SMNTY Classics: Daddy Issues

Are daddy issues a thing? We investigate in this classic episode.

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Speaker 1 (00:05):
Hey, this is Annie and Samantha and welcome to stuff.
I never told your production of iHeartRadio. And today we
have a classic that was mentioned in a recent episode
on Daddy Issues because we were talking about the whole

(00:26):
internet phenomenon of daddy I embarrassed myself quite a bit,
I think, but you know, I wanted to talk about it,
learn more about it, and we are going to talk
about this more in our some of our upcoming Last
of Us React podcast because I didn't really talk about
like the the kind of softening of the like, oh

(00:47):
now we're hearing these jokes and this music and all
this stuff in the spectoria. But we will we will
talk about it. But in the meantime, please enjoy this
classic episode. Hey, this is Annie and this is Samantha,
and welcome to stuff. I never told you. A protection
of I Heart Radio's house to works in our continuing

(01:17):
discussions around sexuality. Today, we have one that Samantha and
I we came up with while we were having some drinks.
Of course, yeah day, every day, every time. Yes at
my ideas spawn from cheese, adult beverages and or adult beverages,
and it is daddy issues. Daddy issues because we were

(01:40):
talking about fetishes and we were trying to come up
with because we felt like there weren't that many female
fetishes right in pop culture, right or that's referenced yeah, yeah,
And somehow that turned into what about daddy right. I
think we were just talking about some ideas or some uh,
what you would say, stereotypes for women, and especially when

(02:03):
it comes to sexuality, Yeah, and their sexuality or whatever
or from her person who is female. So that's one
of those daddy issues comes out a lot. Yeah, I've
seen it a lot in men's columns, like in men's magazines.
Ye were weird. Yes. When I was researching this, most
of the top results were like questionable soil websites being

(02:25):
like does your good friend signs of daddy issues? Exactly?
Do you need to get out exactly? When I say
daddy issues, what do you think of? Samantha? So when
I think of daddy issues, I'm actually just thinking in general,
like people who are seeking their father's approval essentially and

(02:46):
or seeking a father's figure because there was a lack
of one or a lack of males in their lives.
And I think that goes either way for males or females.
I think it translates differently in each one. When it
comes to stereotypes, I think of men mate being angry
and resentful, and then I think of women as being

(03:06):
insecure and needy. And these are just the stereotypes once again.
Oh sure, yes, but that's what I think of. Um,
I think of strippers, and I know that's terrible. I
know it's terrible, but I think it is a running joke.
It is and a lot of pop culture that I
have consumed that. You know, if you see the stripper,
she's got daddy issues, like her dad wasn't there, and

(03:29):
that's why she became a stripper. As I'm rewatching thirty Rock,
that was literally one of the scenes between Tracy Morgan's
character who loves going to strip clubs, and one of
the things the stripper is like, oh you have daddy
issues or I think tating the face character says something about, yeah,
you with all these daddy's issues, these women blah blah
blah blah very yeah, telling him that that's what the

(03:52):
culture things. Yeah, And I feel like it was in
what is that called lampshaded. I don't know if that's character.
It means when it's like played on. Um, people know
that you think this, and then they kind of reverse.
I feel like they did that Independence Day, but it's
been a long time since I've seen that. Um. Yes,
because Will Smith's wife is a stripper. Oh they did that,

(04:16):
I think in UM New Girl Gotta watch way too
many second Um, but they nick. The nick character dates
a stripper who wants to be a stripper, and takes
on the fact that she's a stripper. But of course
she's plays the bad girl, you know, like a rebellious individual,
hard girl. But yeah, it kind of flips onto the
fact that she's not doing it for ABC's this is

(04:38):
her job and she enjoys it. Yeah, which you know what, Yeah,
go for it. Yes, if it's done legally with consent,
M go for it absolutely. Um. When I do think
about it a bit longer, I think I have a
similar I kind of come more on your track. Um.
I have used the phrase jokingly to refer to anyone
who has a problic problematic relationsh ship with their father right,

(05:01):
and I often comes up again with d D world.
Um our entire everyone playing in our campaign has difficulties
with their fathers. Shall we say absent fathers, murderer fathers. Wow,
got one next step? Yeah, like where will father? It's

(05:24):
every single character has something going on with their dad.
And this might be a podcast idea for later on.
But I was just recently thinking with all of them,
I guess dramatizing and or romanticizing up serial killers right now? Yeah? Sure?
I wonder how this affects the women in these serial
killers lives, you know what I mean? Like what happens

(05:44):
to them? How does it follow them? Do they have
to like change their identity? What happens to the children
that are involved? But like I'm like talking about daddy
issues right there? That's true? Or no, you know what
I mean? But I think it's something we should search. Yeah,
cast either. Um My, my father is not a serial killer.

(06:05):
I'm going to put that out there, but I do
have a problematic relationship with him, and I think that
probably some men I have dated have secretly thought to themselves, right,
that's a serial killer? Why children don't know? Samantha, Okay,
I don't put that idea in my head, because I

(06:26):
will I'll be trying to sleep at night. I'll be like,
where was the night of this? I watched too many
horror fies. Well, you know that's where it goes. It
kind of comes down with people don't know. Sometimes this
is true anyway, I won't be able to stop thinking
about for me, I think, and for my own relationships.

(06:47):
I have a great relationship with my adoptive father. Um,
I don't have great relationships with men in general and trust.
But I don't think I've ever thought been thought of
as having daddy issues as much as being just a bitch.
Is that daddy issues? I think that it can be.

(07:07):
I think it can be. We'll get into some popular
definitions in a second. Um. It is in a lot
of our pop culture. It's the name of a movie.
There's so many. I think it was like two point.
It was the name of a band. A Lana del
Ray song. Also apparently Lana del Rey has daddy issues herself.

(07:30):
I don't know. Um. A Demi Levado song, a once
popular dance party in la Um. The title about twenty
eleven episode of The Vampire Diaries, and I'm sure countless
and counts so many other things. Um. And it got
me to thinking about this whole joke. That's really really
sad when you pause to think about it for two seconds,

(07:51):
but the whole thing of my dad left for cigarettes
and never came back. Yes, in thirty Rock they have
this whole somewhat racist. There be sessions based off those. Um, okay, okay,
but let's get all right, no no off check with
pop culture. So culture is always welcome here, dated pop
culture especially welcome. Dictionary dot com defines daddy issues as

(08:18):
an informal phrase for the psychological challenges resulting from an
absent or abnormal relationship with one's father, often manifesting in
a distrust of or sexual desire for men who act
as father figures. Indeed, according to most things I saw
on the internet, daddy issues refers to a woman who

(08:38):
is yeah, and usually as a weird sexualized component, because,
of course, because women are involved, yeah exactly. Most of
these definitions come from men trying to diagnose their girlfriends
daddy issues like we were talking about earlier, and according
to them, the signs are sexual aggressiveness, excessive flirting, clingingness,

(09:01):
sometimes delusionally overly confident I'm sorry, you're not sorry? Is
that just like another word for confidence? The same confidence
that men have in general, Mediocre men have probably totally
confident if you actually like yourself delusionally, so yes, yes,

(09:23):
don't like yourself? Yeah, And now that we're going to
talk a little bit about the popular definition. Here's the
Urban Dictionary, because you know, they got some good stuff.
Their definition is whenever a female has a sub relationship
with her father or absence of a father figure during
her childhood, it tends to spill into any adult relationship
they embark on, and when usually to the chagrin of

(09:44):
any poor male in their life. So the sentence comes with, geez,
I came home one minute late and my old lady
wants me to sleep on the couch. She has some
serious daddy issues. Okay, okay, I'm like, that's citizen itself
is absurd. But here ten wars related to the daddy issues,

(10:05):
according to again Urban Dictionary, which includes slut, sluts, cougar,
I didn't know that, douche. That's interesting, sugar, daddy at tension,
wore bitch, modern women modern We're just gonna put all
that out there. Ohmsa meter, I don't know if that is.

(10:25):
I think we need to look that up. And slag,
which is a British English term. I said, hi hair
often um but yeah, I don't know what I own sameter.
It's an older man who has high sexual attraction. Oh
really yeah older. It's a gauge women measure in their

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own mind when considering sleeping with and or admiring the
sexual attractedness of an older man. Usually, this gauge is
called the msameter and is finally boosted by how much
money power of fame this older man has. Do not
mistake this for a sugar day. Poor older men can
possibly have hell, do not mistake you, fool, you fool?

(11:16):
How dare you? Um? Were the olmsa originated from Oh,
I'm just going on the whole other issue now, But okay,
well olmsa meter. Well, I'm gonna put that in my
pocket somewhere. I'm gonna completely forget about it the second
we move on. Nah, I'm gonna remind you. Please, how

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about him? I'd be like, no, neither none. We need
to go see how much money he makes. So we
need to go up and ask yes, tell me what's
your yes? What plan? Do you own a home? And
then be taking like studious notes, what is your percentage
rate in your UM in your credit card debt and

(11:59):
your mortket the APR. I'm sorry, all very important. And
then we'll be like, you have homes, you're on the
holmes the meter. I guess, the higher the better, I
guess well, And then they'll they'll wonder, why is this
these random women coming up to me asking me very
personal financial question. I'll be like Urban Dictionary. One guy
got on here and said this is related. So I'm

(12:19):
wanting to know if the men were right. But you're not,
sugar daddy. Well, that's why I'm like, I have to
categorize you could properly, because that's what we need. Category.
I'm gonna put a name tags on people with it
the meter or sugar daddy. Oh my goodness, okay, oh
me all moving on, Moving on and the LGBTQ plus community.

(12:45):
Daddy issues is sometimes applied to gay men, and sometimes
to refer to a man in a relationship with an
older man. Yeah, and I know there's a category for
gay men daddies. Yes, you know. I just take daddies again.
Why do I watch so much thirty Rock Alec Baldwin,
his character refers himself as a daddy. Oh no, oh yeah,

(13:07):
because he's talking to a gay man apparently, But like
he's like, I'm a daddy, a daddy bear. I like
your Alec Baldwin impression he gets because he got he
has those piercing blue eyes. But it's real serious, right,
I know how this works. Um, Yeah, but I'm with
all of that again. I've also related it to men
who are afraid of either turning out to be like

(13:28):
their fathers or terrified of being fathers. So these are
like actual daddy issues, like literal dad issues, right. I know.
It's often used to shame people who are single parents,
and specifically used as an argument of having children outside
of the marriage. Like I saw a random um article

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written in a political blog, so an old school political blog,
talking about how these daddy issues these are these are
not complete nuclear family and so therefore we're creating chaos
outside of the perfect family because oh, you know, if
there's not a father in the figure, causing more problems
and you're going to have more issues and these kids

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are bad kids or whatever however it might be noted.
So daddy issues links to problematic children or problematic futures
and dissatisfied futures because there's no true male figure in
their lives. So I've seen that too, which is weird
in itself, I guess, because apparently there's only one way

(14:31):
to have a family. Apparently, all said with a sarcasm.
It is a popular phrase in the fetish or king community.
A twenty eighteen study found that women who grew up
disappointed in their fathers are more likely to interpret interactions
with men as sexual. Other studies have linked a daughter's

(14:54):
poor relationship with fathers to hire instances of unplanned pregnancy
and divorce. And then you gotta think about this, when
we say disappointed and their father's there's some things that
were not completely noting, such as like abuse within relationships,
abuse between like stepfather or you know, an uncle, those
strong male figures, which probably made the statistics higher. And

(15:16):
I'm thinking that's probably who they kind of get the
research based on, mainly because they're more accessible, like based
on like police reporting and blah blah blah blah blah. Right,
So I think that that needs to be noted as well,
because this is not just a number random amounts. I
don't think. I think you have to look at the
background of what disappointment means, right well, and also as always,

(15:41):
so you got you can't causality and correlation or different things,
and so many different factors going into people. People are complex,
so always you know, got in mine. Another study, yeah,
found no link at all between daddy issues in quotes
and attachment styles in regards to in dating older men.
They found no difference between women in significant age gap

(16:04):
relationship which means men who are ten years older at
least and those not in significant age gap relationships. In fact,
seventy four percent of women in significant age gap relationships
were securely attached according to the study. Note these were
all heterosexual relationships. I believe thanks, you're about mature man.

(16:26):
I guess my parents were eleven years apart. But we
have some history about this phrase. But first we're gonna
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some history. Some history daddy issues goes back to Carl
Young's idea of electric complex, which is the flip side
of the coin of the Oedipus complex, suggesting women compete
with their mothers for the attention of their fathers. It's
a young woman's subconscious attraction to her father. If you're wondering,

(17:13):
because I kind of got to wondering. The sexualized context
of daddy came about into the twentieth century, especially in
the b DSM Gay in prison communities community. Yes, the
related phrase daddy's girl goes back to nineteen twenties, right,
It is a fairly recent term entering the records in
the nineteen nineties, and Charles Skulls nineteen ninety two book Fathers,

(17:36):
Sons and Daughters discussed it, quote, power and authority are
daddy issues inside the bedroom as well as out. The
first man a girl flirts with is her father? Is
her daddy? What gross gros I'm sorry, this is some
like freud nonsense that he's trying to put back in
the well. I guess one nineteen nineties. But that's absurd.

(17:59):
Oh what was its research based on? I don't know.
I don't know that there was research. Maybe his own
Oh no, oh no. The more acceptable psychological term is
father complex, which both women and men can have. Some
psychotherapists say that in hetero relationships, a daughter's observance and

(18:19):
understanding of how a father treats her mother is one
of the most formed of things, or it can be
in the daughter's future relationships. Can impact self esteem as well.
If the mother puts up with a less than ideal
situation or less than ideal treatment, a daughter can internalize
this as how women behave and what they're expected to
take in relationships. Soun's will experience the same thing in

(18:42):
this case that men treat women less than ideally and
that's normal and right. I think we've said before, like
the tools you get, the tools you learn from your
parents are often you find yourself using those tools in
your relationships. It just makes sense. It's like observing early
and that's the idea that is cyclical whom it comes
to abuse. So women who are involved in domestic violence

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who allow that children expect this is the rest of
their life and this is normal, This is normalized behavior.
So it becomes a cyclical thing where children after children,
generation after generation. It goes through the same process that
they go through the same types of relationships. And it's
the same way for men where they see this and
even if they're very very protective, like I've seen that

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a lot where the boys want to be protective about
the mother, but because they don't understand exactly what's happening,
they internalize anger and we act that way because that's
what they learn. Like we saw that with Chris Brown.
He came from a very abusive relationship, talked about it
on Oprah, cried about it, and now we see all
of these really disturbing behaviors from him. Because not completely obviously,

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but there are some ideas like this is a linkage
and that you can't ignore that. Yes, and how to
break that cycle. Yes, because that is an important point
to emphasize it can be broken. Yes. Um. In a
nineteen ninety five interview, playwright Tony Kushner said, my anger
maybe at a pool mommy and daddy issues, but it's
politically and dramatallurgically useful, and we've seen it in pop

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culture several times. One of the most notable instances was
in the poem Daddy by Sylvia Plath, and the poem
she declares she is over her daddy issues after she
kills them. At the end of the poem, I guess
spoiler alert alert, I'm so sorry. I do love some
Sylvia Plath. Look. I was like emo girl, feeling my
feeling not really emotionally because I was I was about

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to be like, oh, I was dark. I had a
lot like if you looked at my poems from the past,
they're all about death. Oh man, we should bring in
our poem My mothers I literally read one and she
got really concerned. She's like, are you okay? What's wrong
with you? I'm like, this is how I think. I
remember I was crying because she was really worried, and
I was like, no, no, no, this is how I
express things. And when I'm sad, this is what I

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have to do. So nothing, and I'm like, things really
good in here. I do have some god ones in there.
I think from a religious days. Oh I'm a bad poet.
Though after I looked back, I was like, oh bad,
that's what makes them fun. Now I'm just saying we
should have a poetry a police though my phase is
already turning a red with that thought. You if we're

(21:19):
gonna do speed dating, then we're gonna do poetry. Now
that's going down. Don't can we do it while we're
speed dating? Oh, that's that's gonna get all. Everybody's going
to want to datas After that, everybody, I'm gonna just
do dramatic readings. Bill sit down and I'll be like
I kind of want you to take excips of your
fan fiction too at the same time, just out of

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I have a real witness, just put all of that
to them and just stare at them intently in the eyes,
just as you're reading this out loud. Yes, And every
time they try to interrupt, I'm like, ah, not done,
not done, rude, rude. I am a catch. Yes you are.
In the show How I Met Your Mother, Barney describes

(22:01):
the perfect one night stand as a woman with daddy issues.
And it's meant to be kind of a joke, right, um,
And we wanted to touch on briefly here. Um, the
Mama's Boy the male equivalent, although really anyone can have
daddy issues, it's just generally assumed to be a woman. Um,
compared to daddy issues, Mama's Boy doesn't necessarily have to

(22:24):
be a bad thing, right, but it does emasculate a
man as where other sexual like highly sexual. Yeah, terms,
this is now a pansy essentially, right. I don't believe
that I'm just saying that, right, right, right, right? Um? Yeah,
I feel like you know, in our in our culture
than being more feminine, being emasculated is bad, right, But

(22:48):
I do think that, um, it can have kind of
aspects of it can be good, like oh, he's just
you know. But you know what, I even see that
turned on women as well, because the mom due a
mom is the one that was overly protected and didn't
want to share him with anyone and make sure that
no other woman is as good as her. That's true,

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and that's used in like the mother in law context
as well. But yeah, even with this, even though it's
supposed to be about a boy, and it's still not awful,
the mom, the female, the mother figures the one that
still comes out as a monster. Isn't that interesting? M
I've never heard mommy issues used in conversation to my recollection,

(23:34):
but it does exist and refers to emotionally unavailable men
without the sexualized connotation of daddy issues exactly exactly. I
have also heard this as an excuse of the failing
of the nuclear family once again. Yeah, this whole idea
that without a father and the family just it fails
somehow to teach the daughter or soon how to be
normal and well well adjusted. And we can argue how

(23:56):
inaccurate normal is in the ideation of Yeah, so I
think this is why they use this as an argument
in the LGBTQ not being allowed to adopt, saying that
this is not a Christian family, which we're seeing a
turn right now with Trump trying to allow adoption agencies
to deny gay and lesbians of the LGBTQ will allow

(24:21):
to be adopt children, which is which again is ironic
in comparison with the whole fetus life idea in taking
care of children, because I will say, from the d
years of working in this field, that is seriously sad um.

(24:41):
But anyway, yeah, so I think a lot of that
has to do with this whole idea of Okay, if
there's no mother figure to balance this out or a
father figure to balance this out, this is not going
to be healthy for this child and they're going to
turn gay. That's my other favorite dumbass argument. But I
hear which I am passionate about advocating for those because

(25:05):
as a person who has adopted myself, and as a
person who sees so many kids in the foster home
that needs someone just to care. So it makes me
really angry that we would deny the children to have
a saving, happy home. Absolutely, and I think that when
we hear the phrase daddy issues and we see it

(25:28):
thrown about in our pop cultures so much it is
easy to kind of dismiss it as though this is just,
you know, a silly, silly thing, But it touches on
things undercurrents in our belief systems, right, what our society
is built on, that point to very real problems that

(25:50):
are impacting. Right, that people that literally deny people happiness
and deny people some rights essentially because of an idea
that's not really proven. Yeah. Yeah, so it's it is important, um,
more important than perhaps I would think, or you would

(26:10):
think at first hearing Daddy Issues. It's kind of it's
a joke to a certain extent, and apparently mentally believe this,
I guess. So, like I said, all the first page
of Google search results was Yeah, I think that's all
like GQ and the Little Muscle magazines or whatever, all.
Just like Cosmo has ten tips to have great sex,
it's like ten tips to see if you're not Daddy

(26:32):
issues you y'all. Uh, we do have a little bit
more touching on that, but first we have one more
quick break forward from our sponsor and we're back, thank

(26:57):
you sponsor. So we have some concluding thoughts on Yes,
clearly on daddy issues, and I feel like we were
talking about um a bit earlier. It's another way of
putting men's failings on women, blaming women, right, they're all

(27:18):
crazy men exactly um or. I mean I've even heard
and I know we've seen this in our pop culture too,
but like the wife in this very nuclear family UM context,
she's the reason that the father figure cheated or left
or the daughter is like, it's not his fat as.

(27:42):
In fact, you paint these women as being uh oh
like like essentially this herpy type of um nag essentially,
and they're always that way, Like even when you know
that this is not you still have the feeling of
I don't like you, you know what I mean, Like, um,

(28:04):
what is the old school show Raymond? Yeah, the wife
was portrayed that way. Yeah, I think that was like
I think they ended up be in a good relationship,
but it still was like, uh yeah. I got really
turned off from sitcoms like that for a while because
I noticed, like it was always a husband who Chamberlain
wasn't that attractive, right, oh, Always that was the formula,

(28:27):
the super particulously hot wife that that doesn't make sense
and he is like screwing up and never around right
and painting her as yeah, being shrill or annoying. Right,
she's like, you need to come home and take care
of the kids while holiday, you'd be late, and he's like,
I'm just having my fun, yeah, being nice, or that

(28:47):
same trope of men being forgetful but being forgiven, and
she's being overly thoughtful but at the same time demanding. Yeah,
it's kind of just the over the top. You're like,
why is it always that the mom has to be
bad guy? Yes, the same thing with um. This is doubtfire.
The perfect example. Sally Fiels is painted as and she

(29:08):
says it, I am always a bad guy because I
have to be responsible. And he's doing all these things
without talking to her, and he seemed like the victim.
You have the sad picture of him the entire time,
as if he's being persecuted. Yes, she's asking me to
do the dishes, right, not true? Right, I can't keep

(29:29):
a job. How dare you be that demanding and you
have the better job that takes your time because I
don't have a job. Yeah, man, I die hard too.
It is a lot a lot anyway. Pop culture time,
culture time all all the references in this episode specifically,
that's what we're here for. If a woman has issues

(29:52):
because of their father, it is somehow their false and
excusing bad fathers and turning it around with the daughters
is kind of the I would say of daddy issues.
It's that it's also or the mother's fault. Yeah, it's
one of the female's faults for sure. Throw them away, right.
It's kind of an equivalent to shutting down women for
being hysterical or emotional, kind of a way of gaslighting. Also,

(30:17):
the narrative of absent fathers creating daddy issues suggest a
father is necessary to grow up without such issues. She
ignores non hetero couples, single mothers, so many others, so
many other experiences, and again single parents, all the rock stars.
That's all I have to say. When you keep that
money going and keep the house going and keep the

(30:39):
kids saying wonderful. I Also, I do feel like daddy
issues is frequently used to shut down kinks and sexual
interest a woman might have. The daddy fetish is more
about authority and power play, just a fire right, and
they need to be watched over. Yes, and we're gonna

(31:00):
touch on that a bit sure episodes, you have some
good stuff coming. We do. If you think you do
have a father complex, experts recommend therapy if possible, and
if not, taking time alone to do some introspection, take
stock of any relationship patterns, and learning to be okay
with yourself in general. I think that's good advice, right.
I mean, I don't think I have daddy issues, but

(31:20):
I definitely have parent issues, you know what I mean.
We were talking about one of the big things for
me as my families political opinions and mine are very
extreme and sometimes it is a little difficult. Especially I
am an adopted careeran girl, so therefore I'm a brown
girl in a white family, and it becomes problematic because

(31:41):
of the way I see the world and the way
they see the world are two different perspectives. And that
has nothing to do with the fact that I had
daddy issues. It's just parent issues. Yeah, that's most people. Yeah,
And I say this as I agree. You don't have
to say you have a father complex. If you say
you have issues with your parents, with your father, with
your father, whatever, you need to get araby because therapy

(32:02):
is wonderful. So we all amen, Hallelujah. We don't get
any sponsorship, don't get any referral fees, mysterious therapy, a
counsel that's paying us to say this, it does not exist,
it doesn't know. Or counsel yourself with your friends. Yeah. Yeah,

(32:26):
And I do think that you can have a lot
of growth by especially if you've ever had a relationship
that lasted for a while and like, and I'm just
a nerd, but like I would suggest to look at
what why it failed or it didn't work out right, um,

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and then just see. I think a lot of for
me is watching other people's relationships as well, and and
talking to other people because I get generally confused about
how it works. Sure anything long term doesn't seem real
to me anyway, one of my mini issues. So, but talk,
being able to talk to friends who have experienced good

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relationships or even bad relationships really helpful. You start like
understanding a little more about the individual tracks and like
watching from the outside of the different perspectives and voices.
I think it's important too. Yeah yeah, so, and I
feel we all reach that point when we get older
where we do see ourselves making the mistakes that our

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parents made and we just didn't realize it right. Maybe
I'm over generalizing, but I feel like me and a
lot of my friends experienced that. Yeah. So instead of thinking, oh,
I've got daddy issues, yeah, you just I mean, honestly,
my sister used to get whatever, she used to get
flack for the fact that she had a really great

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relationship with our father, and therefore she wanted to have
a relationship like her mom and dad. Like her mom
and dad, because they're very as a couple, they're amazing,
And I think, is that a daddy issue? I guess,
so you can't win for losing because they have a
healthy relationship. They really do, and they're really close. And
I said, I have a good relationship with my dad

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as well. We may not agree on things, but he's
very understanding to a certain degree. At least we talked
things through. That's what we can do. And for my mother,
for my father and my sister, they really really close.
He's a cuddler. He will always hug you. He makes
you to tell you I love you every time he
sees you like he's one of those I went away.
This is really dorky. I went away across the country

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for two years, and he would be like, Okay, when
you see the moon. No, I'm looking at the same
moon too, and I'm thinking how much I love you
and how proud of you I am. That's my dad,
you know what I'm saying. But the fact is she
got flat for being too healthy in that relationship and
actually caring about our father's opinions and or going to
our father for opinions and for encouragement and love. So

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even though you can't win, yeah, you really can't win.
I personally feel like it's just another kind of misogyny
generally right, misogyny rearing its ugly ahead and shutting down
women for what X, y Z whatever reason exactly. Yeah,
I can't connect with you till that means you have
daddy issues. Those are our thoughts, but we would love

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to hear your thost listener, Please indust your thoughts because
we're gonna be in our own heads or talking on
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in here though we did, We did, and we would. Yeah,
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Hawaii for not one but two weeks. Yes, that's okay.
I don't get to go, so I'm really better. Is
a very bitter, very strong cup of tea over there.
So I just want to put that out there because um,
there's a rush to get a lot of stuff done
before I go, and I think we'll manage it. But

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if if there are a couple more classics, then you'll
know why. You'll know why because I am in Hawaii
and I refuse to work while she's on the beach. Yes,
you're just gonna protests at my desk even though I'm
not there. I'm just gonna start putting like random fishes
on your desk. Yes, I told you the plan. Oh no,

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you're always doing that. You're always telling me the plan,
but it somehow still works, So I guess you're you're
doing something right. I'm just a little bitter. Thanks, as
always to our super producer Andrew Howard was also leading me.
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