelationship with both of my
parents growing up.
They were young when they hadme, and they got divorced when I
was young, and I had a reallycomplicated relationship with my
father.
I also had a really complicatedrelationship with my father.
I also had a really complicatedrelationship with my mother,
(05:08):
and I've never been close toboth at the same time.
Unfortunately for me.
I've always had to juggle that,and I just didn't want to hurt
anyone, but the truth is.
The truth is my experiences aremine, and they were real and
(05:33):
they did happen, and even if,perhaps, what I remember is
extreme or is not exactly whatoccurred, that was my experience
at that time as a child.
That is how I felt in thatmoment, and some of those things
are really hard to let go of.
When it came to it in 2022, whenI recorded these 13 episodes,
there were some stories in therethat I knew were going to be
(05:56):
probably problematic Eyebrowraising, pearl clutching and I
just decided I didn't want todeal with it.
Well, guess what?
I did that a couple of yearsprior when I started writing my
book.
And guess what?
I did that also a few yearsprior.
So this situation has come up.
This is not the first time, butthis is the first time that I'm
(06:18):
just going to go ahead and ripthe bandaid off, because by
keeping these stories locked up,I'm not helping anyone.
By keeping these things tomyself, I'm jamming up my flow.
Artists need to create and ifthey're not creating, they're
suffering.
Musicians play music, dancersdance, painters, paint, writers
(06:43):
write, singers sing.
Do you see where I'm going withthis?
I'm a storyteller, I have thegift of gab, I love to talk, and
anyone who works with me knowsthey can hear me yapping,
yapping, yapping all day.
And the funny thing is, Iactually thought I was an
introvert for a period of time.
No, it wasn't that I was justworking in isolation, but I was
(07:05):
home as a function of my work.
And the truth is I neededsocialization, I needed to be
around some people, I needed toget out into the world, and I do
love people and I love to talk.
So this could be a fantasticoutlet for me and it could be a
(07:28):
great way for us to connect.
If something I say is relatable,let me know.
Please check the show notes.
It has all the ways that youcan find me out in the world and
reach out to me and share withme your similar stories, because
this is how we can flourish bycoming together.
(07:50):
You don't always have to doeverything alone.
In fact, I just saw a piece ofcontent moments ago, before I
started recording, that said ifyou have the mindset of thinking
that no one understands me andI'm just out here on my own,
then that will be your truth.
But if you realize that maybeyou are not easily understood,
(08:12):
but there are other people outthere with similar situations
that you could at least givethem a chance to see if they can
empathize with you, you'dprobably be better off.
(08:37):
One of the recurring themes thatI'm going to be touching on a
lot on this show is worthiness,particularly self-worth, the
worthiness you assign toyourself, the worthiness that
you feel internally, because itimpacts everything, including
how you show up in work,conversations, in your personal
relationships, and it wassomething I had to teach myself
how to discover as an adult.
It's not anyone's fault.
(08:58):
I did the best I could at thetime with the tools I had at my
disposal.
I wasn't taught certain thingsas a child.
I had to figure it out.
I thought that beingindependent was the only way for
me "Make your own money.
Keep a mattress fund, have thefuck you money.
(09:21):
Never rely on a man.
These were the things I wasindoctrinated with as a little
girl, I kid you, not five yearsold, six years old.
Seven years old both my motherand father saying these things
to me I had major trust issues.
I didn't trust a lot of people,but really, what I figured out
(09:44):
this came to light probablyabout 10, 15 years ago in
therapy.
I didn't trust myself.
I didn't know how to establisha boundary in a healthy way, nor
did I know how to maintain it.
Nor did I realize that I don'thave to explain myself to
everyone.
No is a complete sentence.
(10:05):
So if a guy asks me a questionand I'm uncomfortable with it, I
can simply say no.
I don't have to get into allthis wishy-washy and then this
and then that and explaining no,that's trauma, baby.
We don't do that anymore.
And that self-worth piece hasbeen a game changer for me that
feeling of knowing who I am andknowing that I got this and that
(10:30):
I'm not going to betray myselfanymore.
Now there's another layer tothis.
There came a point in time whereI started to really trust
myself and I knew that I wasraising my standards and
elevating myself up.
As far as who did I want to beromantically involved with?
Who did I want to run incircles with?
(10:51):
Who did I want to be friendswith?
What types of people?
How did I want to feel?
And when I say types of people,I'm talking about the
personality type, the energy.
Did I feel good around them orwere they sucking the life out
of me?
Now here's the thing I startedto elevate.
But the old version of me wasstill thriving inside.
(11:14):
The old version of me stillwanted to go to after hours.
The old version of me was stillthriving inside.
The old version of me stillwanted to go to after hours.
The old version of me stillwanted to hang out with the cute
boys that were trouble, thatwere probably getting banged up
on the weekends and sleeping allday on Sunday.
That may be cute when you're inhigh school and college.
That's not cute when you are ayoung woman in your 30s, almost
(11:37):
40, hoping to settle down withsomeone who can support you
emotionally, financially, allthe ", okay.
So, yeah, it came to a pointwhere I said to myself you know
what, just because I can swim inshark infested waters doesn't
(12:01):
mean I have to keep jumping in.
I need a different body ofwater to swim in.
Because I'm tired of this,because even though I'm strong
enough to handle the sharks, I'mstill getting bit.
I'm still getting my heelsnipped at or a little bite here
and there, or a scratch or ascar, or I'm bleeding, and I
(12:24):
don't want that anymore.
So it's time to make differentchoices.
And let me tell you somethingthere are parts of younger me
that I miss so much.
I miss that girl.
My God, she was such a badass.
I would work full time Mondaythrough Friday.
(12:47):
I wasn't making enough money.
I would bartend Thursday night,come home, take a little nap
for about two hours, go to workall day Friday in the office,
come home, basically shower,change, go back to the bar,
bartend Friday night, sleep allday Saturday.
Maybe go to the gym, maybe getmy nails done.
Bartend again Saturday night.
(13:07):
And then oh, guess what, likean idiot, what do you think I
did?
You think I went home afterworking on Saturday night?
Oh, hell, no, your girl wouldgo to after hours.
Why?
Because, quote unquote it wasjustified.
I was working so hard, I neverhad any fun, so I was going to
(13:29):
go have fun, go to after hourssomewhere in some like fire
hazard, rinky dink placeunderground or like some secret
hotel party or like some placewith like no windows, just all
blacked out, pitch black inside,drugs everywhere, like hello.
Why was I putting myself inthat environment?
(13:53):
Why, because I love to dance,because I love the music, and
for me my life was so hard.
I had to work so hard, so muchof the time that I wanted to
blow off steam too, now listen.
now listen.
If that sounds anything likeyou, I'm not judging you, but
(14:14):
that is only going to last forso long, as you can imagine.
There was only so much timewhere I could be burning the
candle like that, going to workon Fridays on one or two hours
of sleep, being completelyexhausted, useless, and then
doing it over and over, and overand over again.
It did catch up to me.
(14:35):
I wound up having horribleanxiety because of lack of sleep
.
My body was not responding tothe training I was doing.
I was basically justmaintaining and I wasn't really
eating.
Well, I was actually superskinny at the time just because
I was malnourished and I justthought that that's how it had
(14:57):
to be because I couldn't seeanother way out.
The problem was I didn't seebetter choices in my field of
vision because I kept jumpingback in those shark infested
waters.
I kept putting myself in anenvironment where I knew I
really didn't want to be thereanymore, but I didn't know how
(15:18):
to get out.
And I know that it's hard forsome people to wrap their head
around this, especially whenthey work a corporate career,
when they are in amale-dominated industry, when
they are fighting for their seatat the table in every which way
.
But you have to remember,everyone walks their own path.
(15:41):
And eventually I got reallysick and tired of being sick and
tired and I got really tired ofsurviving off the McDonald's
dollar menu while I was servingor servicing work requests to
women who had rows of red bottomheels under their desk and they
(16:02):
would leave them at work, youknow, overnight and on the
weekends, yeah, and I had asafety pin holding up my pants
zipper.
Anyway, I went on a completetangent.
But that is a little bit ofbackground on who I am A fighter
, a survivor, a figure outer, aproblem solver, a yapper, a
(16:26):
career changer at the end of itall, I'm proud of who I am today
.
I'm proud of how far I've come.
If you knew me back in myclubbing days, you don't know me
anymore.
And if you've only known me thelast couple of years, there's a
lot about me you don't know,and I hope to offer transparency
(16:49):
here and I hope to connect withyou.
And in the next episode I'mgoing to dive into the career
path more specifically about myjourney, particularly in fitness
, in online fitness, inin-person fitness, what that
looked like for me, how it hasplayed out and where I'm at
today, because, ultimately, I doreally appreciate my work.
(17:13):
My work is a huge piece of whoI am and it is a large part of
my identity.
It's not all of the identity,but it is definitely a huge
component.
Why?
Because I believe that healthis wealth.
So if you're not thriving, ifyou're not feeling good, if
(17:35):
you're not proactively,deliberately taking intentional
action to improve your health,you're actually choosing the
opposite of health, which isillness.
If you are not, I'm going tosay it again if you are not
(17:55):
actively, intentionally anddeliberately pursuing improving
your health, you are choosingillness and disease.
Yeah, I said it.
So if you want to get healthywith me, if you want to make
your mind healthy, if you wantto build a robust body and have
(18:19):
cohesiveness as far as a strongmind, a strong body and get
resilience, overcoming adversityis how you build resilience.
That's how you get grit.
How do you overcome adversity?
Well, you have to be in someshitty situations and guess what
they're going to come.
Will you be equipped?
Will you make a differentdecision this time?
I hope that the answer is yes.
(18:41):
I hope that this podcast is aresource for you to come to.
So again, this is episode one.
I truly appreciate your time.
If you liked anything you heard, please subscribe to the
podcast, share the episode witha friend, let them know that I'm
here and we are going to bedoing this on a weekly basis.
(19:02):
We are going to be talkingabout all of the things that
help us become stronger, becomemore robust, to overcome
adversity time and time and time.
Again, thanks for being here.
What's going on?
Welcome to episode one of theUnbreakable Mind and Body
Podcast.
I'm your host, tiana, and I amso grateful to have you here in
this space, in this container,in this moment with me.
The main theme of this show isovercoming adversity, and I plan
to help you with difficultsituations that you are either
(00:25):
currently facing or that youmight encounter in your future,
by sharing stories aboutchallenges I've overcome in my
professional life, with familymembers and, of course, in the
romance department.
What sets me apart from manypeople that you may encounter is
(00:45):
my own unique skillset andexperience.
In fact, that's what separateseach of us from the next person.
So there is value in comingtogether and in sharing stories
and in placing you in thosedetails that allow you to really
(01:06):
submerge yourself and feel whatwas happening at the time.
Oftentimes, we don't think ofsomething until it's been
presented to us, or we don'tthink of a question until
somebody else asks it, and thenyou say to yourself oh, that's a
good question, I'd like to knowthat information too.
That's really what the point ofthis podcast is.
(01:26):
So today you'll get a pictureof who I am and my background,
and as we continue, episode toepisode, we'll get real gritty
into the details of some reallyjuicy stories and some
situations, twists, turns,changes in direction.
(01:47):
It's happened time and timeagain where I've started
something and then I've changedmy mind and I used to be
disappointed by that.
I used to be pissed if Idecided, ah, this isn't working
out, I guess it's just going tosuck.
No, now I'll say to myself thisisn't working out, I need to
(02:08):
make a change.
Both of them are saying it'snot working out.
One person the first is sayingI'll suck it up and deal with it
.
The other is saying I'll make achange.
It could be a drastic change,it could be a minor change, it
can be internal, it could beexternal.
The possibilities are endless.
But how you choose to do thenext thing is what I'm here to
(02:32):
help you with.
So I'm a personal trainer andnutrition coach.
I work exclusively in person atthe moment and I love what I do
.
I love being able to give myclients tactile cues, I love to
see their eyes light up when thethings connect, and I love
teaching them about movement andhow to fuel their bodies
(02:55):
properly so that they can thrive, as they are also making
permanent changes to theirlifestyle habits and creating
things that they want forthemselves, for example, feeling
vibrant as they get older,playing with their teenage kids,
being able to run after theirgrandkids, just moving better in
(03:19):
general.
Sometimes what someone wants isso simple.
It's almost too easy for themto figure it out because the
answer is very obvious.
Sometimes it's much morecomplex and therefore they need
another set of eyes, another setof hands, another problem
solver to be in the mix.
Regardless of the complexity ornot of a situation, I love to
(03:45):
be involved in the process.
Now, the creative process is myfavorite place and, speaking
about creative processes, thisshow in and of itself was a
process.
I had birthed this idea in 2021with my former business coach,
(04:05):
Jill Coleman, shout out to Jill,and she gave me this idea and
said, " you got to get in thepodcast space.
If it's even an inkling of whatyou want to do, you got to do
it.
Now.
You need to get in there.
I bought some cheap assequipment, I got some training
and I recorded 13 episodes.
(04:25):
What did I do with them?
Absolutely nothing.
Why?
Because I was scared, and Iknow some people listening to
this are going to say you, youwere scared.
You're never scared.
Oh, yes, I am.
I'm scared all the time.
I usually still go on and dowhatever it is I'm scared of,
though, but in this case, Ididn't, and I'm going to tell
(04:46):
you why.
I had a really challengingrelationship with both of my
parents growing up.
They were young when they hadme, and they got divorced when I
was young, and I had a reallycomplicated relationship with my
father.
I also had a really complicatedrelationship with my father.
I also had a really complicatedrelationship with my mother,
(05:08):
and I've never been close toboth at the same time.
Unfortunately for me.
I've always had to juggle that,and I just didn't want to hurt
anyone, but the truth is.
The truth is my experiences aremine, and they were real and
(05:33):
they did happen, and even if,perhaps, what I remember is
extreme or is not exactly whatoccurred, that was my experience
at that time as a child.
That is how I felt in thatmoment, and some of those things
are really hard to let go of.
When it came to it in 2022, whenI recorded these 13 episodes,
there were some stories in therethat I knew were going to be
(05:56):
probably problematic Eyebrowraising, pearl clutching and I
just decided I didn't want todeal with it.
Well, guess what?
I did that a couple of yearsprior when I started writing my
book.
And guess what?
I did that also a few yearsprior.
So this situation has come up.
This is not the first time, butthis is the first time that I'm
(06:18):
just going to go ahead and ripthe bandaid off, because by
keeping these stories locked up,I'm not helping anyone.
By keeping these things tomyself, I'm jamming up my flow.
Artists need to create and ifthey're not creating, they're
suffering.
Musicians play music, dancersdance, painters, paint, writers
(06:43):
write, singers sing.
Do you see where I'm going withthis?
I'm a storyteller, I have thegift of gab, I love to talk, and
anyone who works with me knowsthey can hear me yapping,
yapping, yapping all day.
And the funny thing is, Iactually thought I was an
introvert for a period of time.
No, it wasn't that I was justworking in isolation, but I was
(07:05):
home as a function of my work.
And the truth is I neededsocialization, I needed to be
around some people, I needed toget out into the world, and I do
love people and I love to talk.
So this could be a fantasticoutlet for me and it could be a
(07:28):
great way for us to connect.
If something I say is relatable,let me know.
Please check the show notes.
It has all the ways that youcan find me out in the world and
reach out to me and share withme your similar stories, because
this is how we can flourish bycoming together.
(07:50):
You don't always have to doeverything alone.
In fact, I just saw a piece ofcontent moments ago, before I
started recording, that said ifyou have the mindset of thinking
that no one understands me andI'm just out here on my own,
then that will be your truth.
But if you realize that maybeyou are not easily understood,
(08:12):
but there are other people outthere with similar situations
that you could at least givethem a chance to see if they can
empathize with you, you'dprobably be better off.
(08:37):
One of the recurring themes thatI'm going to be touching on a
lot on this show is worthiness,particularly self-worth, the
worthiness you assign toyourself, the worthiness that
you feel internally, because itimpacts everything, including
how you show up in work,conversations, in your personal
relationships, and it wassomething I had to teach myself
how to discover as an adult.
It's not anyone's fault.
(08:58):
I did the best I could at thetime with the tools I had at my
disposal.
I wasn't taught certain thingsas a child.
I had to figure it out.
I thought that beingindependent was the only way for
me "Make your own money.
Keep a mattress fund, have thefuck you money.
(09:21):
Never rely on a man.
These were the things I wasindoctrinated with as a little
girl, I kid you, not five yearsold, six years old.
Seven years old both my motherand father saying these things
to me I had major trust issues.
I didn't trust a lot of people,but really, what I figured out
(09:44):
this came to light probablyabout 10, 15 years ago in
therapy.
I didn't trust myself.
I didn't know how to establisha boundary in a healthy way, nor
did I know how to maintain it.
Nor did I realize that I don'thave to explain myself to
everyone.
No is a complete sentence.
(10:05):
So if a guy asks me a questionand I'm uncomfortable with it, I
can simply say no.
I don't have to get into allthis wishy-washy and then this
and then that and explaining no,that's trauma, baby.
We don't do that anymore.
And that self-worth piece hasbeen a game changer for me that
feeling of knowing who I am andknowing that I got this and that
(10:30):
I'm not going to betray myselfanymore.
Now there's another layer tothis.
There came a point in time whereI started to really trust
myself and I knew that I wasraising my standards and
elevating myself up.
As far as who did I want to beromantically involved with?
Who did I want to run incircles with?
(10:51):
Who did I want to be friendswith?
What types of people?
How did I want to feel?
And when I say types of people,I'm talking about the
personality type, the energy.
Did I feel good around them orwere they sucking the life out
of me?
Now here's the thing I startedto elevate.
But the old version of me wasstill thriving inside.
(11:14):
The old version of me stillwanted to go to after hours.
The old version of me was stillthriving inside.
The old version of me stillwanted to go to after hours.
The old version of me stillwanted to hang out with the cute
boys that were trouble, thatwere probably getting banged up
on the weekends and sleeping allday on Sunday.
That may be cute when you're inhigh school and college.
That's not cute when you are ayoung woman in your 30s, almost
(11:37):
40, hoping to settle down withsomeone who can support you
emotionally, financially, allthe ", okay.
So, yeah, it came to a pointwhere I said to myself you know
what, just because I can swim inshark infested waters doesn't
(12:01):
mean I have to keep jumping in.
I need a different body ofwater to swim in.
Because I'm tired of this,because even though I'm strong
enough to handle the sharks, I'mstill getting bit.
I'm still getting my heelsnipped at or a little bite here
and there, or a scratch or ascar, or I'm bleeding, and I
(12:24):
don't want that anymore.
So it's time to make differentchoices.
And let me tell you somethingthere are parts of younger me
that I miss so much.
I miss that girl.
My God, she was such a badass.
I would work full time Mondaythrough Friday.
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I wasn't making enough money.
I would bartend Thursday night,come home, take a little nap
for about two hours, go to workall day Friday in the office,
come home, basically shower,change, go back to the bar,
bartend Friday night, sleep allday Saturday.
Maybe go to the gym, maybe getmy nails done.
Bartend again Saturday night.
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And then oh, guess what, likean idiot, what do you think I
did?
You think I went home afterworking on Saturday night?
Oh, hell, no, your girl wouldgo to after hours.
Why?
Because, quote unquote it wasjustified.
I was working so hard, I neverhad any fun, so I was going to
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go have fun, go to after hourssomewhere in some like fire
hazard, rinky dink placeunderground or like some secret
hotel party or like some placewith like no windows, just all
blacked out, pitch black inside,drugs everywhere, like hello.
Why was I putting myself inthat environment?
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Why, because I love to dance,because I love the music, and
for me my life was so hard.
I had to work so hard, so muchof the time that I wanted to
blow off steam too, now listen.
now listen.
If that sounds anything likeyou, I'm not judging you, but
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that is only going to last forso long, as you can imagine.
There was only so much timewhere I could be burning the
candle like that, going to workon Fridays on one or two hours
of sleep, being completelyexhausted, useless, and then
doing it over and over, and overand over again.
It did catch up to me.
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I wound up having horribleanxiety because of lack of sleep
.
My body was not responding tothe training I was doing.
I was basically justmaintaining and I wasn't really
eating.
Well, I was actually superskinny at the time just because
I was malnourished and I justthought that that's how it had
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to be because I couldn't seeanother way out.
The problem was I didn't seebetter choices in my field of
vision because I kept jumpingback in those shark infested
waters.
I kept putting myself in anenvironment where I knew I
really didn't want to be thereanymore, but I didn't know how
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to get out.
And I know that it's hard forsome people to wrap their head
around this, especially whenthey work a corporate career,
when they are in amale-dominated industry, when
they are fighting for their seatat the table in every which way
.
But you have to remember,everyone walks their own path.
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And eventually I got reallysick and tired of being sick and
tired and I got really tired ofsurviving off the McDonald's
dollar menu while I was servingor servicing work requests to
women who had rows of red bottomheels under their desk and they
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would leave them at work, youknow, overnight and on the
weekends, yeah, and I had asafety pin holding up my pants
zipper.
Anyway, I went on a completetangent.
But that is a little bit ofbackground on who I am A fighter
, a survivor, a figure outer, aproblem solver, a yapper, a
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career changer at the end of itall, I'm proud of who I am today
.
I'm proud of how far I've come.
If you knew me back in myclubbing days, you don't know me
anymore.
And if you've only known me thelast couple of years, there's a
lot about me you don't know,and I hope to offer transparency
(16:49):
here and I hope to connect withyou.
And in the next episode I'mgoing to dive into the career
path more specifically about myjourney, particularly in fitness
, in online fitness, inin-person fitness, what that
looked like for me, how it hasplayed out and where I'm at
today, because, ultimately, I doreally appreciate my work.
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My work is a huge piece of whoI am and it is a large part of
my identity.
It's not all of the identity,but it is definitely a huge
component.
Why?
Because I believe that healthis wealth.
So if you're not thriving, ifyou're not feeling good, if
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you're not proactively,deliberately taking intentional
action to improve your health,you're actually choosing the
opposite of health, which isillness.
If you are not, I'm going tosay it again if you are not
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actively, intentionally anddeliberately pursuing improving
your health, you are choosingillness and disease.
Yeah, I said it.
So if you want to get healthywith me, if you want to make
your mind healthy, if you wantto build a robust body and have
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cohesiveness as far as a strongmind, a strong body and get
resilience, overcoming adversityis how you build resilience.
That's how you get grit.
How do you overcome adversity?
Well, you have to be in someshitty situations and guess what
they're going to come.
Will you be equipped?
Will you make a differentdecision this time?
I hope that the answer is yes.
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I hope that this podcast is aresource for you to come to.
So again, this is episode one.
I truly appreciate your time.
If you liked anything you heard, please subscribe to the
podcast, share the episode witha friend, let them know that I'm
here and we are going to bedoing this on a weekly basis.
(19:02):
We are going to be talkingabout all of the things that
help us become stronger, becomemore robust, to overcome
adversity time and time and time.
Again, thanks for being here.
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