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March 20, 2025 76 mins

In this episode, Adam Lane Smith and Shallon Lester expose the hidden red flags of avoidant attachment and why trusting words alone can lead to heartbreak. They break down the toxic dating patterns that leave women feeling unworthy, discuss why men rarely change without consequences, and share practical strategies to build secure, lasting relationships.

Topics Covered: 👉 Why many women settle in relationships out of fear of abandonment 👉 The rise of emotionally unavailable men and the impact on dating 👉 Shallon’s no-nonsense approach to breakups and setting boundaries 👉 Why men rarely change without external consequences 👉 The power of emotional detachment and firm boundaries in dating 👉 How women can communicate their needs effectively without manipulation 👉 The dangers of relying on a partner to define one’s purpose 👉 The struggle of modern women between career success and traditional roles

Adam and Shallon reveal the key mindset shifts needed to break free from avoidant attachment and create fulfilling relationships. If you're tired of toxic dating cycles and want real, actionable advice, this episode is a must-watch.

Stay tuned for more expert insights and relationship advice in future episodes! If you enjoyed this episode, you will probably love our episode titled ‘Attachment Specialist Fixes an Avoidant Woman’  https://youtu.be/zSaZrRedRUc 

Need more help with your attachment? Work with Adam: www.adamlanesmith.com 

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-------------------------------------------------- Shallon Lester: IG: https://www.instagram.com/shallonxo/?hl=en Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCygmWL3k4EpxBmWGGBs5ldw

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