Therapy, Coaching & Dreams
Therapy, Coaching & Dreams is cohosted by Dr. Jim Shalley and Dr. Selden Dee Kelley III, a therapist and a coach who love talking about how inner work can help you live with more awareness, purpose and freedom.
Episodes
We talk through why couples get trapped in the same arguments and how the real issue is often the unresolved dynamic underneath the topic. We share practical ways to separate validation from agreement, navigate competing anxieties, and make small behavior shifts that change both relationships and mood.
• recurring couple conflict around finances, parenting, division of labor, intimacy
• communication...
We explore why symbols matter in dreams, therapy, and everyday life, and why the same image can carry wildly different meanings depending on your story and culture. We walk through practical ways to ask better questions so symbols become tools for insight instead of shortcuts to certainty.
• symbols as more than literal objects
• collective meanings vs personal meanings
• logos, brands, an...
A terrifying dream. A stranger at the door. A jolt of fear so sharp it lingers into daylight and forces a question most of us avoid: what if my dreams are trying to tell me something real? We share a special reading from Dee Kelley’s book, Dreamwork, It’s Not That Complicated, starting with an invitation into dreamwork that begins with one unsettling night and the decision not to shut the whole system do...
We share two real dreams and use them to explore how personality, grief, and spiritual growth show up in the images our minds create at night. We leave with a grounded way to experiment with new rhythms while still honoring responsibility and relationships.
• a short dream about a deceased mother as a symbol of caretaking, tradition, and faith-based wisdom
• noticing “weakness” as a cue...
We unpack what the shadow side really means and why it often shows up through big emotions, relationship conflict, and projection. We also explore how dreams can deliver shadow material at a pace we can handle, so curiosity replaces fear and growth becomes possible.
• defining the shadow side as denied or unrecognized parts of self
• why “denial” is not always conscious and how triggers...
Dreams aren’t just strange stories your brain invents at night. They can be a practical pathway to self-awareness, emotional regulation, and real change, especially when you learn how to work with them. Dee Kelley and Jim Shalley, a coach and a therapist, share a grounded approach to dream work built on clear principles you can actually use.
We start by laying out ten principles that guide healthy...
We talk through why people feel emotionally, relationally, and vocationally stuck even after making major life changes. We unpack the difference between external bold moves and internal bold moves, and how dreams and self-awareness can help us live with more authenticity.
• defining “bold moves” for static and dynamic personalities
• why changing the environment can still ...
A nightmare can ruin your sleep, but it can also tell the truth faster than your daytime mind ever will. We take dream interpretation out of the mystical zone and into practical therapy and coaching. When you wake up with panic, shame, or dread, don’t fixate on the knife, the prison, or the faceless stranger. Instead, ask the growth question: what part of me is trying to get my attention right now?
We c...
We start with the hard question a lot of people quietly ask: why do the work when it takes so much effort? Our answer is simple and uncomfortable. Your way of living works until it doesn’t, and when it stops working at home, at work, or in your own inner life, you either “own your stuff” or you keep paying the same price. We also talk about the sneaky roadblock that shows up when things are going w...
We start with a listener question about how meds can affect REM sleep, dream recall, and the sheer intensity of what you see at night. Then we get practical: even if a dream is amplified by chemistry or disrupted sleep patterns, it can still be a useful tool for self-awareness, emotional processing, and personal growth.
We bring back our STIR personality framework and use it as a map for dream analysis: Stabi...
A desert trail that stretches impossibly long. A lodge with a railing that feels too low to trust. Then a wave runner hovering above dark shapes as the ocean starts to churn. We take a co-host’s vivid New Year’s dream and slow it down scene by scene to show how Dream Work can become practical therapy and coaching, not mystical guesswork.
We start with a key move in Dream Work: treating the p...
We take one dream and dig deep into the imagery and symbolism of the dreamer’s psyche. We use the STIR model and talk about the dynamic versus static energies. The possibilities unfold and provide multiple pathways for exploration and reflection. This episode is about one person’s dream, but it shows the possibilities available when one decides to examine the inner life.
You can connect with the cohosts t...
A lot of podcasts ask you to trust the hosts. We’d rather try to earn it by telling you where we come from and what shaped the lens we use when we talk about therapy, coaching, and dreams.
We start with our winding educational paths, from seminary and clinical psychology to industrial organizational psychology and an MBA, and why those choices still matter in the room with real people. Along the way, we...
Dreams are one of the most misunderstood mental health tools we all have at our access. The biggest myth we hear is also the simplest: “I never dream.” We unpack why that’s almost never true, what sleep science says about dreaming, and how our brains keep monitoring the world at night to protect us. When a culture treats dreams as meaningless, we learn to tune them out, and dream recall drops even ...
Your mind doesn’t clock out when you do. It goes to work overnight, sorting stress, rehearsing choices, and resetting emotions so you can meet tomorrow with more capacity. We dig into how that process actually feels—starting with a simple dream about buying a trailer and the hidden worries it carried—and then open a vivid story about a 100‑foot pole, a dropped paint bucket, and the kind of repeatin...
What if your dreams aren’t random at all but a built-in system for emotional reset, memory sorting, and future rehearsal? We kick off season two by moving dreams from “weird night stories” to a reliable toolkit for self-awareness, drawing on neuroscience and Jungian-informed coaching to make sense of vivid scenes, recurring figures, and those “epic” marathons that leave you buzzing.
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What if your biggest arguments, stalled projects, and late-night worries aren’t personal failures, but energy mismatches you can learn to navigate? We break down the STIR model—Stabilizer, Transformer, Initiator, Responder—through two lenses: dynamic vs static energy and masculine vs feminine expression.
We dig into competing anxieties that fuel conflict: one partner wants comfort whil...
We dig into why simple questions can feel like attacks, how to pause before defenses take over, and what healthy masculine and feminine responses sound like when tensions rise. We connect the dots between conflict, self-love for responders, and dreams that process the emotions we ignore by day.
• how interpretation turns questions into accusations
• the pause that makes space for truth and choice
• toxi...
We explore how mental health concerns intersect with the STIR model and show how balance, flexible thinking, and self-awareness transform relationships. From early dating green flags to parenting stalemates, we lay out practical steps to move toward the middle and reduce projection.
We walk through real-world moments—early dating, high-conflict parenting, and long-term partnership—to show how to s...
We explore how addictive behaviors can be signals from unbalanced inner energies, how to hear what the unconscious is asking for, and why old issues resurface even after insight. We close with a grounded view of integration, spiritual connection, and practical next steps that honor both emotion and choice.
• masculine and feminine energies across dynamic and static styles
• addiction as unconscious coping ...
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