Live from Brooklyn (w/ Chuck Bryant, Ophira Eisenberg & Abbi Crutchfield)

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Speaker 1 (00:11):
Hello, and welcome to We know it's parenting. I'm Peter McNerney.
I'm Beth Newell. Thanks my god. We are people applausing us.
That's a real sense phrase. People are applausing us. He applause.
You give us a random applause? If your parents, yeah wow,

(00:34):
If you're not a parent, give us. Are non parents winning?
I think non parents are winning here? All right, Well,
I don't want to parents. If your parent is the
other the other half of your parents, what are you
asking by random applause? If the other half of you

(00:55):
is at home watching a child? Okay, okay, did you
have to fight over it? Or they're like, where are
you going? What are you doing? We don't care. I'm
not going to Brooklyn. Yeah, you pretty much said that
this morning. Do you know how far away this is
from where we live? Yeah, this might as well be Philly,

(01:17):
like they know it. Anyway, Welcome to the show. If
you've listened, you know this is the part where we
talked to each other late at night when nobody's watching us,
and we really are just trying to get where We
compare notes on the week that we haven't discussed because
we're both am running in different directions. Yeah, so we're
gonna do that right now, very awkwardly with people watching us.

(01:38):
We have some very very special guests. They're going to
come out. But real quick, what the hell happened? First? People,
how is your week with our children? Okay, first of all,
our children aren't here. We're we're out. I'll tell you guys.
We so we used to live here like normal people
in the city, normal people who live in the city.

(01:59):
And then we got probably net and then we moved
to the suburbs. And give me so much ship whenever
I say we got pregnant, Okay, I'm sorry, did you
get pregnant? No? No, but so, so I just wanted
to clarify the rules. You're allowed to I'm allowed to
say whatever I want about being pregnant. Uh So we
left the city and then so today we were riding

(02:21):
the train here together and it was like, I was like,
I feel like I'm five years younger. I'm on a
date with my boyfriend. What's happened? Like it was very weird, youthful,
bald boyfriend. Who's this guy? I was like, what's going on?
Uh so, yeah, can we talk about on the way here?
So we met some friends for some drinks before a
little tech rehearsal, and we we we're gonna go to

(02:43):
this restaurant. We round the corner and we accidentally decided
to have dinner across the street from our very first
first date. We should tell people that our first date
was after a one night stand we had with each
other that I had not initiate. So it was a
guilt in juice per se. When Peter asked me out

(03:06):
out of guilt, that took me home and we slept together,
and I was like, this is my first one night stand.
This is it this I'm an adult. Yeah. He was like,
I feel horrible about this. I have to ask this
woman on a date that went. I have to do
the honorable thing and buy you a burrito. Yeah, and
that sadly, that restaurant has been turned into a different restaurant,

(03:28):
had turned into a much nicer restaurant. And that's where
we were today. But that this week. The other thing
will make this brief is you were out of town
all week. So I was a single parent. You want
to know how I did well? First, I just want
to say that's offensive to single parents when people watched
their kids for three days and say I was a
single parent was seven days? Anyway, he really took the

(03:51):
wind out of my sales. Sorry, anyway, you were a
single parent, you knew the whole single parent experience when
you were living it. And uh, anyway, I did really well,
and I'm proud of myself. No, you did great. And
I came home after a week of being out of
town to a clean house, a fully cooked dinner. It

(04:13):
was magical and and it was yeah, that's true. And
you had died eggs with our children in advance of Easter.
Everything was thick and span And then this is my
dream come true. Right now, we compliment in front of people.
We ran into our neighbor who was like, oh, you survived,
and I was like, we were both kind of like, well, yeah,

(04:35):
I had controlly watched our kids all the time. He's
their dad. And our neighbor looks like could never handle it.
He was like, I could barely handle one of my kids.
Like he was just like, can we talk about this
is our neighbor. None of our neighbors listened to this show.
Although I live in fear that they will some days,
we hope they don't. This guy is very nice he's
very nice. If you listen to the show. You know,

(04:55):
sometimes I have a problem not listening and I interrupt,
But this man never stops talking to always walked by
and goes, hey, Peter, how are you looking? Great? Kids
always getting real bick It's gonna be fun here with
that like Yankees fan. Of course, that's how always alright, Peter,
I see you later. I have not said one word.
He was very impressed with my parenting. Yeah, because he
was like, guys, don't parent what are you doing? Can

(05:19):
we talk about Easter real quick? Yeah? So Easter happened.
So here's here's what we did for Easter. We pretended
to be asleep for as long as we could while
our kids said a tremendous amount of chocolate. Yeah. Well,
I woke up to see our kids find the Easter basket.
I was like, oh, that's cute. And then I went
back to bed, and then we slept till nine as

(05:41):
they ate very late while our kids ate tons of
sugar and uh, then we and then they went insane
and we're very and also somehow on Easter morning, we
had no coffee in the house, so I woke up
like a zombie. Staring and our kids are so hyper.
I didn't. I didn't do perfect the week you were,

(06:03):
and I was like, what is how many I have
to get out of here? I need coffee? What? So
got coffee? Did an Easter egg hunt and had the meat,
real hard boiled eggs. They each had five full hard
boiled eggs, which we're like, good, yes, not sugar beating.
It was great. We're good parents, and that's why we
have a parenting podcast. Right. That's our weekend review. Now,

(06:25):
ladies and gentlemen, enough of us. We'd like to get
the show rolling by introducing our first guest, Beth. I
think that's point. Yes, okay, so from the Stuff you
Should Know podcasts and the movie Crush podcast, you know him, Chuck, Brian,

(06:47):
that's your stool. We didn't disgust it, but that's your stool, Chuck, Chuck,
you look disappointed in our intro. Well, I was looking
at my notes and at your stool. That's that's literally
a hi everyone, Hey, okay, it's going great. So your

(07:08):
posture is intimidating. Thank you. I don't know how to
sit on a stool like I don't know how to do,
so Chuck on a scale one to tend. How tired
are you right now? Well, my wife and I spent
all day walking around the botanical gardens in the Brooklyn Museum,
which was wonderful, So that was a little tiring. But
we didn't have our daughters, so I'm so energized. So

(07:30):
you're a You're a one. There were no child around.
It was really great. There were couples everywhere with your
kids and it was so lovely and I'm so thankful
we weren't one of them. Have her here, that's great.
Isn't that the best to watch someone else's child freak
as we mimsed like crazy too, you know that whole thing. Yeah, okay,

(07:51):
next question, do you love your kid a lot? Okay? Okay,
I could have gone I believe that when you said it,
I believe it too. I mean, honestly, you'll be real
weird if you say yes. Besides, but she's adopted, so
I think we can return her that I'm not sure.

(08:14):
I think it depends on the state. Has that come up?
So you live in Atlanta, that's right? Uh so what's
the return policy in Atlanta? We're kind of screwed in Atlanta.
The birth mom could come at any time and just
snatch her away. That is a spear. Well not anymore,
but yeah, yeah, it's all there's no easy way to
get a baby. Guys, tell us how so, tell tell

(08:35):
us a little bit about that experience. You've adopted a child,
and she is how old now? She's like, she'll be
four in July, so three and change. And uh, you know,
she's right in the middle of your kids, it's right,
which is kind of exciting. I think. By the way,
we're going to their lake house next one. Yeah, like
we're gonna get all the kids together. We're gonna throw
the kids in a pile and watch what happened. And

(08:55):
he's right in the middle of both of them. So
I'm very curious. We'll see that turns out. See if
she can hang. Alliances will be formed. It will be
very uh game of thrones. Maybe we'll maybe we'll pitt
everyone against each other in some way. That's fine, that's fine.
Uh So check. This is a real random question. Was

(09:16):
the biggest surprise becoming a parent? We're like, no one,
no one told me about this. What was the biggest surprise.
It's a dumb question, but I'm asking you. Oh uh, marconium.
Oh my gosh, I haven't heard that in right three years? Yeah,
I didn't know about that stuff. Yeah, yes, no, marconium

(09:38):
is an element. Yeah, m eCos it's the first poop, right, yeah,
the black the black tar. Yeah. Yeah. Our daughter did
not poop. So we adopted her in another state. And
then you have to wait around for the courts to
sign off for this stuff. So there's like you have
the kid, but it's like I'll not final. It's like,

(10:01):
oh boy, this could all go south. So like, don't
get attached, well sort of, but like what do you
like to look adopting a puppy? Like, don't get too
used to this puffy Yeah, this adorable, adorable, beautiful baby.
So she didn't um, long story short, she did not
poop in this state, and we were just kind of great,
maybe we got one of the ones that doesn't do that.

(10:25):
This is awesome. That's like, this is probably great. Uh,
and then we started to wonder like she probably should
be by now, and we went on the plane and
then flew back and then literally like within hours of
being in our in our permanent home, in her permanent home, uh,
poop just started. Yeah. Yeah, quite a few days later.

(10:46):
So yeah, that was a surprise to me. That's fantastic.
But you know what, that's great. I think we're gonna
we're gonna introduce our second guest, because now our next
guests me to poop coming out of everywhere. Ladies and
gentlemen from the Light Show with Stephen Colbert, please welcome

(11:07):
to the stage, Abbey crutch Field. Oh my gosh, second stool.
Lovely to be here. Thanks everybody. Oh God, Okay, Abby,
tell us on how tired are you on a scale
from ten to twenty. I'm I operate on five hours
of sleep pretty regularly, and I'm okay with it. What

(11:30):
I am good all, But it's just my kid will
sleep through the night. Um, but I want that extra
buffer of time to for myself. So I'll get up early, me,
have coffee, me the night before so that it brews
in the morning. You're like one of those on top
of it moms that right, fifteen months in. Yes, that's

(11:52):
how it works. Tell me the night before the last Well,
I mean, your daughter's younger. When she gets older, you'll
give her a bunch of candy and then go back
to sleep. And that different bribes, bribes, I'm not bribes
are not off the table, but so far I don't
need them. Yeah, but you have, you have. I think

(12:13):
the youngest fifteen months old a daughter. I still call
her a year old plus change, Like I feel like
she's still a year but she's she's smack dab in
toddler him. Now. It's so funny because if you have
kids in certain age, you understand like fifteen months. Oh yeah, yeah,
fifteen months, got that right, It's different, but I've completely
forgotten what that means. Fifteen months is like hid your keys,

(12:40):
hid your wife? Like it's right, Well, it was. She
um two weeks ago learned how to walk, So it
was just this long process of she might be walking
soon too. Now she takes off and climbs and grabs things,
and only the things I don't want her to touch,
Like she'll turn the knob volume all the way up, yeah,
or reach for you know, the chemical in the room.

(13:02):
There's plenty of liquids around, but whatever just must be
a loving thing because I get attention. Well, that's the
age where they're constantly grabbing for things. So if you're
a bad parent like us, reach on a high shelf
and find something they've never seen before, and you're like, here,
how about this for five minutes? Yeah, look at this,
I'm trying to boil pasta or something. We've just taught

(13:25):
our kids to climb. Uh. We show them that there's
cool stuff up high and that right exactly every time
you reach and the ladder in the corner, breaking can
get up there. It's scary. Everything's getting higher and they're
just becoming better and better climbers. It's awesome up So

(13:50):
how fifteen months hows how's the sleeping going comparatively to
where you've come from? Um, I don't know if Chuck
mentioned he said mind stage that his daughter slept well
from the beginning, and mind is too. So we sleep
trained it three months. We don't know. I don't know
what the secret is. She was not colloquy. She sleep
trained it three months and she um has been sleeping

(14:13):
through the night pretty much since five months on. So
if you can relate to that, go, okay, congratulations parents,
And yeah, everybody else has my empathy, because I mean,
if I ever have another kid, i'd probably I'll figure
out what it is like. You can't have you dumb
luck only to do it accidentally. I'm worried that you

(14:34):
have like good jeans for someone who can wake up early,
and you've given them two years. That's what's happened. Who
sleep soundly? Like that has something to do with it
who we are as people. It's almost like we're bad
and you're good. That I didn't want to see. Speaking
of good, let's introduce our third guest show. Okay, so

(14:54):
our next guest. You know her as the host of
NPRS asked me another. Her name is o'feara eyes and
oh my gosh, thirty high third stool. Hi, thank you
for coming on. How tired are you? Scale of fifty
two six? I am super tired. Yeah, there we go,

(15:19):
especially today, I'm very, very tired. Why well, I flew
in from because I'm trying to do all the things
at the same time. So I took a job out
of town, but I wanted to come home and see
my kid and do a show. So I took up
flight at six am, which means waking up at four am.
But when you're on the West Coast, you're like, guess what,
I don't gonna sleep anymore anyways, because the time changed.

(15:42):
Even when there's out children, I will not for sleep.
Life is fun on a plane. Yeah, okay, you got
it all figured out. Yeah great. The surest way to
have career opportunities that take you out of town is
to have a kid, and then you'll just have all
over the place, right. Yeah. I never booked anything until
my life depended on hing motivates you, like needing to

(16:04):
keep other people alive. Yeah, it really if something really
happens and your kid is he's a good person. Yeah,
he's three and a half. He's a person. He's a
human like, he has a personality and I had nothing
to do with me. Wow. Yeah, some differences. Well, I mean,
you know, there was actually I feel like it was

(16:25):
around two and a half. I was like, oh, you're
a person. Like your person you do not comply. You
have your own thoughts. Yeah, you have your own desires,
and I am it's a real problem. And it's it's
a problem, right, it's not Yeah, it's not like um anyways.
I actually I was going to say it's not like
a dog, which I get that, but because I have

(16:48):
not However, I do know someone right now who is
nap training their dog. That's news, Like you don't dogs
just I mean I know there because I have dogs.
They always sleep, They always sleep. Yeah, there's no training necessary.
I when when my daughter was teething, I kept calling
her stuff too toys, and I would use a lot

(17:08):
of dog terminology because I had dogs first, I would
I wh we did the same thing. Yeah for a while.
It is weird. And also to that note, like we
would talk to our son Lucas like a dog. In
the beginning, we were like, good Lucas, good boy, good boy.
We're like, oh, that's probably not the way you talked
to with you. And then two and a half years
and you're like, oh, he's how's a human person? He's

(17:30):
a human person. Dog. The boys a surprise growing. That's
why he hasn't grown any for Okay, So we want
to ask you, guys some general questions for the group.
We want to ask you, so, what parenting move do

(17:51):
you guys perform regularly that you feel the most judged for. Well,
that's a heavy one right off the back. Or do
you make us feel better about our choices? How are you?
I think I think I know mine right away because
my husband criticizes it. When she acts up, I try
to empathize and listen to her feelings and she can't

(18:12):
even talk yet, so yeah, so I'll be like, that's
really frustrating when you want my attention, but I'm looking
at my phone, isn't it? And that's actually that's a
kid need. But if she's doing something you're not supposed
to be, Like I've told her, do not give the
dogs food, or do not put food in your hair,
and then she does it after I've said no, I say,
it's really fun to put food in your hair, isn't it.

(18:34):
I just think I'm Mr Rogers or something. And my
husband's like, why are you raising her to be horrible?
But you also come home every evening and change it
into your sneakers and put on your car. I do
I feed the fish. So I feel like if I
do that in public, if I get caught on the
subway talking to her that way and not just straight
up disciplining her in a firm turn but loving way,

(18:56):
I think someone's going to call me out on it.
Like girl, I've watched out. I try to talk it
out and they're just like in Toddler Ridge and they're like, yeah,
it's yeah, well it's as they get older. I'm like, oh,
we're talking, you understand more and that's not true at all.
They understand is that they have your attention and they're winning. Yeah,

(19:17):
and so I've just learned to go one explanation. Now
you're a ghost. Yeah, it's the only thing that works.
Sometimes ten percent of the time, I think I'm so um,
I'm so worried and um about people looking at me. Anyways,
that when when the when my son like throws a face,

(19:40):
he's very loud. He's a really loud kid. And when
he gets upset in public and is loud, I am
that person that is just like, we're out of here,
like immediately, whatever is happening. I was like, you pay
for dinner, Like, I'll just grab him waits the dog, Yeah,
the waitress. I was like, you're paid for dinner. Dinner,

(20:04):
talking a lot of free dinners. But my friend did
say to me like, he's never gonna have fun if
you keep ripping him out of places. When he said,
oh no, no, I think that's a good move to
take him out if he's freaking out, like and he's like,
hey maybe friend, Sorry, sorry, I said an intense thing

(20:25):
to prove it all down in the middle of it,
I thought I did that, I had this intense thing.
What did you say? I already forgot. He said you
got a bad friend. What did you say? Check that
you put your child in a dark So that's what
I'm judged for now. I think for us the food bribes,

(20:45):
which is not what you should do, but it's sometimes,
you know, just the easiest way to get to where
you need to be. We do a lot of that
because we try not to. But boy, it's you know,
you know, so timp you want three m's. It makes
it makes right now really easy. It just makes all

(21:06):
the other moments harder. Eminem is a bag full of bribes,
like it's just ever thing to use. He thinks they
only come three at times. He's never seen that would
be awful. Yeah, you have different colors? Does she not
even know that red exists? Yet? He thinks we were
like call the Eminem guy. We're like, make three more.

(21:28):
That's the trick that grandparents don't understand because I do
that too, where it's like I sneak out like two
pieces of candy, you both get one, and I'm like
I bought myself a lot of time, and my parents
or other people coming to town and they're like, here's
a huge bag of candy on the table. I throw
a of it because it's like they're equally excited about

(21:49):
two pieces of child. It's right. They're like gremlins. They're
going to find it. It's in the it's in the cabinets.
They're climbing, they're getting it. We do the thing for
and I don't know if this is right or not.
So if something is happening bad, we're like, we're going
to take this away from you. Right. My friend was
standing by who was a parent, and I was like,
you don't get to watch pop Patrol and he was like,
don't do that. You need that, you can get stuff done.

(22:10):
I was like, I'm going to take away your blanket.
He's like, that's super mean, it's his security. I was like,
what can I take I mean you can take it
for a limited time. You know what you can take
away As their mom, he's pretty used to that. He's
pretty usy. I have very unfortunately my when my kids

(22:31):
go to bed, but Peter can put them to be efficiently,
and when it's me, they're like rabid dogs for my
scent and um sons. More than once I've done this
thing where I closed the door behind me and then
I go hide somewhere and then they come out. And
I've said, I said to my kids, wait, wait, this
is when I'm not there, when Peter's not home. I've said, well,

(22:53):
when you come out of your room, mommy disappears. And
I wow, yeah it's not that's amazing a good parenting move,
but it works. I think you're a superhero. You have
to tell this story. Didn't you listen to Brent talk
to himself while he discovered you were gone? Oh yeah,
I can't remember what he said, but he was like, mommy,

(23:14):
Mommy's gone. It's like, oh that would break my heart. Yeah.
That was a traumatizing, terrible thing. And you just sat
there going this is work. Well you okay, you you
try putting a kids in bed for like two hours
straight and see what kind of ideas you come up, right,
you know? Right? Um, So the old days he had cages, guys, Yeah,

(23:36):
closets and cages. I thought, locked on the top of
the door. But that seems like a fire hazards based
off this topic. This is a dumb question. I'm gonna ask,
have you discovered what your scolding face is? You know,
and I'm famous my orgasm. I don't know which one

(23:58):
is which context that would be scarier series therapy bills
in the future. Um, I'm gonna make you know what.
Let's let's let's do this. I'm gonna say one to
three and Beth, you're gonna give me the your child
is just something wrong and you gotta give a hay
in the face that shuts it down. Okay, no words
other than hey, alright, ready, okay, everyone close your eyes. Guys,

(24:21):
act like you're being bad, okay, and I would say one, two,
three go and you'll open your eyes ready, one too,
three go? Hey, pretty cool? That is not scary. All right,
we're going on the line, Chuck, it's your turner. Everyone
close your eyes ready, yeah, ready, one to three? Boom, heyet,

(24:48):
some get some aggression behind that one. We all just
look really lovable. Alright, I'm exasperated than angry. You that's
my face. Alright, we're gonna go. We're gonna keep it
on the line because I started this. All right, close
your eyes ready, Abby, Ready, one to three? A little

(25:13):
it got real, okay, fear are you ready? Close your eyes? One?
Two three? Hey? Wow? Alright, bear my teeth like an animal.
Close your eyes ready second, Ready for this, guys, we're

(25:47):
gonna play a little game this say. This is a
brand new thing that we've never done, we've never tried,
so we're gonna see how it goes. Are you ready this?
What do we call it? It's called will? This is
called will. You know. So we're all among us. I

(26:08):
think we're all pretty new parents in the grand scheme
of things. We're pretty young kids, and I think we'd
all like to think we're through the worst of it,
But we want to talk about some things that might
scare you down the line. Yeah. So we're going to
present these in the style of, uh, sort of an
either or what are you more afraid of? Clowns? Oh,

(26:34):
I'll start with you. So what are you more afraid
of in the future The day your your child starts
applying to college or the day your child joins social media? Uh? Well,
clearly the second one. Yes, Why, Oh jeez my god,
I I fear it like I fear not many other
things because of real life stuff that would not be

(26:57):
funny for this room, you know, bullying and all that stuff,
And just like, oh my god, it's the word. It
was bad enough when I was a kid and we
didn't have that constant thing going on. So yeah, I
fear that that was the correct answer. Yes, your college applications,

(27:18):
when is that supposed to start? I mean fat and
I am not social media or college application a social
media I mean in my mind, I keep saying like,
my kid's not going to touch a screen until the
twenty seven. How that go for you? I've just been
saying it to myself a lot, although I mean I
kind of have that in my head too, or you know,

(27:39):
whether I can control or not yet. I look at
my nephew who is in grade six, and social media
is part of their classroom, and yeah, I know, and
they house what what there's a closed Facebook group that
is a part of their classroom that they all upload

(28:00):
stuff too, like slack in the workplace. But it's exactly
and so but to get there, they have to have
an account, profile photo. Yeah. Well, just never leave your
kids out of your site and everything. I'll be fine.
An inspirational quote, no problem. Alright, great, we're gonna go
to number two. Are you ready for this? Let's do it.

(28:21):
What are you more afraid of? If you are afraid
at all? The day, the day you send your kid
to sleep away camp for the very first time, or
the moment you found out that they've started their own
podcast topic. The podcasting is on par with if they
ever joined sports. I don't want to have to fake

(28:41):
interest in the emotional energy. It will take what's like
the worst podcast topic they could have in your mind? Sports?
Yeah right, just um, I don't even know. I guess
um No, I wouldn't. It'd be it'd be interesting to
see how her mind works no matter what she's talking about.

(29:03):
But if it was something like her dad's really into
professional wrestling, and you know, I go through the motions
with that one a lot. So if she picked that
up from him and it just went even deeper into
that world, I think I feel like amazing a young
woman hosting as there is no way that doesn't exist.

(29:30):
But anyway, what was the first thing? Sleepway camp sounds
cool to me, Like, I think that's cool, that should
be fun. Yeah, and you're like, get him away from me. Yeah,
it's a separation. I would trust it. She'd be all right.
What if it was sports camp? Though, you know that
I accidentally went to golf camp my friend Peter my

(29:52):
three best friends were all named Peter. It was weird.
He goes, you want to go to hockey camp. I'm like, yeah,
I'm a hockey player because all my friends were. We
said all right, we're signing up for this thing, and
I said okay. And then he goes later he's like, oh,
you have to pick a backup. So I picked golf.
You should do that. I'm like okay. He's like, oh,
golf was full, our hockey was full. We're just playing golf,

(30:13):
like pretty getting golf in two weeks. It's like hockey.
It's yeah, I do both of them just as much now.
Guts around pucks. Yeah right, that's golf, right, I thinks, Okay.
The next year I went to theater camp and it
was better. Okay, Oh, Fiara, what are you more afraid
of the day your child goes on the first date

(30:34):
or the day they walk in on you having sex?
One of them is impossible, because I'll be married for
a long time by them. Which one? I think? The
good thing is your orgasm face just looks like you're
mad at that. Yeah. They walk in there like, oh
mom's mad. Yeah, I'm out of here, Like he's really mad,

(31:01):
really mad. I mean, you know, the dating thing, I
would I would love it. I would love the day
that my son goes on his first date. I have
a terrible feeling that is going to be a cyber experience.
I would love it to be an in real life experience.
So because of that, if we're talking in real life

(31:22):
ding dong, we're going out on a date, I would
love it. So then I would fear him walking in
on us having sex, And then I would be like, no, no, no, mommy,
where's this hooded mask with a zipper? Only when he
is happy? Exactly? All Right, we have one more you know,

(31:44):
I'm gonna open this one up to the group. Yeah,
because everyone, everyone, Everyone got their questions right, So you're tired.
You all have one point I'm keeping tell you, alright, parents,
that's what we should call the podcast, right, make perfect Parents. Um,
that's the cutest noise I ever made in my life.

(32:06):
The what is scarier to you the day you have
to start teaching your child to drive? Oh God, or
the day your child or the day your child is
changing your diapers? Sorry real from the audience, Yeah, I
think my own mortality is scarier. I guess it's involved

(32:28):
in both cases, right, kids are ready to drive faster
slow is the question. I have a question for your question.
Why would that be scary when your kid learns to drive?
I would look forward to that. I know that I'm
going to be fucking terrible because I'm gonna be. I'm
just worried because you don't want to or that you're

(32:48):
not or you're not driving right. I am a terrible
backseat driver knows so you're not driving right. I'm not
driving is the problem. Yeah, you like to be in
control right, and try real hard not to say anything.
That's just lets me drive always and it's better than
hearing him talk. I'm just like you probably want to

(33:10):
give a little more space. It won't it be great
when your kid can drive you to the airport? Yeah?
I think offer we're gonna be like, oh, mom, why
need you go to the airport? My child having a
license sounds great, but teaching them to drive is I'll
just like you. No one taught me to drive. I

(33:31):
was not. My My parents were like, no, you're going
just go to the school. Yeah. My dad did it
like once with me, and then he got so mad
that he kicked a dent into the dashboard, which like
very very seeing I was riding that I was coming

(33:57):
off the highway and I was going on the cur
off ramp and I guess he felt like I was
taking the curve too fount and were you know, so
you know how you're trying to calm someone down when
they're driving for the first time, and you kicked the dashboard.
I like how your dad processes fear just voluntary. Yeah,

(34:22):
I mean it definitely, very easily could have released the
air bags, and you know, luckily the airbags didn't work.
I will tell you that I was trying to practice
to get my license after my classes, and I borrowed
my mother's car when she wasn't aware of it. I
just took it out of the garage and went to
practice parallel parking. And I went to parallel park. I

(34:44):
was like, no bad angle, and as I pulled out,
I just took off the others the back end of
another car, and then I freaked out and I just
drove it back to the garage and put in the garage,
put her keys back, and just like waited in my room.
Did they ever find out the next day? She didn't
have to drive it that night, so The next day
she came back from some errands and she was like,

(35:05):
I think someone didn't run me at the bank. Yes,
And I was like, that's terrible, and you did you?
Did you ever come clean about it? Now? Why would you?
If you know what? I learned? Nothing? What you want
best lessons? I took the car out once before I

(35:27):
got my license, and you want to know why, because
I really needed a haircut and I took the car.
Peter was a really cool team. I used to need haircuts,
rebel with a cause, the very specific purpose hockey haircuts
was pretty cool, pretty cool. Yeah, before I was sixteen

(35:50):
and I wrecked it in my driveway. Yeah, I took
you made it now, I was totally sober. I didn't
start drink. We're coming back into the driveway or you
just never left? Yeah, I was like sort of driving
too fast and it sort of fish tailed in the
driveway and hit a tree. It's so frustrating. Yeah, I
think we've answered this question. Is a way more frightening

(36:12):
way al Right, friends, you know what it's time for.
We're gonna jump straight into the greatest thing we've ever created,
the best segment of our show. Um No, I'm glad
somebody else agrees, because I don't actually know if people

(36:34):
like this, but I do. She's thinking of a different
segment it's signed to play. Would you know? This is
segment we do that has no practical application to parenting,
but we enjoy it. Um. So this is where we
give you, guys, a parenting hypothetical situation and you tell

(36:56):
us what you would do in that situation. Now you
are totally welcome and encouraged to ask questions to clarify
what the funk it is we're talking about. That's half
the fun. I gotta say, as a big fan of
your show, uh, this is my favorite thing. And I
have the same frustrations as Beth. I never understand what

(37:20):
the funk these are about, and you do a very
poor job of clarifying that. And you were my old friend.
I'm intrigued. I thought we were friends. Yes, we have
this show because of you, and that's all I'll say.
Thank you, man. That's so fun. Though, I'm gonna let

(37:41):
Beth thread first because she's so good at it. Okay, Chuck,
I'll give this one to you. Okay, you find yourself
transported to medieval times with your child. You at this.
At a certain point, you've come to terms with the
fact that you're in medieval times and you've moved on,
and you've decided to pretend that you from your from

(38:02):
that period in order to blend in so you don't
get murdered. You take your children there, By the way,
I just need a little chain mail. You take your
kid to the St. Crispin's Day Harvest Festival. I don't
know what that is, but a plot of a Martin
Lawrence film, by the way, Yeah, it's fully made up. Um,

(38:25):
they're calling all the children over to lick the dead boar.
It's a tradition that they have where all the kids
lick the dead boar. But you, as a parent from
twenty nineteen, know that that's going to be Germ city.
The boar has been sitting in the sun all day.
Do you ruin the festival for everyone by not letting

(38:46):
your kid lick the boar along with all the other kids,
or do you let your kids lick the board? Did
listeners in these? In we wrote these last night. We've
never been closer. Was there we involved? I mean for
half of us? Uh? Well, I will say that my daughter, Uh,

(39:09):
I don't know if all kids are like this. Actually,
but she licks a lot of things. She hasn't as
much lately, but she went to a big licking phase,
just licking things. Uh, but can you show like what?
She just hold it up and then she would she
still licks us when she like, it's like, I'm the
KIDDI kid, I'm the kiddie. My kids both lisked me

(39:31):
last night. We both our kids licked best space to
a really uncomfortable level. Well, Emily and I have different methods. Uh.
Emily will just be like uh, and I'm just like,
I think if I just sit still and let her
do it, do not want to do it again. So
I'm like, how does that work? Well, it's fine, so

(39:52):
we generally let her lick things, But I think I
would draw the line at a board that's been sitting
in the sun day. This is a sacrilegious choice you're
making by noting St. Chrispin's Day that I think I
would I would ruin everyone's time and probably not let

(40:12):
let her lick the boar. Okay, cool? Would you go
so far as to try to stop other kids from
licking the boar because they're all gooding? Like, oh no,
and I would probably give up with Ruby too. I
would be just like, I'd be like, no, don't like Yeah,
she already liked it once. Yeah, that's the real truth
is I would put up a big front like I'm

(40:33):
like Superdad, but then she'd be looking boor. I think
I'd let our kids lick the boar. Yeah, I'm not
a big germs worrior. Maybe that's I'm sorry, I'm not either. No,
she's makes them stronger. Yeah, robust immune system. What if
it was frozen. I licked a frozen garbage can as
a child, and my tongue stuck to it, and then

(40:58):
my my mother had to she poured a cup of coffee.
It's your first time chasing garbage. That's when parenting was real.
That is great on her part. That's amazing. I did.
That was an outdoor rink uh in when I get
Illinois the scene in Home Alone where he slides under

(41:20):
the guard's knees on the rink. That rink. I licked
a bard got stuck because it was tasty. It looks
so pretty there's on it, and my solution was to
rip all the skin of Had you not seen a
Christmas story? I haven't seen it, and then that's when
I understood it. The movie makes it looks so good,

(41:42):
though you know it was a frozen boar. I'd say,
lick away. It's fine. But it's been in the sun
for a few days. I think sa Christmas Day falls
in October, so right the harvest I understand. Um, okay,
I'll read this since you're not ready, I'm ready. It's
I reading. It's my favorite thing. It's like I'm witness

(42:04):
thing you're parenting. Can you tell me have a good teamwork? Um? Oh,
here we go everyone. This is the shortest one. It's
this thing. I came up with this one. It's real convoluted. Abby.
You come home and your child reveals to you that
they are a genius and they built themselves a younger siblings.

(42:28):
It's kind of a creepy Haley Joel Osmond vibe ai,
but you fully get the sense that it thinks it's alive. Also,
it runs on three gallons of milk a week. Do
you raise this robot child as your own? Or do
you get rid of it? Yeah? This is so much

(42:52):
deeper than I thought my question would be me. I mean,
I treat my other two dogs as if they're my
kids as well. I use the terminology and it's not
even funny anymore. Like I still like refer to them
as her brother. So I would probably adopt the robot,
the creepy robot child. What do you tell all your friends? Oh,

(43:15):
it leaves the house. Well that's the question. So you
got to get into it. It's your son now, now
you can do. If I didn't, your kid's going to
be talking about it. Oh my gosh, that's so complex,
that's right. I know. I have to assign the gender

(43:38):
um callie. That's complicated. I guess that since I couldn't
bear to bring it into public, because then it would
it would border on like breaking societal norms, and then
I'd have to have a talk with her. But if
it's sentient, like can it feel feelings or not, well
that's the thing thinks that can. It thinks it can.
And it's like this like when you're like, are you real?

(44:00):
It's like I I think, so, I've I've known nothing
else but this. Yeah, I probably bring it in public
and then write a whole book about it. I would
be like my story, and then I try to make
it a movie. Otherwise, the robot is going to be like,
what do you mean I can't trick or treat, you know,

(44:21):
looking out the window. Yeah, it's every it's every It's
not a week. I've made milk guys cubes as your candy. Yeah.
Can I eat the chicken? No, you only have milk
import milk cube. I like that idea. We actually we
haven't addressed the fact that your child is a genius.

(44:43):
Does how does that change things? Yeah? Yeah, I don't know.
I hope he's not an evil. She's not an evil genius.
You know, she uses it for good? Yeah, Jerry still out.
That's a tough one. I think she's got now that
she's created life. I'm not sure I see dollar signs. Okay,
all right, thanks question. That was a correct answer. That

(45:06):
was love as my own, got it? Okay? Oh Fira.
One day you wake up and everything is dark. Suddenly
you see a bright light and feel the sensation of
being born. As the doctor pulls you from the womb,
you see yourself giving birth to you, and you realize
that you have John Malkovich into your child on the

(45:29):
day they're born. Now that you're in your kid's body,
watching yourself parent you, and you have lived all of
these moments before from your original perspective. Do you try
to alter your own life events as the parent for
the better, for example, by saying, wait, can we need

(45:50):
a pause? Yeah, and she's still the parent, seriously smoking
weed last night? This one was Peter, Oh my god. Okay,
go ahead and ask the questions you have. Let me
just get this straight, all right. So one day I
wake up in darkness. So far feels like my own life.

(46:13):
But there's a bright light because I'm being born. You're
being born out of your own body. I'm being born
out of me, like the ultimate. This is the ultimate narcissism. Okay, right,
So I'm being born out of me. And then what
happens next? You are in your child's body as they're
being born from you. I am, my head is in

(46:33):
my child's body watching me as me. Yeah. It feels
like you've never seen the movie being John Malcolm. I
do remember it, but I did see it. But I
remember Katherine Keener and how I wanted to be Katherine
Keener and half Floor eleven and a half whatever one.
We all love Katherine Keener. Great, so it's okay, right,

(46:53):
So then blah blah blah, Yeah, so I am viewing me,
and would I, then, with this amazing knowledge, try to
alter my life as the parents you, as the child,
say things to the parent who is formerly yourself. Okay,
she's not her parents shell anymore, she's not in the parents,

(47:15):
they're not in the parent body anymore. You've gone back
in time. So you've done all this before from your perspective. Yeah,
and now I'm witnessing it. Yeah, and so you know
you know too much as a child. So the true
question is can I can I make myself better? Yeah?
Is that with the real question? Do you even try?

(47:38):
But but I'm as a baby, So first I have
to go through all the stages where I can't talk
and I can't communicate, and I'm just spitting up all
the time, and I'm like obviously ruining my parents lives,
Like I have to go through all that the ones
you live all that and you're a talking child. This
is the longest fucking problem of all time. Welcome, we
knows parents Alright, You're also gonna get through the point

(48:02):
where you need to explain to yourself that you've lived
their life already. Do you even bother this? Guys? So well,
I imagine, you know, I imagine there would be a
few phases, like first you wouldn't bother because you would
just be like wow, like you would just be checking

(48:23):
it out, and then you would just be using it
like I'm gonna say what you're going to say before
you say it and freak you out. Right. Then it
would just be a lot of gags, a lot of gags,
a lot of like freaking them out, a lot of prank. Yeah,
I like where you're taking this. That's good, right, And
then you would get bored with that, and then you
would try to probably do evil things. You'd be like,

(48:45):
all right, well, I'm like the kid, and I know
how useless you people are, so like I'm gonna eat
all the chocolate cake and I'm gonna I know where
the keys are, and I'm gonna like leave the house
and I'm gonna like ruin things and I'm gonna walk
on stage during Mommy's act she's bombing and all that
kind of stuff. You've turned this into a much more
fun movie than being John Malkovich. And then you would

(49:07):
probably go to the next stage where you're like that's
not great. Well I have a question for that, Like wait,
you've seen you're seeing O fear a bomb and you're
and you remember how bad it felt, so you interrupt
it before it can get worse. Do you give yourself
a pep talk? Do you give like once you're a
kid that can give advice to try to like make

(49:28):
a fear of the mom feel better? I think no.
As the kid, you're like, I'm an adorable kid, I'm
just going to get all the laughs, make her feel worse.
So you're gonna steal your own act. You get worse
and do your act as a four year old? Do
you you fully emotionally detached from your former life very quickly,

(49:49):
just was like, I'm her kid now. Yeah, right, I
guess that. I guess. I guess that's the truth. I would.
I would use all of that college to just create
a better life for if you of the child. Yeah,
we'll be here now, people. You know. Wow, that went
better than I could have possibly hoped. Now we're going

(50:19):
to take some questions from you guys in the audience.
I hope you have something for us. We also got
some emails, so we'll go to that if we have to.
But anyone, oh my gosh, participation. So I want to.
I want to make you stand up. I'll come down here,
you know, into the mic and let us know what
you have. Hi. How what's your name? I'm Sarah and
my daughter Elizabeth and I have written to you. Oh
my gosh, yes, yes, yes, hi, Hi. I'm in New

(50:43):
York for work this week. So, oh my god, you
don't even live here? Where incredible? Did you follow me? Okay?
I grew up. Yeah, we live in smoke Ris Oh night,
Well that's where my in laws live. We should get
together soon. How about right now? That's we're doing it now.

(51:03):
So actually, Elizabeth knew I was coming to see you,
and she had a question for you. We've taken more
mail from Elizabeth than maybe anybody else except maybe you.
Uh but no. So Elizabeth's question for you is, has
doing this podcast answered all your parenting questions? Wow? Seven

(51:30):
years old? She she has send Wait wait wait she
she sends the Pokemon question. Right, we got more listen.
So Beth listed all the Pokemon that she could think of,
and one of them as Charlemagne. And we got more
emails from people eager to explain to us Pokemon. Yeah,

(51:53):
a lot of response to the Pokemon content. You're just
making up names though, right? Or were any of those real?
Because I know nothing about Pokemon and just laughed, thinking,
that's so good at making up funny tick tack and
nip Whip and Charlemagne. I don't remember what I said,
but I think they were made up. Um, check it out.

(52:16):
It's a good episode. Uh, what's the question? Have we
figured it out? Have we learned everything? Have we learned everything?
What do you guys think based on what we've told
you so far about our parenting style? We figured it out? Right?
Think you trust your gut, You've got your things you do.
I will say that obviously I've learned a ton, and

(52:40):
it's mostly from people like you, guys who share things
with us because this this idea, Like Beth had this idea.
She ran into Chuck and they talking about things. She's like,
what about a parenting podcast? And she told me. I
was like, why would I want to do that? What?
And then we started doing it and I was like, Oh,
there's things to know about this. And that was a

(53:00):
pretty stereotypical dumb dad who's like people telling me what
to do, but I'll tell them what I'm doing. And
I've I've learned a lot. Yeah, you've learned a lot.
You're like, oh, there's stuff to read about parenting. Oh
uh no, we have. What I enjoy is that we've
gotten listener mail from people in other countries. That really

(53:24):
has opened my eyes to some different parenting styles and
a lot of great Australian listeners. Yeah, but you guys
are our favorites. Okay, we have another question question over here? Yeah, yeah, yeah, Hi.
What's your name? Where are you from? Egypt? Amazing? Itsally timed?
What is your question? So, given that we're immigrant parents,

(53:45):
he's from Germany. Um, I find that American parents tend
to use very little scolding question, which is very different
once you land outside JFK. Everybody's holding and my question
is is it really all the time that you don't
scold or do you do it behind closed door? That's

(54:10):
a good question. Boy. Well, I think I'll open this
up to the group, but I will say I feel
like there's probably a big difference between Brooklyn and many
other places, probably, but anyone have thoughts on that. Right.
My daughter is very young. I'm not above discipline and
stern voice and telling her why you're not supposed to

(54:31):
do something. So when you say scold, if you mean
showing displeasure and also having consequences to bad behavior, then yes.
But if it's like insulting the kid or raising my voice,
like like being as angry with an adult with a
kid as I would an adult, I wouldn't do that
behind closed doors or in public. Like That's what I'm
working on not doing. Yeah, I don't want to fly

(54:53):
off the handle. Is this? Yeah? I try to avoid
like a big public confrontation if I can, which is
sometimes unavoidable. But I do kind of wonder what you're saying,
because I think like parenting is not as big a
part of American culture as it used to be, and
so people don't want to see you parents your kid,
And then you feel guilty about having those moments in public,

(55:15):
especially here in New York, where I don't know, there's
like fewr parents, there's nowhere, there's no kid friendly places.
I do think you feel less comfortable having those moments.
I mean, I see kids get disciplined on the subway
all the time, you know, like sit in your seat
or I'm gonna you know, there's like a consequence or something,
don't man spread I want to tell you doors yeah,

(55:41):
I found. I mean, there's there's the it's I've I've
had much more success in redirecting the energy than that. Like,
let me show you that I'm dominating. Like the more
I'm like hey, and like, the more emotion I show,
the more one the be scared. But the more times
to do it, the less effective it is each time.

(56:03):
So I see, yeah, I saved those for your running
to the street and I scream and scary, And now
I just realized how good my dad wasn't being scary
because he would always just do the hey, yeah, and
you're like, but even that, I just projected too much,

(56:25):
like I think I'm badass. He would there was none
and you just go come here, and then I'd walk
and then you just go is that a good idea?
Are you gonna do that again? Just what do you
think I should do? And then I punish myself. He
was about psychological, but he was also gone all week
and he could come in at the last minute and like,

(56:47):
whereas my mom was with four boys all week, and
so she'd be like and we're like, we're not afraid
of you because we know we're not gonna do anything.
And I remember my mom grabbing me by the arms
and gonna go to your room. And she started pulling
me and I really in this moment, Oh my god,
I'm I'm stronger than my mom. And it was a
heartbreaking moment, remember letting her win. I was like ah.

(57:11):
And then she put me in a round and closed
the door. And then I just sat on the bed
looking at my hands. You know, robot child will not
know those things. You're screwed. Yeah, you were the John
Malkovich baby, and that's scenario you were watching your mother parents,

(57:31):
had like out of body experience watching your mother parents.
It was a real moment of more old were you
when you were stronger than your mother? Tana Levin my
dad's sixth And that's how you think it's always a shot.
I remember I beat my dad an arm wrestling. I
had a similar thing of like, oh no, I'm gonna die,

(57:52):
Like we're all like aging. Things change. That got dark.
Who else has a question? Yes? Right here? Hi? What's
your name? My name is Kelly, Hi, Kelly. Where are
you from? Wow? Not surprising. Egypt was more surprising. H
what's your question? Yeah, we're going back a segment, but

(58:15):
I'll take it. You have to prove the rules here.
All right, ten years from now, your older kid is
they're both in middle school, and your older kid gets
you get a call because the kid beat the crap
out of another kid. Oh no, beat him up. And
I'm way home from the principal's office. He says, I

(58:36):
beat that kid up because he, you know, dumped my
sister or he was mean to my sister. Curve ball.
Do you punish him? Oh? Yes, yes, I punish. Yeah,
I think you still punish. Yes, you can't. Yeah, you
can't give any amount of like, but you did it

(58:59):
for a good reason. I might think that and feel that,
but no, no, right, you punish the child. But then
when they're in their room grounded you high five, which
I would say you can empathize and say I Then
my approach, I think, would be like, wow, I see
why you did that. But also here's why, right, I

(59:22):
get it, sibling. No one dumps our robot kid. Um.
I can't. I can't picture brind getting in a real
fight ever. Uh, he's sort of I think he's starting
to get in those altercations. But he's like weirdly submissive,

(59:45):
given he's been telling us this week that his friends
said he's not smart, and he's like, I'm not smart.
We're like no, you, Like I got so angry. That's
the one thing. I was like, who who said that?
Beat that kid up? And I had the impulse to
be like your friends not smart. It was like, he
doesn't even know math. But I just thought all those things,

(01:00:08):
you're so smart. But I was like, you're smart. And
then he was just arguing because he likes to argue,
and he's like, no, I'm not I'm not smart. And
I was like, don't take the bait anyway. Um, yeah, no,
violence is not okay? What else? I saw? Another hand? Yes? Hi? Hi?
What's your name? Hi? What's your Where are you from?
New York? I don't know why I'm asking that. I

(01:00:30):
was actually really surprised we got an answer that wasn't
New York. I want to keep asking what's your question?
So one of the things I really love about the
podcast is that it's just as much an exploration of
your communication in your partnership as much as it is
about parenting and the fights and communication. Yeah. Um, And

(01:00:51):
something that I've thought a lot about us i've listened
is sometimes there's this dynamic of um, exploring a more
spirit full side to things and then also a more
or or like a less spiritual side of things. And
I think sometimes femininity is associated more with that spiritual side,
and then masculinity can be associated with the more Anyway,

(01:01:14):
I'm talking about this because I think sometimes when I listen,
I find my personal views more aligning with Peter's perspective.
And then my husband, he's right here, His views tend
to be more aligned with that more spiritual or theological peace,
and I just I don't know. Sometimes I find myself
grappling with is this about women and men or femininity

(01:01:37):
and masculinity or is it just about different perspectives and
ways of engaging? And I don't necessarily have a clear answer,
but I've definitely been thinking a lot about that when
I listened to the podcast. So what are your thoughts
on that? So? Yeah, if if you don't know, Beth
and I have had some epic fights that have ruined

(01:01:58):
knights and episodes. No, but our listeners love it. They
didn't ruin episodes of My Friends. Uh, that's an interesting question.
I mean, I think you just kind of laid it out,
which is that spirituality is not always a feminine treat
I think sometimes on the podcast we talk about that
stuff in broad strokes that I think we know does

(01:02:19):
not apply to everyone, but when some certain things tend
to feel more feminine, I bring that up in order
to illustrate the point of sort of why it gets
downplayed as a as a more feminine seeming thing. I
agree with her, do you have a specific because I'm

(01:02:43):
wondering what this even is. We have a lot of
debates on the podcast because I believe in like past
lives and psychics and different things that people like Peter
think our cuckoo and the data on that. Well, I'm
always like, yeah, that's great, cool, I totally accept that
you're different, but let's get into it. And he's like, well,

(01:03:06):
you can believe that, but it would be wrong. Um, yeah,
and I've shied away from that. But I think it
has also You're You're totally right that it has intertwined
itself also with some stereotypical gender dynamics in terms of
communications styles. But I don't think it's it's all like,
obviously women are all intuitive and and they believe in

(01:03:29):
spirituality and men are logical. But I'm curious with you guys,
what you're if you've had experiences with us in your
relationship or parenting, are you on the same page or
at different pages? Yeah, it just sounds like, yeah, whatever.
It sounds like I don't think that that has been
our specific issue. But we see opposite sides of things

(01:03:50):
a lot. So yeah, discipline, how to feed, I mean,
just sleeping, just like a lot of things that you
can approach them, like he's for sleeping and you don't
need it. He said to me last night. I don't
know how you're able to do what you do on
such a little sleep. And I don't know either. I'm
sure I'll crash and burn at some point, but so far,

(01:04:12):
so good. Some people need less sleep than others. It's
like a it's a scientific thing. It's science. Oh, now
you get to use something I was waiting for that. Hi.
What's your name? Susanne? Susan? Where are you from? Flushing? Great? Queens?
That's a little bit different. Great, what's your question? Um? So, Peter,

(01:04:33):
you're known for interrupting Beth a bit. What Sorry I
interrupted you, and as an improviser, like the core of
improv is to listen. Okay, However, Beth Hire no, just
looking at your relationship as an improv scene when you're

(01:04:53):
in a difficult moment. Yes, yes, and no it's no,
but right, No, But how about this? What a great question.
I'm gonna let you answer this first. Wait, so the
question is have I considered here we go? Sorry, the

(01:05:14):
question is has he considered what treating our relationship as
an improv theme. I can't answer that for you. Okay,
it's tough because this is a question for me. Well,
if you've ever come to see Trikes Saturday Night's at
the Magnet Theater at nine o'clock, you'll know that I

(01:05:35):
do a two man show for an hour. And so
instead of learning to listen, I've just created so much
space that I can't possibly talk the whole time. And
so I don't have to fix that problem. So it
has remained. And so I get listeners writing in to
tell me that I'm not listening, and then I feel shame.
I think I'll So Peter has thought about this as

(01:05:55):
an improv scene, because I think I have. One of
us has brought this up that it defies the logic
of improv to be interrupting, and and yes, and I
think I have explained because I think we've had similar
arguments to what you just described with the handwashing, where
I have told him, you know, I'm trying to get
this thing done and then you come in at the

(01:06:18):
last second and know me, and that's not an efficient
way to accomplish things if you just come out of
nowhere and are always trying to correct me like you
have to yes, and me sometimes if I'm trying to
get something done so that it can be gotten done
and um, so yes, I think we've talked about this.

(01:06:38):
I know that the thing that makes me a really
good improviser is also my big weakness, which is the
I live real close to my impulses, which is the
second I'm in a thing and you make a shape,
I'm like, oh, I'll tell you what that looks like,
your cowboy, This is great, we're here, that's fine. Yes,
And whenever you said, oh, that's awesome and this and
this and this, and that's what makes me good at improv.

(01:07:01):
But it's also my weakness is that I get nervous
and the blinders go up and I'm like, I'll do
it all myself. Why I can't do it improv with
with more than one person? This is a real victory.
I haven't talked over all of you the whole time. Yeah,
I mean you are aware of it. And I said
before the show, as we were on our way here,
I said, I'm just going to say this out loud, Peter.
When we do the show and we've prepared all these questions,

(01:07:23):
I get to ask some of them, and I get
to also run this podcast that I co host. What
did I say? And you said, I've been telling myself that,
I said, all day. Great, we have one more question
before we wrap this up. Hi, what's your name? I'm

(01:07:43):
Don and I'm from Connecticut. Wh What is your question?
So it's more of a challenge than a question. So
I am an O G fan of stuff you should know? Yes, Um,
and I have not listened to your podcast yet. Mine

(01:08:05):
you came to this taping, you didn't know what it
was both. Oh, you came to see Chuck. I assumed
that would be everybody, But yes, I came to sea Chuck.
But today and I haven't heard it yet because I've
been in Brooklyn all day. Um, Today's Stuff you should know?
Did a birth order podcast? I saw that I haven't
listened to yet, And I think you guys should listen
to it and then talk about it on your show.

(01:08:28):
That is a challenge do we expect the birth order?
Is interesting, you know because some people it's like, oh,
it's totally a thing, and some people say, like, it's
not a thing at all. What was the conclusion of
the po There is no conclusion. I mean, I think
it's totally a thing because I'm the youngest of three
and you can clearly see sort of, you know, things
that are true to the science of it. But isn't

(01:08:49):
that circumstantial if you have someone above you that's doing
well now? But I mean that's sort of the thing
is like, is it just self fulfilling or is like
their science do it? Or we all just you know, yeah, exactly.
I'll tell you I was big time nurture for a
long time, and I was like, I'm three of four boys.
That explains me. I needed to get attention. Blah blah blah.

(01:09:10):
But since I've had kids, in my mind, I'm like
that kid was that kid from the second kid, and
I was like, very little of what I've done. You
watch videos of brand when he's when he's one, just
like blah blah blah. It's exactly the same. He just
has words. Now, yeah, I'm the youngest of six and
I meet so many people, but there's the whole youngest thing.

(01:09:31):
I mean, there's like an oldest thing. There's a middle
child thing, obviously, but there's not a lot written about,
you know, the fourth or whatever. So it is like
these very strong benchmarks, right, It's like the middle child
is based on also usually groups of three, which I
just think is like weird and all that speaks to
me about like how families run. But what I have

(01:09:53):
to say about the youngest is that you do, you
do have the smallest voice, but you don't don't left
to cause my parents are sort of overparenting by that
point a lot of times. Yeah, right, you just get
more leeway. Right. My parents were way older and so
they were tired. So this is how I dealt with

(01:10:13):
it with my son, who will be on only I
had him old, so he'll always feel like the youngest child.
And with that, that's gonna wrap up. Listeners want to knows,
thank you guys so much. That has been our show.

(01:10:34):
Thank you so much for coming out. This has been fantastic.
That's gonna thanks huge chance to our special guests so Fear,
Eyes and Birds, Heavy crunch Field, and Chuck Bryant. Oh
my gosh, listen to the podcast, like, subscribe, you know
you know all on social media. All right, thank you

(01:10:56):
so much. Good night,

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