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Have you ever felt the sting of rejection and wondered if it could possibly serve a greater purpose in your personal journey? Let's embark on a heart-to-heart discussion as I, Steph, your Mojo Maven, reveal how those daunting "No's" can be the secret compass directing you towards something far better than you imagined. Together, we'll unwrap the layers of fear that often shroud rejection and discover how to dance with it instead of dodging it, turning what seems like setbacks into powerful pivots towards growth.
In our soul-stirring conversation, we'll redefine rejection, stripping it of its power to dictate our self-worth and instead, learning to see it as invaluable feedback. No guest needed in this episode, just real, raw stories and actionable insights that will equip you with the resilience to navigate life's redirections. By the end of our time together, you'll be celebrating your bravery and resilience, spotting the silver linings that make each challenge a stepping stone to radiance. So, join me and let's transform the narrative of rejection from a dreaded end to a promising beginning.
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Speaker 1 (00:05):
Welcome to your new favorite podcast Pocket Full of
Mojo, where you're you and I'mSteph, and we tune in here to
tap it to some mojo.
You see, I think I've crackedthe code to being happy.
I'm happy every single day, nojokes, maybe not all day, every
(00:27):
day, but I built a tool shedfull of amazing stuff to help me
out of and avoid getting intolife sticky and stressful
situations, and I'm not here togatekeep.
So settle in, take some notesand welcome to where your mojo
meets the road.
Each and every episode you hearis made with love and good
(00:50):
intention to share with you somedelicious nuggets of
inspiration and insights, withsome wit and wisdom to help you
stay connected to your very bestmojo.
In today's episode, I'm goingto review our mantra for the
week and take a look at a topicthat haunts most people pleasers
Rejection.
We're going to unpack what itis and learn how we can rebrand
(01:14):
rejection so it becomes a fiercetool in our toolbox as we
continue to deconstruct all thethings that are holding us back.
I know you've got a gazillionpodcasts to choose from, so I am
bursting with gratitude thatyou're here.
So you stick around now andI'll make sure you're glad you
did.
Let's get started with today'smantra and get tuned in, tapped
(01:38):
in and turned on.
Hello and welcome to the luckyseventh episode of Pocket Full
of Mojo.
I'm Steph, your hostess, andMojo Maven, and I'm so glad
you're here.
It's going to be a fantasticepisode, so let's get right to
(02:00):
it.
We're going to start by digginginto today's mantra, and it is
when I'm redirected, it'sbecause there's something better
for me.
Ah, yes, the one for all thecontrol freaks out there.
Can I get an amen?
Mm-hmm, when I'm redirected,it's because there's something
(02:22):
better waiting for me.
This one is fun because itplays with the idea that we are
co-creating our lives with aforce that's greater than us.
There's an element of trustthat's needed with this
particular mantra, and it callson us to trust not only
ourselves, but to trust what wedon't know.
Now that can be a big leap.
(02:43):
So we repeat when I amredirected, it's because there's
something better for me.
Being redirected means that itcan feel like we're off our path
.
This is where it comes in handyto give ourselves some grace.
We know a lot, but we don'tknow everything, and we don't
(03:03):
know what we don't know.
That's why pencils have erasers.
We make mistakes, but thoselead us to learning.
When I'm redirected, it'sbecause there's something better
for me.
This can apply to a detour intraffic that allows us to take a
scenic tour through a gorgeousneighborhood we've never seen
before, or that blind date thatdidn't show because little did
(03:27):
we know the next swipe wouldlead us to Mr or Mrs Right.
Trusting that there issomething better on its way is
like a calming serum that keepsour mindset in check.
When I am redirected, it'sbecause there's something better
for me.
Redirection, or even rejection,can signify that the universe
(03:49):
has a more aligned path waitingfor me, one that's better suited
for my growth and gets mecloser to my objective.
It's a gentle reminder to trustin the path, embrace the
detours and have faith that theuniverse is conspiring in my
favor, always leading me towardsa greater opportunity and more
(04:09):
blessings.
When I am redirected, it'sbecause there's something better
waiting for me.
As much as we try our best, wesometimes act out of alignment
with ourselves.
It happens.
I do it all the time.
Sometimes this redirection actsas a nudge for us to get back
(04:30):
on track and close that gapbetween where we are and where
we're going, and use thisredirection to get even closer
to our goals.
So, with practice, redirectioncan become a welcome event where
we use it to turbo, boost ourclarity and get back in touch
with our purpose.
When I am redirected it'sbecause there's always something
(04:54):
better waiting for me.
Now for our main topic.
Today we're diving deep intothe intricacies of rejection,
that not so welcome visitor onthe road to self-love and
self-awareness.
And let me guess you avoidrejection so hard that you even
(05:16):
debated listening to thisepisode, am I right?
Don't worry, it's okay.
We're going to flip the scripton rejection and unpack and
unlearn all the things aboutrejection that have been holding
us back Until now.
So grab a cup of your favoritebrew or something stronger, if
this topic is a bit triggeringfor you, and settle in, because
(05:38):
we're going to figure out whatare the hidden gems behind
rejection and how we cantransform rejection into
something that's actually useful.
That's right.
Today we're going to rebrandrejection.
Let's kick things off byputting all our cards on the
table.
We're going to shed some lighton the intricate dance, the
(05:58):
loop-de-loops, the full-onapricrobatics that we perform,
all just to avoid rejection.
If you're anything like I was,it's like a well-rehearsed
routine, steering clear of risks, staying within our comfort
zone and playing it safe,keeping the peace so busy
(06:18):
working and worrying about otherpeople that handling rejection
just isn't on the menu.
So we put on our cutest ostrichplumes and we put our head in
the sand to steer clear from allthat is rejection.
But here's the kicker All themagic happens above ground, my
friend, outside that cozy bubble, that place where we spend so
(06:39):
much energy avoiding.
And the slap after the kickeris that we end up getting in our
own way.
We're missing out onopportunities, growth and even
answers.
We're actually avoiding thechance to uncover our own true
potential and we want the magic.
So let's figure out how to slaythe rejection monster and get
(07:02):
what's ours.
Let's dig in and rise above.
So let's get started with sometips and tricks to beat
rejection at its own game.
The first thing to do is tostart by recognizing the
avoidance patterns.
The key here is to identifyareas where you tend to play it
safe and then take small stepsto challenge yourself to step
(07:23):
outside of that comfort zone.
That's all it can take.
For example, imagine you're anaspiring writer who dreams of
publishing your first novel.
However, deep down, you fearrejection from publishers or
negative feedback from yourreaders.
You haven't even told yourbestie that you're writing it
because you're scared of whatthey might think.
(07:44):
They may think you're crazy.
And then what?
No-transcript.
And so, as a result, youconstantly find excuses to delay
starting your writing journey.
You tell yourself you're toobusy and there's work, or that
you need more time to perfectyour ideas before putting pen to
paper, but in reality, theseexcuses are just a way for you
(08:05):
to avoid the possibility offacing rejection by
procrastinating and avoidingtaking action.
Your ego is trying to protectyou from potential
disappointment and hurt, andthat's what we tell ourselves
that comes with rejection.
But notice how I said might.
So, while you may feel safe inyour comfort zone, it's a lie.
(08:28):
The real tea is that you'realso missing out on the
opportunity to pursue yourpassion and share your stories
with the world, and the worldneeds to hear your story.
And that friend that you nevertold about your dream actually
maybe knows an amazing publisher.
But if we stay in that comfortzone, we'll never know what it
feels like to be a New YorkTimes bestseller Now will we?
(08:52):
So in this example, avoidance isused as a defense mechanism to
escape that potential, but notprobable rejection, and that
rejection is just as possible asyour success.
Don't forget that part.
Remember you've got choices.
You can take action byconfronting your fears head on,
(09:13):
by taking the necessary steps topursue your dreams no one's
going to stop you.
Or you can choose the path ofleast resistance.
However, when you do that,you're also limiting your growth
and your potential for success.
The next thing we want to do islean into your vulnerability.
You want me to what now?
(09:34):
Line up to spend time in themost uncomfortable space that
there is and be exposed and riskbeing rejected or misunderstood
or ridiculed?
Or yeah, I do.
Yeah, that's exactly what Iwant you to do, because you know
why.
These are gold mines full oflearnings, and when we choose to
(09:54):
act with vulnerability, I wantyou to understand that
vulnerability is not a weakness,it's a bridge.
When you're genuine, so are theconnections that you make.
So what if people you're closestto don't get the point?
That's okay, you'll live, Ipromise, and despite what our
inner saboteur is going to tellus, we will not shatter into a
(10:18):
million pieces, never to be thesame again, mm-mm.
We're going to be stronger,more informed and, trust me,
what they don't tell you is thatvulnerability takes strength,
and I don't need to tell youthat.
You're already strong, myfriend.
You have everything you need tomake it to the other side of
(10:38):
rejection and you'll come outstronger and more powerful, with
more insight that will get youwhere you want to go.
Now we're going to take a ridetogether on the rejection roller
coaster.
Ah, rejection, the twisty turnyride that leaves us feeling
queasy.
But what if we could reframerejection and look at it as more
(11:01):
of a guide rather than astumbling block or an obstacle?
Let's look into how we handlerejection and the impact that it
has on our mindset.
So for the tips and tricks,part d, the first thing we want
to do is separate our self-worthfrom rejection.
Now you've got to understandthat rejection is an event, not
(11:22):
a definition of your worth.
Separating self-worth fromrejection is a really important
aspect of keeping a healthymindset and resilience in the
face of setbacks.
It involves recognizing thatrejection is not a reflection of
your inherent value or worth asa person.
Instead, it's simply a part oflife.
(11:44):
It happens to everybody Atemporary setback or redirection
while you're on your way toyour goals and your dreams.
Once again, it happens everyday, everywhere, to everyone,
and we all survive.
Here's a few reasons why it'sso important to separate your
self-worth from rejection.
(12:04):
Number one rejection issubjective.
Rejection is often based onsubjective criteria.
It's influenced by personalpreferences, opinions, moods,
circumstances so many variables.
Just because a person or even awhole organization rejects you,
it doesn't mean that you lacktalent or skill or worth.
(12:26):
It simply means that youweren't the right fit for that
particular situation oropportunity at that specific
time.
The next piece you need toremember is that everyone faces
rejection.
Rejection is a universalexperience.
You are special, my friend, butyour experience is not unique.
Even the most successfulindividuals have found rejection
(12:48):
at some point in their lives.
Sorry, maybe even more so thesuccessful people.
It's a natural part of thehuman experience and it really
doesn't take away your value asa person.
Your worth is inherent.
Your worth as a person does notdepend on the external
validation of other people.
You don't need their approval.
(13:09):
It's inherent, it'sunconditional.
You are worthy and whether ornot someone rejects you or
accepts you, your worth remainsconstant.
Understanding this and reallyknowing this like in your bones,
it can help maintain a sense ofself-confidence, self-assurance
, regardless of what they say onthe outside.
(13:33):
Rejection does not define you.
Why would you give it any kindof power?
It's essential to remember thatrejection is just one small
part of your story.
It doesn't define you ordictate your future.
It's just an ingredient in thesoup.
How you respond to rejectionand the lessons you learn from
(13:53):
it are what really matter, andthat'll be part of your secret
sauce.
By separating your self-worthfrom rejection, you empower
yourself to bounce back strongerand continue to chase after
those goals with resilience anddetermination.
Now, that sounds more like thesuper you that you are Not the
one who lets growth pass them by.
(14:15):
When we focus on growth andlearning, we can hold back from
seeing rejection as a personalfailure and instead see it as an
opportunity for growth andlearning.
When you use rejection asfeedback and not as a terminal
diagnosis, it's easier to accessareas for improvement and
refine your approach.
(14:35):
We are all learning, darling.
Every single one of us ismaking this up as we go along,
so that helps us to rememberthat each rejection can possibly
bring some valuable insightsand aha moments that can help
you evolve and progress.
But you got to keep your eyesopen, you got to be ready to
learn, and then you'll be onyour way to your biggest and
(14:59):
most beautiful goals.
Bottom line, sis, is thatseparating your super sexy
self-worth from rejection is allabout recognizing your value as
a human being, no matter whatthe outside world says.
We're all here to learneverything that we can.
We are here to get better everydamn day, and we want to
(15:19):
extract the lessons and theinsights from rejection so that
we can fuel our personal growth,or professional growth or
relationship growth, becausewhere attention goes, energy
flows.
So, if you're still with me,there's still a bit of mystery
around rejection.
So let's unravel that a bit,shall we?
Because what is it reallyRejection?
(15:41):
Well, spoiler alert, it's notthe end of the world.
Hmm, contrary to what I used tothink, rejection it's simply a
redirection, a cosmic nudgesteering you towards a better
path.
It's a message saying, hey,this is not your destination.
There's something greaterwaiting for you.
So if we embrace the idea thatrejection is redirection, this
(16:05):
simple yet effective shift inyour mindset will help you to
view rejection as a guide ratherthan a roadblock.
Remember, you don't necessarilychoose the rejection, but you
choose how you respond to it,what you do with it.
Instead of fearing it, let'swelcome it with open arms and
(16:26):
see where it can take us.
And when we focus on the biggerpicture, we need to understand
that rejection is the detour.
It's leading you to a morefulfilling destination.
Maybe that's why it doesn'tfeel so good right away.
Now I'm not here to invalidateyour feelings.
Rejection can come with a sting.
Our egos take particularexception to rejection of any
(16:49):
form, and the more we link ourself-worth to the acceptance of
the immediate environment aroundus, the more it can kick us off
our path.
So give yourself some grace,take a beat, feel the sting and
acknowledge that it's a signthat this is the moment you
choose to learn the lesson.
This alone will help you getyour head to a place where you
(17:11):
can zoom out for a minute, seethe bigger picture, take a
breath and allow space in yourhead and in your heart to maybe
see a new path ahead.
Now we're almost ready tonavigate rejection like a pro,
so let's get down to thenitty-gritty.
How do we navigate rejectionlike seasoned pros?
It's all about foresight,resilience and a dash of mojo,
(17:34):
mastery.
Buckle up, because we're aboutto equip you with the tools to
make rejection a springboard tosuccess.
Three quick things you can do tohelp embrace rejection.
The first give yourselfpermission to shift your mindset
.
Instead of viewing rejection asa setback, see it as an
opportunity for growth.
(17:54):
Every rejection is a chance tolearn, adapt and become a little
stronger, get a little better.
Number two celebrate yourcourage.
It takes courage to putyourself out there and even risk
rejection.
So if you've been rejected,celebrate it.
It means that you were braveand you're still here, so you're
(18:15):
resilient, regardless of theoutcome, you gain something in
the process.
And the third thing you can dois find the silver lining.
This is one of my superpowers.
So even in the face ofrejection, there is always a
silver lining.
Look for the lessons, look forthe opportunity and the new
paths that rejection can open upfor you.
(18:37):
They're there.
You just got to look.
So, to go from rejected toradiant, we're going to explore
how rejection can transform usinto a radiant being.
When we approach rejection withan open heart and a growth
mindset, we can emerge stronger,wiser and more resilient than
before.
Now, the two key things you needto walk away with as you're
(19:00):
tackling this rejection monsteris to, first of all, celebrate
your journey, really acknowledgeyour progress as you go through
and celebrate the lessons thatyou've learned from rejection.
Celebrate your ability to stepaway from the pain and really be
able to observe the situationunemotionally, to glean all the
(19:20):
good stuff that can come fromthat kind of feedback.
And the next thing you need todo is cultivate that self-love.
Keep watering that garden.
Lean into the rejection as apart of your journey and love
yourself through every twist andturn.
Look how strong you are.
So, as we come to the end oftoday's main topic, let's take a
(19:41):
moment to reflect on the powerof rejection to shape our lives
and transform us into theradiant beings that we are,
because each rejection is reallya stepping stone.
It's a lesson, it's anopportunity.
It's there for us to grow.
So let's embrace our uniquepaths.
Nobody else is you and nobodyelse is me.
(20:02):
So we're going to celebrate ourresilience.
We're going to keep shiningbright as we navigate all the
twists and turns that life has.
They're going to happen.
Challenges will find us, butnow we can face our fears, flip
the script and take rejectionhead on, because what do we know
?
We know we're going to be okay,we know we're going to be
better and we know we're goingto be stronger on the other side
(20:25):
.
And with that I'm going toleave you to go take on the
world.
But be sure to tune into thenext episode, where we're going
to turn all this fierce energyinto fearless self-expression,
tapping into what makes you youand challenging the confidence
and audacity to share it withthe world.
But until next time, stayawesome, stay mindful, stay
(20:47):
fabulous and keep shining bright.
So with that, I definitely wishyou a magical day Peace, love
and mojo.
Toodle-oo kangaroo Mwah.
Welcome to your new favorite podcast Pocket Full of
Mojo, where you're you and I'mSteph, and we tune in here to
tap it to some mojo.
You see, I think I've crackedthe code to being happy.
I'm happy every single day, nojokes, maybe not all day, every
(00:27):
day, but I built a tool shedfull of amazing stuff to help me
out of and avoid getting intolife sticky and stressful
situations, and I'm not here togatekeep.
So settle in, take some notesand welcome to where your mojo
meets the road.
Each and every episode you hearis made with love and good
(00:50):
intention to share with you somedelicious nuggets of
inspiration and insights, withsome wit and wisdom to help you
stay connected to your very bestmojo.
In today's episode, I'm goingto review our mantra for the
week and take a look at a topicthat haunts most people pleasers
Rejection.
We're going to unpack what itis and learn how we can rebrand
(01:14):
rejection so it becomes a fiercetool in our toolbox as we
continue to deconstruct all thethings that are holding us back.
I know you've got a gazillionpodcasts to choose from, so I am
bursting with gratitude thatyou're here.
So you stick around now andI'll make sure you're glad you
did.
Let's get started with today'smantra and get tuned in, tapped
(01:38):
in and turned on.
Hello and welcome to the luckyseventh episode of Pocket Full
of Mojo.
I'm Steph, your hostess, andMojo Maven, and I'm so glad
you're here.
It's going to be a fantasticepisode, so let's get right to
(02:00):
it.
We're going to start by digginginto today's mantra, and it is
when I'm redirected, it'sbecause there's something better
for me.
Ah, yes, the one for all thecontrol freaks out there.
Can I get an amen?
Mm-hmm, when I'm redirected,it's because there's something
(02:22):
better waiting for me.
This one is fun because itplays with the idea that we are
co-creating our lives with aforce that's greater than us.
There's an element of trustthat's needed with this
particular mantra, and it callson us to trust not only
ourselves, but to trust what wedon't know.
Now that can be a big leap.
(02:43):
So we repeat when I amredirected, it's because there's
something better for me.
Being redirected means that itcan feel like we're off our path
.
This is where it comes in handyto give ourselves some grace.
We know a lot, but we don'tknow everything, and we don't
(03:03):
know what we don't know.
That's why pencils have erasers.
We make mistakes, but thoselead us to learning.
When I'm redirected, it'sbecause there's something better
for me.
This can apply to a detour intraffic that allows us to take a
scenic tour through a gorgeousneighborhood we've never seen
before, or that blind date thatdidn't show because little did
(03:27):
we know the next swipe wouldlead us to Mr or Mrs Right.
Trusting that there issomething better on its way is
like a calming serum that keepsour mindset in check.
When I am redirected, it'sbecause there's something better
for me.
Redirection, or even rejection,can signify that the universe
(03:49):
has a more aligned path waitingfor me, one that's better suited
for my growth and gets mecloser to my objective.
It's a gentle reminder to trustin the path, embrace the
detours and have faith that theuniverse is conspiring in my
favor, always leading me towardsa greater opportunity and more
(04:09):
blessings.
When I am redirected, it'sbecause there's something better
waiting for me.
As much as we try our best, wesometimes act out of alignment
with ourselves.
It happens.
I do it all the time.
Sometimes this redirection actsas a nudge for us to get back
(04:30):
on track and close that gapbetween where we are and where
we're going, and use thisredirection to get even closer
to our goals.
So, with practice, redirectioncan become a welcome event where
we use it to turbo, boost ourclarity and get back in touch
with our purpose.
When I am redirected it'sbecause there's always something
(04:54):
better waiting for me.
Now for our main topic.
Today we're diving deep intothe intricacies of rejection,
that not so welcome visitor onthe road to self-love and
self-awareness.
And let me guess you avoidrejection so hard that you even
(05:16):
debated listening to thisepisode, am I right?
Don't worry, it's okay.
We're going to flip the scripton rejection and unpack and
unlearn all the things aboutrejection that have been holding
us back Until now.
So grab a cup of your favoritebrew or something stronger, if
this topic is a bit triggeringfor you, and settle in, because
(05:38):
we're going to figure out whatare the hidden gems behind
rejection and how we cantransform rejection into
something that's actually useful.
That's right.
Today we're going to rebrandrejection.
Let's kick things off byputting all our cards on the
table.
We're going to shed some lighton the intricate dance, the
(05:58):
loop-de-loops, the full-onapricrobatics that we perform,
all just to avoid rejection.
If you're anything like I was,it's like a well-rehearsed
routine, steering clear of risks, staying within our comfort
zone and playing it safe,keeping the peace so busy
(06:18):
working and worrying about otherpeople that handling rejection
just isn't on the menu.
So we put on our cutest ostrichplumes and we put our head in
the sand to steer clear from allthat is rejection.
But here's the kicker All themagic happens above ground, my
friend, outside that cozy bubble, that place where we spend so
(06:39):
much energy avoiding.
And the slap after the kickeris that we end up getting in our
own way.
We're missing out onopportunities, growth and even
answers.
We're actually avoiding thechance to uncover our own true
potential and we want the magic.
So let's figure out how to slaythe rejection monster and get
(07:02):
what's ours.
Let's dig in and rise above.
So let's get started with sometips and tricks to beat
rejection at its own game.
The first thing to do is tostart by recognizing the
avoidance patterns.
The key here is to identifyareas where you tend to play it
safe and then take small stepsto challenge yourself to step
(07:23):
outside of that comfort zone.
That's all it can take.
For example, imagine you're anaspiring writer who dreams of
publishing your first novel.
However, deep down, you fearrejection from publishers or
negative feedback from yourreaders.
You haven't even told yourbestie that you're writing it
because you're scared of whatthey might think.
(07:44):
They may think you're crazy.
And then what?
No-transcript.
And so, as a result, youconstantly find excuses to delay
starting your writing journey.
You tell yourself you're toobusy and there's work, or that
you need more time to perfectyour ideas before putting pen to
paper, but in reality, theseexcuses are just a way for you
(08:05):
to avoid the possibility offacing rejection by
procrastinating and avoidingtaking action.
Your ego is trying to protectyou from potential
disappointment and hurt, andthat's what we tell ourselves
that comes with rejection.
But notice how I said might.
So, while you may feel safe inyour comfort zone, it's a lie.
(08:28):
The real tea is that you'realso missing out on the
opportunity to pursue yourpassion and share your stories
with the world, and the worldneeds to hear your story.
And that friend that you nevertold about your dream actually
maybe knows an amazing publisher.
But if we stay in that comfortzone, we'll never know what it
feels like to be a New YorkTimes bestseller Now will we?
(08:52):
So in this example, avoidance isused as a defense mechanism to
escape that potential, but notprobable rejection, and that
rejection is just as possible asyour success.
Don't forget that part.
Remember you've got choices.
You can take action byconfronting your fears head on,
(09:13):
by taking the necessary steps topursue your dreams no one's
going to stop you.
Or you can choose the path ofleast resistance.
However, when you do that,you're also limiting your growth
and your potential for success.
The next thing we want to do islean into your vulnerability.
You want me to what now?
(09:34):
Line up to spend time in themost uncomfortable space that
there is and be exposed and riskbeing rejected or misunderstood
or ridiculed?
Or yeah, I do.
Yeah, that's exactly what Iwant you to do, because you know
why.
These are gold mines full oflearnings, and when we choose to
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act with vulnerability, I wantyou to understand that
vulnerability is not a weakness,it's a bridge.
When you're genuine, so are theconnections that you make.
So what if people you're closestto don't get the point?
That's okay, you'll live, Ipromise, and despite what our
inner saboteur is going to tellus, we will not shatter into a
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million pieces, never to be thesame again, mm-mm.
We're going to be stronger,more informed and, trust me,
what they don't tell you is thatvulnerability takes strength,
and I don't need to tell youthat.
You're already strong, myfriend.
You have everything you need tomake it to the other side of
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rejection and you'll come outstronger and more powerful, with
more insight that will get youwhere you want to go.
Now we're going to take a ridetogether on the rejection roller
coaster.
Ah, rejection, the twisty turnyride that leaves us feeling
queasy.
But what if we could reframerejection and look at it as more
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of a guide rather than astumbling block or an obstacle?
Let's look into how we handlerejection and the impact that it
has on our mindset.
So for the tips and tricks,part d, the first thing we want
to do is separate our self-worthfrom rejection.
Now you've got to understandthat rejection is an event, not
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a definition of your worth.
Separating self-worth fromrejection is a really important
aspect of keeping a healthymindset and resilience in the
face of setbacks.
It involves recognizing thatrejection is not a reflection of
your inherent value or worth asa person.
Instead, it's simply a part oflife.
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It happens to everybody Atemporary setback or redirection
while you're on your way toyour goals and your dreams.
Once again, it happens everyday, everywhere, to everyone,
and we all survive.
Here's a few reasons why it'sso important to separate your
self-worth from rejection.
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Number one rejection issubjective.
Rejection is often based onsubjective criteria.
It's influenced by personalpreferences, opinions, moods,
circumstances so many variables.
Just because a person or even awhole organization rejects you,
it doesn't mean that you lacktalent or skill or worth.
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It simply means that youweren't the right fit for that
particular situation oropportunity at that specific
time.
The next piece you need toremember is that everyone faces
rejection.
Rejection is a universalexperience.
You are special, my friend, butyour experience is not unique.
Even the most successfulindividuals have found rejection
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at some point in their lives.
Sorry, maybe even more so thesuccessful people.
It's a natural part of thehuman experience and it really
doesn't take away your value asa person.
Your worth is inherent.
Your worth as a person does notdepend on the external
validation of other people.
You don't need their approval.
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It's inherent, it'sunconditional.
You are worthy and whether ornot someone rejects you or
accepts you, your worth remainsconstant.
Understanding this and reallyknowing this like in your bones,
it can help maintain a sense ofself-confidence, self-assurance
, regardless of what they say onthe outside.
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Rejection does not define you.
Why would you give it any kindof power?
It's essential to remember thatrejection is just one small
part of your story.
It doesn't define you ordictate your future.
It's just an ingredient in thesoup.
How you respond to rejectionand the lessons you learn from
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it are what really matter, andthat'll be part of your secret
sauce.
By separating your self-worthfrom rejection, you empower
yourself to bounce back strongerand continue to chase after
those goals with resilience anddetermination.
Now, that sounds more like thesuper you that you are Not the
one who lets growth pass them by.
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When we focus on growth andlearning, we can hold back from
seeing rejection as a personalfailure and instead see it as an
opportunity for growth andlearning.
When you use rejection asfeedback and not as a terminal
diagnosis, it's easier to accessareas for improvement and
refine your approach.
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We are all learning, darling.
Every single one of us ismaking this up as we go along,
so that helps us to rememberthat each rejection can possibly
bring some valuable insightsand aha moments that can help
you evolve and progress.
But you got to keep your eyesopen, you got to be ready to
learn, and then you'll be onyour way to your biggest and
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most beautiful goals.
Bottom line, sis, is thatseparating your super sexy
self-worth from rejection is allabout recognizing your value as
a human being, no matter whatthe outside world says.
We're all here to learneverything that we can.
We are here to get better everydamn day, and we want to
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extract the lessons and theinsights from rejection so that
we can fuel our personal growth,or professional growth or
relationship growth, becausewhere attention goes, energy
flows.
So, if you're still with me,there's still a bit of mystery
around rejection.
So let's unravel that a bit,shall we?
Because what is it reallyRejection?
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Well, spoiler alert, it's notthe end of the world.
Hmm, contrary to what I used tothink, rejection it's simply a
redirection, a cosmic nudgesteering you towards a better
path.
It's a message saying, hey,this is not your destination.
There's something greaterwaiting for you.
So if we embrace the idea thatrejection is redirection, this
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simple yet effective shift inyour mindset will help you to
view rejection as a guide ratherthan a roadblock.
Remember, you don't necessarilychoose the rejection, but you
choose how you respond to it,what you do with it.
Instead of fearing it, let'swelcome it with open arms and
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see where it can take us.
And when we focus on the biggerpicture, we need to understand
that rejection is the detour.
It's leading you to a morefulfilling destination.
Maybe that's why it doesn'tfeel so good right away.
Now I'm not here to invalidateyour feelings.
Rejection can come with a sting.
Our egos take particularexception to rejection of any
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form, and the more we link ourself-worth to the acceptance of
the immediate environment aroundus, the more it can kick us off
our path.
So give yourself some grace,take a beat, feel the sting and
acknowledge that it's a signthat this is the moment you
choose to learn the lesson.
This alone will help you getyour head to a place where you
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can zoom out for a minute, seethe bigger picture, take a
breath and allow space in yourhead and in your heart to maybe
see a new path ahead.
Now we're almost ready tonavigate rejection like a pro,
so let's get down to thenitty-gritty.
How do we navigate rejectionlike seasoned pros?
It's all about foresight,resilience and a dash of mojo,
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mastery.
Buckle up, because we're aboutto equip you with the tools to
make rejection a springboard tosuccess.
Three quick things you can do tohelp embrace rejection.
The first give yourselfpermission to shift your mindset
.
Instead of viewing rejection asa setback, see it as an
opportunity for growth.
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Every rejection is a chance tolearn, adapt and become a little
stronger, get a little better.
Number two celebrate yourcourage.
It takes courage to putyourself out there and even risk
rejection.
So if you've been rejected,celebrate it.
It means that you were braveand you're still here, so you're
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resilient, regardless of theoutcome, you gain something in
the process.
And the third thing you can dois find the silver lining.
This is one of my superpowers.
So even in the face ofrejection, there is always a
silver lining.
Look for the lessons, look forthe opportunity and the new
paths that rejection can open upfor you.
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They're there.
You just got to look.
So, to go from rejected toradiant, we're going to explore
how rejection can transform usinto a radiant being.
When we approach rejection withan open heart and a growth
mindset, we can emerge stronger,wiser and more resilient than
before.
Now, the two key things you needto walk away with as you're
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tackling this rejection monsteris to, first of all, celebrate
your journey, really acknowledgeyour progress as you go through
and celebrate the lessons thatyou've learned from rejection.
Celebrate your ability to stepaway from the pain and really be
able to observe the situationunemotionally, to glean all the
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good stuff that can come fromthat kind of feedback.
And the next thing you need todo is cultivate that self-love.
Keep watering that garden.
Lean into the rejection as apart of your journey and love
yourself through every twist andturn.
Look how strong you are.
So, as we come to the end oftoday's main topic, let's take a
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moment to reflect on the powerof rejection to shape our lives
and transform us into theradiant beings that we are,
because each rejection is reallya stepping stone.
It's a lesson, it's anopportunity.
It's there for us to grow.
So let's embrace our uniquepaths.
Nobody else is you and nobodyelse is me.
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So we're going to celebrate ourresilience.
We're going to keep shiningbright as we navigate all the
twists and turns that life has.
They're going to happen.
Challenges will find us, butnow we can face our fears, flip
the script and take rejectionhead on, because what do we know
?
We know we're going to be okay,we know we're going to be
better and we know we're goingto be stronger on the other side
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.
And with that I'm going toleave you to go take on the
world.
But be sure to tune into thenext episode, where we're going
to turn all this fierce energyinto fearless self-expression,
tapping into what makes you youand challenging the confidence
and audacity to share it withthe world.
But until next time, stayawesome, stay mindful, stay
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fabulous and keep shining bright.
So with that, I definitely wishyou a magical day Peace, love
and mojo.
Toodle-oo kangaroo Mwah.
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