The Power of Yes

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Speaker 1 (00:15):
Welcome back to Good Mom's Bad Choices. I'm Erica and
I'm Meela. This is Happy Wednesday, guys. How you feeling.
I feel good. I'm feeling like kind of chill. I smoked,
so I'm like on chill mode. Yes, yeah, same. We
usually don't smoke. Before we weren't thinking.

Speaker 2 (00:36):
That's a lie, that's a bold face.

Speaker 1 (00:39):
I try not to.

Speaker 3 (00:41):
We both I have would be still residual high from
the morning smoke.

Speaker 1 (00:46):
This is true, This is true. But you know, also
the weather has made me feel really like, I know
it's this winter in LA is actually wintering, which it
is forty eight degrees this morning of forty six degrees.

Speaker 3 (00:59):
It's wintering in LA because it does get cold, but
like we'd be tripping.

Speaker 1 (01:04):
But I'm like that I forget.

Speaker 2 (01:05):
We do forget.

Speaker 3 (01:06):
We do we forget, and we we like we just
refuse to stop wearing spandix as pants. No global warming,
global warming, and we won't wear an actual coat like
a winter coat. We just were like committed to wearing
hoodies and freezing.

Speaker 1 (01:18):
Yeah. I just doubled my hoodie yet, no turtle neck today,
my love Listen. I don't have good feedback with the
turtle neck. I'm also I got wearing a hat today.
I don't know if you guys watch us on YouTube,
but you should because we're kind of fine and you
look cute.

Speaker 3 (01:33):
You're giving like corporate like I don't know, like I
don't know what's going on. It's oh, it's a little androgynous, okay,
but like sex appeal.

Speaker 2 (01:41):
Could you have a cat suit on?

Speaker 1 (01:42):
Yeah? I had the holiday performance this morning at eight
fifteen am and the hair was not getting done.

Speaker 3 (01:49):
You're giving like the top is mom, the bottom is
like hooker love it.

Speaker 1 (01:53):
Well, that's what I was saying for I was like,
let me not embarrass my child. But I wanted to
let these bitches know who are the fucking.

Speaker 2 (01:58):
It's pretty, it's pretty warm and if she was a.

Speaker 1 (02:00):
Mom, she made it to motherhood is Julia Robert.

Speaker 3 (02:03):
It's literally years later. Oh my god, is this like
a kink for you in Orlando's? Are you dressed like this?
This is like you guys have stopped listening. Go to
YouTube right now. I need you to go look and.

Speaker 1 (02:14):
Just co sign this mom on the top it is
it's mom top hook your bottom.

Speaker 2 (02:19):
Pretty woman bottom. I love it.

Speaker 1 (02:21):
You guys, am just wearing a cat suit and thigh highs.

Speaker 3 (02:23):
Which the thigh highs are are thigh hying. Okay, she's
wearing don't let her fool you. They're not just regular
thig highs, guys.

Speaker 1 (02:30):
They're little. They're little kitten heels, are they They're not high? Okay, Yeah,
you got it? Great, Thanks, you look beautiful, Tooks. We've
had a you know what, and guess what if you
haven't noticed already, it's just us, you, guys.

Speaker 2 (02:46):
It's just us, just the two of us.

Speaker 1 (02:49):
It's just mean, like the old days, just the two of.

Speaker 2 (02:54):
Us, you and I. Now we're going to do more
solo episodes.

Speaker 1 (02:58):
Guys.

Speaker 3 (02:58):
We've been, we've been, We've been talking to a lot
of people. I've been enjoying it though. I've been really
learning a lot over the last few months on our show,
having some.

Speaker 1 (03:06):
Really amazing guests all year. I mean, we've had quite
some great guests this year. I love is this how
like wrap up here? I mean, like I get wrap
up episode of twenty twenty two, it kind of is.
I think this is our last episode of twenty twenty two.
You guys. Wow, We've had some epic, epic guests and
some great conversations. We've made so many more friends. And

(03:28):
we've done a lot of shit this year. We have,
we have, we have done a whole lot of shit.
Like take that in, breathe that in. We've done a
lot of shit this year.

Speaker 2 (03:42):
I know.

Speaker 3 (03:43):
I looked around today at this studio that we've put
together in about fourteen days, maybe less, and I can't
fucking believe it.

Speaker 2 (03:51):
We've got TV's on the.

Speaker 1 (03:52):
Wall, we got carpets and shit, got tables, We've got cups,
We've got chairs, couches, computer screens, the glass tables. It's
like camera fucking action, okay, But nests.

Speaker 2 (04:04):
To monitor our heat and our temperatures.

Speaker 1 (04:06):
Electric entry and I know that's the word you use,
but mobile is keyless entry. I don't know.

Speaker 2 (04:11):
I'm hidden cameras.

Speaker 1 (04:15):
Yeah, we just did a live show. We did in
LA at one o'clock in the afternoon. You mean twelve
thirty p twelve thirty in the afternoon. I told you,
I said, I don't think our show is a daytime show,
but we did it.

Speaker 3 (04:29):
Yeah, I know it's not, but whatever it happened, it
felt like gray and I was committed to making sure
everyone knew it was seven PM in there.

Speaker 1 (04:37):
Erica was like, do you think it's inappropriate to where
lingerie in the middle of the day. I did not
say inappropriate, he said extra, I don't ever think lingerie
is inappropriate.

Speaker 2 (04:49):
I'm just wondering, is it.

Speaker 3 (04:50):
I was just wondering if we're gonna shift our show
in any way, and we decided no, the fuck were not,
because it's whatever day and whatever time we decided is
when we go on stage.

Speaker 1 (04:59):
Pretty mu I hope I thought about this the other day.
This is really random, but I hope that when I
get certified to be a Tantrica certified Tantra practitioner, that
I then wear lingerie every day. Do you see the
Do you ever see the Tantra people online and just
like always in something sexy, like even the old ladies.
I'm like, yeah, this is why I'm doing this. This
is it lace every day in my life?

Speaker 2 (05:21):
You could do that. Now.

Speaker 1 (05:22):
I think I'm going to start. I think I'm to
be like, this is my brand sensuality in the daytime.
You see you got the boots, Yeah, you're.

Speaker 2 (05:30):
Doing It's a lot of duality is happening here. I
love it.

Speaker 1 (05:34):
How have you managed all these things? Are you doing.

Speaker 2 (05:36):
Okay.

Speaker 3 (05:37):
You know what I've realized through school and just just
anxiety attacks, that I have to meditate and that I
have to breathe do breath work, like I can't avoid
it anymore. I go through phases where I'm really consistent
with it, especially in our space of doing retreats and
stuff like I the reason we do retreats is because

(06:00):
we are also not perfect healers, like we also have
to remind ourselves to to fucking take time to breathe
and make ten minutes a day just yours because it
feels impossible.

Speaker 1 (06:12):
You know what. I just you, guys. I just downloaded
this app called the Open App, and partially because yeah,
school has really made me more aware of how much
I need practice. But this app, it's called open App,
and it's making it so easy for me to do it.
It's really dope too. There's like live meditations and breath work,
but it's paired with like dope artists that like you

(06:33):
love girl. Okay, So so you showed me this app
and they you're right, because I never thought about pairing
breath work with like music that I actually just music
in general, like I usually am doing breathwork in silence,
and so pairing it with music has been I feel like,
almost more transformational for me because I find it really

(06:54):
hard to meditate in silence. So being able to focus
on my breathing and have this like music in the
background really helps me kind of zone out even faster. Yeah. Same,
The pairing of the two is like a game changer.
So I love the app. It's really beautiful. They have
they actually have a studio out here in la I know,
I know, I want to go. Yeah, we need to go,

(07:15):
and but just on like on my phone and just
taking ten minutes a day is a game changer. And
it's not just like there's breath work. There's meditation, there's yoga,
Like sometimes you need just like a mid day yoga session.

Speaker 2 (07:28):
Are you gonna do the challenge with me?

Speaker 1 (07:30):
Hell yeah, I'm gonna do the challenge.

Speaker 3 (07:31):
So the Open app is having this challenge, you guys,
and it's a thirty one day challenge of meditation of
breath work and it starts January first, and I already
signed up and I'm about to put this because this
is like when whenever we do stuff together, I always
like to bring the try because you guys, we hold
each other accountable, especially in the discord. The discord really
holds me accountable because it's like, hey, daily check is
me bitches are like water.

Speaker 1 (07:52):
I'm like, fuck God, you know what that you know
when you asked me to do this challenge, I was like, hey,
I'm already doing it and I love it. But like
we haven't done a communed to do challenge in a minute,
I know, yeah, we should all do it. It's like
it's the perfect It's the perfect like I want to
say herbal medicine, but it's not an herb natural medicine
to like really ease up the stress in your day.

(08:14):
Like the older I get, the more hearted, like the
more difficult it is, like just to clear my mind,
even ridiculous thoughts. I was literally asleep after the show,
and I was like, did I talk too much? I
was like, was I over talking? Aircut the show? I
was like, wait, honest to god, and I was like,
this is nuts what.

Speaker 2 (08:33):
I was thinking.

Speaker 3 (08:33):
I was asleep and I walk do we get paid?

Speaker 2 (08:38):
Where's there money? And I was like, oh, talk about tomorrow.

Speaker 1 (08:42):
Orlando, text her about the money.

Speaker 3 (08:46):
We never checked out, but that was like where my
head went. I was like, that's sad.

Speaker 1 (08:51):
I was yeah, and then and then I was like,
am I looking at the prompts too much?

Speaker 3 (08:55):
I was just like, bitch, it is over. Oh my goodness,
I know. So that's why this I'm just gonna help.
I'm like, if you're an overthinker, if you have anxiety,
if you just want to reset, and just like just
just have an excuse to do something. I love the app.
It's beautiful videos. There's so many videos tohooes from and
it's literally ten minutes of your day.

Speaker 2 (09:13):
It takes ten minutes.

Speaker 3 (09:13):
So I'm just gonna say here, right now, we are
committing as a tribe. If you're listening, fucking.

Speaker 1 (09:19):
Why not thirty one days of practice? Yes, just say yes,
because why not? Like what else are you going to
do for ten minutes a day? This is at least
one thing you can check off your list knowing that, like,
you're doing something for yourself. So I'm gonna put the
link in this episode description and they're giving us all
a month free, so you have no excuse. Click the link,

(09:40):
you get thirty one days free. That's thirty one days
of practice, and then I guarantee you're gonna be hooked,
They're gonna feel better.

Speaker 2 (09:46):
I think we should do maybe some zoom calls too.
Just check in with these hosts, make sure they're.

Speaker 3 (09:50):
Doing yea they say they're doing, to do I need
something to I need them too.

Speaker 1 (09:55):
I love the zoom calls. We've been doing Thursday happy
hours zoom calls for our retreats.

Speaker 2 (10:01):
That's one we'll check in. We'll check in on Thursdays.

Speaker 1 (10:03):
And it's so fun. I'm like, what's going on with you?
But yeah, twenty twenty three, I'm really committed to like
self care and peace, like really trying to find the
joy and everything and not getting caught up and like
whether or not I was talking too much, because I

(10:24):
probably was, but who cares.

Speaker 2 (10:26):
That's what you do for a living.

Speaker 1 (10:27):
You talk.

Speaker 3 (10:29):
You talk a lot since I've talked a little, you know,
but you that's what you do. We all, that's what
me and you have committed to doing.

Speaker 1 (10:35):
It's not talking, you know what. The podcast though, really
has it like saying yes, the podcast has cured me
of so many fears because even when I'm scared, I
do it anyway, and I've done it anyway, and so
it's like it's scary always still like even this live show,
I was super scared, but then it feels like I

(10:56):
still just be like, well, you're gonna do it, and
you're gonna be fine, and everything's gonna be fine, and
it always is. But if I if I hadn't practiced
like saying yes and just like going with the flow
instead of like combing to like fear and shit, this
has been the biggest game changer of all time for sure.

Speaker 3 (11:13):
I think that you're better at saying yes than I am,
Like you are more go with the flow than me,
Like I'm going to freak out a little bit before
the yes comes, but I really want to work on
that next year because it doesn't ever serve me because
it always ends up working out. And you know, even
before the show, I was told like I think I
text you and I was like, we're just gonna have
a good time, okay, And I was like, I wasn't

(11:35):
really telling you, I was really telling myself.

Speaker 2 (11:36):
I just needed to text it to someone.

Speaker 3 (11:38):
You're like yeah, And so just like saying yes to
that idea, like just regardless of anything, like changed my
whole experience. And I feel like I feel like I've
seen how that's manifested in my life in different scenarios.
Obviously started saying that doing this, saying yes to this
like idea that I had, and just following my my

(12:00):
intuition by just saying or I don't even know what
it was, just saying yes and saying, fuck it, I'm
gonna ask.

Speaker 1 (12:05):
Her, you know what I feel like. It's also been
a journey of like saying yes to accepting imperfection, accepting imperfection,
and in ways the imperfection has kind of made it perfect,
you know. But yeah, even you asking me to do
the podcast almost five years ago now because it was
round Luna's birthday, so we're like, this is about the

(12:28):
time we were talking about it, and yeah, I didn't
know why or what I was doing, but I was
just like I knew I should do it. And when
we committed to doing it, and we didn't really we
were a little bit scared to say some of the shit,
I was like, huh, oh, well, like just do it.
And it's been the most beautiful, like I don't know,

(12:50):
like it makes it easier to just be like, it's
not gonna be perfect, but it's going to be out.

Speaker 3 (12:56):
It makes me think of all the times I said
no in my life like no because it was all
out of fear.

Speaker 2 (13:01):
Every single no was based in fear.

Speaker 3 (13:03):
Like I've said a lot of yeses in my life,
but then there's been things in my life, like things
I don't regret anymore, but things I wish I would
have like pursued more of.

Speaker 1 (13:11):
One thing about you, though, is once you say yes,
you're not fucking around. There's no pumping any breaks. The
bitch says yes, it's best believe it's getting executed capital X.

Speaker 3 (13:24):
Okay, just gotta be capricorn. Somewhere in my chart it
has to go. I don't know, but yeah, that's true.
But it's used to take me a really long time
to get to the yes. Or it was like a
oh maybe, or like a yes, but like I always
had an exit plan. It was like yes with an
exit plan just in case. And I don't really care,
like I will exit, but I think when this this space,

(13:49):
and I think just having a child, just feeling more
secure in who I am. Just certain people I've met
along the way obviously include you, and just like all
of the people I've met on the journey of podcasting
and and learning from their yesses, and seeing like how
their yeses have manifested in their lives, and it's like

(14:10):
it's you can't deny it. The power of it. It's
basically like an affirmation inside of yourself that you are
going to be receptive to whatever life is going to
bring you. Like whatever life is going to bring you,
you've already made like a deal that you're gonna hat.
You're gonna do it no matter what the good the bad,
and like because of that, then your life starts to

(14:30):
flow more easily in all the ways.

Speaker 1 (14:32):
I feel, well, it's really just like trusting, you know,
like faith is really just trusting that things fall into
place as long as you are committed to really just
like yeah, your intuition. It's it's it's crazy. It really is,
like so much has so much has unfolded and bloomed

(14:54):
in me and in us and in our business because
we've said yes, you know, like even thinking about my
Mexico trip, you know, two Christmases ago, and just like
saying yes to all the like just going on this
trip and like saying yes, you know, just the things
that you think are small, like going on a vacation,

(15:16):
but also with people you don't really know that well
and LSD in the middle of the desert, you know
what I mean. But it changed my life significantly. And
you know, we talk about I talk about it as
the retreat. I talk about it in our book. It
was just like this simple trip, this simple thing that
didn't seem like a big deal. Like I honored it,

(15:37):
and it shifted my whole perspective on everything, and like
I was not and like I was sad, and then
going there, I was just like so present and happy
with life. But I had never like it was just
a magical shift in saying yes.

Speaker 3 (15:54):
Yeah, because you were you were out of your comfort zone,
you were disarmed, you were vulnerable, you know what.

Speaker 2 (15:59):
Essentially that was your first retreat.

Speaker 1 (16:01):
It was a retreat. It was it was like as
the most intimate three person they're my retreat leaders for real, saying,
my fucking retreat leaders. Yeah, sheoul to say, like a
my spiritual husband and wife.

Speaker 3 (16:14):
I think that's why too, Like like when you when
women come on our retreats, like and most of them
come alone. The transformation is so crazy with everyone because
they they because they're coming alone, they're really especially the
ones and most of them have never traveled outside of
the country. They're all in like a season of yes.

(16:35):
Like you have to be in order to say yes
to something like that, you have to already be in
a mindset that I'm ready to like change something here,
I'm ready to shift. And a lot of the times,
our retreat is that first step. And I'm so grateful
to be a part of that step and a part
of that journey because now checking back in with these women,
like it's so wild to see how their lives have,

(16:57):
like granted I'm not anyone's guru, but like just like
transformed from that experience that really has little to do
with us and so much more to do with like
the element yes, the elements them saying yes, and every
woman that there that said yes, and those groups that
are formed and those bonds that are formed during those

(17:18):
five or six days that we have them, Like it's crazy.

Speaker 1 (17:21):
It's really like we just have the we just have
the the gift of saying, hey, do you want to come?
And then they say yes, and then everything else is
just like the floodgates open. But it's like I do
feel like because I've had these experiences, because I've said yes,
I can I know how important it is to tell
someone else trust me, just do it, and then everything

(17:43):
else flows for you. It's not like, yeah, it's some
magical thing. It's just like opening people's eyes to the
yes and then everything else these floodgates of opportunity, And
like your how you see things really just shifts for
you once you put like the rose colored lens.

Speaker 2 (18:00):
H that's true. It's it's wild how that how that happens.

Speaker 3 (18:04):
And like you know, I was reading this article and
it said that by the time we reach adulthood, we
will have heard the word no over fifty thousand times
and the word yes only seven thousand times.

Speaker 1 (18:19):
Who did this study?

Speaker 3 (18:20):
The Internet's girl, and the Internet's may be lying, but
this added I'm I'm gonna go ahead and say this
is that. I mean that I could be fact back
because it just makes sense. Like all the negative self talk, though,
is just naturally ingrained in us. Like I would say that,
I don't know, like I'm a pessimist in way, so
I don't know, but like I would argue that a

(18:42):
higher percentage of the world, like are are saying no.

Speaker 2 (18:45):
Than yes in this day and age.

Speaker 1 (18:47):
Well, you have to think if you if you continuously
hear no, no, no, no you and take it personally.
Then yeah, like you said, your self talk will start
to be that way, and you'll believe that you deserve
a no, that you're not worthy of a yes. And
like it's it's in the saying yes that you start
to realize like, oh shit, I can I can really

(19:10):
do whatever I want. And that's really when all the
yeses start coming. It's really just a mind shift, you
know what I mean, like believing that you deserve it, because.

Speaker 3 (19:18):
It's a total mind shift, I think a lot of
times too, Like not to cut you off, but like
when people say no, they actually think it's like going
to get them to the yes faster, like to the
yes they're looking for faster, Like no, I can't do
that right now because I'm focused on this and I
have to do this and I'm gonna get there, but
I have to do this first, so I can't do that.
But no, no, no, but yes no, but yes, you know,
And it's like, bitch, if you just said yes, you

(19:39):
probably be you probably already cut the line because because
you're gonna open yourself up to so many more experience,
there's so many people that might get you to where
you're trying to go faster.

Speaker 1 (19:48):
Girl, I can't even tell like I can only tell
you because it was you. But it's like even when
we first started this and we were just like just
talking shit, like what if it's so cool? Like literally
wouldn't be cool? We had a book and I told you.
Somebody asked us that our first live show was Airnberr.
She's like, do you guys think you're going to write
a book? And after the show I was like is
she crazy?

Speaker 2 (20:06):
Like what?

Speaker 1 (20:07):
How was she asked us that. I was like, that
would be cool? But like I remember that. I was
like what is she talking? Like she must really think
we're cool?

Speaker 2 (20:13):
I was like what what was it?

Speaker 1 (20:16):
But literally, literally that was one of the first things,
like someone in our email like, hey, my husband, my
husband like has a literary agency. You should email him,
Like okay, email him. He's like he'd talk to these girls.
And someone asking us if you had a book, what

(20:36):
would it look like? What would it be?

Speaker 2 (20:38):
About?

Speaker 1 (20:39):
Just that one question, and then us being able to
deliver a proposal that was really like we had We
hadn't really put too much thought in it, but it
was like the not thinking of how I said yes.

Speaker 3 (20:49):
And we had an answer. We just we thought about
it and we did it.

Speaker 1 (20:53):
And we didn't see how that was going to come
to fruition, but we didn't have to. We knew that
that would be, like we just we collected thought that
that could happen, and then it literally just came in
the email, like what's up.

Speaker 3 (21:05):
Well, I almost now they're saying this, and I thinking
about all this, It's like yes, It is like one
of the foundations of manifesting, Like you have to say yes.
Like the only reason I believe that anything I can have,
anything I want is because I've said yes more and
more and I've seen what it's done, which then allows

(21:26):
me to be able to put myself in places that
I'm not in yet and believe it. Like even the
studio that we're sitting in right now, Like we talked
about opening up a studio earlier this year. We hit
a lot of roadblocks and I remember saying, we are
going to have a studio by January, like it's gonna
be open. And then that's the beauty of it, you say,

(21:46):
and you kind of like forget it, like you're actively
working on it all the time.

Speaker 1 (21:49):
But it's not like you trust that it's going to
align the way it's supposed to. And we looked at
a lot of places and there are a lot of no's,
and there were very close yeses, and we were disappointed
and annoyed. But I kept telling Erica, I'm like, we're
going to find a studio. It's going to be exactly
what we need and what we want. It's gonna be
in a good area. It's going to be in our
price range, and you're gonna be able to smoke weed
in there.

Speaker 3 (22:09):
And guess what, Amena, Welcome to good good media.

Speaker 1 (22:15):
So but I wasn't worried, and every time it didn't fit,
I was just like, okay, cool. And that has been
the biggest lesson. That's like that is the theme of
this episode. Saying yes are the like the fundamental beginnings
of manifesting. You can't manifest shit if you're like no,

(22:36):
uh uh, I can't do that. It's just like they say,
you can't find a man and if you don't go out,
like he's not gonna break it into your house, Like
you're making so many negative agreements inside of your body,
and like these weird decisions that like you're closing yourself off. Yeah,
and that that could be like when you close yourself off,
that translates into all areas. Oh, if you don't think
you're gonna make new friends, if you don't go out,

(22:57):
if you don't participate, if you don't involve yourself with
other people, you won't get other opportunities. If you're not
open to making new friendships. Like that's really how the
world goes round, and that's you absolutely can't manifest if
you're afraid to say yes.

Speaker 2 (23:15):
You can't.

Speaker 3 (23:15):
And that's why I'm so excited about this challenge too,
because we're doing it all January and then I know
we don't ever like announce the themes of next of
the next month, but we're focusing on manifesting, and like
I know, for me, like I have a lot of shit,
We have a lot of shit, Like I want to
put a lot of energy behind in twenty twenty three,
and I feel like doing the challenge and focusing on

(23:38):
just like this episode really is a reminder for you
and for us to just go into this next year
with that mindset like I'm just going to be open,
I'm just gonna say yes two times a week I'm
gonna say yes to like an opportunity that maybe my
instinct was to say no, Like hey, you want to
go to dinner? No, I can't, like no, say yes, okay,

(24:01):
like oh, like you wanna, I don't know whatever.

Speaker 2 (24:05):
It may be, like, just say yes.

Speaker 1 (24:07):
And I'm this is a reminder for myself because I
am guilty of being that person that says no because
I feel like it's going to get me what I
want quicker.

Speaker 2 (24:16):
Like I'll be like.

Speaker 3 (24:18):
I can't, I can't go out tonight because I'm focused
on my career right now and like I have a
deadline tomorrow, so like no, this is like and then
it's like, no, bitch, if you would have said yes,
maybe you would have met someone there that would have
helped you get to that goal a lot faster than
you having to do.

Speaker 1 (24:32):
X, Y and Z.

Speaker 3 (24:33):
We're not telling you to go out and so on
your dreams, of course, I know, but I'm just saying, like,
there's a lot of women out there that say no
every time, and there's always something that they have to do.
Because there is there's always something we have to do.
You might be more tired in the morning, you know,
like you might be a little slower in the morning,
or like maybe you might be late or whatever the case.

Speaker 2 (24:54):
There's always an excuse to.

Speaker 1 (24:56):
Say no, and sometimes we cut off or like even
in this Tantra practice, like just things that bring you
more pleasure and being okay with that and accepting it.
I think sometimes you get so cut off of like
joy and pleasure that we forget that it's okay to say,
you know what, fuck it, I'm gonna go out to night.
I might, yeah, be a little late in the morning,
I might get at a little hungover. But sometimes it's

(25:16):
necessary to like for that balance, absolutely, for that energy
to just like feed your soul a little bit, go dance.

Speaker 3 (25:24):
Well, you start to dim yourself and then you start
to really and then you start to be like, well,
then you start to getting these these zones of you
just have lack of motivation. I feel like when you
start saying a lot of nose like, your motivation just slowers,
like I'm too tired, Like I don't even have that girl,
I don't even have the energy to go out no more.

Speaker 2 (25:40):
I go to bed at eight, Like bitch, no.

Speaker 1 (25:42):
You don't.

Speaker 2 (25:42):
You just haven't done shit in a long ass time.

Speaker 3 (25:44):
So your body's on a certain algorithm and you need
to mix mix it up the fuck up, bitch.

Speaker 1 (25:48):
Because no, you're twenty eight and you're not an auntie.
You're not that tired. Ho, So get up off the
floor like I've cause I've been in those spaces where
you get in the zone and you're like, this is
my new normal. I'm just I'm oh, you know how Dan.

Speaker 3 (26:02):
Yeah, I'm tired, and then you start judging other people
and it's just like no, no, And so this is
just like a reminder to you to like say yes,
go out to do whatever needs to be done, whether
that's going to an event you normally wouldn't go to
by yourself, or you know, go to dinner when you
have you know, maybe have something to do early in
the morning, or go on a retreat to Costa Rica.

(26:25):
But you know, no, I can't because there's no real
reason why. Obviously you know there's things. But I feel
like saying yes is I don't know. I feel like
this is really my theme for twenty twenty three.

Speaker 1 (26:40):
I got Jim Carrey movie where he says yes to everything.

Speaker 2 (26:42):
Mm hmm.

Speaker 1 (26:42):
That wasn't that there was some abliminal messaging in that movie.

Speaker 3 (26:45):
It was And guess what, your yes is gonna fuck
you up. Sometimes it'll be bad sometimes for you, but no,
it will be worse. I feel like saying no is
almost riskier because you just don't experience it.

Speaker 1 (26:57):
Let us be a testament, you know, the yes can
be fucking explosive, like you you should you retreat? Yes?
Look how necessary that shit was. Like I am looking
for it, like releaving in four weeks, and I'm just like, yes,
I I need this, I need this, I need this.

(27:20):
I was like yes, like as every time I start
to feel a little off, that's why I'm happy, Like
I get to do this challenge and then head right
off into the jungle because like sometimes it's like I've
reserved my my piece and Zen and my like my
that vibe for Costa Rica and like we get off
the plane and suddenly they we're like put feathers in

(27:40):
our hair transform you know, like we go from La,
like we get we get right off the plane, Like
but I'm I'm sick of that, Like, oh, we're gonna
be like this the whole time.

Speaker 3 (27:51):
I'm gonna be in La, like with the feather in
my hair, Like yes, exactly, yes, yes, and yes and and.

Speaker 1 (27:57):
Just like just like slowing everything because I feel it
in my body when I'm just anxious, anxious, overthinking, thinking irrationally,
just like one person can say one thing to me
and I'm stressed out. I'm like, girl, you cannot be
this sensitive and like easily swayed. The day is too

(28:18):
long and there is too much shit to get done
because I am sensitive, like everybody's energy. If too many
people are talking at once and TP's on, I'm like, okay, wait, somebody,
these don't have phones, Like literally it's too much. Literally
a problem came in here and he was like, yeah,
now you got the studio, it's all on you. What
am I to be? He's like, now it's ghost season? Okay,

(28:40):
I know, Nicka, Like, now everybody's gonna know if you
if you're gonna do it. If we don't do what
we've been doing it, we're doing it and I have
to check them. Like one thing we do is perform. Okay.
Do you see this as acute? I know, but I'm
just like one person saying one thing to me cannot
fuck up my whole day because I'll be high anxiety
and I see it and I see all we do

(29:01):
it to each other. I'm so sensitive. And that's the
thing that's the most beautiful thing about slowing down is
like if there's anything that it will do, it's like
it's not gonna cure you, but it will make you
more aware when you're like your energy is off, You're like, okay, wait,
hold on, what dom I need to do? Why am
I so attached to this or this? But it's like
it gives you the timeframe to kind of be like
is this important? No, it's not fuck that, you know,

(29:23):
but like I need that shit so I can manage
in real life because it is even with I was
gonna say with us, it's like sometimes if like you
call me in the morning like yeah, so yeah, we
have a lot of shit to do a lot and
I'm like, I know, I just opened my eyms, Like no,

(29:44):
it's really serious. I don't know how we're gonna do
all these things. Do we need to cancel this? I'm like, bitch,
I'm like, Okay, she's stressed out, so I can't be.
But I'm just like, yeah.

Speaker 2 (29:57):
I'm gonna work on that.

Speaker 3 (29:58):
In twenty twenty three, knowing can be overbearing and we're
in my workspace and actually I was going to talk
to you about this. I feel like we need to
have more friendship dates. We've been having our whole business
friendship business.

Speaker 2 (30:13):
We are friends, we are best friends.

Speaker 3 (30:15):
However we need I need to have better boundaries around
just like not talking about work and just I guess
because I'm so excited about it.

Speaker 1 (30:24):
We love it.

Speaker 2 (30:24):
We were both excited.

Speaker 1 (30:26):
We love this show.

Speaker 2 (30:27):
Who else am I gonna talk to?

Speaker 1 (30:29):
I know I was gonna understand, oh you, but also
we can get some work done while we talk about it.
But it's like, no, bitch, just I wonder I need
to ask her some personal questions. Huh, you're asking something personal?

Speaker 3 (30:44):
But yeah, it's just the boundary of saying, yes, this
can wait. Yes, someone else needs to handle that.

Speaker 1 (30:54):
Right right. I know. It's it's insane and it's so
crazy because like not that our friendship is based in
our business, but our friendship blossoms with our business, and
this is our babies, and so it's just like a
like a newlywed couple who just had a baby, Like
you're obsessed with it and you're gonna be like, look,
let's take it at your luck. Luck you know what

(31:15):
I mean. And we're equally as excited about it, so
it's easy to do that. But yeah, sometimes like even
Orlando's like you need a hug, I'm like, okay, sure,
you know, because it's like you forget like.

Speaker 3 (31:28):
Oh, we have to self care our friendship. And we
even I was thinking about jesse too, because she was saying,
how like we have to really like start taking care
of our friendship, even at a higher level than ever before.
And I feel it, and I and I and I
know that it's something that like I want to make
a priority, like starting today, starting at this moment today.

Speaker 1 (31:52):
I know, you know, because I think people like we're like, oh,
you guys are so d D and we are, but
we're still like human. I still am like, am I
young enough for she's mad at me? But you know,
I started to realize like that that self talk was normal.
When Jessica I had told us, She's like, yeah, this
is so fun. But when I leave, I'm for sure
going to be like do they like me? I was like,
you have thoughts like that too, because me too, I

(32:13):
was like, okay, perfect, I'm not nuts.

Speaker 2 (32:15):
Yeah, well I think a lot of people have those.

Speaker 1 (32:17):
But people don't talk about it. People don't talk about
the thoughts, the insecure thoughts that you have, because it
seems crazy to be like to talk about it, Like
do you really like me? I know you do, but
I just need to confirm.

Speaker 2 (32:28):
You know, like I know, can you tell me?

Speaker 3 (32:30):
I need to tell me you like me? I'm your friend, right,
you know? But well, maybe we need to get better
at affirming each other.

Speaker 1 (32:36):
I know affirming I don't know. We do need to
be better at affirmations. I'm gonna do better because I'm
actually in my with my lover. I'm I'm a like
I'm a like intense affirmer, not intense.

Speaker 2 (32:49):
When I'm in love, I will affirm the fuck at
you you're beautiful.

Speaker 3 (32:52):
And then I realized I was, like, do I do
that in my friendships? I know I do, but like
could I do more? And like, yeah, I could probably
because it brings me joy to like it's kind of
it's part of like one of the things that bring
me joy and in loving a person like a in
a romantic relationship, but it also brings me joy too
to do it to my friends, and I have to
like make sure that I'm you know, doing that for

(33:14):
us in our relationship too, because you are amazing at.

Speaker 2 (33:17):
So many things.

Speaker 3 (33:18):
You are, like like, you're an amazing friend, You're amazing mom,
You're so creative, you have an amazing personality, You're so intelligent.
Every time I'm like, every time I have to have
a serious conversation with someone, I'm like, oh God, I
wish me I could just like have this conversation for me.

Speaker 2 (33:34):
Can she do this for me?

Speaker 3 (33:35):
Like she's going to like have a lot of good
argument points, but I'm not thinking of right now.

Speaker 1 (33:39):
Not e a good arguer. You are, but it's three
things is important, not about.

Speaker 3 (33:44):
Arguing, but just like really like dissecting, dissecting a moment
or you know, a situation, so you're really good at that.

Speaker 2 (33:52):
And yeah, I just I love you so much.

Speaker 1 (33:56):
I love you too. Honestly, I think sometimes we get
comfortable when you've been come friends with someone so long
that you forget to be like I love you and
I'm grateful for you, and like you are your bomb
and everything, Like I can execute half the shit we
do without you, and you're like fucking clear focus razor,
fucking focus on shit, you know, Like it makes me

(34:16):
more on my toes. But yeah, and you're and we
communicate really well and we create together really well. And
it's like you have been the missing piece to the
puzzle of my like being ignited, you know, And so
you're my I don't know if this is the right word,
but you're I was gonna say twin flame, but I
don't think that's it. It's soulmate.

Speaker 2 (34:35):
Yeah.

Speaker 1 (34:36):
I read about the difference between twin flames and soulmates,
but you are. And it's it's like saying yes to
this friendship has shifted my life for real.

Speaker 3 (34:45):
I think, like you've been such an activator and in
just the beginnings of being like having the courage to
say yes continuously not knowing what the result is going
to be, not knowing if I'm gonna get embarrassed, and
I'm gonna follow my ass Like at least we're going
to do it together, Like doing it alone seemed really impossible.

(35:07):
Like throughout my life, especially in things that I really
cared about and I wanted to execute, I would get
so I would have so much fear around.

Speaker 1 (35:13):
It, like okay, never mind, okay, like so much fear. Yeah,
and even now I still have fear about shit. It like, hey,
are you scared too?

Speaker 2 (35:24):
Okay?

Speaker 1 (35:24):
Cool? I thought I was just tripping, Like even this
book that's coming out this year, Like I am, I'm
still processing that that's happening, you know, like we get
you know, we're going through the like the final stages
of like interior design and cover art and like just
parts of like designing a book that I never even
thought about. But I'm like every day I'm like whoa, whoa,

(35:46):
Like this is a dream of a childhood dream of
mine and like I don't I couldn't have done it
without you, and it's scary, and I like wake up
in cold sweats thinking about everyone knowing my business more.
But I'm still like, you could.

Speaker 3 (36:00):
Have done it without me, but we needed each other
in order to know that. I think that's what it is.
Like now you know you can, right, you know, and
now you'll never doubt if you could.

Speaker 1 (36:08):
There's a power. Yeah, there was like a power that
was revealed in our friendship, and I'd like it's it
really has has been an ignite, like really ignition and
in me as a mother and me as a everything,
like I love you, I love you deeply honestly, like

(36:40):
even raising our kids together and just having such a
good sisterhood and a trust and like, no matter what,
I can call you for anything, you know and like
and you're not going to judge me.

Speaker 2 (36:49):
And I'm just I'm grateful.

Speaker 1 (36:51):
I'm really grateful for our friendship and for this, for
the studio, and for this book and for this retreats
and just like all the things, all the magic that
we've created together in this last almost five years is crazy,
so wild. It's been a crazy, crazy, crazy ride and

(37:12):
it's been beautiful, but it's it hasn't always been smooth.
And I don't know what the fuck made you say, Hey, bitch,
do you want to start a podcast? But I'm so
glad that you didn't, because it's been some powerful shit
mm hm hmm.

Speaker 2 (37:33):
End of the year emotions, I know.

Speaker 1 (37:36):
Like, I just really want you to acknowledge and celebrate
all the things that we've been able to accomplish, because
it's really crazy. It really is like every time we
wake up and execute shit, I don't know how the
fuck we do it. I can't even I don't know
how we've done it without any type of add medications.

(37:56):
I have.

Speaker 2 (37:56):
I've used some add medications I did when we're writing
that book.

Speaker 3 (38:02):
I I hit up the you know who and I said, bitch, please,
but no. But overall, no medication was used during the duration.
You remember that episode, but we did. We when we
told everybody to take a small pieces of anics. Do
you remember in twenty twenty and we.

Speaker 1 (38:23):
Said listen, don't take our advice, but take it. We
took half a Xanax each and it made everything better.

Speaker 3 (38:28):
It was because, oh yeah, because it was the middle
of COVID and we got the world end and I
my anxiety was going.

Speaker 1 (38:33):
Through the room, like take this. Last time I did it.
It made everything better, and I was like, I think
we're going to need more of that, I know.

Speaker 2 (38:39):
And that's when we started doing mushrooms instead.

Speaker 3 (38:41):
Oh my god, thank god. When we starting the mushroom,
I was like, this ship worked too good. I was like,
I'm gonna be a fucking drug addict for sure by
the time I come out.

Speaker 2 (38:51):
Of this pandemic.

Speaker 1 (38:52):
Oh my god. When you cut me a little piece
and said here, don't worry, this is going to change everything.

Speaker 3 (38:56):
You know. I've seen the effects of that of xantics
on people that I love, and it's like, not good.

Speaker 2 (39:00):
It's not cute.

Speaker 3 (39:01):
Oh l after a long time, Oh my god, just
this luring little I was like, I kept thinking of
their faces, and I.

Speaker 2 (39:07):
Was like, mushrooms feels like a better alternative to this.

Speaker 1 (39:12):
Mushrooms are a better alternative.

Speaker 2 (39:14):
Oh my gosh. Well, if you're listening, guys, thanks for
listening to our machine crass session.

Speaker 3 (39:21):
But I want you to I want to encourage you.
If you feel like stuck and you feel just like down,
especially like these holiday seasons are weird, this is a
good opportunity for this, like to reset. You know, this
is you don't have to go into twenty twenty three
feeling maybe how you feel.

Speaker 2 (39:41):
And if you feel fucking great, then fucking more power
to you. So do I.

Speaker 3 (39:45):
But even at your greatest, like you got to remember
to like hone these habits that these new habits you're creating,
Like it took a long time to create these bad habits.
You have to create good habits, and that can feel
really uncomfortable, Like.

Speaker 1 (40:00):
It's more uncomfortable as we get older. You know, Like
the saying it's hard to trick teach old dogs new
tricks is true when you've lived your entire life in
a certain modality or ignoring certain things. It is extremely
hard to start to adopt new things. And like the
biggest lesson in this entire like podcast has been growth.

(40:24):
Committed to being to growing. We've committed to growing, and
like it wasn't about anny of this shit. It was
just like, let's just get better wherever we're at, Like
let's just do better. Like let's just like dive into
ourselves and do better. And that's the thing. Even as
we get older, we have to adopt new habits. And
that's like not getting addicted to xanax. So in order

(40:52):
to do that, you need to breathe, move, and meditate.

Speaker 2 (40:55):
It's really like it's very like it's fundamental.

Speaker 1 (41:00):
It seems basic, but and it is basic, but we
forget like go outside in nature, get naked, scream, cry, bitch, laugh, breathe,
move your body, move those hips, like like even intenser
then she like them discussing it as medicine, like at
first it's a hard concept to understand, but literally it

(41:21):
is medicine, Like it truly is, like breathing deeply is
for your soul. It's like the most the oldest, most natural,
most holistic method to clarity into like a healthy living.

Speaker 3 (41:36):
Yeah, I know, it's really a it's just such a
like mindset reboot essentially, like you are rebooting your mindset
because you've been in a negative mindset or whatever, a
blah mindset for however long to kind of reboot yourself
through movement, meditation, and breath like those three things you.

Speaker 1 (41:59):
Can't you won't. It's impossible to not feel a shift
if you do those things. It's just impossible. Like I
don't know if it's science backed, but I'm it is
it is if I is fact, it is science fact.
And not only that, I do, I feel genuinely that
in caring for yourself that way and committing to your
growth and like accepting yourself like don't being on the

(42:21):
like not being on any fake shit, also cultivates your community.
And that community is usually the where like ideas start
to come creativity, Like there's like we like we just
cried over each other and this fucking friendship. It's like
it's because we have elevated because we also have a
community of friends and of people and of our tribe

(42:43):
who are also committed to elevating. And so you like
attract your people, and when you attract your people, you
don't have to worry about like second guessing shit because
you know your people are your people, right.

Speaker 2 (42:56):
Sorry, guys, that sart smoking a weed again? That double
crystal weed double.

Speaker 1 (43:02):
Oh that's what it is.

Speaker 3 (43:04):
Yeah, shout out to our girl who is a black
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It's a black owned dispensary. Make sure you guys go
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Speaker 2 (43:22):
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Speaker 1 (43:25):
Oh is that what this is?

Speaker 2 (43:26):
Yeah?

Speaker 3 (43:30):
It looked so beautiful. It was definitely a little extra bit.
She assured me it was going to be a good high.
She said, happy giggly.

Speaker 1 (43:39):
Okay, I like a happy giggly. Hi, do we add
a happy giggly to our weed packaging? Because I like
that happy happy giggly. Give me a happy giggly. I
want the happy giggly weed, happy gigily weed, happy giggly.

Speaker 2 (43:53):
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I think the breath work I like too. At the
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Speaker 2 (45:01):
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Speaker 1 (45:03):
Oh my goodness, I took it out of here. Oh
my god, you have affirmation.

Speaker 2 (45:07):
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Speaker 3 (45:25):
Hickson afran Okay, I think I have an affirmation. Okay,
I say yes to the unknown and trust that the
universe will work in my favor.

Speaker 1 (45:37):
I say yes to the unknown and trust the universe
will work in my favor.

Speaker 3 (45:44):
Say yeses, Say yes, but say you know to that
toxic dick.

Speaker 1 (45:51):
Say you know the toxic dick. You might need to
say yes to, like a one night stand though, or
threesome or something fun like that.

Speaker 2 (45:59):
Doesn't not if it's it doesn't say it doesn't mean
say no to sex. You don't need to punish yourself.
Just stop fucking that nigger.

Speaker 1 (46:07):
Or maybe just say yes to the good old Rose.
She's always a winner. Oh my god, I had a
Rose experience.

Speaker 3 (46:14):
I had so I have these like harnesses that I
bought on Amazon like eight months ago, but they were
so complicated, Like I opened the bag and they all
fell out, and I was like, what the fuck? And
I tried to figure it out and I was like no,
and then my book came over and he he was
he was like so he basically was like called me out,
Like I hadn't like pulled out any like sexy things

(46:35):
for him over the week that he had been there,
and I was like, he's right, Well, he really spoils me.

Speaker 1 (46:42):
I gotta do my part. So I was like, you
know what, you're right, and I just like handed him
all these figure it out.

Speaker 2 (46:47):
I was like, here, you're the dom king, figure this out.

Speaker 1 (46:50):
That's the dumb kid.

Speaker 2 (46:52):
And so he figured it out. I was so drunk.

Speaker 3 (46:55):
Also, like how did he figure on the way there?
On the way to the house. I thought I was
gonna throw up.

Speaker 2 (47:00):
Then he got except like, I'm glad he took advantage
of me.

Speaker 3 (47:04):
I'm just kidding that joke. So yeah, we did that.
And so anyway, he like tied me back and my
legs were back and he put the rose under me,
and it was just like I it was like I
couldn't move. Ohbody was in the perfect position.

Speaker 2 (47:26):
Were you on your knees?

Speaker 3 (47:27):
I was on the bed, oh, like face down like
my legs.

Speaker 2 (47:32):
Like yeah, I'm a real.

Speaker 3 (47:34):
Sub Like I just want just contort my body, just
bend it, make it hurt, make it hurt, but not
too much.

Speaker 2 (47:42):
I'm like slaps, Well.

Speaker 1 (47:45):
That sounds fun. I'm happy he figured those harnesses out
for you.

Speaker 2 (47:48):
He did quickly.

Speaker 1 (47:50):
He was drunk too. Yeah, wow, he knew how to
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(48:21):
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(48:43):
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the Ace of Pentacles heralds a sense of prosperity and
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It undoubtedly comes as a welcome invitation, but is not

(49:03):
a free ride. As with all aces in the Tarot card,
this card illustrates the possibility of a new endeavor, but
does not guarantee its manifestation or success. That piece is
up to you. All good thing.

Speaker 2 (49:14):
We are expert manifestors, baby amen.

Speaker 1 (49:18):
So this is cool. This makes sense.

Speaker 2 (49:20):
Ah, I love that.

Speaker 1 (49:24):
Keep your eyes open from chances to manifest your goals
and realize your inner potential. Your ideas are ready to
turn into something tangible and real. Exclamation, what was yours?

Speaker 2 (49:37):
The emperor?

Speaker 1 (49:40):
Okay?

Speaker 2 (49:44):
Oh my god, I have an idea.

Speaker 1 (49:46):
What if you learn half the tarot? I learn half
the taro, and then we'll be like a doe and
we can just we can only we can't commit to
the whole thing.

Speaker 2 (49:57):
It's a lot.

Speaker 3 (49:57):
It's like, but if I learn half, then you learn half,
that we don't ever have to do use Biddy again
in twenty twenty three.

Speaker 1 (50:02):
Okay, well there's okay, there's seven Okay, there's twenty two
major Cana cards and fifty six minor kanda. So maybe
we could do like I don't know, it's a hard split.
We don't have to figure it out. We have to
do half and half of each. I like how you think? Right,
It's like, you know what, how are all going to

(50:22):
learn them? Flash cards?

Speaker 3 (50:24):
Flash cards are say, that's how I any of I
graduated any sort of schooling because I can memorize things
on cards.

Speaker 2 (50:30):
Me too, and then forget them immediately.

Speaker 1 (50:32):
The only reason I'm here the Emperor, authority, establishment, structure,
a father figure. I'm the Dadda as the father figure
of the Tarot deck. The Emperor suggests that you're adopting
this fatherly role regardless of whether you're a male or female,
providing for your family and protecting and defending your loved ones.
You may be the breadwinner or the rock for those

(50:54):
who rely on your stability and security. Similarly, the Emperor
represents a powerful leader who demands respect and authority. Status, power,
and recognition are essential to you, and you are most
comfortable in a leadership role where you can command and
direct others. As a leader, you role with a firm
but fair hand. You have a clear vision of what
you want to create, and you organize those around you

(51:16):
to manifest your goal. You listen to the advice of others,
but you prefer to have the final say. Conflict doesn't
scare you, and you won't hesitate to use your power
to protect those who you care about, and in return,
those people will repay you with loyalty and respect you deserve.
Claim your authority as leader and influencer, and don't let
and your influencer bitch, and so don't let others put

(51:38):
you down.

Speaker 2 (51:39):
No yep, wow, Okay, I mean I relate to that
in ways.

Speaker 3 (51:43):
I don't know if I want to be the father
figure all the time, though every father.

Speaker 1 (51:47):
Needs, every daddy needs a break, every daddy needs a daddy.

Speaker 2 (51:50):
I just want to be a stepdaddy.

Speaker 1 (51:52):
Orlando's a full hands on stepdaddy. He might be more excited.
Who were into the holiday with thing?

Speaker 2 (51:58):
Today?

Speaker 1 (51:58):
He was being so oh fucking loud. I was like,
you've got to stop. He's like, oh yeah. I was like,
shut shut the fuck up seriously. Even the other our
one friend mom, she was like, you're so loud. I
was like, thank you, Alicia, because he was being so embarrassing.
I was like, there's only whirling one out of four
black people. You've got to stop. He's like, what's up.

Speaker 3 (52:21):
I was like, no, when he lives in a romantic comedy,
he does you know he's living in a romantic comedy.

Speaker 1 (52:29):
Oh my god.

Speaker 2 (52:31):
Just let the man live his best life.

Speaker 1 (52:34):
Oh my goodness.

Speaker 2 (52:37):
You know what, you can't have one or the other.

Speaker 3 (52:38):
It's like you either get like the dead bee or
you're gon't get the extra niggad and you just no
one between. You know, That's what happens sometimes when you're
not specific and manifesting. You get what you want, you
get what you need, and Orlando's exactly what you need.

Speaker 1 (52:52):
I know. I was like, I was gonna you know.
I was like, she has a performance in the morning.
He's like, so I'm going right. I was like, if
you want. He was like, I don't really like how
you said that. I was like, what it's at eight
fifteen in the morning, Like, if you feel like it,
you can come. But it's like, you don't have to time.
He's like, it's if it was our daughter, you would
not say that. You would expect me to come right.
So we say it again. I was like, We're going
to go see Luna's holiday performance in the morning. He's

(53:14):
like okay, Like oh my god. And then I'm like why,
I just.

Speaker 3 (53:19):
Well, you know it's he's healing your avoidant energy, your
abandonment energy.

Speaker 2 (53:25):
You're gonna leave right, You're not gonna come right.

Speaker 3 (53:27):
Like I'm not gonna be disappointed if you don't come right,
but like, you know, you want him to come Yeah,
might be right, and he knows that. So he's just
you know, he's in therapy. This is what a black
man in therapy looks like. Guys chilenging me all the time.
When don't you don't you want me to come to
the holidays, say that it's our daughter. I'm like, okay,

(53:47):
We're going to the holiday party in the morning. He's
the jolliest, happiest one, getting coffee, making friends. He's gonna
have this wacking sweater around his neck and no time. Okay,
you can't wait. I can't wait for the hot Coco
Christmas party. We're gonna be real snow there. They're going

(54:08):
to bring the snow.

Speaker 1 (54:09):
Oh my god, it's true. Well, you guys, I guess
this is the close of the year or last episode
of the year, the end of twenty twenty two, and
the beginning the rest of our fucking lives.

Speaker 2 (54:25):
The beginning of the rest of your life.

Speaker 1 (54:26):
Aren't you excited?

Speaker 3 (54:28):
I'm so excited for you, Excited for me, excited for us,
Excited to have options and you too have options, Say yes,
take them. One of those options is our Costa Rica
retreat that's happening in February, which I think you should
come to. I think you've been looking at it. I

(54:50):
think that you need a vacation. I think you can
afford it. And there's options for that too.

Speaker 1 (54:56):
So I think you should just say yes an honor
yourself and on your intuition and bring that ass okay.

Speaker 3 (55:04):
Because I for sure can't wait the fuck to be
in Cosa Rica and get the fuck out of here.
I can't, especially those living in cold cities. You it's
gonna be right about a clock when the fuck you
need to get the fuck out.

Speaker 1 (55:16):
As soon as it hits that clock, you're gonna be like,
you're God, I'm leaving for a week when I'm packing
bikinis in the snow. Okay.

Speaker 3 (55:26):
So yeah, check us out at the Good Fibe Retreat
and hit your girls if you have any questions anything else.
My love, No, I love you, and happy New Year,
Happy New Year.

Speaker 1 (55:41):
Bye, m y so's go be off Ella, m J.

(56:04):
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