Sarahbeth Taite joins Caroline on this week’s “Call Caroline” bonus episode! They answer listener voicemails, including one from a woman who wants to know how Sarahbeth & Caroline find balance between personal and work life as moms.
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Speaker 1 (00:01):
At Carrie Lyn. She's a queen and talking line. She's
getting really not afraid to fail this episode, so just
let it flow. No one can do we quiet car
(00:24):
line is sounding Caroline all right.
Speaker 2 (00:30):
I'm so excited to be back with another bonus episode
of Call Caroline, where you the listener leaves your burning questions.
I have Sarah Beth Tate joining me. And also, just
so you know, you can call and leave a message.
Go to the link of this podcast and then hit
the show notes and there's a link to leave a
message because I know you got a burning question. So
(00:50):
are you ready, Sarah Bath? We had a great interview
on Monday. I think I'm ready, and so now let's
see what people got to say.
Speaker 3 (00:57):
Hi, Caroline and Sarahbeth. I was wondering if the two
of you could chat a little bit about work life
balance for moms. I think that there are a lot
of demands on moms these days to show up for
their kids and their families, but also be all over
their career and showing up for that as well. How
do the two of you overcome some of those obstacles.
(01:20):
How do you find the balance between your personal life
and your work life? That's a good question.
Speaker 2 (01:27):
You're crushing the game when that's how you go. No,
you no, no, no.
Speaker 1 (01:33):
I hear you.
Speaker 4 (01:35):
On the pressure to Like I said, I mean, I
fully believe that we can do all the things that
we're passionate about, and being a mom doesn't mean that
we can't do the other things.
Speaker 1 (01:48):
But I also do.
Speaker 4 (01:49):
Feel like we put a lot of pressure as moms
to you know, there's the mom guilt either way. So
there's the mom guilt if you're staying home, there's the
mom guilt if you're gone. We're kind of damned if
we do damned if we don't, honestly, and we do
that to ourselves. But I think the balance for me
(02:09):
has been in always doing, always doing what I feel
like is right for Aila, and making sure that she's
fully taken care of and fully has me or Colby
or some you know, always having what she needs and
that she's taken care of, and then letting myself, you know,
(02:30):
not putting that pressure on myself, and just you know,
being present the days that I'm gone, being present in that,
being extra present the days that I'm home. Yeah, and
just yeah, trying to get by honestly, week to week,
it's a lot.
Speaker 2 (02:49):
Yeah, I know, I do feel you in that because
it was like I feel like my like my mom's generation.
I've talked to my mom about this before. It's like
her generation was the first generation where they were like
coming out of the stay at home, leave it to beaver,
you know, where, like you're you really aren't a career woman. Yes,
you know it's hard to have a job. You're supposed
to raise a family and stay at home and all that.
And then like I feel like my mom's generation kind
(03:11):
of like started finding their way a little bit, and
then there was like this next generation which would be
kind of like mine, where it's like you gotta be
a boss. You got to be a you know, you
gotta girl a match the man the girl boss, Like
you got to prove that you can hang in there.
And then it's like I feel like Taylor Swift is
doing a great example of showing us this. It's like,
(03:31):
you want to have a relationship and have that part
of your life and that feminine part of your life
as well as being able to carry this big career.
And it's like you want to be able to be both,
you know, Like.
Speaker 4 (03:42):
I don't feel I don't feel like. I think the
pressure comes when we feel like we have to be
perfect at all of those things and do it all
at the same time, and that one takes away from
the other because that's where like the guilt starts creeping
in of like, oh my gosh, like you know what
if I'm being a bad mom today because I'm doing this,
or what if you know what if today I'm missing
(04:03):
out on being the girl boss that I should be
because I'm home with my daughter and it's like for
me letting go of all the labels of all of
that and just really since she was born, week to week,
day by day, it's literally like, Okay, here's the schedule
for this week. It's always different in this crazy industry,
(04:25):
and it's like doing the things that matter both at
home and in work, and you know, figuring that out
with your partner and trying to just truly do what
feels right for that week, yeah, and then not worrying
about like the next week and the week after that.
Speaker 1 (04:44):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (04:44):
And like we said earlier, I don't know if we
said this on the podcast or just talked about it,
but you're bandwidth, like you when you do become a
mom like you only have bandwidth for stuff that truly matters,
because like I could just be home doing nothing, But
if I'm with Sunny.
Speaker 4 (04:59):
That is very important work, you know, because you're with
your child and being present.
Speaker 2 (05:04):
Yes, and not being distracted.
Speaker 4 (05:05):
Yes. And I think you know that too. Is like, Okay,
So if I spend the day playing with jumbo size
legos and singing Almo songs all day, that is important
work to me. Yes, that is worth my time.
Speaker 2 (05:21):
It's worth all your time.
Speaker 4 (05:22):
And I'm not going to spend that night scrolling on
Instagram feeling like I missed out on something because I didn't.
Speaker 2 (05:28):
You're present with your daughter, yes, showing her that you
show up for her and that she's the only thing
that matters and that she has your full focus.
Speaker 1 (05:37):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (05:37):
And it's just picking. It's like making choices, Like you
don't do everything that you did before for your career.
Probably it's a lot more selective.
Speaker 4 (05:43):
And then and then other days, I'm leaving her with
someone that I know and trust and love, and that
person is present with her and taking care of her,
and she knows that MoMA's coming home, and she knows
that she's going to have a fun day and I
am doing something that matters. It is important to me
that day, and I'm not going to feel guilty rightout
doing that, right.
Speaker 2 (06:04):
I love that Just being super intentional. I feel like
that's really the best way to balance it, being super intentional, intentional,
prioritizing what really matters, how much time you need, Like
I know how much time I need to be with
Sunny to make sure to fill my personal cup and
her cup. Like if we don't have enough time, like
she acts different, She's more emotional, Like she even like
(06:24):
develops stomach aches. When like I was sending her to
school a little longer, she started developing stomach aches of
like anxiety. And I'm like, you know, you can just
tell when they just need to be with you more.
And I want to be with her all the time.
But it's like you also have to prioritize your gift
and your passion, your talent and your job. So I think, yeah,
TH's super intentional.
Speaker 4 (06:43):
Well, and like you just said, I think you. I
think you can feel if your balance.
Speaker 3 (06:46):
Is off too, and I and feel it.
Speaker 4 (06:48):
We have definitely had I mean, there are phases. I
think it's just an ebb and a flow, you know,
you go through phases where you're like, who this. We
got to figure something out here because this balance is
off and this is not how we want this to feel.
And I think in those moments you just have to
recalibrate and figure out what works and what doesn't. But
(07:08):
there is no script for this, let me tell you.
Speaker 2 (07:11):
Like you, oh my gosh, constant pivoting all the time. Literally,
it's like juggling bananas.
Speaker 4 (07:16):
I have absolutely no idea what I'm doing the.
Speaker 2 (07:19):
Time ever, never any idea.
Speaker 4 (07:21):
I'm like, how did we get through this week? I
don't know, we just did. Yeah, it's just like a hey,
it's a blur.
Speaker 2 (07:27):
Yeah, But I do feel like working Mama is like
it is definitely. It's it's a constant, like like you said,
it's a day to day, constant thing, and you just
have to be intentional and you're not always gonna get
it right.
Speaker 1 (07:38):
You know.
Speaker 2 (07:38):
Sometimes you're gonna give more time to work. Sometimes you're gonna,
you know, give more time, and you're gonna not give
your work what you need, you know. And it's just
like you said, recalibrating, being able to just like change
it all the time.
Speaker 4 (07:50):
Yeah, you do a great job.
Speaker 2 (07:51):
Sareabeth, Hey, I know we're out here, just trying, okay, Well,
thank you for joining me on this episode of Call Caroline.
Speaker 1 (07:59):
Bye. Thanks Sarah, thank you so much.
Speaker 4 (08:06):
Dan M.
At Carrie Lyn. She's a queen and talking line. She's
getting really not afraid to fail this episode, so just
let it flow. No one can do we quiet car
(00:24):
line is sounding Caroline all right.
Speaker 2 (00:30):
I'm so excited to be back with another bonus episode
of Call Caroline, where you the listener leaves your burning questions.
I have Sarah Beth Tate joining me. And also, just
so you know, you can call and leave a message.
Go to the link of this podcast and then hit
the show notes and there's a link to leave a
message because I know you got a burning question. So
(00:50):
are you ready, Sarah Bath? We had a great interview
on Monday. I think I'm ready, and so now let's
see what people got to say.
Speaker 3 (00:57):
Hi, Caroline and Sarahbeth. I was wondering if the two
of you could chat a little bit about work life
balance for moms. I think that there are a lot
of demands on moms these days to show up for
their kids and their families, but also be all over
their career and showing up for that as well. How
do the two of you overcome some of those obstacles.
(01:20):
How do you find the balance between your personal life
and your work life? That's a good question.
Speaker 2 (01:27):
You're crushing the game when that's how you go. No,
you no, no, no.
Speaker 1 (01:33):
I hear you.
Speaker 4 (01:35):
On the pressure to Like I said, I mean, I
fully believe that we can do all the things that
we're passionate about, and being a mom doesn't mean that
we can't do the other things.
Speaker 1 (01:48):
But I also do.
Speaker 4 (01:49):
Feel like we put a lot of pressure as moms
to you know, there's the mom guilt either way. So
there's the mom guilt if you're staying home, there's the
mom guilt if you're gone. We're kind of damned if
we do damned if we don't, honestly, and we do
that to ourselves. But I think the balance for me
(02:09):
has been in always doing, always doing what I feel
like is right for Aila, and making sure that she's
fully taken care of and fully has me or Colby
or some you know, always having what she needs and
that she's taken care of, and then letting myself, you know,
(02:30):
not putting that pressure on myself, and just you know,
being present the days that I'm gone, being present in that,
being extra present the days that I'm home. Yeah, and
just yeah, trying to get by honestly, week to week,
it's a lot.
Speaker 2 (02:49):
Yeah, I know, I do feel you in that because
it was like I feel like my like my mom's generation.
I've talked to my mom about this before. It's like
her generation was the first generation where they were like
coming out of the stay at home, leave it to beaver,
you know, where, like you're you really aren't a career woman. Yes,
you know it's hard to have a job. You're supposed
to raise a family and stay at home and all that.
And then like I feel like my mom's generation kind
(03:11):
of like started finding their way a little bit, and
then there was like this next generation which would be
kind of like mine, where it's like you gotta be
a boss. You got to be a you know, you
gotta girl a match the man the girl boss, Like
you got to prove that you can hang in there.
And then it's like I feel like Taylor Swift is
doing a great example of showing us this. It's like,
(03:31):
you want to have a relationship and have that part
of your life and that feminine part of your life
as well as being able to carry this big career.
And it's like you want to be able to be both,
you know, Like.
Speaker 4 (03:42):
I don't feel I don't feel like. I think the
pressure comes when we feel like we have to be
perfect at all of those things and do it all
at the same time, and that one takes away from
the other because that's where like the guilt starts creeping
in of like, oh my gosh, like you know what
if I'm being a bad mom today because I'm doing this,
or what if you know what if today I'm missing
(04:03):
out on being the girl boss that I should be
because I'm home with my daughter and it's like for
me letting go of all the labels of all of
that and just really since she was born, week to week,
day by day, it's literally like, Okay, here's the schedule
for this week. It's always different in this crazy industry,
(04:25):
and it's like doing the things that matter both at
home and in work, and you know, figuring that out
with your partner and trying to just truly do what
feels right for that week, yeah, and then not worrying
about like the next week and the week after that.
Speaker 1 (04:44):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (04:44):
And like we said earlier, I don't know if we
said this on the podcast or just talked about it,
but you're bandwidth, like you when you do become a
mom like you only have bandwidth for stuff that truly matters,
because like I could just be home doing nothing, But
if I'm with Sunny.
Speaker 4 (04:59):
That is very important work, you know, because you're with
your child and being present.
Speaker 2 (05:04):
Yes, and not being distracted.
Speaker 4 (05:05):
Yes. And I think you know that too. Is like, Okay,
So if I spend the day playing with jumbo size
legos and singing Almo songs all day, that is important
work to me. Yes, that is worth my time.
Speaker 2 (05:21):
It's worth all your time.
Speaker 4 (05:22):
And I'm not going to spend that night scrolling on
Instagram feeling like I missed out on something because I didn't.
Speaker 2 (05:28):
You're present with your daughter, yes, showing her that you
show up for her and that she's the only thing
that matters and that she has your full focus.
Speaker 1 (05:37):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (05:37):
And it's just picking. It's like making choices, Like you
don't do everything that you did before for your career.
Probably it's a lot more selective.
Speaker 4 (05:43):
And then and then other days, I'm leaving her with
someone that I know and trust and love, and that
person is present with her and taking care of her,
and she knows that MoMA's coming home, and she knows
that she's going to have a fun day and I
am doing something that matters. It is important to me
that day, and I'm not going to feel guilty rightout
doing that, right.
Speaker 2 (06:04):
I love that Just being super intentional. I feel like
that's really the best way to balance it, being super intentional, intentional,
prioritizing what really matters, how much time you need, Like
I know how much time I need to be with
Sunny to make sure to fill my personal cup and
her cup. Like if we don't have enough time, like
she acts different, She's more emotional, Like she even like
(06:24):
develops stomach aches. When like I was sending her to
school a little longer, she started developing stomach aches of
like anxiety. And I'm like, you know, you can just
tell when they just need to be with you more.
And I want to be with her all the time.
But it's like you also have to prioritize your gift
and your passion, your talent and your job. So I think, yeah,
TH's super intentional.
Speaker 4 (06:43):
Well, and like you just said, I think you. I
think you can feel if your balance.
Speaker 3 (06:46):
Is off too, and I and feel it.
Speaker 4 (06:48):
We have definitely had I mean, there are phases. I
think it's just an ebb and a flow, you know,
you go through phases where you're like, who this. We
got to figure something out here because this balance is
off and this is not how we want this to feel.
And I think in those moments you just have to
recalibrate and figure out what works and what doesn't. But
(07:08):
there is no script for this, let me tell you.
Speaker 2 (07:11):
Like you, oh my gosh, constant pivoting all the time. Literally,
it's like juggling bananas.
Speaker 4 (07:16):
I have absolutely no idea what I'm doing the.
Speaker 2 (07:19):
Time ever, never any idea.
Speaker 4 (07:21):
I'm like, how did we get through this week? I
don't know, we just did. Yeah, it's just like a hey,
it's a blur.
Speaker 2 (07:27):
Yeah, But I do feel like working Mama is like
it is definitely. It's it's a constant, like like you said,
it's a day to day, constant thing, and you just
have to be intentional and you're not always gonna get
it right.
Speaker 1 (07:38):
You know.
Speaker 2 (07:38):
Sometimes you're gonna give more time to work. Sometimes you're gonna,
you know, give more time, and you're gonna not give
your work what you need, you know. And it's just
like you said, recalibrating, being able to just like change
it all the time.
Speaker 4 (07:50):
Yeah, you do a great job.
Speaker 2 (07:51):
Sareabeth, Hey, I know we're out here, just trying, okay, Well,
thank you for joining me on this episode of Call Caroline.
Speaker 1 (07:59):
Bye. Thanks Sarah, thank you so much.
Speaker 4 (08:06):
Dan M.
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