PolySoCal

In this episode of PolySoCal, the panel explores one of the hardest realities in ethical non monogamy: endings. When relationships become deeply interconnected, breakups can affect far more than just two people. The conversation examines how polyamorous relationships end, how emotional fallout spreads through a polycule, and how communication, maturity, and self awareness can help people navigate painful transitions. Through person...

Everyone talks about commitment in relationships, but what does it actually mean when you have more than one? Is it implied or does it have to be stated out loud? Can you even cheat in a poly relationship? This episode the PolySoCal roundtable takes on one of the most misunderstood assumptions about ethical non-monogamy — that having multiple partners means having no structure at all. Noah breaks down commitment as negotiatio...

In this deeply personal episode of PolySoCal, Noah and Cookie share the story of how they transitioned from long term monogamous marriages into a polyamorous BDSM relationship. The conversation explores repression, incompatibility, fear, guilt, cheating, divorce, and the difficult process of rebuilding a life around authenticity rather than obligation. Through honest reflection, the group discusses the emotional and practical reali...

 Most poly families are one crisis away from a legal nightmare — and they don't know it. In this episode, Alonzo sits down with attorney Toby Adams, who has spent 14 years specializing in family law and estate planning exclusively for poly, queer, kink, and neurodiverse communities. Toby breaks down what rights actually exist for poly parents in California and beyond, how to get all three parents on a birth certificate, ...

In this episode, PolySoCal brings in an East Coast triad to explore the intersection of polyamory and kink. The conversation dives into whether poly is inherently kinky, how BDSM frameworks influence communication and structure, and where emotional relationships differ from play or connection. Through real experiences, the group breaks down the overlap, the misconceptions, and the realities of building relationships rooted in hones...

In this roundtable episode of PolySoCal, the group takes an honest look at the harder side of polyamory. While the community often celebrates the freedom and connection that poly relationships can bring, the panel digs into the realities that come with it. Jealousy, insecurity, heartbreak, communication struggles, and the emotional work required to maintain multiple relationships are all part of the conversation. Through personal s...

In this episode of PolySoCal, the panel explores a deceptively simple question: can people move in and out of poly relationships and communities, or does belonging create deeper responsibilities? The conversation looks at how connection, identity, and commitment intersect in non monogamous spaces. Panelists share personal experiences about stepping away from relationships, returning to community, and navigating the tension between ...

In this episode, PolySoCal welcomes back Dr. Joli Hamilton for a deeper conversation about love languages, attachment needs, and how people experience connection in relationships. The discussion explores the limitations of rigid love language categories and how emotional needs shift based on context, life experience, and personal growth. Through personal stories and expert insight, the panel examines how curiosity, communication, a...

In this episode, the PolySoCal panel takes a focused look at three emotions central to polyamorous relationships: compersion, envy, and jealousy. The conversation explores how these feelings differ, how they often overlap, and how timing, communication, and emotional awareness shape the way they impact relationships.

Through personal experiences, the group examines how jealousy can signal unmet needs, how envy can arise from exclusi...

 In this deep dive episode, Max shares his personal journey through submission, identity, and self discovery. He speaks openly about his experience with hypnosis, kink, and emotional connection, explaining how submission is not about weakness, but about trust, consent, and mutual respect. The conversation explores demisexuality, the importance of emotional rapport, and how personal growth often comes from confronting uncertain...

In this episode, PolySoCal welcomes Kevin Anthony (Certified Sexologist, Tantra Counselor, NLP Practitioner, and host of The Love Lab Podcast) for an open, practical conversation about intimacy, communication, and emotional connection.

Kevin breaks down common challenges like performance anxiety, delayed orgasm, finishing too quickly, and how porn conditioning impacts real relationships. The panel shares personal experiences while K...

In this deep dive episode, PolySoCal welcomes back Dr. Deborah Lukovich for a wide-ranging conversation about dreams, desire, projection, and the unconscious forces shaping our relationships.

Dr. Lukovich explores how dream imagery, sexual symbolism, and recurring emotional patterns act as data points from the psyche rather than literal messages. Through personal stories and live analysis, the discussion reframes attraction, fear, f...

In this episode, PolySoCal welcomes Brianna Bass, therapist and board certified clinical sexologist, for a deep, practical conversation about burnout, intimacy, nervous system regulation, and how relationship patterns show up under stress. Brianna shares insight from her neuroscience based approach, helping the panel unpack pursuer withdraw dynamics, emotional fatigue, boundaries, and how partners can become either energy drains or...

In this episode, PolySoCal returns for a deeper, more personal conversation with Dr. Joli Hamilton, exploring individuation, depth psychology, meaning making, and how these concepts intersect with polyamory and modern relationships.

Dr. Joli unpacks what individuation really means, how unconscious material shapes our choices, and why polyamory can function as an individuation path rather than simply a relationship structure. The dis...

In this episode, PolySoCal welcomes Dr. Joli Hamilton, a depth psychologist, relationship coach, and AASECT - certified sex educator whose doctoral research focuses on jealousy and consensual non monogamy. The panel explores what jealousy actually is, how it shows up in the body, and why the healthiest long-term approach is not suppression or immediate reframing, but naming it, understanding its “flavor,” and building t...

In this episode of PolySoCal, the panel is joined by Dr. Deborah Lukovich, depth psychology coach, author, and host of the Dose of Depth podcast. The conversation explores depth psychology, the unconscious, midlife unraveling, projection, shadow work, sexuality, spirituality, and how these concepts show up in relationships, including ethical non monogamy.

Through listener questions and real-life reflections, Dr. Lukovich explains ho...

In this episode, the PolySoCal panel explores a big question: Is ethical non monogamy on the rise, and could it actually change the world? The conversation looks at cultural shifts, generational differences, accessibility through the internet, and how acceptance varies by geography and social environment.

Panelists discuss whether ENM is becoming more visible versus truly more common, how younger generations approach relationships d...

In this episode, the PolySoCal panel explores the difference between structured time and unstructured time in polyamorous relationships, and why both matter. The conversation digs into intentionality, spontaneity, coexisting versus connecting, and how different kinds of time can fill different emotional needs.

Through personal examples involving dating, cohabitation, errands, house swaps, and day-to-day life, the group examines how ...

In this episode of PolySoCal, we welcome relationship expert Jim Fleckenstein for an in-depth conversation on emotional intelligence, jealousy, conflict resolution, and communication within polyamorous and non-traditional relationships.

Rather than a roundtable of shared experiences, this episode centers on thoughtful questions from the panel and practical, experience-based insight from Jim. Topics include managing emotional reactio...