Second Cup: Re-assess your safety nets

What makes you braver, and what is holding you back?

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Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:03):
Welcome to Before Breakfast, a production of iHeartRadio. Good Morning,
This is Laura. Welcome to the Before Breakfast podcast. Today's
tip is to reassess your safety nets. Backup plans are good,

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but you don't necessarily need them forever, or at least
need the same ones forever. Make sure you take a
good look from time to time to see what is
still serving you and what isn't. Today's tip, like another
this week, comes from Elizabeth Sharp mcketta's new book, Edit

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Your Life. This book is about how to live with
intention in a messy world. One of her suggestions for
editing your life is to look around your life at
your safety nets and ask what they are keeping you
safe from and whether they are serving that purpose. Maybe

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you need an extra safety net, or maybe you need less.
It's hard to know unless you take a really good look.
So first some clarification. A literal safety net is the
net below an aerial performer that means if the person falls,

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they won't be badly injured. Metaphorically, a safety net is
something that keeps a problem from becoming a disaster. So
a safety net, like unemployment insurance, means that if someone
loses a job, his or her family will still have
some income. We often have safety nets for our individual

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lives too. For instance, Elizabeth talks of having an accountant
friend who took on freelance tax season work while he
was growing his own business. He wanted to make sure
he had enough cash coming in so that even if
the business grew slowly, he would be okay. Some safety

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nets are absolutely necessary even if you are wealthy or
have an incredibly secure job. It is still a good
idea to have a few months worth of expenses somewhere
you can access easily. If you and your spouse both
travel for work and you have kids, you need more

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than one person available while you are both gone in
case something goes wrong for that first person and both
of you aren't there. But you do want to ask
what the safety nets in your life are keeping you
safe from. For instance, the accountant in our example wanted
to avoid going broke even if his business took a

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while to grow, but after he had more clients than
he could handle, he really needed to focus on his
business rather than diverting his attention to work that was
just about paying the bills. His bills were fine. Time
to let that particular net go Elizabeth suggests asking if

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you feel you can live more freely knowing a safety
net is below you, or if a particular safety net
has started to hamper your choices. What might happen if
you shed one of your safety nets? Would you have
more time to pursue your creative work, more freedom to
do things in your personal life? Or conversely, you might

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find that certain safety nets might make you braver. For instance,
if you don't have an emergency fund, you might live
in fear of losing your job. Once you've got a
fair amount of cash in the bank, that prospect becomes
a lot less terrifying. That means that people have less

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power over you. You don't really have to do anything.
You have choices, and that can make you a lot
braver and more free. So reassess your safety nets and
figure out which are working for you and which aren't.

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Figure out if you need to take one away or
maybe if you need to add one. Getting the balance
right can help you build the life you want. In
the meantime, this is Laura. Thanks for listening, and here's
to making the most of our time. Hey, everybody, I'd

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