The aftermath of sexual betrayal is a complete upheaval of a marriage’s foundation. It doesn’t just damage trust—it systematically dismantles it, leaving a wife questioning her entire reality. The world she knew is gone, replaced by a landscape of pain, confusion, and profound uncertainty.
For husbands who have broken our marriage vows, this new reality teaches us a critical truth: trust is not a default setting. It's more like a delicate structure that must be painstakingly rebuilt, day by day, through deliberate and verifiable action. By committing to clear and honest actions, we can begin to mend our own broken integrity.
More importantly, it lays down a new, solid groundwork, giving our wives something tangible to base or even contemplate trusting us again.
We are finishing up our series today, so if you haven't listened to the previous episodes, we recommend going back to the beginning of this series with episode 127 to get the full context.
Today we’re going to unpack the last three markers that can give a recovering husband actionable steps toward trustworthiness and give his wife a clearer picture of what a trustworthy man looks like.
- A trustworthy husband is a man of integrity
- A trustworthy husband has and works a recovery plan
- A trustworthy husband is a servant leader
We pray this blesses you,
Johnny and Emily
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