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March 29, 2024 31 mins

Kelly gets a surprise visitor and is missing another one. Chip explores the world and makes crude jokes. They both answer a listener question about adult friendships. 

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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Hello, Chip, Hello. I don't know what that was. I
think I was going to try to like make up
a song, and then that just didn't really I was
singing justice.

Speaker 2 (00:11):
Oh my god.

Speaker 1 (00:13):
Wait hold on, I have to wait. I have to
stop this podcast. It'll be right back. Oh it's my cat.
It's back and I haven't seen her in a month.

Speaker 3 (00:20):
Hold on, hip pause, we're leaving that in there. He
just showed up.

Speaker 1 (00:26):
The listeners are like, what is happening? So listen. I
had this cat, you know, that kept showing up at
my doorstep, and people told me, like cats find you.
They And first of all, I used to fucking hate
cats like this, I'm not like a person.

Speaker 2 (00:43):
You're becoming one. Okay, you're this cat's person.

Speaker 1 (00:48):
No, but yeah, so I was going through like some
weird times. Actually, it's like and she knew that I
just like needed loving, is how I felt. And she
kept showing up at my doorstep. This was back in
like November her and every day she would show up
at my door. And I have like a glass door
in front of my regular door, and I would just
kind of leave my regular door open so I can

(01:09):
have more light in my living room. And I would
be sitting at my little like table and she would
come up and just stare at me. It was so cute.
I've posted all about this on my Instagram. Well, I
fell in love with this cat. I mean she's like
kind of like more dog energy if I'm being really honest,
like the way she snuggles you and like lets you
pet her, so sweet, so friendly. Well then I haven't

(01:30):
seen her in like months. I mean obviously it's been
cold outside in bad weather. But I was driving on
like a background near my neighborhood and I saw a
dead cat not that long ago, and I had convinced
myself it was her, and I have been best stated,
this isn't even my pet.

Speaker 3 (01:47):
It's like I.

Speaker 1 (01:50):
No, I mean cat, yes. But so anyway, I'm just
sitting here and I'm at the top of my stairs
and my little nook that posted about on Instagram that
I record in now and I have just the glass
door open, and I saw her just walk by, and
I freaked out because I literally have thought she was dead.
And recently I kept being like, oh my gosh, Universe,

(02:12):
send her back to me if she's alive, because it's
warm outside. Now she's alive. Everyone she's alive.

Speaker 3 (02:18):
So did she let you pet her?

Speaker 1 (02:20):
Well, she was kind of far in the yard, and
I was like, oh shit, I got I'm recording. I'm
currently recording a podcast, so I need to go. I'll
be back later. Boo. I think I just wanted her
to see me, though, so she remembers me, Look how
attached I am to this cat.

Speaker 3 (02:34):
This is like, you're the catwoman.

Speaker 2 (02:37):
I haven't been to your house since she did the nut,
and I haven't really understood the orientation of exactly where
you're sitting in Now it makes more sense if you
can see out the.

Speaker 1 (02:45):
Top of my stairs. Yeah, it's literally the top of
my stairs. There was this random note between the two
rooms upstairs, and I'm like, what do you do with
a space like that? And then it just ends up
being for that kiddy cat your ankle. Well, you know,
the little random spaces that you don't know what to
do with in your house, they end up becoming like
the junk closet. Oh that was why. Okay, you know,

(03:06):
I'm like, oh, this actually would be really great for sound.
I'll make it into a little recording booth. And here
we are, and it's I love it. It's like my
favorite space in my house now. But oh my gosh, you.

Speaker 3 (03:17):
Guys, we need to give the cat a name.

Speaker 1 (03:22):
What do you have any ideas?

Speaker 2 (03:24):
No?

Speaker 3 (03:24):
I mean, I don't know what she looks.

Speaker 1 (03:26):
Like, beautiful, perfect, magnificent.

Speaker 3 (03:30):
Let's name her perfect.

Speaker 1 (03:32):
Oh this is terrible. It's so bad.

Speaker 3 (03:35):
At least I'm trying to name her.

Speaker 1 (03:37):
If I was gonna name her if I like, I
like when pets have real people names like Bob or
like Pete. Our friend's dog's name is Pete. I think
it's so cute, so it'd probably be something like that,
like not Susan, but you know, like because she's so
not a Susan, no offense to any Susan listening.

Speaker 3 (03:55):
It's like a Penelope or something like that, Penny Penny.

Speaker 1 (03:59):
I just just call her cat. I don't know. I'm
just like, hey, I talk to her. I don't say
a name. Yeah, I'm like, oh my god, I've missed you,
Like I really do, actually talk to her like a person,
quite psycho. It's just so not me. So it's so funny, right,
I mean, my whole life I've been like ugh, cats,

(04:20):
and then I lived in I don't know why I'm
giving you guys so much info today, You're welcome or
I'm sorry, I'm not sure. But I lived When I
first moved to Nashville, I lived with my best friend
from high school and she got a cat as a
Christmas gift one year, and I hated that cat because
the cat wasn't very nice though, Like you know how
sometimes cats are bitchy.

Speaker 3 (04:37):
They're very independent.

Speaker 1 (04:39):
They are independent. Yeah, you can't like chase them either.
You gotta let them come to you. That's why I
was like, I need to go make my presence known
so she remembers I'm the one who lives here, because
I feel like we're bonded.

Speaker 3 (04:51):
This cat ever goes missing, I'm looking in your house first.

Speaker 1 (04:54):
Oh, I would advertise that I took it. I know
whose cat it is actually though, and they lived too
doors down for me. I have also like thought about
going up to them and be like, what do you
feel about letting go of that cat?

Speaker 3 (05:06):
What's your cat's name? Start there?

Speaker 1 (05:09):
Why are you so obsessed with at having a name?
You don't like? It might might like you better if
it likes me, just fine?

Speaker 3 (05:15):
Have you not come into your house if you know
it's name?

Speaker 1 (05:17):
You know what I'm saying, Oh, she wants to come
in my house. I'm just not letting her because she
roams the streets every day.

Speaker 3 (05:23):
Right, she's a naughty kiddy.

Speaker 1 (05:26):
Yeah, you want to say pussy so bad. I feel it.
I feel it. You're like trying to think.

Speaker 3 (05:31):
Of sun while you were not here. So okay, Well.

Speaker 1 (05:36):
It's going to get cut out because I don't want
a lot of dead space, like three minutes of dead
space in the podcast.

Speaker 2 (05:41):
Forward to me saying it, and then make it seem
really short.

Speaker 1 (05:46):
Anyway, Happy Friday, you guys, my cat's alive. It's going
to be a great day. It is.

Speaker 3 (05:55):
It's good Friday.

Speaker 1 (05:56):
It is good Friday. It's the last Friday of March.
I literally don't know where this month went, but I
really don't. I feel like time is moving at warp speeds.
It's all this like a weird eclipse, full moon, mercury,
retrograde energy. Right now. I'm feeling a little bit out
of it, which is also why I'm so excited this
cat has reappeared. How are you feeling, Chip, I'm feeling good.

Speaker 2 (06:19):
I mean, I can't speak for you know, every zip
code in this country, but spring feels like it has
arrived here in Nashville.

Speaker 1 (06:27):
Spring has sprung, and I think that.

Speaker 2 (06:30):
Is making it feel like time is moving really fast,
because like tre like I'll wake up and I'm like,
where do all these flowers come from?

Speaker 3 (06:36):
Where? Like these trees are in bloom? It's crazy. Yeah,
And the weather's been really.

Speaker 2 (06:40):
Kind of it's been it's been really nice and yeah,
so I hope for those of you who are in
the colder climates that spring comes around soon, because it's.

Speaker 3 (06:50):
My favorite time of year.

Speaker 2 (06:51):
Like, yeah, people start wearing like T shirts again, and
they're more active. You see more people just like walking
down your street, and I love that energy.

Speaker 1 (07:00):
It feels like everyone gets a little pep in their step.
And in Nashville we have like a cold winter. I mean,
I can't say that because the people in the north
are probably like.

Speaker 3 (07:09):
You know, you don't it's still snowing in Michigan.

Speaker 1 (07:11):
I know. But for us, I'm from Louisiana, so let's
you know, it's all relative. But here it feels really
cold and you just don't really go outside that much.
So I feel like everyone here gets really excited once
it starts to warm up. You're right like out doing
things going on walks walking their cats.

Speaker 3 (07:29):
They're kiddies.

Speaker 1 (07:30):
You're gonna see me. I'm gonna be the woman cat.

Speaker 3 (07:33):
I quit.

Speaker 1 (07:36):
The cat in a harness going on walks.

Speaker 3 (07:38):
I would one of those baby borns.

Speaker 1 (07:41):
That's what I would do with this cat. Because we
cut a lot and cat, we love you.

Speaker 2 (07:47):
It makes specific cat carrying baby born type things.

Speaker 1 (07:50):
I bet they should be Amazon. I'm sure you could.
And if not, I'm sure you'd be like, what if
there was a car for your birthday?

Speaker 3 (08:00):
Even my cat, you just run around borrow and people's
cats for it.

Speaker 1 (08:04):
Well, we talked a little bit about our trip to
the Bahamas and you were like, yeah, I really feel
like I'm actually embracing my word a lot this year
so far and specifically this month. What else do you
have going on your word this year?

Speaker 3 (08:17):
Is explore correct or Yeah?

Speaker 2 (08:20):
Yeah, I explored the Bahamas and all the water fun
that we could have.

Speaker 1 (08:24):
Yeah you did well.

Speaker 2 (08:25):
I'm again going to the tropics the Caribbean next weekend.
It's my friend of mine's fiftieth birthday.

Speaker 1 (08:34):
You're like island time, man like island too well.

Speaker 2 (08:38):
And it's funny too because I feel like normally I
would have been like, oh, that's not really something I
would just want to make a long weekend out of
because we're going to Antigua and it's not very easy
travel from Nashville. Everyone else is coming from New York
City and they get direct flights. And it's not my birthday,
so I couldn't really complain about it, although I did
try to like shift it. I was like, where can
we go that has direct flights for everybody?

Speaker 3 (08:59):
But I was like, my words, explore, fuck it, I'm
gonna go.

Speaker 1 (09:03):
So it's like sounds amazing.

Speaker 3 (09:06):
I'm so jealous. I know, I know.

Speaker 2 (09:07):
And it's funny because my friend who is going, she
has a child. She's a single mom and she's a child,
and she hasn't done much traveling in a long time,
so she's sort of like her kid is I think
ten or eleven now, so she's sort of trapped a
decade ago, and you know, all she has is what
she's reading and she's like, well, we can't go to
the Bahamas because there's a travel warning.

Speaker 3 (09:29):
And I was like, I was just in the bottom.

Speaker 1 (09:31):
I remember I did send you guys the travel warning,
but it's.

Speaker 3 (09:34):
Like, don't go to the slums.

Speaker 1 (09:37):
Of these places, you know, cautious and all the things.
There's also travel warnings to come here because of all
the shootings we have.

Speaker 3 (09:44):
So it's America's probably the least safe place to be
in the world.

Speaker 1 (09:48):
That yeah, I mean it's definitely you definitely need to
be cautious. But I mean I understand too though. It's
like if you don't know, it's a little bit.

Speaker 2 (09:56):
One hundred yeah, I mean, so she did a bunch
of research for and found She's like, I found this
resort that looks really nice and it's pretty close to
the airport, so if we need to get out quickly,
we can.

Speaker 3 (10:09):
I'm just like, can we just plan on this being
a really smooth, fun time right?

Speaker 2 (10:14):
Go into it super worried, But no, I think it's
gonna be great. We're really excited, and so I'm just
checking off more explore and yeah, I mean it's you know,
planning other trips, going to Maine, going to Paris, going
to I'm just going like going, are you right now?

Speaker 1 (10:30):
Do you feel like you're on the move and you're
like snapping selfies in all these places? Because now you're
all skinny and shit, and you're like skinny every time
I would look at Chip. When we were in the Bahamas,
he was taking another selfie and I was like, what,
who are you?

Speaker 2 (10:44):
I did find a few good ones on that are.
The boat captain sent me they had a go pro
on the boat and.

Speaker 3 (10:51):
That we were able to use.

Speaker 2 (10:52):
And then he sent the footage and there was one
I'll have to send it to you guys.

Speaker 3 (10:56):
There was like I look on the video where.

Speaker 2 (10:58):
I didn't even know the camera was on, but I
was trying to figure out how to make it work,
and I was recording it the whole time.

Speaker 3 (11:03):
Oh boy, but there's a lot of really bad angles.

Speaker 1 (11:06):
I can't not either.

Speaker 2 (11:07):
I was like, I am not putting this on the
link that I'm sharing with everybody.

Speaker 3 (11:10):
This one is going to just stay with me.

Speaker 1 (11:13):
It's like when you turn your phone on or you
open up the camera app and it's facing you instead
of facing out. It is the worst feeling ever when
you see yourself at that angle.

Speaker 2 (11:23):
I'm really bad about I hold my phone all the
time instead of just putting it back in my pocket.

Speaker 3 (11:29):
So I turned I'll be like, what is this video?

Speaker 2 (11:31):
And it's like bad photos and bad videos of me
from the crotch up like because I don't even know
I'm doing it, or I call. I could do a
lot of phone calls. Yeah, but they're not even butt
dials because I'm holding the phone.

Speaker 1 (11:46):
Fan dials act from the crotch.

Speaker 3 (11:50):
Yeah, but I you know, I gained weight on that vacation, On.

Speaker 1 (11:54):
The Vahamas vacation, I fucking wonder that.

Speaker 2 (11:57):
I mean you say that, I did you drink seven
hundred thousand drinks?

Speaker 1 (12:01):
And like the food and what that we ate wasn't
like necessarily, it.

Speaker 3 (12:06):
Wasn't on my plan, right, it's pretty healthy.

Speaker 1 (12:10):
How many days did you work out?

Speaker 3 (12:12):
Three?

Speaker 1 (12:13):
You did do three? Yeah, okay, that's what I did too.
I felt so proud of myself for doing very proud
of myself. Yeah yeah, I don't know.

Speaker 3 (12:21):
It was definitely like.

Speaker 2 (12:22):
Yeah, probably the alcohol and I do think I was
just like bloated and you know water weight we.

Speaker 1 (12:27):
Travel just like does that?

Speaker 3 (12:29):
Yeah?

Speaker 1 (12:29):
You know what I just ordered that. I'm really excited
about that. I saw Kylie Jenner post about. But it's
like this band that you wear around your stomach while
you work out. And the reason I want it though,
is because like, well, and this will actually get into
what I was gonna talk about in just a second.
But like, women hold a lot of water weight in
our stomachs, you know, and all it does is just

(12:50):
make your stomach sweat. And so I was like, oh,
I'll just wear that while I go around the walks.
It's not it doesn't even have heat, but I think
the compression makes your body sweat and so it releases
your water weight. Anyway, I'll send you the link. Yeah,
I mean you.

Speaker 2 (13:03):
Were gonna say it was one of those things. It's like, look,
got an electro pulse and it just while you're working.

Speaker 1 (13:08):
You're like, Doug Dosure. Yeah, No, I mean I do
have those too. I've never tried one of those to know,
but I feel.

Speaker 2 (13:15):
Like I feel like those are way too good to
be true, because it's like the reason why everyone's a
nose epic because it's fucking working, you.

Speaker 3 (13:22):
Know what I mean.

Speaker 2 (13:22):
Like, Yeah, if if it were that easy to have
abs by just wearing a you know, a thing around
your chest, we'd all have the sickest abs.

Speaker 1 (13:31):
Oh yeah, this isn't for that for sure, because I
have been actually working out really hard, which I think
is why I'm having an issue that I'm having right now.
Where my period is ten days late? This is what?
This is how I was. We got on the podcast
and I was like, I'm in a foul mood. I'm
like having PMS for two weeks. And if you're a woman,
I mean you understand like I have been an emotional

(13:51):
roller coaster. It's a lot, and I don't feel like
energetically like myself, and it's like, why is this happening?
You know, And there's all this stuff since COVID, like
all women's periods have been kind of weird. And then
I'm also like, wait, am I getting like is this period?
If I'm pregnant? It is an immaculate conception. Because but

(14:12):
here's what I will say.

Speaker 3 (14:14):
Would you say your finger can't get too pregnant?

Speaker 1 (14:18):
Oh?

Speaker 4 (14:21):
Yeah.

Speaker 1 (14:22):
The easier way to say that would be I haven't
been having sex, so okay, well you have, but just
with yourself, Okay, what is happening right anyway? Anyway, I

(14:43):
totally what look, You've like flustered me. Like last night
I was telling a friend, I'm like, I've never been
this late, and if I ever have, it's like, you know,
I think I'm pregnant. But she sent me this thing
of these two stingrays that I guess were two women
and they were put in a cage, and then one
of them ended up pregnant, and she was like, it's
this weird thing that can happen, because she was like,

(15:05):
I hope you're pregnant, and I was like, I can't
be pregnant. This weird thing about some woman who then
got pregnant without having any sperm, and I'm like, that
would be my luck, you.

Speaker 3 (15:17):
Know, like immaculately pregnant.

Speaker 2 (15:20):
Oh my Mike drop, that would be the storyline of
the century.

Speaker 1 (15:26):
It's like she thought she couldn't get pregnant period. She
went through egg fertility, like egg freezing, that was unsuccessful, having.

Speaker 3 (15:34):
Sex if you had a cat, like you like gave
birth to a kiddie.

Speaker 1 (15:41):
So now, okay, this episode, I'm completely sold. I'm not
having a cat. I'm definitely not pregnant, but I'm really
late and I don't like this feeling. So my bigger
concern is that I'm going into early menopause.

Speaker 2 (15:57):
Well that's what I was going to ask, Not about menopause,
because obviously I don't know.

Speaker 3 (16:01):
I only know lots about the vagina, not much.

Speaker 4 (16:04):
Of course, we know much about right right recycles?

Speaker 2 (16:08):
Sure, So you said you've been having PMS for two weeks.
At what point does it become host mental puzzles, like like.

Speaker 3 (16:17):
Because it's like it's an apostle. Well, because like.

Speaker 2 (16:20):
What if you don't have your period menstruation?

Speaker 1 (16:24):
That's the word you're thinking a pause?

Speaker 4 (16:26):
Is what happens? MS is vagina?

Speaker 3 (16:31):
What is it stand for? P MS?

Speaker 4 (16:34):
Prestration? Yeah, that seems right. Sure, let's I'm going to google.

Speaker 3 (16:41):
It right now.

Speaker 1 (16:42):
Three men's rill syndromes.

Speaker 3 (16:46):
But is it a syndrome PMS?

Speaker 1 (16:48):
It should be if it's not, because it's the worst
syndrome that.

Speaker 2 (16:51):
I pre menstrual syndrome or first to the physical and
emotional symptoms that some women experience exactly the lead up
to menstruation. But like what if you don't ever menstrate?
Is it PMS or are.

Speaker 1 (17:02):
You just I don't know, I'm like stuck in the MS.

Speaker 3 (17:06):
You just got menstrual syndrome.

Speaker 1 (17:09):
I feel like I even googled silent periods because I
know that can be a thing. But I really think
what happened is I had a really stressful month of work.
Even though it was like enjoyable, I was very very busy,
and so that was you know, like heightened stress. And
then we traveled and I was able to still like

(17:30):
because my word is discipline. I was really trying to
stick to my workout team during that time. And I've
started berries again, remember, and so it's like you kind
of change up your workout routine, it can throw your
body off, and so I feel like it's something to
do with that. But on top of a full moon

(17:50):
eclipse energy like all the like astrology that we have
going on, you know how sensitive I am to that stuff,
and so I've just been all over the place. The
best gift the universe gave me, though, is that my
cat is back.

Speaker 3 (18:01):
Kiddy is back.

Speaker 1 (18:02):
Now I can just be with PMS, but I'll have
something to snuggle now, you know, Like it's all good.
I just haven't wanted to be social either. I'm like
handsome plans left and right.

Speaker 2 (18:13):
Well, I hope that you can get it together by
Sunday and we can do our adult Easter egg hunt together.
Tyler told me. He said, I reminded Kelly has been
two years since she's been to my house.

Speaker 1 (18:25):
Oh, he was.

Speaker 3 (18:27):
Dropping hints.

Speaker 1 (18:30):
I know, I've got to be more social All right,
we'll think about it.

Speaker 2 (18:33):
I'm gonna lay really low this weekend too, Like I've
got a bunch of stuff that I want to do
around my house and a lot of people are gone,
so it's like why not.

Speaker 3 (18:41):
But I do think I'm gonna participate on Sunday.

Speaker 1 (18:44):
Happy Easter to anyone listening who celebrates the holiday. By
the way, yes, well those are kind of our updates. Wow,
that was all over the place. What a wild ride
we just took you on this Friday morning.

Speaker 3 (18:57):
I'm having fun chatting. I hope people have fun listening.

Speaker 1 (18:59):
I really feel like probably the listeners this morning are
sensing the same energy, like it's just been a wild time.
And I had a couple conversations this month. I did
my normal astrology report with Marv and he kind of
gave us the like review for what's going to be
going on. And then I talked to an amazing psychic
medium this week. Her name, her Instagram name is soul Pathology,

(19:24):
but Amanda riger Green and you know she's cousins with
Amy Brown Radio Amy my buddy whatever, Yes, and so
I've known about her, but she came on the podcast
and like interjected little downledge she was getting for me
during the reading, because I feel like so many people
have a bad concept of what a psychic does or
what a psychic reading is, or like it's like doomsday.

(19:46):
They're going to tell them they're gonna die really young,
or they're going to be all or how do you
trust in? And all that stuff, and it's really not
like that, Like there are definitely predictive moments, but mostly
for me, what I've found in my psychic getings is
they're kind of like sensing and energy. They give you
these downloads they're getting, whether it's from your spirit, guides

(20:09):
or whatever you want to call it, universe, God, any
of that, and they kind of just give you input
or insights. And for me, it's always just validating, like
I'm on the right path or you know, this relationship
is in alignment. It's just that it's more of like
validation and confirmation and comfort and peace than it is

(20:30):
this crazy outlandish, like witchy crazy vibe, you know, like
it actually helps me to be more in touch spiritually.
So if you guys are feeling weird energy, I do
recommend go check out that podcast. I also did a
really good one with get Sound RX and he was
super great with sound frequencies, which sounds also kind of

(20:52):
a little wooboo, but I live by these, like if
you are feeling anxious, depressed, having trouble sleeping, sound frequencies
are so so so helpful, So go listen to that
podcast as well. So with that, we do have a
listener voicemail that I thought was a very interesting question
and I'm so enjoying going through these voicemails that you

(21:13):
guys are sending, So keep them coming. You can hit
them up on the link in my bio on Instagram.
I'll give you that infhone a bit. But this question
came to us and it's about friendships. So I always
like to do these with you because it feels like
we can weigh in based on even our friend group
or how we interact with each other. So here is
that voicemail for you guys.

Speaker 5 (21:31):
Hey, Kelly, So I wanted to ask a question about friendships.
I am in a different life stage now where in
our early thirties, I have noticed that a lot of
my friends are in relationships, married, have kids all of that,
and I have been single for probably like the past

(21:52):
ten years. I've just been living in different cities, my career,
other stuff, and I just recently started a relationship, which
I'm super excited about. And I've kind of noticed that
some of my friends, like because they're so preoccupied and
have so many other competing priorities with their families and

(22:13):
their kids, don't necessarily have as much time to do
some of the other stuff we did when we're in
our early twenties, like meeting partners and going on dates
and all that stuff. And it's hard because I don't
want to say the word resentment, but I've noticed that
I have felt a bit like, oh, like it would
be nice if my friends were asking me questions about

(22:36):
my relationship, wanting to meet him do things together. And
I'm kind of missing that, maybe, like that life stage
when we were in our earlier twenties or mid twenties
and we had time to do stuff together. So I'm
curious if you have any tips or advice on like
how to navigate that, Like do you have a talk
with your friends? It's just this normal. So anyways, thank
you so much by chip.

Speaker 1 (22:58):
Do you do you want me to go or do
you want me to go?

Speaker 3 (23:01):
Well you can start. I have some I have some thoughts.

Speaker 2 (23:07):
Because I'm sort of a perennially perpetually single person, so
I can I can sort of I feel that, but
I also feel really lucky because I do have a
lot of single friends still at my age. I mean,
I guess what I think it's if there are people
that are important to you that you miss, I think

(23:30):
it's important to tell them that because we life be life,
and y'all like, yeah, life be life, and we get
caught up in our lives and obviously our priorities do
change for you know, good reason. If you have a
spouse or kids or a job that's really important. Do
you like things things change? But you know, I think

(23:53):
it can feel like a burden to tell somebody, like
you're being a burden to tell somebody I miss you,
But I like to receive that can actually feel really good,
and especially from a friend that you care about.

Speaker 3 (24:06):
And so I think it's important to.

Speaker 2 (24:12):
When you do it, don't make it feel like you're
putting it upon them. Make it feel like they are
loved and you miss them. And I guarantee you the
response is going to be the same, like they miss
you too, And it opens the door for change, And
you know, I do think friends can have dates. And

(24:34):
I guarantee you any mother who has young children is
dying for an excuse, dying for an excuse to leave
them home with her husband so that she can go
get drinks with friends one night. And you could be
the person that frees them from that rut that they're in, too,
because everyone misses their old life when it changes, especially

(24:56):
if their old life was good. So I think it's
a I would rea out let people know that you
miss them, even start a group text with all of
them and be like, girls, I miss all of you,
Like let's not let our youth slip away, Like let's
go out. Let's find a night that works for all
of us and go get drinks and catch up. And
you know, maybe not everyone can do it, but I
think it would reconnect everybody in a fun way and maybe,

(25:21):
you know, spark a rejuvenation of the friendship.

Speaker 1 (25:24):
I think those are great points. I love what you
said about saying to just miss you, because I think
a lot of times when we start feeling resentment, we
go in kind of hostile to people, you know, like
aggressive or frustrated or like, well I did all of
this for you, and I come back with a boyfriend

(25:47):
and you haven't even met him yet, you know, like,
and that isn't going to go over well probably like
if someone's busy, or like you said, kind of you
just get wrapped up in your own routines, your own life.
We all have a lot on our plate at this
stage of life. The difference when you're twenty, you just
don't have the responsibilities that you do in your later
thirties and forties. And so it's definitely like something that

(26:09):
happens to all of us. And I think you do
have to be more intentional, but I love leading with hey,
I really miss seeing you or even like it's it
would be so important for me, like as someone you're
someone who I really care about, and I would love
you to meet this new person that I really care about,
you know, like that's really important to me. Would that
be something you can show up for or you can do?

(26:31):
And I think you will probably be surprised with the responses,
Like I think, like you said, they'd probably be a
lot more open and excited about it. And if not,
it's also information, like that's good feedback for you. Of
maybe those friendships have kind of faded and I don't know.
I'm personally in the stage where I'm like, if it
is not reciprocal, I do not want it, Like I

(26:53):
don't have the energy anymore. I don't have even in
work stuff. I'm finding myself Like there was a sitchuation
recently where it was like this person was trying to
get me on the books for a meeting or something,
and then like we kept kind of going back and
forth with mixed schedules. We're both equally as busy, but

(27:13):
then it got passed off to an assistant and it
was more of like they're my friend. It just felt
really weird and diminishing, and I was like this doesn't
feel good to me. I'm not fucking doing it, Like
I'm not chasing you. Everyone is busy in this part
of life, and if you can't even have a conversation
with me, why are we trying to do like lunch,
Like I just I don't know, Like I just I don't.

Speaker 2 (27:35):
Really It suddenly probably made you feel like she needed
something from you.

Speaker 1 (27:40):
It did. It felt more like what is in this
for you? As far as like what are you trying
to take for me that I'm unaware of? And like
be straight up if you need something from me, tell me.
I'm very like open to that, but I don't like
the way that it was handled, and it was such
a turn off to me to just feel like, wait
a second, Like there was a little bit of like

(28:02):
self importance, maybe because I'm like, I deal with the
busiest fucking people in this whole entire town for work, like,
and I watch how they deal with people. Everything is
all about the way you communicate with people. I just
believe that and treat people, and it doesn't matter how
busy you are, Like everyone sits on the toilet at
one point in the day is how I feel, so

(28:23):
you know you can figure it out, or if you
are that busy and need to pass it off, communicate that.
There's just a lot of options that I felt, and
I just didn't like the way it made me feel,
and so I was like, this one isn't for me. Like,
but that's also because I have such great friendships that
I'm like, I'm going to pour into those people because
it's a reciprocal relationship and I've personally just spent too

(28:45):
much of my life like giving and not receiving back,
and so it's something I'm working on but anyway, all
of that to say, if that does happen in this situation,
it's just information. I know it can be painful, but
I think that we all are in, you know, places
where it's like we deserve to be given back what

(29:05):
we're putting in, So right right anyway, So I think
communicate it's always there. Like what I say to other
people too, is if you start feeling resentment, that means
at some point a boundary was crossed for you. So
like sitting with yourself and being like, Okay, what is
going on here? Like is this a situation where you
feel like I've been to their weddings, their baby showers,

(29:28):
and now I actually have something that I want them
to come to, and no one's like coming to me
to ask me that. It's really probably just like not
they're not aware and it's not intentional, but I know
how that can feel, and so it's just like, but
just communicate it, and communicate it kindly and see if
it's met, and that'll give you the information about their relationship.

(29:51):
Goodwin Chip, he just looked at me and nodded, and
I'm like, people can't hear you nod?

Speaker 3 (29:55):
Remember, I just try to thin and to see if it.

Speaker 1 (30:00):
Got your hair looks awesome right now? Wow I look terrible, guys. Okay,
it's Friday TG. If you know what I'm.

Speaker 3 (30:09):
Saying, g I g F TG I good Friday.

Speaker 1 (30:13):
If you guys do want to leave us a voicemail
and you want feedback, you can go hit me up
on Instagram. I'm at Velvet's Edge. It is the link
in my bio. You just press the link and it
leaves you a little voice voice note to place to
record what.

Speaker 3 (30:26):
It takes you to a landing page where you can record.

Speaker 1 (30:29):
A you can record a voice note. Thank you for
clarifying for the listeners.

Speaker 4 (30:33):
Ship.

Speaker 1 (30:33):
If people want to find you on Instagram, where would
they find you.

Speaker 3 (30:36):
I'm at chip Door sh It's c H I P
D O R S c H. And I also have
the link in my bio.

Speaker 1 (30:43):
Look at you getting all official and shit.

Speaker 2 (30:47):
It's actually a link that takes you to two other things,
or like to more than one. It's one of the
I don't know what they're called.

Speaker 1 (30:53):
Okay, so your sounds confusing.

Speaker 3 (30:55):
It's not. It's not just go come it.

Speaker 1 (31:00):
Yeah, it's all anonymous. We just like communicating with you
guys and knowing what you're going through. Also, we'll keep
telling you what we're going through. And I'll keep you
guys posting on when I get my period. I know
your own pins and needles and oh my god, if right,
I'll keep you positive. I'm pregnant an immaculate conception as well.

Speaker 3 (31:17):
I hope you have.

Speaker 1 (31:19):
Okay, I'm not birthing a cat.

Speaker 2 (31:21):
That's crazier things have happened anyway.

Speaker 1 (31:26):
Okay, as you guys go into the weekend and you're
living on the edge, I hope you always remember too,
act catual. Oh my god, I am going to go
play with that cat right now though. Okay, act catsual. Okay, bye,
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