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March 23, 2021 39 min

“Life’s too short to not go after the things that make us truly happy.” 
Men’s coach, Joe Bernstein, discusses the concrete benefits of authentic and vulnerable living. We also cover why you should embrace the “Jesus Age”, how to live with an open heart, and why playing it safe will ensure an unfulfilled life. 

Episode 231, March 23, 2021 


  • (1:40) How do you become aware of what armor you are wearing? 
  • (2:00) How armor blocks our emotions and numbs sensitivities. 
  • (6:20) What are the distinct benefits to dropping our armor? 
  • (6:35) How to take responsibility without shaming and blaming ourselves? 
  • (8:00) Why are so many men unhappy and unexcited by life? 
  • (10:45) Is vulnerability an under-utilized superpower? 
  • (14:00) “Only the bravest of people can be vulnerable, it’s the opposite of weakness” - Andy. 
  • (15:40) Why the biggest changes often begin with making small choices differently. 
  • (16:00) What is the “Jesus Age” and how can you use it to your advantage? 
  • (17:10) Why it’s easier to transform your life in your 20s and 30s. 
  • (17:30) “Get a clear head, open heart, and solid gut… and align those three” - Joe Bernstein. 
  • (20:30) Why do so many men have a distorted view of masculinity? 
  • (25:10) “The definition of masculinity that matters is yours - no matter what - and you can always change it” - Andy. 
  • (25:35) Why wanting to change doesn’t mean there’s anything wrong with the present. 
  • (25:50) How to move from being a consumer to a creator. 
  • (27:30) “If your life had no obstacles, you wouldn’t be here, there’d be no point” - Andy. 
  • (28:00) How Joe has used pain and grief to gain a greater understanding of joy. 
  • (31:45) What is an open-hearted badass? 
  • (33:30) Why playing it safe will ensure an unfulfilled life. 
  • (37:00) “You want to be around other people who are committed to choosing love over fear, courage over comfort” - Joe Bernstein. 
  • Connect with Andy and the Real Men Feel Podcast: 
    Instagram | @realmenfeelshow & @andy_grant 
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    Podcast Website | for all things podcast related! 
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    Connect with Joe Bernstein:
    Drop the Armor Dojo | 
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    Instagram | @dropthearmorjoe 
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