The Dirty Dozen Words and Phrases that Sabotage your Intended Message: George Torok

What are the words that sabotage your intended message? Stop saying these words that label you as a poor communicator

Episode 183 (repeat of #138)

In this episode George Torok offers his insights about:

• Why your words matter and how to weed out the landmines
• The common phrases that we use without thinking about their meaning
• What perceptions people might form of you when you use these words
• Why you need to be in control of what you say and stop blaming others
• The dirty dozen phrases to stop using now!

George Torok is a specialist in communication skills. He coaches executives to deliver their message more successfully. That might be in conversation or presentation.

Learn more about his programs and the results of his clients at 

https://www.speechcoachforexecutives.com/

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Excerpts from this episode:

Another one that might come under this category is - everybody knows.

Well, maybe not. Maybe everybody doesn't know. And by the way, who is everybody?  Who is the everybody you're talking about here, which is a vague reference. What does that mean? And when you say everybody knows what if someone in the audience doesn't know, how did you make them feel? So avoid these insulting phrases?

The next category comes under self diminishing and false modesty, self diminishing and fall modesty. What does that mean? Well, how do you feel when you hear the speaker using these phrases?

In my humble opinion? Are they really being humble? Are they being humble? If you say you're humble, you're not humble. The Dalai Lama is humble and never says, in my humble opinion. 

If you stating an opinion, then state your opinion. If you're stating a position based on your experience, by the way, your experience is more valuable than your opinion, in my experience in my observations, but my humble opinion, you right off the bat said, Okay, it's a humble opinion.

So we might as well just not listen, a variation of this is my two cents worth. If all you've got is two cents, we don't want to hear it, keep it Keep the change. And we're only looking for the big dollar ideas here. Forget your keep your two cents to yourself, you're wasting your time.

Another variation is, well, I'm just saying. I'm just saying. And people say that, almost as if they're apologizing for what they said, I'm just saying, well, if it's valuable, it's valuable. If it's not, you don't have to add saying I'm just saying adds no value it doesn't modify does nothing to make the point stronger.

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And every once in a while, you can tune into one of these solo shows where I will offer you some of my insights.

Remember, if you want to get your message across, get rid of the dirty dozen words and phrases that sabotage your message so that you can deliver your intended message.

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I'm your host, George Torok

If you found this helpful and entertaining, be sure to listen to the upcoming Weed Word Alerts. They are short rants about silly words that people say.

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What other silly words and phrases do you add to this list?

 

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