On this episode of Ask Yee, a listener calls in to ask how to tell her side piece that he is the father of her child. Jasmine ask's Yee how can she not be too nice to everyone. Tenisha calls to ask Yee how can she make her husband more ambitious and get up off the couch
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Early the morning of March, rescue workers repelled down the
cliff where they lifted the dead bodies of three children.
Investigators have been desperate to figure out how that family
flew off that cliff in California and whether it was
on purpose. From Glamour and How Stuff Works, This is
Broken Hearts. Listen and follow on the I Heart Radio
(00:21):
app where wherever you listen to podcasts. All episodes of
Broken Hearts are now available, so binge the entire season.
Morning Everybody is DJ Envy Angela, Yee, Charlemagne guy. We
are the breakfast Club. It's time for asking ye hello,
who's this anonymous? Okay, anonymous? You gotta talk a little
loud or what's of course of for you? Yeah? So,
(00:42):
backstory is I wasn't messing with this dude like no
strange of tasting, but he was slipping a condom all
so I end up pregnant. But now I'm in a
relationship with someone else, and I told the dude that
he's totally supportive about it. He's, um, you know, he's
been there when I'm the home Green Hill, get up,
get me food. And so now I have to figure
(01:03):
out how to tell this other dude, but I'm pregnant.
Oh oh wait, wait wait wait, So the dude that
you're dating doesn't know that you're pregnant, or the dude
that you used to date that was taking a kind
of off, baby daddy doesn't know, don't Well he should
know that when he takes the kind of off you
could get pregnant. Yeah, he should. I think he did
it on purpose, but I'm not sure that ain't my baby.
That to do that's going to get you. Anybody that's
(01:25):
taking a kind of off is doing it on purpose.
So I mean, he had to know that was one
of the possible outcomes. So what you need to do
is let him know. Listen, I know we're not together,
but you're about to be a father. Um, whatever precautions
is that you want to take, you know, once the
baby's here, if you need a paternity test to prove
that because we're not together, I have no problem with that.
I just want to make sure that you own up
to your responsibilities as a father. Okay, all right, Well,
(01:51):
I'm glad that you have found somebody who has no
issues and has been very helpful to you and that
you're gonna handle your responsibility. We got more money to
the alleged baby daddy and the man you were now, well,
the man i'm waiting. I worked for his management, so
he made pretty good money. So why don't you just
make them child? You know that's not his she tells
him already. Why do people always want to do the
(02:12):
right thing and like stop it? Thank you, mam? Hello,
who's this hey? Jasmine? What's your question for you? Well?
Going to is? That's so much a relationship question, it's
a personal question. I'm very very nice, Okay, I kind
of want to know how to be I guess not
so nice to everyone. But Jasmine, I you know what,
(02:34):
I have the same issue because people tell me I'm
too nice all the time. Here's what I think. I
don't want you to not be who you are. I
don't want you to let this world get you jaded
and hurting you. You just have to be nice to
the right people who deserve it. And that's that's what
my thought process was minded too. But then it's distinguishing
who deserves me doesn't because a lot of the times,
for instance, my mom, she'll read something from me, then
(02:57):
I'll give it to her because I feel like, you know,
my mom my mom anything, but I'm the same way
to the point where it's like, all right, my I'm
still your child, so you know, I ain't really got
it like that. So and that, and listen, if you
don't have just be honest. If you don't have it
like that, you don't have it like that, be like,
I'm so sorry. I'm just not able to do that
for you. Right now. You can still say no in
(03:19):
a nice way. There's nothing wrong with that. It's still nice.
I've been I've been doing that. But my mom is
a different type of person. She's the only person that
could really make me feel bad about not having it.
Does that make sus so I figure ways out to
get it. You know, it's just a shame that you
can say yes a thousand times and say no once
and a person can still try to make you feel
(03:39):
bad for that. And listen, you can't at the expense
of yourself be nice to others. If it's something that
is you're you're not capable of doing or hurting you,
then you're taking it too far. And that's just something
that we all have to learn in our lives. That's
something from myself personally, I know, I go above and
beyond for other people and doesn't always get reciprocated for me.
But I don't want to not be a nice person. Still,
(04:01):
I still am. I still do what I can, but
I can't do what I can't, you know, So that's
my problem, right, And this is what else you should do.
Ask the people that you're nice to and do things
for asking to do things for you too sometimes and
see how they react. Okay, well guess what next time
me ask you, You won't feel so bad when you
don't have it. Yeah, that's my friend was saying the
(04:23):
same thing. It's just for me. I like people. I
want to be treated right, not to treat people how
you know they treat you. I treat people, you know.
But you know what one key thing is, you have
to treat yourself how you want people to treat you.
That's kind of so you got to treat yourself better.
And that's how you show people how to treat you.
(04:43):
Now how you treat them, but how you treat yourself
are all right? You know what's so sad about this man?
Drake had all these works until he lost to push
your teeth. He was all prepared to be nice for
what words also and push your teeth with a halt
to all that. Now, don't believe in drink the more
so you don't believe in being nice for what did words? Also,
(05:04):
now I feel you. I think I'm too nice to
people all the time, but I still don't want to
be a mess that person. So it's just a balance.
But in the middle of ask ye, hello, who's this hey, Tunisia,
what's your question for you? As first, I want to
say hi to everybody. How okay? I've been married for
(05:26):
almost eleven years, and me and my husband we had
four kids together. But lately, I mean, he used to
work at Jeffie Little a while ago, but lately he
doesn't want to do anything, Like he doesn't work, he
doesn't want to clean up around the house, he doesn't cook,
like it's hard to get him to do anything. And
(05:48):
I tried to talk to him about it, and he
told me like, um, well, I wasn't raised like that,
like his mom and grandma take care of him, like
he never had to do anything when he was He
doesn't have a job or anything. So he's just sitting
in the house, yeah, or go out with his friends
and then he come back and sit right back then, right,
(06:10):
So basically, you're going to work, you're taking care of
the kids, you're financially providing, and then when you come
home you have to clean up as well. Yes, yeah,
that sounds ridiculously unfair. When is he looking for a job?
So what is his plan? He just thinks you're gonna
take care of him. I don't know, And that's what
I keep going, That's what I keep on asking him.
And then he gets additude. He's like, you know, I'm
(06:32):
a man. I don't need you. I don't need you
to hold my hand and walk me through life. But
I'm like, you're not even walking, You're not doing nothing.
And you know, my whole thing is you don't want
to hold his hand and welcome through life. You want
him to be a man or a woman or you
know whatever. But as a person, you have to be
able to take care of your responsibilities. And he has
(06:53):
four children to take care of and a household to
contribute to. Yes, and I have two sons and my
oldest son is alive. N my youngest son is five.
What kind of example? Yeah, what kind of example is
that for the kids? Okay, so I think a few
different things he might be going through something because he
(07:13):
doesn't have a job. So maybe he's feeling like a
loser himself because he's not able to provide for his family.
And I think sometimes it's how we say things to
people where if we are, you know, kind of making
him feel even worse about the situation might make him
feel because rejection is not an easy thing to deal with.
If you're trying to go on job interviews and things
aren't working out, you don't have a job, he probably
(07:35):
already feels bad that he's not who he wants to
be as a man and as a person, and maybe
he feels even worse when you're you know, going in
on him about it. So maybe what you need to
do is be supportive and encourage him to get out
there and do things and tell him how great he is,
and tell him what he's good at and give him
subject suggestions, and you guys work on it together as
(07:56):
a team, because sometimes it might seem like to him
the whole world is against him and a wife is
against him as well. And then if he doesn't, I'll
try it. Yeah, And you know, it's a different approach
because the other approach you've been doing hasn't been working
at all, and he might be trying to rebel against
your suggestions. Okay, all right, that's a good woman right there.
(08:18):
Thank you.
Early the morning of March, rescue workers repelled down the
cliff where they lifted the dead bodies of three children.
Investigators have been desperate to figure out how that family
flew off that cliff in California and whether it was
on purpose. From Glamour and How Stuff Works, This is
Broken Hearts. Listen and follow on the I Heart Radio
(00:21):
app where wherever you listen to podcasts. All episodes of
Broken Hearts are now available, so binge the entire season.
Morning Everybody is DJ Envy Angela, Yee, Charlemagne guy. We
are the breakfast Club. It's time for asking ye hello,
who's this anonymous? Okay, anonymous? You gotta talk a little
loud or what's of course of for you? Yeah? So,
(00:42):
backstory is I wasn't messing with this dude like no
strange of tasting, but he was slipping a condom all
so I end up pregnant. But now I'm in a
relationship with someone else, and I told the dude that
he's totally supportive about it. He's, um, you know, he's
been there when I'm the home Green Hill, get up,
get me food. And so now I have to figure
(01:03):
out how to tell this other dude, but I'm pregnant.
Oh oh wait, wait wait wait, So the dude that
you're dating doesn't know that you're pregnant, or the dude
that you used to date that was taking a kind
of off, baby daddy doesn't know, don't Well he should
know that when he takes the kind of off you
could get pregnant. Yeah, he should. I think he did
it on purpose, but I'm not sure that ain't my baby.
That to do that's going to get you. Anybody that's
(01:25):
taking a kind of off is doing it on purpose.
So I mean, he had to know that was one
of the possible outcomes. So what you need to do
is let him know. Listen, I know we're not together,
but you're about to be a father. Um, whatever precautions
is that you want to take, you know, once the
baby's here, if you need a paternity test to prove
that because we're not together, I have no problem with that.
I just want to make sure that you own up
to your responsibilities as a father. Okay, all right, Well,
(01:51):
I'm glad that you have found somebody who has no
issues and has been very helpful to you and that
you're gonna handle your responsibility. We got more money to
the alleged baby daddy and the man you were now, well,
the man i'm waiting. I worked for his management, so
he made pretty good money. So why don't you just
make them child? You know that's not his she tells
him already. Why do people always want to do the
(02:12):
right thing and like stop it? Thank you, mam? Hello,
who's this hey? Jasmine? What's your question for you? Well?
Going to is? That's so much a relationship question, it's
a personal question. I'm very very nice, Okay, I kind
of want to know how to be I guess not
so nice to everyone. But Jasmine, I you know what,
(02:34):
I have the same issue because people tell me I'm
too nice all the time. Here's what I think. I
don't want you to not be who you are. I
don't want you to let this world get you jaded
and hurting you. You just have to be nice to
the right people who deserve it. And that's that's what
my thought process was minded too. But then it's distinguishing
who deserves me doesn't because a lot of the times,
for instance, my mom, she'll read something from me, then
(02:57):
I'll give it to her because I feel like, you know,
my mom my mom anything, but I'm the same way
to the point where it's like, all right, my I'm
still your child, so you know, I ain't really got
it like that. So and that, and listen, if you
don't have just be honest. If you don't have it
like that, you don't have it like that, be like,
I'm so sorry. I'm just not able to do that
for you. Right now. You can still say no in
(03:19):
a nice way. There's nothing wrong with that. It's still nice.
I've been I've been doing that. But my mom is
a different type of person. She's the only person that
could really make me feel bad about not having it.
Does that make sus so I figure ways out to
get it. You know, it's just a shame that you
can say yes a thousand times and say no once
and a person can still try to make you feel
(03:39):
bad for that. And listen, you can't at the expense
of yourself be nice to others. If it's something that
is you're you're not capable of doing or hurting you,
then you're taking it too far. And that's just something
that we all have to learn in our lives. That's
something from myself personally, I know, I go above and
beyond for other people and doesn't always get reciprocated for me.
But I don't want to not be a nice person. Still,
(04:01):
I still am. I still do what I can, but
I can't do what I can't, you know, So that's
my problem, right, And this is what else you should do.
Ask the people that you're nice to and do things
for asking to do things for you too sometimes and
see how they react. Okay, well guess what next time
me ask you, You won't feel so bad when you
don't have it. Yeah, that's my friend was saying the
(04:23):
same thing. It's just for me. I like people. I
want to be treated right, not to treat people how
you know they treat you. I treat people, you know.
But you know what one key thing is, you have
to treat yourself how you want people to treat you.
That's kind of so you got to treat yourself better.
And that's how you show people how to treat you.
(04:43):
Now how you treat them, but how you treat yourself
are all right? You know what's so sad about this man?
Drake had all these works until he lost to push
your teeth. He was all prepared to be nice for
what words also and push your teeth with a halt
to all that. Now, don't believe in drink the more
so you don't believe in being nice for what did words? Also,
(05:04):
now I feel you. I think I'm too nice to
people all the time, but I still don't want to
be a mess that person. So it's just a balance.
But in the middle of ask ye, hello, who's this hey, Tunisia,
what's your question for you? As first, I want to
say hi to everybody. How okay? I've been married for
(05:26):
almost eleven years, and me and my husband we had
four kids together. But lately, I mean, he used to
work at Jeffie Little a while ago, but lately he
doesn't want to do anything, Like he doesn't work, he
doesn't want to clean up around the house, he doesn't cook,
like it's hard to get him to do anything. And
(05:48):
I tried to talk to him about it, and he
told me like, um, well, I wasn't raised like that,
like his mom and grandma take care of him, like
he never had to do anything when he was He
doesn't have a job or anything. So he's just sitting
in the house, yeah, or go out with his friends
and then he come back and sit right back then, right,
(06:10):
So basically, you're going to work, you're taking care of
the kids, you're financially providing, and then when you come
home you have to clean up as well. Yes, yeah,
that sounds ridiculously unfair. When is he looking for a job?
So what is his plan? He just thinks you're gonna
take care of him. I don't know, And that's what
I keep going, That's what I keep on asking him.
And then he gets additude. He's like, you know, I'm
(06:32):
a man. I don't need you. I don't need you
to hold my hand and walk me through life. But
I'm like, you're not even walking, You're not doing nothing.
And you know, my whole thing is you don't want
to hold his hand and welcome through life. You want
him to be a man or a woman or you
know whatever. But as a person, you have to be
able to take care of your responsibilities. And he has
(06:53):
four children to take care of and a household to
contribute to. Yes, and I have two sons and my
oldest son is alive. N my youngest son is five.
What kind of example? Yeah, what kind of example is
that for the kids? Okay, so I think a few
different things he might be going through something because he
(07:13):
doesn't have a job. So maybe he's feeling like a
loser himself because he's not able to provide for his family.
And I think sometimes it's how we say things to
people where if we are, you know, kind of making
him feel even worse about the situation might make him
feel because rejection is not an easy thing to deal with.
If you're trying to go on job interviews and things
aren't working out, you don't have a job, he probably
(07:35):
already feels bad that he's not who he wants to
be as a man and as a person, and maybe
he feels even worse when you're you know, going in
on him about it. So maybe what you need to
do is be supportive and encourage him to get out
there and do things and tell him how great he is,
and tell him what he's good at and give him
subject suggestions, and you guys work on it together as
(07:56):
a team, because sometimes it might seem like to him
the whole world is against him and a wife is
against him as well. And then if he doesn't, I'll
try it. Yeah, And you know, it's a different approach
because the other approach you've been doing hasn't been working
at all, and he might be trying to rebel against
your suggestions. Okay, all right, that's a good woman right there.
(08:18):
Thank you.
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