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May 31, 2024 32 mins

Kelly and Chip break down why summer was way, way better as a kid and discuss different ways they are going to incorporate that energy into their summers this year.

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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Hello, Chip, Hi, Happy Friday. How you doing.

Speaker 2 (00:04):
I'm well, I'm well.

Speaker 1 (00:07):
I feel like we both start talking. We go into
like our Delilah voices. Delahlah, I love, Delilah love someone ton.

Speaker 3 (00:19):
I should put that on my bucket list to like
get a dedication on Delilah before if.

Speaker 1 (00:23):
You got oh my god, I would die. Actually, I
really hope you do that because that would make my
life too.

Speaker 3 (00:29):
When when we were when I was living in New York,
there were you know, we couldn't go out as much
as we wanted to because we were, like it was
our first jobs and we were often broke. So sometimes
we would just stay up and listen to Delilah.

Speaker 1 (00:40):
Oh my God.

Speaker 2 (00:41):
We ordered Delilah merch. We have like Delilah bags and stuff.

Speaker 1 (00:45):
What is her?

Speaker 2 (00:47):
I think merch?

Speaker 3 (00:48):
Like, I mean, it was just like a toe bag
that said Delilah.

Speaker 2 (00:52):
And I think too, you.

Speaker 1 (00:53):
Walk around with the toe bag in New York that
said Delilah.

Speaker 3 (00:55):
Yeah, And like I think we were like people didn't
really like she was much more popular outside of New
York than she wasn't New So I don't think that
many people got the joke. I'm looking right now to
see if she still has merch Marketplace.

Speaker 1 (01:08):
Okay, we're digressing anyway, Happy Friday, folks. It is officially summer,
and you and I were kind of talking about this yesterday.
We went out on a boat yesterday and it was
Memorial Day. Last weekend. It was all of the celebrations
because school got out, like it was officially, I feel
the mark of summer. And so when we were talking

(01:30):
about what we wanted to talk about this week, I
said to Chip, do you remember the difference between the
way you feel right now and like the way that
summer felt when school was over. You were a kid,
School was over and it was like you had the
whole world in front of you. Summer as a kid
was like the best thing. I almost think it was

(01:51):
better than Christmas.

Speaker 3 (01:52):
I mean honestly one hundred percent. And three months when
you're that age, literally, oh my god. Like I feel
like as an adult, we're like, oh, summer's here. And
the next thing you know, we're like, oh, schools starting tomorrow,
and you're like, how did that fucking happen?

Speaker 1 (02:07):
Right? But also is it really three months? Was it
three months when we were a kid, Yeah.

Speaker 3 (02:12):
I mean we would get out of school early June
and not go back until September.

Speaker 1 (02:17):
So June in May and then we would but then
you would go back.

Speaker 2 (02:21):
Yeah, still still three.

Speaker 1 (02:22):
Months, Virginia. Does it different? Mm hmmm.

Speaker 2 (02:25):
Still does it that way?

Speaker 1 (02:26):
Interesting? Yeah, I guess it is. I just feel like
summer is getting shorter and shorter. But maybe it's just
because I'm an adult and time goes by way faster,
like we always out. Yeah, but when you were a kid,
it was like school's out. The only sad part.

Speaker 3 (02:41):
Don't cry, I mean it's it's.

Speaker 1 (02:45):
Actually just choked the mouse. Wow. Sorry guys. It was
like the only thing I was sad about was not
seeing my friends every day. But then and eventually we
would end up finding ways to see each other almost every.

Speaker 3 (02:58):
Day, or you find new friends, Like I are you
like in your neighborhood. I would go to like day
camps and real camp and you know, by and then,
like I wanted to be a lifeguard very young, so
I was like in lifeguarding classes on the water. I
did grow up in the water. And then you know,

(03:19):
even early summer jobs is like you know, fourteen fifteen
year old, Like I worked at a campground, so I
was meeting people that were visiting, Like, yeah, I don't know,
it just it was always an adventure.

Speaker 1 (03:29):
Do you remember the first day back to school and
you were always like like, especially when you got to
high school, it felt like you were going back to
school and someone was cuter, someone was prettier.

Speaker 3 (03:40):
There was so much that happened, like amazing new shoes,
like it was so importantly.

Speaker 1 (03:45):
Yeah, or that, Yeah, at the shoe game was always
the first day of school. I guess we'll cover that
in September. Maybe we could talk about that. But today
we're talking about summer. And I found an article called
twenty seven reasons this summer was way better, way way
better when you were a kid, and I found that
to be true. But I want to read some of
these because they made me giggle. I want to see

(04:06):
if you guys relate. One, you were always ten, because
obviously you're always outside. Two, airports were more fun, Like
do you remember how interesting airports.

Speaker 2 (04:17):
Were even as Yeah, well when we were kids too.

Speaker 3 (04:21):
It was pre nine to eleven, so it was like
you basically just walked up and handed them a photocopied
piece of paper and you got on the plane.

Speaker 1 (04:28):
Like I didn't we didn't fly very much because we
would always drive to the beach. That was our big
vacation and it wasn't very far from where I'm from.
So I didn't fly very much until I was in
high school. I think I had my first flight. Maybe
it was college. I don't even know.

Speaker 2 (04:43):
My first flight was before the summer, before my senior
year of high school.

Speaker 1 (04:47):
So I didn't feel like kids nowadays fly more.

Speaker 3 (04:50):
Probably yeah, I mean, I think it's just much more
than it used to be, too, even though it's not
cheap to do.

Speaker 2 (04:57):
I just the whole world is more expensive. But I
feel like flying, and I think there's just more airlines
and cheap airlines for.

Speaker 1 (05:05):
Competing that just what you do. Ice cream didn't make
you fat. It still doesn't give you whatever you want.
We used to have the worst diets. I would eat
a full bag of nacho cheese Doritos in one day. Oh, easily,
so unhealthy.

Speaker 2 (05:20):
I don't think I ate any real food.

Speaker 3 (05:21):
Yesterday when we went to the boat, like it was
all like potato chips and dinner. I didn't come home
and eat dinner.

Speaker 2 (05:27):
Oh.

Speaker 1 (05:28):
I did something about being in the summer though, you
don't feel like you have to sit down and have
three meals. It is a little more like snacky or
not caring about your bikini body. Like you didn't think
about it as a kid, did you know.

Speaker 3 (05:42):
I mean it's not until puberty that that really Yeah,
Like all you think about is they got more ice
cream than I did.

Speaker 2 (05:48):
I want some more ice cream.

Speaker 1 (05:50):
Right, Summer camp, this is a good one. I used
to love that, having no work, like the fact that
you actually get months off of school and you can
just take a break from things. I mean we would
have summer reading, right, but that was it. You really
got to decompress.

Speaker 3 (06:10):
I had chores, like I had to like mow the
lawn and stuff like that.

Speaker 1 (06:14):
But look at you. Now, look what that did to you.

Speaker 2 (06:16):
Now, I was gonna say, I love well. We had
a when I was young.

Speaker 3 (06:22):
We had I grew up on a farm in Virginia
and it was a lot of land and my dad
had We had a really old lawnmower, a riding one,
and it would take me six hours tomorrow lawn. But
I loved it because I'd put my walkman on and
I would just listen to music, and I was like,
I was like free as a bird. I didn't have
to do anything but mow that lawn. But then I

(06:42):
went to college and my dad bought one of those
fucking things that they use on golf courses and he
can move on now in like an hour and a half,
and it's like fun to do. And I'm so when
I was coming up from college, I was like, can
I mow the law now?

Speaker 1 (06:53):
And he'd be like, wanted to do it?

Speaker 2 (06:55):
Not on my nice riding lawnmower. I was like, you're
a dick.

Speaker 1 (06:58):
Wow. Territorial about that long on making random friends something
you were saying, playgrounds, long vacations. I love this one.
You didn't have to shave as a woman. That is
like a big one because in summer you have to
keep up with that so much more. Your legs. Other
regions definitely your oram pits. It's just constantly on the

(07:21):
radar because of what you're wearing. Sleeping in that's another one. Yes,
Escaping your parents while taking their money.

Speaker 3 (07:31):
It was like your parents were paying you to go away,
like before taking their money.

Speaker 2 (07:35):
They're like, get the food.

Speaker 1 (07:37):
Out of here. Yeah, okay, this one's funny And I
don't really know about this. Matching outfits with your brothers.
Would people put you in matching outfits with your sister.

Speaker 2 (07:48):
Doing that?

Speaker 3 (07:49):
Maybe if it was like at a wedding or something
and they were dressing us up, she might have done
something that like sort of made it go together. But
we would never like twinning that kind of matching.

Speaker 1 (07:59):
Being in the pool so long you wrinkled that is
so you I can see it. Yes, Weekends didn't matter
because basically every day is it? Every day on the
weekend binge watching TV? Did you do that?

Speaker 3 (08:13):
Not really, because TV wasn't nearly as good and didn't
have nearly as many options. It was funny because when
I was doing a little research for this, one of
the things that I was reminded of was the fact
that like daytime television was really not geared toward kids.
It was talk shows, it was and it was as stories. Yes,

(08:36):
so like as a kid, you only on Saturdays. Would
you ever want to be watching television during the day,
because that's what cartoons were on? Otherwise you were like
I'm sleeping or I'm going somewhere to play.

Speaker 1 (08:48):
Yeah, well, having time to be bored is the next
one on the list.

Speaker 2 (08:52):
Think about that being bored is actually a really good thing.

Speaker 1 (08:56):
When's the last time you were bored. I can't even
think about the last time I was bored. It wasn't
because I was doing nothing, I'll tell you that much, right.

Speaker 3 (09:05):
Yeah, No, I haven't been bored in a long time.
I mean, I think the good thing about boredom is
what is born out of it. You know, if you
can snap yourself.

Speaker 1 (09:12):
Out of it.

Speaker 2 (09:13):
Some people get stuck in that.

Speaker 3 (09:15):
But you know, boredom makes you like have to create,
you know, you have to go find something. So but
it's hard when you're really busy to end up in
a place of boredom. You can be complacent and that's
not bored.

Speaker 1 (09:29):
Yeah, that just got really deep. Wow, I don't remember
in my adult life. I cannot think of a time
recently where I have been bored. I would actually love
to be bored. I think that that sounds really fun.
I don't know, you know what. I take that back
last week when I was out with that back injury,
I was so antsy by Friday to just move and

(09:51):
do something and not watch another show or read another
book or talk on the phone do anything. I would
just wanted to like, So, I guess that is a
little bit like boredom anyway in the summer. I do
remember saying to my mom over and over, Mom, I'm bored,
you know, and we would always kind of have that energy.
But you have the time to be bored.

Speaker 3 (10:11):
What a gift, right My mom would say, go read
a book. I was like, that is the last way
to get a child to read a book, true by
being like I'm bored, Like say, go eat some ice
cream and take your book with you.

Speaker 1 (10:27):
Well, I never did this one as a kid. It's
a naps I wish I had, but man, I would
really embrace that now. Well, so we go ahead side.

Speaker 2 (10:36):
I wasn't a good napper either, and I'm.

Speaker 1 (10:38):
Still never been a good napper either, but a good restactly.
We both came up with our own list after we
read this one of ways that we were going to
incorporate things that we loved from our childhood summers into
our adult summer this year. Did you do it? Ship?

Speaker 2 (10:57):
Yeah?

Speaker 3 (10:57):
Okay, Well, first of all, it made I was like
thinking back to what my summers looked like. And my
family did not travel a lot like our summer vacations
were usually a camping thing, so road trips were you know,
obviously sort of like the pinnacle of what a summer
would be because you're always like you'd be looking forward

(11:19):
to it. It usually involved the beach, It involved another
family that had friends, so it was like it was
kind of all the things that make summer summer all
rolled into one.

Speaker 2 (11:29):
Like you know, you're grilling out, you're doing those sorts
of things.

Speaker 3 (11:33):
But before I get to the road trip part of it,
you know, most of my summer was my mom being like,
just go outside and play and come back when I
call you. So it was like disappearing not only into
like the physical world of my neighborhood, which was by
the way a street and woods and farmland, so there

(11:54):
wasn't a whole lot to do, but like dig worms
and play with my dog and like just sort of
truly get lost. You know, it's funny when you think
about your parents get lost, like that was I would
go get lost, And you know, I I think that
it is important with summer to allow kids to go

(12:15):
do that. And I know that times are very times
are very different, but I do I do think that,
you know, and some of what I was reading about
because I don't have a kid, so I and nor
does Kelly and so I thought it was really important
to remember that a lot of our listeners do have
families and children, and you know, they might not have
luxury just to like jet off and be like fuck

(12:36):
work today because there's so many more responsibilities. But you know,
I think it's important to allow kids to have some
autonomy because so much of their life is scheduled. And
you know, and I don't mean helicopter parent as a
bad thing, because I think there's so many more reasons
today why parents have to be helicopter parents. But I

(12:57):
do think that when it comes to summer, if you
can find ways to allow your kid to get lost safely,
that is really important because that's when they find themselves.
And you know, I can think of a million stupid
things that I did as a child that I didn't
get hurt, but they were like things that helped me

(13:19):
grow into who I am. So I just implore anyone
that has kids to like try and let the summer
wash over them and not worry so much and let
the kids be kids. And I think one of the
ways to do it, which was really interesting that I read,
was institute a no device day because kids don't really

(13:40):
have an excuse to need to be there's no homework
to be done. And the article that I read recommended
that you try to implement it for yourself too, because
it's really important for them to see that you don't
need a device to get through your day too. Obviously
that would probably need to be on a weekend for parents.
It also just makes you more pressed with them. Like

(14:00):
if you are with your kids, if you're not on
your phone, you're much more present.

Speaker 2 (14:04):
Anyway, that's my little.

Speaker 1 (14:05):
Sit So your goal is to get lost yourself in
some of that, like put your device down correct some time.

Speaker 2 (14:12):
I like that.

Speaker 1 (14:13):
I like that you are using get lost as not
necessarily physically lost, but to get lost in the moments. Yeah,
Like that's a really good Just think about.

Speaker 2 (14:22):
The times that you like rolled down grassy hills or
just laid on the ground and looked at clouds and
tried to find shapes, and or we would.

Speaker 1 (14:31):
Build stores out of like mud and grass, and you know,
make jewelry out of flowers and things like that. You
did have to use a lot more of your creativity.

Speaker 3 (14:40):
Yeah, and I think that you know, as adults, it's
why don't we do that a little bit more often?
And just sort of tap into our childhood. And I
think it's something that we can, you know, an example
for a sink, Like for someone like me, I should
maybe maybe like go on a hike one day about myself,
just me and my dog, without music music. I don't

(15:04):
need a phone, I don't need a friend with me.
I don't need to depend on anything but the moment.
And I think if you have kids, you can do
some of those things too, obviously make them a little
more kid friendly, but like, not only does it allow
you to sort of tap back into your youth, but
it creates these like special bonds and lasting memories for

(15:25):
the both of you. And when I think about my parents,
and you know, thankfully they're still both with us, but
like I think that when they're gone, the memories that
I am going to have with them that are the
most core are probably from my childhood. That's the way
I'm going to want to remember them, not as old people,
but as like the people that like helped make me

(15:45):
who I am, so you know, and a lot of
that was summer activities. It was when my dad was
a lot more available, my mom was a lot more available,
and just me and my sister got to spend a
lot more time together.

Speaker 1 (15:57):
So I feel like peoplerobably got a lot of practice
with this kind of mindset during COVID, when there was
no school, we didn't have work the same way, So
pull back some of those ideas. It's summer, but I
also just love it, even if you're not talking about kids,
or if you are single or younger, whatever it is,
getting lost in a moment is such a beautiful mentality,

(16:19):
especially this time of year when we have a little bit,
a little bit more freedom, a little bit extra space,
or you make it for yourself because you're like, I'm
gonna do summer right.

Speaker 3 (16:30):
You know what's funny is I've talked about wave country
on here before, but it's it's this like run obviously
wavepool that I love and I think, you know, just
hearing you and I say this is like, that's kind
of what I do there.

Speaker 2 (16:43):
I go get lost in the wave pool.

Speaker 3 (16:46):
Yeah, because I don't have my phone. Yeah, I don't
have earbuds. In a lot of times I go alone,
and even when I'm with friends, some we're just sitting
there flow. It's not like we're even we get separated
by the waves.

Speaker 1 (16:58):
Yeah, you're not talking.

Speaker 2 (16:59):
Oh, I mean it's kind of is my little place
to go get lost.

Speaker 1 (17:01):
No wonder you love it so much. I love it
bringing you back to childhood.

Speaker 3 (17:06):
You know, we touched on the boat club. That's something
that I'm going to lean into a lot this summer.

Speaker 1 (17:11):
So, you know, I want to tell the listeners what
you named your membership.

Speaker 2 (17:16):
Yeah, we're the Naughty Queen Yacht Club.

Speaker 1 (17:19):
I thought we were feeling naughty.

Speaker 2 (17:22):
No, that was where it started. It's called the Naughty Queen.

Speaker 1 (17:25):
Okay, yacht he's saying naughty as an in a uti
Chip joined a boat club with another friend of ours.
You're gonna have to give the backstory. You can't just
mention things like people know what you're talking about.

Speaker 3 (17:35):
Well, yeah, so we joined a boat club that's here
in Middle Tennessee that they're five lakes, so we have
access to boats that we can just go use and
all we have to pay for now is the gas.
And you know, there's there's a lake literally in town
that takes fifteen minutes to get to and they have
double decker boats that have slides off of them that

(17:57):
are really fun for kids. And they have wakeboarding boats
where you can pull skiers and wakeboarders and tubers and
sort of zip around and we have access to all
of we have their kayaks. I might go get lost
on a kayak one day. Yeah, it'd be fun. And yeah,
so it's we can have two reserves standing reservations at

(18:17):
a time. So it's like there's no reason to not
have one on the books. I have one for Sunday morning.
He wants to join.

Speaker 1 (18:26):
So yeah, boat club.

Speaker 2 (18:28):
Hi, there you go. If you're in Nationale want to
go boating, let me know.

Speaker 3 (18:34):
But there's also they have partnerships with some other nautical clubs,
so we can we can get boats if we're ever
in Key West or in Austin.

Speaker 2 (18:42):
I feel like you guys.

Speaker 1 (18:43):
Could see his face light up when he talks about this.
It is truly the thing bringing you the most joy
this summer, I feel.

Speaker 3 (18:50):
So, you know, maybe look to see if there's a
boat club or something. It's certainly a much more affordable
and less painstaking thing than buying a boat and owning
right having because like when we're done, we pull up,
we pay for gas, and then we get off right.

Speaker 1 (19:04):
You don't worry about storage or cleaning nothing.

Speaker 3 (19:08):
Yeah, another cool thing that's out there. I've never done it,
but it's kind of on my bucket list. There's a
thing called Camp No Counselor, and it's an adult summer
camp where you pay an all inclusive fee. There's theme nights,
there's party nights. There, you play tug o war, you
do all the things, and they have them in a
few like I think there's one in New York State.

(19:29):
I think there's one in California. I feel like there's
one in Florida, So look it up. It's called Camp
No Counselor.

Speaker 1 (19:35):
That's actually a really good idea. We just mentioned those
The week before you went to camp. Do you not
remember how excited you were, Especially if you're new to
an area. That seems like a really good way to
make new friends.

Speaker 3 (19:48):
Yeah, and there's alcoholk. So it's a different level of camping,
but it's still like I think they try to make
it as close to your childhood version of camp as possible.
But you know, it could be a fun way to
like sort of you know, leave some stuff behind for
a few days.

Speaker 2 (20:06):
What else? Oh, I said fireworks. I love local fireworks.

Speaker 3 (20:12):
I love you know, don't wait till the fourth of
July and the and to like go to the biggest
city or whatever to see like attend local fairs and
carnivals and things like that, because it's nothing will remind
you more of your childhood, especially if you grew up
in a small town.

Speaker 2 (20:28):
I love when I go.

Speaker 3 (20:29):
Back home and the carnival's going or there's you know,
a beach festival or something happening, and especially if they're
yankie fireworks. I mean my neighbor does. He does fireworks
on all the big holidays.

Speaker 1 (20:41):
And is that legal? Probably not okay.

Speaker 3 (20:44):
But like, I mean, they got a town and he
told me so his Fourth of July party is going
to be on July. It's like after the fourth this year,
and he's like fireworks or eighty percent off.

Speaker 1 (20:55):
He's buying him now after he's going to buy him after.

Speaker 3 (20:58):
They because they're trying to get rid of him. So
I'm like, he's gonna rival downtown Nashville.

Speaker 1 (21:02):
Wow.

Speaker 3 (21:03):
And my final thing was because obviously, as adults, we
all have responsibility and we most of us have to
have jobs. It's the way of life. But thankfully, because
of daylight saving, we have extra sunlight at the end
of the day.

Speaker 1 (21:18):
Yeah, doesn't it make such a difference. I swear it
changes the whole thing. Yeah, use it.

Speaker 3 (21:22):
Use it like do something in the yard with your
kids or by yourself. Like I mean, you can't really
play kickball or have a water balloon flight fight by yourself,
but you could slip and slide, you can cook, you
can grill outside, you can eat outside, just soak up
the summer. And you know, maybe even if you're feeling
feeling it, camp in your backyard. Like there's I can

(21:45):
remember doing that with my dad when I was a
kid and seeing owls for the first time.

Speaker 1 (21:50):
That's actually a really good compromise to you for people
like me who do not like camping, because you can
still go pee inside.

Speaker 2 (21:56):
You can take a shower in the morning, right, Yeah.

Speaker 1 (21:58):
You just run out and basic do the fun parts
of the camping. Maybe the sleeping if you felt like
that too. But yeah, I actually love that idea. Yeah,
these are really good ideas you just gave the listeners.
There you go, and oh my gosh, I love I
love a theme park. I really do roller coasters, all the.

Speaker 3 (22:21):
Rides, pretzels, ice cream, all the junk you can eat.

Speaker 1 (22:25):
Do you remember how sorry we were after Dollywood, though,
it's like it doesn't hit the same.

Speaker 2 (22:32):
You get a good night's sleep. Though, after you get
a good night you walk.

Speaker 1 (22:36):
A million miles and then your net can't move because
of the roller coasters, and you're like, wow, I used
to love this ship, but now I can't function.

Speaker 3 (22:44):
Yeah, over and over and over, We're got.

Speaker 1 (22:48):
Yeah, Okay, I have just a short list, but I
pulled some of my ideas. Okay. I had to say
being outside in general, because when I was a kid,
it was similar to your parents saying to you get lost.
We would literally leave the house in the morning, and
then I would be home for dinner like you said.
And again, I know times are different. My mom would

(23:09):
just be like, where are you going? And then I
would just go. Like it was. You would ride bikes
back and forth to each other's houses, or we were
playing kickball in the street all day, climbing trees, doing
just everything. But I was outside all day every day,
and I was thinking about that. Now, obviously I have
to work, but why don't I work in my backyard outside?

(23:32):
Why don't I go sit once the cicadas are gone
under the tree in the shade. It's just they're just
ways to do it, and still we do. I think
most of us have the luxury now of not always
having to be in an office or a lot of
us do. I know not everybody does, but for those
of you who can do it, and if not, on
the weekends, make sure to like get outside and do something,

(23:55):
especially if you're in the South before it gets way
too hot and you don't want to be out there.
But I'm just going to try to think about like
different ways to incorporate Maybe I'll get a bike even
I don't know. I used to love bike riding, but
just waste to incorporate something outside into my day, even
if I'm busy with work, because it really does bring
me a lot of joy and it's good for you,

(24:16):
good for you, vitamin D, all the things.

Speaker 3 (24:18):
Just taking the walk, I mean, I know you do that. Yeah,
I have a dog, so it's like I have to
get out and I should stop saying the word because
he's like staring at me right now and I don't
want him to bark. But yeah, I mean it's a
great excuse. I also want to implement work from water Wednesdays,
so what oh, oh Wednesday.

Speaker 1 (24:41):
Yeah, I would totally be down for that. Yeah, bring
the hot spot, get out on that double decker, do
some work, and then get in the water. I think
that's our new thing. Let's do it.

Speaker 2 (24:50):
Yeah, let's do it.

Speaker 1 (24:52):
Okay. When they said not caring about your body, I
really thought about that one, because I mean, maybe this
is more of a woman thing than a man thing,
but I think men worry about this too. My back
thing last week, and I've had some other health issues
recently that I've really just made me kind of reassess
maybe my own relationship with my body. And I think

(25:14):
we just all do this, you know, you talk about
I don't really realize all the time the narratives in
my head that are saying negative things like picking my
body apart. And I love to work out, I love
to eat healthy. It's the things that made me feel good.
But like last week, I was totally out. I haven't
been able to work out still, and I can typically
be like, oh, I feel disgusting or whatever, but you

(25:37):
know that, like I woke up this morning and I'm like,
you know, what my body is functioning, and the fact
that our bodies function. As you get older, you start
to realize, oh my god, the things that our bodies
do is pretty incredible, the things that they do on
the daily, right, and especially when you're injured or you
have some health issues, like all you really start to
care about is if you're healthy or not. So anyway,

(25:59):
I'm not going to like not work out and not
take care of myself. That's important to me too, And
of course I want to look good because it makes
you feel good. But I'm not going to be as
hard on myself if, for instance, like last week when
I was just down and couldn't move, and then that's
continued onto this week, Like I'm not going to be

(26:20):
oh my god, I don't want to be in a
bathing suit kind of mentality. I'm just like this is
just where it is today. Yeah, just being nicer to myself,
you know.

Speaker 3 (26:29):
Yeah, I mean that's always been my approach, like as
a as a guy who has dealt with weight issues
his whole life, Like there's nothing more mortifying than me
than that, like get out of a pool and a
wet T shirt and have to be like and like
pull it off. I would much rather like people still
see that I'm overweight. So I'm like I learned a

(26:50):
long time ago to be like, Okay, I don't care
this is my body.

Speaker 2 (26:53):
Because I'm going to get a tan da.

Speaker 3 (26:56):
But like now that I'm on this like my new
little fitness journey, it feels even better to take my
shirt off, you know, because I'm proud and still have
a lot of work to do, but I'm proud of
where I've gotten myself.

Speaker 2 (27:07):
But I'm also not gonna say no to ice cream.

Speaker 1 (27:11):
You're just gonna live your life.

Speaker 2 (27:12):
Yeah, yeah, life.

Speaker 1 (27:13):
Mine is more about just like actual actually the way
I talk to myself. Something that's one of the healers
I saw a couple of years ago taught me was
that our bodies like really do absorb and listen to
the things that we say, even if it's in your head.
That's a narrative obviously, and so it picks up on
that energetically, like your cells actually pick up on that.

(27:35):
And so she would do this thing every morning where
she would literally touch each part of her body like
her feet, her legs, her calve, her thigh, her knee, cap, whatever,
and say thank you, I love you, thank you, I
love you, thank you, I love you, and like give
yourself a hug even at the end of it, and
before you know it, you do start to feel different,

(27:56):
which makes me understand that it is registering to our bodies,
which is crazy to me, but I I kind of
just forget how much of a part of our life
our bodies are. That sounds crazy, but it's just because
you just wake up and it functions, you know, and
then when it doesn't, you're thinking, oh shit, this is
crazy that every single day I take this movement for granted.

(28:19):
I take feeling good for granted, I take the energy
I have for granted. I look at my thighs and
I see cellulite, not that they're functioning. And so it's
just kind of like a mentality switch that I think
has really started to be top of mind to me today,
and with bathing suit season coming up, I'm like, yeah,
I'm gonna lean on into that one this summer. Okay,

(28:39):
Sleeping or taking naps, like sleeping in or taking naps.
They mentioned that a lot, and when you're a kid, especially,
I remember coming home from college, I would sleep till
like noon every day. And I'm not saying I'm gonna
do that, but I do have a hard time, especially
on a work day sometimes just feeling like I need
to wake up because it's routine or whatever or not,

(29:00):
you know, kind of rushing the mornings, and I love
a slow morning. That is one of the things that
brings me the most joy, meditating, reading, slowly, drinking my coffee. Again,
if you have kids, I'm sure you want to curse
me right now. I don't get to do this every
day either, but just finding ways to have a slower morning,
sleep in a little bit and not guilt myself. Or

(29:20):
if in the middle of the day during the summer,
I'm like, you know what, I have the time, I
feel like going to take a little rest, I'm gonna
do it. That's my rebellion.

Speaker 3 (29:31):
I mean, I think it's a good thing to do.
It's exactly what you would have done as a child, too, right, And.

Speaker 1 (29:36):
You're listening to your body again to tie it back
into the other stuff. It's just we stress ourselves out.
And I'm thinking, what was the thing about summer that
was so great as a kid?

Speaker 3 (29:46):
Oh?

Speaker 1 (29:47):
Right, it's that we got to not be at school
for three months, like we were just saying, we got
to not have to do work or whatever it was.
And I do think that we as humans need resets.
So maybe you don't get as much time or it
doesn't look exactly the same, But there are ways that
we probably can all be a little gentler with ourselves
and kind of take one little thing and it'll feel

(30:09):
like such a treat, you know, Like it would feel
like such a treat to sleep in a little bit
to me at this point. Yeah, that's all hod.

Speaker 2 (30:17):
And you could do that once a week, you know, totally.

Speaker 1 (30:20):
It could be like our Wednesday's workday outside like it's
like whatever it is, and it doesn't have to be
till noon. Like I said, even thirty minutes would probably
make me be like, ooh, yeah, I'm really taking care
of myself today. So anyway, I think that's kind of
our goal is just to figure out ways as adults

(30:40):
in our forties to make this summer like our summer
as kids and really kind of embrace it and enjoy
the time, the downtime, the outside time, whatever it is
that makes you happy in the summer. Think about it.
If you guys want to send us your ways that
you're gonna feel like a kid this summer, you can
always email us at the edge at velvet seedge dot com.

(31:01):
You can hit us up on Instagram and our d ms.
Mine is at Velvet.

Speaker 3 (31:05):
Edge, chip Mine's at chip Doors at h I P
D O R S C H. We also have voicemail.

Speaker 1 (31:13):
Yes, look at you.

Speaker 3 (31:15):
We want to hear what you're doing for the summer.
So in our bios on Instagram you can find the
link to leave us voicemail.

Speaker 1 (31:22):
We've got to give people a specific I'm really bad
about that.

Speaker 3 (31:27):
You feel your summer plans or summer memories?

Speaker 1 (31:30):
What is your summer people?

Speaker 2 (31:34):
We could do too. If you could do anything this summer,
what would it be?

Speaker 1 (31:38):
Okay, so you're doing a question, but we're keeping into them.
We should have worked this out before obvious.

Speaker 2 (31:47):
We're live, y'all, we are live. Let's do that.

Speaker 3 (31:50):
Let's let's either we should either do best summer memory
or if you could do anything this summer, what would
it be?

Speaker 1 (31:58):
What would it be? But also the thing that you
used to do as a kid. Are We're not going
to tie it back into the topic that we just did.

Speaker 2 (32:04):
That's why I think summer memory is oh.

Speaker 1 (32:06):
I see yeah, okay, well pull from this. This is
why this is why this will never work. We have
to have a specific we're going to really work on.
This will be prepp for next week.

Speaker 3 (32:16):
If you could do anything that you used to do
as a child this summer, what would it be?

Speaker 1 (32:22):
There you go, there's your question, ding ding ding ding ding,
and how are you going to do it? Okay, okay.
As you guys go into the weekend and your summer
and you're living on the edge, I hope you always remember.

Speaker 2 (32:32):
To back casual.

Speaker 1 (32:35):
That little bonus thing I did there, you like it?

Speaker 2 (32:37):
Okay. Bye,
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